Sex, Love & Everything In Between

Hey lovers, we are finally back! After an eight-month hiatus of navigating the wild, destructive, and profoundly beautiful reality of raising a toddler (and saving our podcast equipment from him), we are back in the studio and so ready to reconnect with you all.

In this episode, we dive straight into the deep end by unpacking our recent "7 Days of Sex" challenge. We share why we decided to treat intimacy as a devoted, daily practice, how we navigated the nights we were exhausted, and why calibrating your desires to the present moment is a game-changer for your relationship.

Meg gets incredibly real about "self-abandonment" in sex—why so many women endure rather than communicate their true desires, and how fully inhabiting your pleasure in the bedroom transforms who you are out in the world. Jacob opens up about his recent internal shifts: letting go of the pressure to always be "useful," embracing his inherent worth, and deciding to stop living in the "when/then" scarcity trap.

We also explore the illusion of control in relationships, why you shouldn't tie your ability to relax to whether or not your partner takes out the bins, and how to hold the visionary desire for more while remaining deeply anchored in the beauty of right now.

Grab a coffee (or a glass of wine), and let's get into it. Enjoy the episode!

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“When you stop mothering and start embodying, you become unforgettable.”

We went there with Leola. Straight into the shadows. Into pussy as the temple, the mystery school. Into the raw alchemy of rage, grief, lust, and power. Into the line between being a man’s coach or his priestess, and why only one will unlock real intimacy.

This isn’t theory. This is the truth about tantra, about the shame wired into our bodies, about the centuries-long war on the dark feminine. Leola doesn’t soften it, because she knows: the dark feminine is the portal. To sovereignty. To radiance. To sex that doesn’t just scratch an itch, but changes who you are.

If you’ve ever felt split between the “good girl” mask and the wild one clawing underneath, this episode is your permission slip to burn the script and take back your fire.

Here’s What We Dive Into:

• Nervous system regulation as the gateway to power & pleasure
• What it really means to “descend into your pussy”
• Light feminine, dark feminine, and their shadows explained
• The 3 gifts of the dark feminine: sensuality, emotional alchemy & oracular power
• How culture demonized women’s magic (and how we reclaim it)
• Real talk on tantra beyond the sexual stereotypes
• Why most sex in media & porn distorts reality for women
• Loving men well: priestess vs coach energy in relationship
• Parenting, sex ed & raising kids in a sex-positive home

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“I love wanting you so badly I could tear your skin off — and slowing down enough to feel it in my whole body.”

We didn’t set out to make this an “experiment.” We just had sex one night, remembered how fucking good it is, and said: what if we did this every day for a week?

So this is the real story of what happened when two new-ish parents, with a one-year-old co-sleeping, two businesses under one roof, and not a lot of free time… decided to make sex a daily devotional practice.

Some nights were primal and filthy, some nights tantric and slow, one night was just a blowjob (with all the frills), and one night flopped completely. But every single day cracked something open. More play. More hunger. More aliveness in the house.

We’re not handing out prescriptions here. We’re just telling you the truth of what happened when we made sex non-negotiable for seven days straight.

Here’s What We Dive Into:

• Day 1 in Jacob’s teenage bedroom (Father’s Day sex, primal as hell)
• The reality of parenting + co-sleeping and why intimacy gets shoved aside
• “The tantric night”,  soaking, breathing, and being with what is
• Blowjobs as ceremony (why Meg refuses to do them without the frills)
• The dark masculine: ravishing, claiming, and holding hunger with consciousness
• How anal only works when there’s deep surrender and turn-on
• The night that didn’t work, and why forcing sex never feels good
• What seven days taught us about variety, discipline, and devotion

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“Every man deserves a place to unravel, to be witnessed, and to remember who he is.”

In this episode we go straight into the heart of The Gathering of Men, the four-day immersion that has become a fire in the belly of men’s work in Australia. 200 men, fathers and sons, elders and young ones, leaders from across the country… all circling up to wrestle, to sing, to drum, to weep, to celebrate, and to remember what it really means to be a man.

