Sex & Bacon

Get ready to uncover the secrets of female desire and pleasure with Danielle Savory.

In this episode, we explore the psychology behind the shame that women often feel when it comes to casual sex, and the healing work required to connect with our bodies.

Danielle dishes out some serious insights on how to create an erotic vessel and how to be your own pleasure advocate. We also delve into the burden of emotional responsibility, communication struggles, and the power of working with Danielle as your coach.

Danielle Savory is a master certified coach, podcast host, and expert in the fields of neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure and intimacy. Danielle brings a unique perspective to coaching, helping clients understand the ways in which the brain and body are interconnected and how this connection can be harnessed to experience the sensual pleasure the body is wired for.

As the host of the popular podcast "It's My Pleasure," Danielle has explored a wide range of topics related to sexuality, relationships, and personal growth - empowering women to embrace their sexuality and prioritize their pleasure. Danielle is a master certified coach with over 10 years of experience coaching hundreds of women with her proven process of increasing desire and expanding orgasmic capacity.

Come join us for a juicy conversation on full-body orgasms, mental and physical stimulation, and tantalizing tips to get back in tune with your body.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:10] How Danielle got into this space

• [3:30] The psychology behind the shame of wanting casual sex as women

• [10:40] The difference between 'desire' when it comes to men and women

• [12:30] The healing women have to do in order to connect to our bodies

• [15:20] Desire for connection

• [18:30] The brain and sex

• [23:10] How to create the most erotic vessel

• [27:50] Learning how to be your own pleasure advocate

• [30:05] Why guys are afraid of intimacy

• [31:45] Why communication is a struggle when it comes to pleasure

• [34:00] Figuring out the kind of connection you want to have

• [35:00] The burden of emotional responsibility and keeping men happy

• [35:55] Three tips for getting back in tune with your body

• [43:10] Receiving pleasure through pleasuring someone else

• [50:20] The psychology behind having full-body orgasms

• [57:25] The mental and physical stimulation women need

• [59:30] The power that comes through working with Danielle

Connect with Danielle

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepracticeofpleasure/

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• Website: https://www.daniellesavory.com/

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In a world where sexual trauma and a lack of education on our desires are all too common, my guest Katie Rudland shares her insights on sexual liberation and healing.

From location-based stigmas to utilizing human design for transformation, she emphasizes the importance of cultivating a relationship with oneself, learning to communicate needs, and healing without being in a relationship. Join her on the journey of sexual transformation and liberation, where healing and true alignment with oneself are possible.

Katie is someone who is always looking to learn and teach. She is passionate about having the freedom to be herself and live authentically. She aims to inspire others to do the same without being dependent on outside authorities.

She is passionate about helping people find emotional freedom within themselves, and she creates and embodies emotional freedom within herself and supports emotional intimacy in others, triggering their healing to birth them onto their own paths and journeys.

Katie guides others to reconnect, heal, and transform, opening them up to transparent intimacy, supporting and empowering them to find freedom of spirit, living in true alignment and union connected to their higher self and infinite wisdom. She is here to help others write their own story, with themselves as the main character.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [2:10] Katie's take on sexual trauma

• [6:40] The lack of education around what we truly want from and during sexual experiences

• [7:55] What sexual liberation means

• [11:40] Location and culture-based stigmas around sex

• [15:25] Sexual liberation and trauma healing without being in a relationship

• [18:15] Human design's role in sexuality

• [22:20] Utilizing human design for sexual transformation and healing

• [26:20] The journey of sexual transformation and sexual liberation

• [30:20] How crucial it is to learn to communicate your needs

• [35:10] Cultivating a relationship with yourself first

Connect with Katie

• www.instagram.com/bespoke_journey

• https://www.facebook.com/yourbespokejourney

• https://www.bespokejourney.co.uk/

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• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

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• Email us: [email protected]

Have you ever considered a non-monogamous relationship? Are you curious about the difference between this and cheating? How do you get your spouse on board? And is it truly what you want in your life and relationship?

This is what we're talking about in this episode with Jess Lynn.

Jess is a licensed therapist and ethical non-monogamy relationship coach. After opening her previously monogamous relationship of six years, Jess quickly learned just how little information there was out there from professionals on how to navigate non-monogamy.

Jess is passionate about helping others in taking steps to design and embrace their relationship(S) dreams! She shares her knowledge and personal stories through the lens of a trained clinician, in hopes that others can reach relationship success.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [4:50] Is non-monogamy an excuse to cheat?

• [7:05] How she brought up ethical non-monogamy to her husband

• [12:05] How she explained her desires to her husband

• [16:25] The biggest challenges once they opened up their relationship

• [19:30] How to handle the jealousy that may come up

• [23:45] The difference between rules and agreements

• [27:50] Do people end up separating through non-monogamy?

