SEX COMMUNICATION

Show notes:

"The Experiment" — an arranged encounter specifically for the purpose of capturing an audio recording and documentation of the awkward reality of sleeping with someone new for the first time

The participant [#55] was willing participant in this documentation of the awkward reality of sleeping with someone for the first time

First, brief pre-sex interview about our concerns and thoughts about what was going to happen.

Given nervous awkwardness, we started with cuddling

Awkward conversation, we turn the lights off, plenty of consent questions about touch and next steps

Penis reveal!

I make the best of it

I cum [bc breast stuff easy peasy], he cums, all done

Post-sex review, i.e., HOW IT REALLY WAS

Show notes:

So I had a real life partner this week: #56…

***Line being drawn that this [QUICKIE] episode series will not be a matter of “reviewing” any partner, merely a matter-of-fact description of events. Ok maybe some review. Also I may change my mind.

The week started out with me thinking the real-life sexing opportunity was lost given scheduling challenges, but found out mid-week that overnight plans were on for Saturday

According to my phone, no porn. I think I accidentally closed some tabs and lost that data but maybe not?

Adapting to new batch of sex toys, certainly a better state of affairs than before: Internal vibrator — still no g-spot orgasm from it but I don’t hate it

Relied heavily on fantasies this week to motivate masturbation, anticipation is a powerful thing [new partner, potential for a night of being dominated, etc.]

The best part of the real-life sexing [specific!]

An interview with “Blue Topaz,” or “Blue” about fetish play versus sex

Show notes:

Blue is engaged and sexually monogamous with fiance, who is also in kink scene

Some history of Blue’s involvement with kink and vanilla relationships / The boundaries and agreements about kink vs. sex with fiance and other people

Needle play is something Blue does with other people

Rope play is something fiance does with other people

Fire play is something they do together with other people

More about fire play

Subspace described

How and when she subs or doms

What kink is really about and how she got involved in the scene

About munches

Safety and consent among kink / swingers

Where the play happens

About her bisexuality and how it works within her relationship with her fiance and kink play

More about her vanilla relationship past

Public openness about involvement in the kink scene

More about needle play

Even more details about fire play

The luck of finding her kinky partner

The nature of kink relationships — being open right off the bat

New kink interests on the horizon: Fire floggers on wish list / Kink registry for wedding!

A note about kink people: They are normal and fun! / Join us! / Explore but be safe

The respectful nature of kinky folks as opposed to "normal" / vanilla folks

LINK: Blue’s profile with videos of the fire play and examples of other kink play

Show notes:

No partners this week BUT I have been on several dates with one guy and he has inspired a lot of masturbation this week…

Mostly with the new toys from Babeland — which I’m still adjusting to

Internal vibrator / G-spot vibrator / Dildo

But also so porn…

Cuckholding 1 / Cuckholding 2 [Why is there so much cuckhold porn featuring “Big Black Cocks”?? I don’t understand why it needs to be a race thing]

Nipple suction cups

Rope bondage

Groping

**Some lessons learned:

I get off easily during sex but it takes so much more work and stuff to get off while masturbating…

The things I watch while masturbating also get me off during sex but there are so many things that get me off during sex that do nothing for me as porn

Show notes:

[HAVE YOU LISTENED TO PART 1?]

Part 2 of the 2.5-hour fuck session started in Episode 9. It’s hot, try not to get pregnant when you listen to it.

***PLEASE NOTE: I only barebacked with this guy because we both got tested beforehand - he even had his papers like a good boy. I believe strongly in safe sex and only bareback under circumstances like those I’ve just described.***

Foreplay with fellatio and rimming (me to him)

He threatens to fuck my ass

There’s some deep vaginal fucking

More rimming (him to me)

We lube up for anal sex

I bring in my Magic Wand to assist with the accommodation of his generously sized cock

We have the anal sex

Show notes:

Sunday: I slept with a real-life person! #55 on my list, a.k.a., “Carlos”. An underwhelming start to the week…This encounter was a long time coming - #55 is someone I found on FetLife and had been communicating with since mid-January. We did a pre-interview before having sex; the recordings from the pre-interview and the sex will appear in later full-length episodes

Thursday: masturbated successfully with toys. Still using my disappointing [broken] g-spot vibrator as a dildo in combo with Magic Wand. This week’s mission is to buy new toys in person at Babeland [they’re also online]

Saturday: masturbated unsuccessfully with toys and then successfully with porn (very boring-because-they’re-so-typical choices fyi):

Assisted masturbation nipple play https://www.xvideos.com/video36154051/nipple_play_orgasm

Nipple-pulling compilation https://www.xvideos.com/video34952739/awesome_nipple_play_compilation

“Japanese nipple destruction” compilation https://www.xvideos.com/video30527441/japanese_nipple_destruction

Show notes:

An interview with: Ray (@ten.against) / Cam (@notcamdamage) / Brad (@eatyourkids)

First, the confusing semantics of relationship labels: triad / not triad / polycule / ???

What is each person’s role in the relationship? Whose dominant or sub and when / how?

Is your relationship a BDSM relationship?

What are the logistics of your polyamory, i.e., who sleeps and plays with whom? What are the challenges?

What is the purpose of rope play for each of you? Is it therapeutic? Sexual? Spiritual?

How often does your fetish play lead to sex?

What else gets you off sexually?

Do the roles in your relationship affect how you communicate with each other?

How do you communicate about sex stuff versus life stuff?

What do you think generated your interest in kink / BDSM / bondage?

How did your relationship come to be?

What is the purpose of marriage between Cam & Brad?

What projects do you have coming up?

Bondage Expo Dallas

F.I.R.E. Orlando

Check out Brad’s chef skills at the John Brown General and Butchery in Maryland

Is Brad ever a cuckhold?

Oh yeah! Ray and Cam have promised to record some audio of impact play for our listening enjoyment - stay tuned for that!

Show notes:

Audio of guy vocalizing what he’s imagining as he jerks off plus a pretty epic growling orgasm

A quick roundup of my week in orgasms [3/9/19 – 3/16/19]

The underwhelming G-spot vibrator I’ve been using since the Rabbit double-died

Show notes:

The first play exchange with “the Brit”

Am I willing?

Negotiating what his options are for punishment

Discussing what am I envisioning for the what’s about to go down

He tells me to do various things

Slap my face

Touch my breasts

Call him “sir” [I won’t call him “daddy”]

He wants to know what my extreme desires are

He interviews me about various experiences and interests

He informs me of the things I need to ask permission for

He finally starts yelling at me

More interview, more use of toys, more yelling

Finally orgasm

Post-op discussion

Show notes:

“How I Got Off”, wherein I detail how I did or did not get me off over the last week

Referenced:
The cuckholding / cleanup porn that didn’t get me off
Cuckholding

Cleanup

Some random group sex/not-quite-bukkake shit I stumbled on

The porn that finally did though not especially anything…
Uninspiring tit-touching