Shall We Unpack This?

Shall We Unpack This?

By Leilani CarrascoSociety & CultureRelationships
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Shall We Unpack This? episodes

  • "But What If I Can't Forget?": How to keep your peace and protect your energy TODAY
    "FORGIVE AND FORGET." We've all heard this phrase (and probably hate it), but how realistic or valid is it? What if you can't forget? What if you have to see that person who hurt you again? How do you heal while keeping your peace? What is the cost of holding a grudge?
    Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Lauren Webb as they unpack these questions and offer a roadmap to true forgiveness. This episode covers the last two steps of the forgiveness process. (Spoiler alert: Neither of them involve reconciliation.)
    This is Part 2 of a 2-part series that covers topics of forgiveness, religious and societal programming, estrangement from family and somatic healing.
    Learn more about Lauren at https://www.instagram.com/webbwoman/ or at https://www.youtube.com/@UCL2_ma_6qKs-34VEN9apK_w
    Resources: Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
    42 min
  • When Forgiving Feels Like Bullshit: A No-B.S. Guide To True Forgiveness
    Forgiveness is essential to our peace and freedom, and yet it is one of
    the most heavy subjects to face--in part due to traditional advice on
    forgiveness which feels manipulative, preachy and unhelpful. How does
    one experience the true release that forgiveness can bring? What if you
    forgive and still feel angry? Can you forgive and still maintain
    boundaries? Do you have to forgive immediately?
    Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Lauren Webb as they unpack these
    questions and offer a roadmap to true forgiveness. This episode covers
    the first two practical steps to start off the forgiveness process.
    (Spoiler alert: Neither of them involve forgiving.)
    This part 1 of a 2-part series that covers topics of forgiveness,
    religious programming, estrangement from family and somatic healing.
    Learn more about Lauren at
    https://www.instagram.com/webbwoman/ or
    https://www.youtube.com/@webbwoman
    Resources:
    In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness
    by Peter A. Levine, PhD
    Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman
    Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
    55 min
  • Initiating Divorce: What To Do When You're the "BAD GUY"
    If you've ever been the one to initiate a breakup or divorce, then you
    know how easily you can be considered the "bad guy." How do you stand your ground in the face of judgement, guilt and shame?
    In this solo episode, host Leilani Carrasco shares her experience as the "walkaway wife," how divorce made her a more honest person and the
    permission slips everyone who is going through a divorce needs.
    This episode covers topics of dishonesty in marriage, radical
    self-acceptance, walkaway wives, and divorce.
    Resources: The Gottman Institute www.gottman.com / Didgeridoo music for panic attacks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN-542IYoE0
    27 min
  • Unpacking Our Reconciliation: Never Say Never

    They never wanted to see each other again. So what caused this divorced couple to suddenly become friends? If you've ever wondered if friendship with an ex is possible or necessary and what a healthy reconciliation looks like, then this episode is for you!

    Join host Leilani Carrasco and her former partner D. Grant Smith as they unpack the circumstances that unfolded which led to their
    reconciliation.
    This is part 3 of a series in the story of one divorced couple's road
    towards forgiveness and reconciliation.
    Resources:
    Codependent No More by Melody Beattie / www.CoDA.org / Read "The Apology Letter to My Ex-Husband" at
    https://wilddesertwoman.wordpress.com/2021/07/04/the-apology-letter-to-my-ex-husband/ - Find D. Grant at https://growthfarming.com
    Music: "Documentary In" by LeonardoPR

    43 min
  • Unpacking Our Marriage: We Also Kissed Dating Goodbye

    Remember the purity movement of the mid 90's to early 2000's? If the True Love Waits campaign and the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" influenced your approach to dating as a teen and young adult, then this episode is for you! Join host Leilani Carrasco and her former partner D. Grant Smith as they unpack:

    1. How they met, and
    2. How their views on dating and marriage as young adults immersed in a purity culture set their marriage up for failure.

      3. This is Part 2 of a series in the story of one divorced couple's road

      towards forgiveness and reconciliation.
      This episode covers topics on purity culture, religious doctrine around marriage and dating, grief, boundaries and toxic relationship patterns.
      Find D Grant on IG @dgrantsmith or at https://growthfarming.com
      Music: "Documentary In" by LeonardoPR


      55 min
    3. Unpacking Our Divorce: From Power Couple to Suddenly Separated
      One minute, they were a power couple; the next minute, they were separated and hiring lawyers...
      How is it that some couples who seem so happy together suddenly end up getting divorced?
      Join host Leilani Carrasco and her former partner, D. Grant Smith, as they unpack the last year of their marriage, their experience in the divorce process, and insights into why their relationship fell apart.
      This is Part 1 of a series in the story of one couple's road towards forgiveness and reconciliation, and it's one you will not want to miss.
      Find D Grant on IG @dgrantsmith or at https://growthfarming.com
      Music" "Documentary In" by LeonardoPR
      49 min
    4. Unpacking Creativity: Why It Feels Unsafe to Create (and what we can frikin do about it)
      Why is it so difficult to create with joy? What are we missing?
      Today we unpack why it feels unsafe to create the things we want as well as GAMECHANGING tool to help you get out of your own way.
      A timely listen for this Leo full moon and for anyone who wishes to create with more freedom. Host Leilani Carrasco unpacks why it feels unsafe for her to create and shares unexpected techniques that have helped her move forward in her creative process.
      Whether you're an artist, writer, or simply someone seeking to reconnect with the joy of creation, this episode serves as a guide for anyone grappling with creative blocks. Subjects covered: Inner child healing, shame, triggers, mental blocks, nervous system disregulation
      RESOURCES: www.tobemagnetic.com / EMDR Therapy / Somatic
      Healing / Music: "Documentary" In by LeonardoPR
      42 min
    5. What the HELL Am I Doing?: Unpacking My Podcast Journey

      Welcome to the inaugural episode of SWUT podcast! Host Leilani Carrasco shares a life-altering realization she had in 2017 and the discovery that led to the idea for this podcast.

      This episode delves into themes of personal growth, authenticity, and the transformative questions that reshape our lives.


      The Anatomy of Trust by Brene Brown: https://youtu.be/QuO639CGBhw?si=TM_UDbpHS4q5F2lz


      Music: "Documentary In" by LeonardoPR


      18 min
    6. Podcast Teaser

      A small taste of what to expect on "Shall We Unpack This?", a new podcast that unpacks the misconceptions, cliches and societal programming surrounding messy, taboo and otherwise misunderstood topics. Airs Thursdays starting January 18th.


      Music: "Trailer Beautiful Christmas" by Yellow_Hedgehog

      9 min

    About Shall We Unpack This?

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    Shall We Unpack This? (or SWUT for short) is a safe space to dive deep into the complex, the messy and the taboo. Host Leilani Carrasco and her guests break down the cliches, toxic positivity and societal programming that often surround these topics.