SEX COMMUNICATION

For those of you who are unaware, May has come to be known as Masturbation Month. In honor of this, I am sharing with you 4 brief clips personal, masturbation audio porn. But first! I answer the most frequently asked questions I've gotten about masturbation, and specifically, masturbation during quarantine.

Enjoy! 

Til next week...

An interview with a woman in her late 20s... Do intimacy, relationships and sex all go together? Does one negate the other? Does waiting to have sex really matter? Is a deep connection more important than sexual compatibility and vice versa? We talk about all these things and more.

And just a reminder, whatever your opinion, and however you live your life, if it works for you, then that's all that matters.

Til next week!

My interview with Tom, a gentleman with a traumatic brain injury who struggles with maintaining sexual health. We talk about the challenges that come from living with a disability, the toll of mental stress, and the importance of sharing one's story.

Sex and disability are both spoken about far too little -- if you are struggling with your own challenges, reach out to the show at [email protected] and let's talk about it...

Til next week 

Hey! Guess who just found out that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? It's me... I guess it was good ol' serendipity that prompted my publishing an interview with an LCSW who focuses on sexual assault awareness last week! Anyway!

Today I read (yes read) two essays I wrote within the last few years detailing a handful of the sexual assaults I've experienced so far and then give some candid background and followup after each. The links for the essays are below along with a 3rd bonus essay detailing some more assault but also some thoughts on consent.

If you have a sexual assault/abuse story, I'd love to talk to you -- either on the show or otherwise. These experiences need to be shared! [email protected]

LINKS (via Medium):
Rapist Vs. Partner
"Stealthing," A Review
On Consent And Being Bullied As A Grown-Ass Woman

An interview with Andrew Pari, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker, and psychotherapist. He is also the founder of Sexual Assault Awareness, an organization dedicated to treating and raising awareness of sexualized violence.

I met Andrew earlier this year at the Positive Sexuality Conference in California where he gave a presentation titled Guided Rape Exposure Treatment, A Proposed Model.

Andrew focuses his work on the controversial & taboo topics that most in his field won’t address, including specialized populations in the sex trade and human trafficking. 

He is also writing the first book on the arousal experience in sexual assault to help rape victims and therapists understand this response, hence the subject of his conference presentation

As you might expect, given the nature of his work, Andrew and I have a shared interest in discussing the things most people won’t - so who better to interview for this show!

We talk in depth about his professional work but of course, we also get into the intimate nitty gritty of his personal, sexuality as is customary on this show.

LINKS
Sexual Assault Awareness
Center for Positive Sexuality

Today's audio porn episode features masturbation with a butt plug (and a vibrator, and a squirting orgasm). My inspiration for this episode was a couple I interviewed a few months ago, C & H. Listen to their episode, Episode 91: When "C" Met "H" And Then Got Freaky

The episode that inspired C & H: Episode 101: A Couple Uses Toys (And Oral, And Oil, And Toe Sucking...)

PSA: We need more audio porn!! Please help!

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Also! Our new home on the interwebs! www.sexcompod.com - and on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexcompodcast

Till next week!

An interview with a 20-something guy about his feelings on pornography. Is it addictive? Is it bad? We get into all the things! Along with personal sex stuff because that’s how we do here. Enjoy!

And here is a great post with lots of links to independent, ethical and feminist porn — give it a look!

Till next week…

My interview with local sex-positive hero, Effy Blue. We discuss relationship and sexual histories, trauma, healing, and the work she does around relationships and sex.

Effy Blue is a relationship expert specializing in non-monogamy and other alternative structures. Her coaching philosophy, Relationship by Design, abandons the one-size-fits-all relationship structure that is heavily prescribed by our society. Instead, it advocates conscious and active design of relationships in service of those in it. Effy guides and facilitates this creative process by fearlessly asking the tough questions while constructively offering thoughtful insights. Besides coaching, Effy builds a growing community of Curious Foxes, leads panels and workshops, and speaks at relationship and sexuality conferences around the country.

Find and connect with Effy:Instagram/Facebook/Twitter: @coacheffyblue / @wearecuriousfoxes
effyblue.com
wearecuriousfoxes.com
[email protected]

Till next week!

Hey folks! Special edition of “How I Got Off” to share some helpful tips on sexual satisfaction in the time of Coronavirus AND a link to a Zoom interview I’m doing later tonight (3/26 at 7pm EST).

UPDATE Interview ended - link removed

***Here are some tips for how to enjoy sex and to avoid spreading COVID-19 from nyc.gov

Know how COVID-19 spreads.

You can get COVID-19 from a person who has it.

The virus can spread to people who are within about 6 feet of a person with COVID-19 when that person coughs or sneezes.

The virus can spread through direct contact with their saliva or mucus.

We still have a lot to learn about COVID-19 and sex.

COVID-19 has been found in feces of people who are infected with the virus.

COVID-19 has not yet been found in semen or vaginal fluid.

We know that other coronaviruses do not efficiently transmit through sex.

Have sex with people close to you.

You are your safest sex partner. Masturbation will not spread COVID-19, especially if you wash your hands (and any sex toys) with soap and water for at least 20 seconds before and after sex.

The next safest partner is someone you live with. Having close contact — including sex — with only a small circle of people helps prevent spreading COVID-19.

You should avoid close contact — including sex — with anyone outside your household. If you do have sex with others, have as few partners as possible.

If you usually meet your sex partners online or make a living by having sex, consider taking a break from in-person dates. Video dates, sexting or chat rooms may be options for you.

Take care during sex.

Kissing can easily pass COVID-19. Avoid kissing anyone who is not part of your small circle of close contacts.

Rimming (mouth on anus) might spread COVID-19. Virus in feces may enter your mouth.

Condoms and dental dams can reduce contact with saliva or feces, especially during oral or anal sex.

Washing up before and after sex is more important than ever.

Wash hands often with soap and water for at least 20 seconds.

Wash sex toys with soap and warm water.

Disinfect keyboards and touch screens that you share with others (for video chat, for watching pornography or for anything else).

Skip sex if you or your partner is not feeling well.

If you or a partner may have COVID-19, avoid sex and especially kissing.

If you start to feel unwell, you may be about to develop symptoms of COVID-19, which include fever, cough, sore throat or shortness of breath.

If you or your partner has a medical condition that can lead to more severe COVID-19, you may also want to skip sex.

Medical conditions include lung disease, heart disease, diabetes, cancer or a weakened immune system (for example, having unsuppressed HIV and a low CD4 count).

Prevent HIV, other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancy.

HIV: Condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and having an undetectable viral load all help prevent HIV. For more information, visit nyc.gov/health and search HIV.

Other STIs: Condoms help prevent other STIs. Visit ny

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My interview with Dr. Kerry Kott… join us for a conversation about discovery, communication, healing, experimentation and optimism in the face of trauma.

Afterward, check out my guest’s podcast: The Universe Made Me Do It

To find out more about her work, visit her website and check out her Instagram

Till next week, stay safe!