Jacob shares what fatherhood stripped from him, how it forced him into deeper responsibility, and why suffering through life isn’t noble, it’s avoidance. He talks about the three pillars of the Gathering… challenge, celebration, and camaraderie, and why without brotherhood, none of it sticks.

If you’ve ever wondered what happens when men are willing to be raw, messy, creative, and real together, this is it.

🔥Here’s What We Dive Into:

• “Suffering isn’t strength. The pain of becoming is.”
• “Every boy deserves more than one father—he deserves a community of uncles.”
• Why rites of passage matter (and what happens when men never get them)
• How poetry, music, wrestling, and storytelling all belong at TGOM
• The three pillars: challenge, celebration, and brotherhood
• What happens when men stop proving themselves and start remembering themselves
• Why TGOM is a prayer, not a product

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“When good men get their wants and needs met, the whole world benefits.”

Meg’s off holding it down at her feminine leadership retreat, so I’ve got the mic today with one of the most solid brothers in men’s work, Traver Boehm from Man Uncivilized. 

We went straight in. 

No tiptoeing, no ‘be nice so everyone’s comfortable’ shit. 

We’re talking about how men lose themselves trying to please women, how to stop living as a servant to the queen, and what it actually takes to reclaim your mission. 

We got into the initiations that strip you back to your bones, the kind you don’t buy a ticket for, and why they’re the making of you if you’ve got the balls to stay in them. 

This is about remembering who the fuck you are and leading your life like it matters.

🔥Here’s What We Dive Into:

• The epidemic of men living as “servants to the queen” instead of sovereign leaders
• Why your ego’s dream life might burn you to the ground, and how to find what your soul actually wants
• The terrifying leap from control to purpose, and why it’s magnetic as hell
• How to step into your full power without destroying the people around you
• Dark nights of the soul as sacred gateways, not tragedies
• What real initiation looks like (hint: it’s not a weekend workshop)
• Why the medicine of an initiation has to be integrated back home
• The role of elders and how to rebuild real community around them
• Finding joy even in the middle of your deepest tests
• The dangerous gift: being willing to risk your identity for something bigger

About Traver Boehm

Traver Boehm is the author of the books “Today I Rise”, “Man UNcivilized” and “28 Days In Darkness”. 

He’s a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. 

He’s helped men all over the world to become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them.

He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity.

Connect with Traver: @traverboehm
Website: manuncivilized.com

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“If we don’t reconnect as lovers, everything else suffers.”

A plan is nice, until real life shows up.

This episode started with a strict schedule: record the podcast, tick the boxes, get it done. 

Instead, tech failed, parenting drained us, and the space between us felt heavy. 

What happened next? We scrapped the plan, chose each other, and everything changed.

We talk about the slow creep of disconnection in busy seasons, why intimacy is the first thing to go when you’re in survival mode, and the kind of generosity that doesn’t always look like doing more…it looks like pausing, softening, and letting the truth of the moment lead.

It’s messy, honest, and proof that sometimes the most productive thing you can do for your relationship is to stop everything and reconnect.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• Why intimacy drops to the bottom of the list in survival seasons (and how to bring it back)
• The “truth of the moment” vs. the plan you thought you had
• Using sex as reconnection, not avoidance
• The unspoken generosity in letting your partner have space without punishment
• Breaking cycles of reactivity before they spiral
• Choosing depth over staying “on schedule”
• What happens when you’re willing to sacrifice the plan for real connection

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“There’s a reason brotherhood feels confronting: it won’t let you stay the same.”

This one’s for the men who are tired of playing a role.
And for the women who are tired of watching them pretend.

In today’s episode, I sat down with my brother, Nick Warner, a father, men’s facilitator, and one of the most grounded, embodied leaders I know. We get into the shadow side of men’s work, the trap of emotional dumping, the chaos of Neo-Tantra, and the slow, sacred work of actually becoming trustworthy.

