Episode 81: Friendship Breakups Suck & Finding Community in ENM with Arielle Zadok

Okay, on this episode? We went THERE. 🔥I'm sitting down with Arielle Zadok and we're getting into the stuff people don't talk about enough — friendship breakups, finding your people in ENM, and why building real community is harder (and more beautiful) than anyone warns you about.Because let's be honest… sometimes losing a friend hurts WAY more than a breakup. And nobody gives you a roadmap for that.

We're getting into:

✨ why friendship breakups can absolutely wreck you

✨ why adult friendships are lowkey confusing & painful

✨ conflict, repair & what a real apology actually sounds like

✨ impact vs. intention (this part hit hard)

✨ nervous system regulation before hard conversations

✨ emotional maturity, accountability & communication

AND then we get spicy 💋

💋 how to actually find community in ENM, polyamory & the lifestyle💋 finding play parties & open-minded events in your city

💋 apps & platforms we love💋 red flags & green flags in lifestyle spaces

💋 diversity, safety & inclusivity in community

💋 why the internet won't build you real community

💋 how to start fresh in a new city & find your peopleThis one is emotional, vulnerable, healing, spicy & so so good. The conversation people needed but weren't having — until now.

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Episode 180: My First MMF Threesome: The Fears Nobody Talks About

“F*ck that, I want TWO boyfriends!” 😈🔥

We’re going THERE, babe.

This episode is equal parts spicy, vulnerable, and necessary. I’m sharing my FIRST MMF threesome experience, the fears I had going in, the insecurities I had to face, and how I felt after.

Because when masculinity isn’t fragile… everything opens up. 🖤

In this episode:

🖤 My first MMF and why I almost talked myself out of it

🖤 The fears and insecurities nobody tells you about

🖤 Dating updates, vulnerability, and what it means to feel WORTHY

🖤 Alpha female dating tips and why you need to stop future pacing

🖤 The bisexuality double standard we need to talk about

🖤 Why women are obsessed with men who aren’t threatened by other men

🖤 Spicy details. A shower. A wedding after party. That’s all I’m saying.

This episode ends with some of my favorite clips and quotes. DO NOT skip the last few minutes. 🎙️

If you’ve ever been curious but scared, insecure but intrigued… this one’s for you.

Okay babes, we need to talk about something nobody is actually talking about — men's orgasms. Not the fake confidence. Not the performance. The real stuff happening behind closed doors that most men are too embarrassed to admit and most women are too polite to ask about.

I brought in the big guns for this one. Caitlin V is a sexologist with 923K YouTube subscribers, the host of HBO's Good Sex, and the author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger. She has heard it all, fixed it all, and she came on Sexy Biz Babe to spill every last secret.

This conversation got uncomfortable. It got real. And honestly? It might change your entire relationship.

We got into:

• Most men have never actually had a real orgasm and have no idea what they're missing
• Ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing — and that gap is where everything falls apart
• Why men secretly struggle with stamina way more than they let on and what is actually causing it
• The mental vs physical breakdown of premature ejaculation — and why pills aren't the answer
• What stress is literally doing to his erection and his ability to feel pleasure
• The truth about what porn consumption does to performance over time
• How men can train themselves to last longer naturally starting tonight
• How to help your man level up in bed without making him feel like a failure
• The one thing women would be genuinely shocked to learn about men sexually

This is the episode you send to your partner. Or listen to together. Or listen to alone and pretend you didn't.

And babes — stay tuned. Next episode I am getting deeply, uncomfortably, deliciously personal. We are talking about my bisexual threesome. What happened, why it happened, and what it cracked open in me that I never saw coming. You have been warned.

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Play Parties Aren’t What You Think: Dating Lessons & Emotional Intelligence with Stefanie with Broke girl therapy 

In this raw, honest conversation with Stephanie from Broke Girl Therapy, we unpack dating myths we once believed, toxic relationships we stayed in far too long, and the uncomfortable truth behind why so many women keep ending up in situationships.

We talk about her first play party experience, sexual exploration, emotional safety, and the difference between being “chill” and emotionally avoidant. Plus, the green flags that actually led her to her fiancé and the one thing women need to stop doing immediately if they want a real partner.

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of doing everything “right” and still not getting the love she wants.

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177: Female Orgasm Tips No One Taught You (Men take notes) with Abigail from Rat Girls Podcast

Female pleasure is rarely taught honestly. In this episode, we break down why so many women fake orgasms and how to have real, satisfying orgasms using practical pleasure tips, communication, and body awareness.