• [34:20] Why people are so judgmental towards it

• [37:30] Non-monogamy vs. cheating

• [39:25] How to become more open-minded

Connect with Jess

• https://www.facebook.com/groups/nonmonogamousnewbies/

• www.instagram.com/nonmonogamous_newbies

• www.bothandcoaching.com

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

What are the juicy details behind Tantra? Are you looking to explore your sexuality even deeper? Or maybe you're curious about the world of Tantra and how it can benefit you? Well, look no further because in this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of Tantra and sexuality with Ava Pikul.

Ava is a Transformational Therapist and Tantra Healer certified by the only government accredited institute of tantra in the entire world - The Institute of Authentic Tantra! She has over 1,700+ hours of training in the field of tantra, as well as psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing modalities. Ava believes that healing shouldn't take years, and primarily guides men, women, and couples through a unique and holistic approach to healing and sexual fulfillment.

From exploring the different types of orgasms women can experience to understanding the psychological side of things, we cover it all. So whether you're a seasoned practitioner or a curious newbie, there's something here for everyone.

In the first few minutes, Ava shares her personal journey and how she got into this work. We then go on to discuss what Tantra is, the difference between Lineage-based Tantra and Neo Tantra, and whether it's something you can do solo or if it's couple-based.

But it's not just about the physical aspects of Tantra. We also explore the psychological and spiritual benefits of the practice and how it can be a tool for holistic healing. And if you're wondering how long it takes to see results, Ava shares her insights on that too.

We also tackle some of the misconceptions about Tantra, using it as a healing modality, and what most women are missing in their sexual experiences. And if you're curious about the impact of porn on Tantra, we delve into that as well.

From semen retention to the difference between women and men's sexuality, we cover a lot of ground in this episode. So if you're ready to unlock the power of Tantra and explore your sexuality, tune in and join the conversation.

We get into:

• [0:30] How Ava got into this work

• [3:30] Communicating and exploring our own sexuality

• [7:40] What is Tantra, Lineage-based Tantra and Neo Tantra

• [9:55] Can you do Tantra solo or is it couple-based?

• [12:45] Not rejecting our human conditioning

• [14:10] Tantra as a lifestyle

• [15:20] Starting with the psychological side of things

• [16:30] Tantra as a tool for holistic healing

• [18:30] How long this journey takes

• [21:10] The sexual aspect of Lineage-based Tantra

• [25:10] Developing trust and vulnerability

• [26:50] Misconceptions about Tantra

• [31:00] Using Tantra as a healing modality

• [32:30] What most women are missing in their sexual experiences

• [38:05] Why we turn to porn to get stimulated quickly

• [43:20] Porn and its impact on Tantra

• [46:40] Why we treat the symptom instead of going to that deeper level

• [48:05] Semen retention

• [54:05] The difference between women and men's sexuality

• [58:25] The science and energetic components of orgasms

• [59:40] The different types of orgasms women can experience

• [1:10:00] The power in slowing down and exploring yourself

Connect with Ava

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ava.ashe

• https://www.flamewithintantra.com/

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• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

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In this episode, I sit down with Tristan West, a gay adult entertainment star who has been in the industry for about 9 months. Tristan shares his experiences working with various studios such as Cocky Boys, Naked Sword, Falcon, Next Door Studios, Kink Men, Blacks on Boys, and Creamy Bros. He also talks about presenting awards at the GayVN's and the incredible experiences he's had so far in the industry.

We talk about every juicy topic, including how he got into the industry, the nerves he had on his first-ever shoot, having sex on camera for pleasure and not just money, natural chemistry vs. forced chemistry, working with straight men in gay porn, and whether being a bottom or top affects his dating life.

Tristan also shares how he set himself up for success in the industry, how often he goes into the studio to film, his worst experience so far, whether he has ever taken these relationships outside of the studio, and whether it is more intimidating to work with straight men.

How does he warm up and stretch for the set? And how did he decide what his preferences are? We talk about that too!

Tristan shares his thoughts on electro-stimulation, how porn has opened up his own sexuality, and whether he would ever do a sex scene with a girl. Tune in to learn more about the world of gay adult entertainment from Tristan's perspective.

We get into:

• [1:05] How he got into the industry

• [4:25] The nerves he had on his first-ever shoot

• [5:25] Having sex on camera for pleasure and not just money

• [6:55] Having natural chemistry vs. forced chemistry

• [7:40] What it's like working with straight men in gay porn

• [9:55] Is Tristan a bottom or a top

• [10:55] Does it affect his dating life?

• [12:05] Did he tell his friends and family?