We talk about fatherhood as initiation, the pressure to perform polarity, and why true devotion has nothing to prove.

This isn’t about masculine aesthetic.
This is about leadership, when no one’s watching.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• The illusion of freedom in “uncommitted” masculine identity
• Why polyamory & open relating often mask intimacy wounds
• The knight vs. king archetypes — and how men get stuck performing
• Spiritual bypassing in men’s work and Neo-Tantra spaces
• The line between sacred vulnerability vs. emotional collapse
• What real devotion looks like in fatherhood and marriage
• How brotherhood humbles and forges the masculine path
• The question that ends the performance: Who do you serve?

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“If we don’t define roles with love, we inherit them with resentment.”

We got fired up by a viral reel floating around online recently…

A young man was proudly sharing how he wants to “provide” for his woman—so she can spend her days going on “hot girl walks” and avoid life’s challenges.

Sweet, right?

Kind of…

Because in the same breath, he spoke about how men desire a woman who is “relaxed” and “calm” at the end of the day.

Aka:

“I’ll provide for you… as long as you behave.”

“I’ll give you a comfortable life… as long as you make mine easy.”

That’s not real provision.

That’s control disguised as care.

That’s conditional love dressed up as devotion.

So yeah… we had a LOT to say. And we recorded a whole episode unpacking it.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

•  Why that viral reel about “providing for a woman” sparked something in us
• Self-serving provision vs. provision rooted in devotion & love
• When providership can be used to control a woman
• The difference between financial provision & emotional provision
• What a deep woman is truly yearning for
• How we personally navigate gender roles in our relationship
• And so much more.

This one’s big. Let’s go there.  

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“Without lineage, a man becomes a wanderer in his own body.”

This one’s a rite of passage in itself.

Jacob sits down with Kale Kaalehaki, cultural revivalist, father, and co-founder of Sacred Souls, to speak on what most modern men are missing, not breathwork, not biohacks, not six-packs… but belonging.

Together, they unpack why grief is the doorway to manhood, how routine without reverence keeps us hollow, and what it truly means to return to land, lineage, and life as sacred.

This one’s for the men who’ve trained, regulated, achieved, and still feel hollow.

This one’s for the ones ready to come back to land, to ritual, to story, to fire.

To what was never supposed to be forgotten.

If you’ve ever felt like your nervous system was regulated but your soul still felt lost, this conversation is the fire you didn’t know you needed.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• Why the “self-made man” is a myth rooted in disconnection
• The spiritual condition of modernity, and why most men are culturally orphaned
• The difference between initiation and rite of passage (and why both matter)
• How routine without ritual leaves men spiritually starving
• Parenting, grief, and the unexpected initiations of fatherhood
• Sacred reciprocity: reclaiming relationship with land, air, and water
• Why nervous system work isn’t enough without soul confrontation
• The return to songs, stories, offerings—and building true belonging

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“When a woman starts performing in her relationship, she stops being seen.”

Every word in this episode is a mirror for the woman who quietly wonders, “Do I still matter?”

Meg & Jacob crack open part two of one of their most tender, triggering, and transformational convos yet what it means for a woman to want to matter, deeply, not just in her business or family but in her relationship.

We’re diving into the difference between being needed vs. being chosen, why female significance is not the same as attention-seeking, and how the fear of being too much makes women shrink their wildest longings.

You’ll hear the real-time reflections from their own partnership, including the raw moment Meg almost gave up, and how they found each other again not in roles, but in real presence.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, under-chosen, or like you have to “earn” your seat in love… this one is going to go straight to your heart.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• The difference between being significant and being useful
• Why female longing is sacred—not dramatic or needy
• The silent heartbreak of becoming "just the mom" in a relationship
• Jacob’s reflection on what most men miss when their woman starts to pull away
• How to feel chosen again without begging for attention
• Why a man’s leadership must include emotional devotion
• What it actually means to see, hold, and re-choose your woman daily

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