What if the reason you’re not orgasming (or your partner isn’t) has nothing to do with your body being “broken”… and everything to do with what no one ever taught you?In this deliciously honest, funny, and wildly validating episode, I sit down with Rat Girl Podcast to talk about how to actually orgasm with a vulva — whether you’re solo, partnered, married, dating, ADHD, curious, or just tired of faking it.We’re talking real pleasure, not porn-based performance sex.We break down why:• “Jackhammering” isn’t doing what you think it’s doing• Faking orgasms keeps everyone stuck (and how to stop)• The so-called “tight V” myth is actually about arousal

• Why vulvas literally grow, expand, and need warming up• The orgasm gap is real — and fixable

• Vibrators don’t make partners “inferior” (they make sex better)• Most people orgasm more with clit stimulation and toys

• There is MORE than one way to orgasm (and no, liquid isn’t required)• Smut books, fantasy, and erotic storytelling might be your secret weapon

• ADHD sex struggles are normal — and there are simple ways to work with them• Scheduling sex doesn’t kill the spark — avoiding pleasure doesWe also cover:

• How to ask for more foreplay without crushing your partner’s ego (the compliment sandwich 👀)• What to do if you have different sex drives• How to bring the spark back into long-term relationships or marriages• Taking your power back in your pleasure — unapologeticallyThis episode is packed with practical orgasm tips, laughter, truth bombs, and moments that will make you say,“Oh… THAT explains a lot.”If you have a vulva, love someone with a vulva, or want deeper, hotter, more connected sex — this episode is required listening. 💋🎧 Watch / Listen everywhere: YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts & all streaming platforms.Follow our guest: @ratgirlspodcastFollow me on @sexybizbabepodcast + @sexybizbabe Check out levelupwithtia.com to work with Tia and get her courses

Episode 176: Exploring Non-Monogamy & Dating Apps with Öykü from Beyond Dating App

What if everything we were taught about love, sex, and relationships was designed to keep us playing small?

🔥 In this honest conversation, I'm sitting down with Öykü, the creator of Beyond—a dating app built for the ethical non-monogamy and polyamorous community (because we deserve better than those awkward "couple seeking unicorn" vibes). It's for all styles of dating.

We're getting into what ENM really teaches us, why mainstream dating apps suck for anyone doing relationships differently, and how to stop apologizing for wanting what you want. We talk about the fear of being too MUCH —and why that shame is just old programming we get to delete.

We talk compersion (getting turned on by your partner's joy with someone else—yes really), sexual liberation as rebellion, and the game-changing truth that the more you prioritize YOUR pleasure, the hotter and more present you become in all your relationships.

If you're poly-curious, exploring non-monogamy, questioning the rules, or ready to do love and sex on your own terms—this one's for you. 💋

LINK to join the app - https://beyond.app.link/join/sexybizbabe

Topics: Beyond dating app • ENM & polyamory • exploring bisexuality • healing sexual shame • compersion • sexual liberation • authentic dating • pleasure as power

Episode 175: Pleasure, Pain and Creepy Fantasy's with Nicoletta Heidegger 

 In this juicy + deeply validating episode, I sit down with the incredible Nicoletta Heidegger — Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256), award-nominated Sexologist, and host of the hit podcast Sluts & Scholars. Nicoletta specializes in sex therapy and Equine Assisted Psychotherapy, offering virtual sessions and sessions at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles. She’s Stanford and Pepperdine educated, holds a Master’s in Human Sexuality from Widener University, and is known for her shame-free, sex-positive approach to healing and pleasure.

We go all the way in on a topic so many women deal with silently:
Pelvic floor pain and shame around sex.

We unpack:

• Why pain during sex is actually not normal (even though many of us were told it is)
• How shame, fear, and survival responses show up physically in the pelvic floor
• Where pelvic tension, pain, numbness, or tightness actually come from
• How to begin healing through nervous system regulation + somatic release
• How to find the right pelvic floor therapist or sex-positive specialist
• What real embodied healing looks like — not just “relaxing”
• The power of fantasy, desire expression, and permission to be a little wild
• And yes… the unexpected serial killer fantasy conversation (you’re welcome 😈)

There are also some very real, very funny, very human moments — because healing can be messy, sacred, and hilarious all at once.

