Sofie Hagen is a multi award winning, queer, non-binary comedian, author and podcaster.

Their debut book was called Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World That Wants to Shrink You and they have just published their second book ‘Will I Ever have Sex Again.’ In it, they examine our broader sexual landscape in an attempt to understand why they haven’t had sex in some 3000 days and counting.

Sofie joins Emma to discuss everything they’ve learned from over nine years of (involuntary) celibacy, what it’s taught them about their own body, boundaries, and queerness, and why they’re not all that bothered if they go another nine-years without sex. Plus, find out what Sofie learned about 1800 other people’s sex lives, not to mention the lessons imparted by a renowned flirtologist. 

In this solo episode of the Sex Talks podcast, Emma discusses three main topics: her experience watching a play called 'After Sex' and the dating lessons it reminded her of; her brand new mantra 'the grass is greenest where you water it' and how we can apply it to both work and relationships; and, finally, the negative effects of comparison culture, particularly in relation to sex.

The final Sex Talks Live podcast recording of the summer will take place on July 30th at The London Edition. You can purchase tickets here.

We're on a podcast break this week so we're reposting one of our fave old episodes featuring author, Natasha Lunn, discussing her bestselling book 'Conversations on Love'.

We hope you enjoy this as much as we did.

Our usual Thursday podcasting schedule will resume next week and the final Sex Talks Live podcast recording of the summer will take place on July 30th at The London Edition. You can purchase tickets here.

In this episode, Emma sits down with multi-award-winning journalist, TikTok creator and author of Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, Sophia Smith Galer.

Together, they delve into the many sex myths Sophia tackles in her book; what Sophia refers to as the ‘sex misinformation crisis’ we’re currently facing; what initially drew her to explore this topic-area within her reporting; the challenges she and other journalists face in getting editors to take this subject matter seriously, and how we can all have a better relationship to sex overall.

It’s an episode jam-packed with fascinating sex insights and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did.

This was recorded in front of a live audience at the Zults pop up store in Soho. 

Launching in collaboration with Sexual Health London (SHL), aka the NHS’s free STI testing service, Zults is the brand-new and first-of-its-kind app that aims to provide a super easy way for individuals to test, manage, and communicate sexual health results if and when they want.

Go an check out what they’re doing on Myrezults.com.

In this episode of the Sex Talks podcast, Emma is joined be Regena Thomashauer, otherwise known as ‘Mama Gena’.

She is a teacher, best-selling author, mother and founder and CEO of the New York-based School of Womanly Arts where she teaches women how to get (re)connected to their bodies and to their sensuality. “For as long as women are disconnected from their pussy they are disconnected from their power,” she tells us.

Her book ‘Pussy: A Reclamation’, has been recommended to the team so many times we had to have her on the podcast to find out what exactly the School of Womanly Arts is all about. We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did.

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On this week’s live recording of the podcast Emma’s joined by the founder of The Stack World, Sharmadean Reid, ahead of the publication of her new book, New Methods for Women.

True to form, this book is the culmination of everything Sharmadean’s learned from over 10 years of healing and self-development work, laying out her tried and tested approaches to dealing with all of the most important things in life. From setting boundaries to defining what you want in life, to questioning and rewriting the stories you tell yourself about yourself, it is rich with insights and learnings. 

The topic of sex and relationships is not one Sharmadean has ever talked about publicly before, so think of this conversation as a mega exclusive as we hear her explain how we can apply the methods laid out in her new book to the way we think about, and approach, sex and dating.

You can purchase tickets to the event here.

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On this week’s episode we’re talking about men. Specifically, masculinity, male sexuality and the myths surrounding it.

To that end, Emma was joined by Men’s Dating, Relationship & Intimacy Coach, David Chambers, and the Director of Facilitation at Beyond Equality, an organisation that is rethinking masculinity and engaging men and boys in the gender equality conversation, Ben Hurst.

From the impact of Andrew Tate and why his messaging has become so insidious, to the ways in which hit tv show, Baby Reindeer, highlighted how men often feel unable to talk about sexual abuse and harassment and the reasons behind that, to Ben and David’s own relationship to sex growing up and the impact growing up in the church had on their respective feelings of sexual shame, we covered a lot in this discussion.

We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did.

The next live recording of the Sex Talks podcast is on June 19th and will see us turn our attention to men once again as we discuss what a positive notion of masculinity looks like today and how shedding reductive gender stereotypes can help us all have a better relationship to sex, intimacy and relationships.

You can purchase tickets to the event here.

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On this episode of the podcast, Emma sits down with porn performer, director, editor and producer, Vex Ashley, to find out how she went from cam-girl to running her own independent porn platform, and why she considers sex such an interesting and important topic for us to discuss.

After rejecting being demoted to ‘muse’ while at art school and then getting naked online as a cam girl, Vex started up the independent porn platform called Four Chambers back in 2013 in order to expand the idea of what sex on film could do, be and say.

The platform explores the intersection between sex, psychology, technology, art history and well everything in between and Vex is both behind and in front of the camera, something she sees as key to the way she works.

"I'm pretty hardline on this", she told us previously, “if you're making money off of asking people to fuck on film, you should yourself have fucked on film.”

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So we’ve all heard of attachment styles right? 

Attachment theory tells us that the emotional attachments we form with our primary caregivers in infancy can influence our interpersonal relationships later in life.

Whether we’re anxious, secure, avoidant or disorganised, our attachment style can have a pretty big impact on how we show up in our romantic relationships. 

Since attachment styles have of late been getting a lot of airtime on social media and we wanted to understand more about the science behind the theory and delve a little deeper into the research underpinning the internet’s favourite relationship theory.

To help us do just, Emma was joined in the podcast this week by psychotherapist and author of ‘Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love’, Jessica Baum. 

You can take the attachment style quiz here; find out more about Jessica's work here and buy her brilliant book here.

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In this episode, Emma sits down with writer and author, Elise Loehnen, to discuss her best-selling new book, On Our Best Behaviour: The Price Women Pay to be Good.

Together they unpack the web of myths and cultural expectations that prop up patriarchy and keep women chasing an ideal of perfection that is neither achievable nor really desirable.

"Women," Loehnen explains, "'have been trained for goodness. Men, meanwhile, have been trained for power.'

Elise is the former chief content officer of Gwyneth Paltrow’s company Goop, where she oversaw its blog, newsletter, book imprint and podcast as well as its Netflix documentary series, “The Goop Lab.”

In 2020, Loehen decided to step down from her position with the company and On Our Best Behaviour is her firstly solely by-lined book. She has ghostwritten 12 other titles.

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