Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT & August McLaughlin join us for episode 173 of American Sex Podcast to talk about sex, kink and trauma. The pair recently wrote a book on the subject called, With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. If you're a human you likely have trauma and whether you realize it or not, it can affect your connection to pleasure.

Some of what we cover in this conversation:

• What trauma is/isn't
• If "fuck" is a trauma response like fight/flight/freeze/fawn
• Trauma & the mind/body connection
• Why some people find BDSM therapeutic
• The difference between subspace & dissociation
• Being trauma-aware in sex-positive communities
• Neurodivergence, trauma & sex

As heavy as the subject seems, per our usual, we approach the subject with lightheartedness and lots of laughs! Life is too short to be serious all the time 😉

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Episode 173 Links

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