This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt:

• Shame around your pleasure
• Confused by your body
• Disconnected during intimacy
• Or like you were “broken”

You’re not broken. You’re just holding more than your body knows how to process — and that can change.

💜 Share this with someone who needs to know they’re not alone
 Your pleasure is not only allowed — it’s sacred.

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Episode 174: From Open Relationships to Monogamy: Real Stories + Lessons Learned (ft Double Teamed Twins)

From play parties and orgies to choosing monogamy The Double Teamed Twins Spill the Truth - Lessons from Non-Monogamy Get ready for a juicy and unexpected twist with the Double Teamed Twins!

👯‍♀️Last time, we dove deep into wedding fantasies, orgies, and double penetration—but this time, everything’s changed. Both Cami and Niki have transitioned from an open, ethically non-monogamous lifestyle to being in committed monogamous relationships.We recorded this a few months ago, and it’s a powerful, honest conversation about growth, love, jealousy, communication, and the lessons learned from both non-monogamy and monogamy.We explore what sparked the shift, how their sex lives evolved, what they miss most about being open, and how their past experiences actually made them better partners now.

Whether you’re curious about open relationships, exploring non-monogamy, or fully monogamous yourself, this episode will make you question everything you thought you knew about love, loyalty, and sexual freedom. 🔥

Website: DoubleTeamedPodcast.com Double Teamed PodcastInstagram: @doubleteamedpodcastlinktr.ee/doubleteamedpodcastOur Last Episode with Double Teamed Twins - https://youtu.be/CO_zGYST_Tc?si=Kx9LXrZEv8iT0XAn

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How to Reprogram Your Mind and Heal Trauma Through Envision Yoga with Leah Davis What if healing didn’t have to be so hard—or stuck in your head? In this episode, I sit down with Leah Davis, founder of Envision Yoga, a revolutionary practice blending bilateral stimulation, yoga, and positive affirmations to help you rewire your mind, reconnect to your body, and reclaim your pleasure.We dive into how Envision Yoga works on a neurological level (yes—like EMDR for the body!), and how it’s helping women heal trauma, transform their relationship with sex, and finally feel their affirmations as truth.We explore:* What is Envision Yoga and how does it help you heal * Why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies and pleasure* How movement + mantra creates real, lasting change* Leah’s own journey healing through trauma and how it transformed her romantic & sexual relationships* What it means to actually feel safe in your body* The global potential of Envision Yoga—and why there’s hope for anyone ready to healIf you’ve ever struggled with feeling disconnected, stuck in your head, or numb in your body, this episode is your sign. There’s another way. And it works.Leah Davis is the founder of Envision Yoga and an E-RYT 500 certified yoga instructor.Envision Yoga is a neuroscience-informed practice blending yoga, positive affirmations, and bilateral stimulation to help people feel lighter, more focused, and empowered. Inspired by EMDR therapy and rooted in yoga, each session helps rewire limiting beliefs and build greater calm, clarity, and confidence.Check out Envisionyoga.com Follow Leah - @envision.yoga Check out Tia - @sexybizbabepodcast and levelupwithtia.com

Get ready for a spicy, unfiltered convo with Vanessa Duffy, the magnetic flirt behind the marketing of Lovely Fate, Kinky Comedy, and Kama! Published in Playboy and a staple in the lifestyle scene, Vanessa drops juicy insight on everything from slutty confidence to emotional etiquette at play parties.We explore what it’s really like navigating breakups within the lifestyle, including how to still show up for play parties and community events when your ex (and half your friend group) is in the same room. This one’s raw, real, and hilariously hot.🖤 Breakups in non-monogamy vs monogamy🖤 Navigating friend group “divorces” & seeing your ex at events🖤 Friends-with-benefits, fuck boys, and magnetic slut energy🖤 Bisexual flirting tips (Is she straight… or into you?)🖤 How to attend a play party without being a weirdo🖤 Playing single vs partnered: how it shifts your experience🖤 Feeling sexy when you’re not in the mood🖤 The Slucket List & becoming your most liberated self🖤 Lifestyle lessons: It’s about community, not just sexApply for Lovely Fate: – Mention Sexy Biz Babe Podcast as your referral 🖤Want help with confidence and your relationships or diving into non-monogamy and needing support? Website to work with me! Book a call or check out my Sexy Goddess Course! - Levelupwithtia.com Follow me instagram.com/sexybizbabepodcast ‪@SexyBizBabe‬