• [12:40] Setting himself up for success in this industry

• [14:05] How often he goes into studio to film

• [17:30] The worst experience he has had so far

• [19:10] Has he ever taken these relationships outside of the studio?

• [20:00] Is it more intimidating to work with straight men?

• [21:05] How to warm up and stretch for set

• [24:30] How he decided what his preferences are

• [26:40] What he's most excited about in the industry

• [28:25] Where you can watch his content

• [29:20] Fave production companies to work with

• [31:30] Electro stimulation

• [32:10] How porn has opened up his own sexuality

• [36:40] Would he ever do a sex scene with a girl?

Connect with Tristan

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/xtristanxwestx

• Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/tristanwestxxx

• https://linktr.ee/tristanwestxxx

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In this episode, Favour Obasi-ike joins me to talk about life before, during and after being in an open relationship and in the lifestyle.

Favour Obasi-ike is a self-driven entrepreneur, business owner, self-taught drummer, and musical artist who has blended entertainment business from a professional and creative angle to navigate through my career in an innovative & disruptive way.

He is the Founder of Work & PLAY Entertainment where the primary goal is to inspire, entertain, and educate the boundless value of problem-solving solutions with innovative products using marketing & advertising implementation strategies with applied SEO (Search Engine Optimization).

He also hosts the "We Don't PLAY" podcast, which is available on over 14 podcast platforms with over tens of thousands of downloads and 300+ episodes.

We talk about the world of open relationships and the swinging lifestyle. He shares his experiences of performance anxiety, being watched by his partner, and playing with other couples outside of clubs. Favour emphasizes the importance of knowing love languages and communicating effectively, as well as having conversations about sex before entering a relationship.

He also addresses the stigma society has around the lifestyle and the misconception that it desensitizes people to traditional sexual relationships. Favour shares what he learned about himself the most through these experiences.

We get into:

• [0:55] How Favour's business and interests come into play

• [3:46] Getting introduced to the lifestyle and into an open relationship

• [6:40] Having performance anxiety for the first time ever

• [8:55] His first experience being watched by his partner

• [9:30] Was he ever jealous seeing his partner with someone else?

• [12:00] Why knowing love languages and communicating properly is so important

• [13:25] Did they ever play outside the clubs?

• [16:25] How he reacted after that relationship ended

• [17:45] Cross-playing with the other sex

• [20:30] Are conversations about sex important to have before getting in a relationship?

• [24:55] Does being in the lifestyle desensitize people to enjoying sexual relationships in a traditional way

• [26:50] What he learned about himself the most through these experiences

• [28:55] How many people he has fucked in one night

• [31:00] The stigma society has around it

• [34:10] How being in the lifestyle is like having exercise

Connect with Favour

• All-in-one link: https://zaap.bio/flaevbeatz

• Website: https://playinc.online

• SEO Marketing Masterclass: https://quiet-morning-907.myflodesk.com

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• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we sit down with Jeremy, a male stripper and owner of Klub Kave, who shares with us the ins and outs of his profession. He shares how he got into the industry and what his experience has been like. We then dive into why women prefer to watch men strip on the weekends and whether the rules are the same in a male and female strip club.

Jeremy also talks about how they prep for their shows. He addresses the question of whether it's hard to retain male strippers and whether you can make a solid living in this profession.

We then talk about the social stigma and judgment towards male strippers compared to females, as well as the issue of 'business transactions' and permission to sleep with other men's wives. Jeremy also talks about what his dating life looks like right now.

This episode provides a unique and candid look into the world of male stripping, giving you insights and perspectives that you won't find anywhere else. Whether you're curious about the profession or just want to hear a fascinating story, this episode is sure to entertain.

We get into:

• [1:30] How he became a male stripper

• [3:15] Why women prefer to watch men strip on the weekends

• [4:45] Are the rules the same in a male and female stripclub?

• [8:20] Why strippers wear cock rings

• [10:10] How guys prep for their shows

• [12:00] Is it hard to retain male strippers?

• [15:50] Can you make a solid living as a stripper?

• [17:45] Is there social stigma and judgment towards male strippers compared to females?

• [22:00] 'Business transactions' and permission to sleep with other mens' wives

• [22:45] What his dating life looks like right now

• [27:50] Does Jeremy want out of this industry?

• [31:20] How to stay clean and sober in this industry

• [35:50] Where to find Jeremy

• [38:45] The money in bachelorette parties

Connect with Jeremy

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/klubkaveofficial

• Website: https://klubkave.com/

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• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

Are you curious about what's missing from sex education and how to change the conversation around the shame and stigma around STIs?

In this podcast, we talk to Rae Szereszewski, who is a certified sex educator and Options for Sexual Health SHEC graduate, and has a Bachelor of Design in Fashion and Apparel Design from Ryerson University. In addition to her experience as a latex designer, she spent 8 years creating sex positive events at Oasis Aqualounge, a lifestyle club, and has worked in a variety of roles in event planning, community building, mentorship, and project coordination.

Rae is currently running Sexual Education workshops, coaching clients, and making art.

We get into:

• [2:15] The biggest thing missing from sex education

• [4:55] Why people consider having an STI as 'dirty'

• [7:05] How to ask people if they have an STI or not

• [9:40] The shame and stigma around having an STI

• [15:45] Having boundaries when it comes to sex

• [17:10] What teaching sex ed is like

• [19:50] Letting young people have sexual agency

• [24:30] Learning how to say no in a clear way

• [31:30] What is Shibari

• [33:30] Emotional and physical safety as important boundaries when it comes to sex

• [37:10] The impact of casual sex

• [41:30] Not having to date everyone you fall in love with

• [42:40] The types of kink most people ask for

• [46:00] The importance of communication when it comes to BDSM + dom kinks

Connect with Rae

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wifebaerae/

• Podcast: https://www.sharewithrae.com/podcast

• OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/raezorlatex

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/wifebaerae

• Website: https://www.sharewithrae.com/about

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Welcome to this week's episode of our podcast, where we sit down with Simon Marini, a former professional fighter turned stripper and porn star. Simon shares his journey with us, from the struggles of performance anxiety as a fighter, to hitting rock bottom with depression and attempting suicide. He also discusses how stripping helped him cope with his anxiety and how it affected his dating life.

Simon then shares his story of transitioning into the porn industry, including his initial reservations and questioning his sexuality as a straight male working in gay porn. He also gets candid about the technical aspects of the industry, such as fake cum shots and the differences between gay and straight porn.

As the conversation progresses, Simon talks about his experiences dating women while working in gay porn, as well as the STI scares he's had to navigate over the years. We also touch on the important topic of condom use in porn.

Finally, Simon shares with us how he eventually stepped back into the fighter scene and how his family reacted to his work in the porn industry. Join us as we explore Simon's unique journey and gain a deeper understanding of the realities of the adult film industry.

We get into:

• [2:55] Becoming a professional fighter + the performance anxiety that came with it

• [4:10] Losing his identity, hitting a low depression and attempting suicide

• [5:55] How stripping helped with his performance anxiety

• [9:25] What dating was like while he was a stripper

• [11:30] Making the switch into porn

• [13:50] Was there a moment of questioning his sexuality as a straight male pornstar working in gay porn?

• [16:45] Does Simon get any pleasure from getting his dick sucked by other men?

• [21:10] How you do a fake cum shot

• [27:55] The differences between gay porn and straight porn

• [29:05] Switching to 'bottom' in sex scenes

• [31:50] Dating women while doing gay porn

• [37:05] STI scares over the years

• [38:15] Should you use condoms in porn?

• [43:40] Stepping back into the fighter scene

• [46:30] How his family reacted to being in gay porn

Connect with Simon

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/marini.coaching

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087431080467&mibextid=ZbWKwL

• OnlyFans: Http://OnlyFans.com/iammkage

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Well, it happened…Sarah got catfished.

Or so we think! Sarah is still in denial about it,

In this episode, Sarah spills the tea on her experience of getting catfished. Can you believe it? She even had a 2-hour phone call with her catfish that turned sexual, and they planned many dates and video chats that never actually happened. But eventually, she had a lightbulb moment and realized what was happening.

We talk about why catfishes don't come clean, and whether or not Darby could ever fall for a catfishing trap. Speaking of which, Darby shares her friend's crazy catfish story that you don't want to miss.

But here's the thing, Sarah learned that has a tendency to connect with men who aren't actually available. I know this can sound familiar for a lot of women out there, so we talk about the reasons why and how it's affected her.

We briefly get into the Don't Fuck With Cats documentary (have you seen it?) and how messed up the world of online dating can be. We wrap up the episode by sharing our own crazy online dating matches since this whole catfishing fiasco.

Trust us, you won't want to miss this conversation about the complexities of online relationships.

We get into:

• [1:05] How Sarah got catfished

• [4:50] The lightbulb moment where Sarah realized what was happening

• [8:25] Having a 2 hour phone call that turned sexual and other ways they connected deeply

• [17:05] Why catfishes don't come clean

• [23:40] Could Darby ever fall for catfishing?

• [25:00] Darby's friend's catfish story

• [28:05] The connection Sarah has to men who aren't actually available

• [32:50] Don't Fuck With Cats documentary

• [38:50] The crazy online dating matches we have had since

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]