Shame(less) Podcast

What if your connection with God isn’t as deep as you think? Are you truly experiencing intimacy with God, or are you just imitating faith?

In this powerful conversation, Eric Munoz shares his personal journey of breaking free from lust, overcoming shame, and learning true intimacy with God. From struggling with pornography and abandonment issues to finding spiritual freedom, Eric reveals the key steps every man needs to take to build a real, lasting relationship with Christ.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• The difference between intimacy and imitation in faith
• Why so many men struggle with shame, lust, and addiction
• How porn and self-medication keep men stuck in cycles of guilt
• The one daily habit that led Eric to true freedom
• How to stop wearing a mask and become the man God created you to be

Ready to stop imitating faith and start experiencing true intimacy with God? Hit play now!

Many men avoid intimacy with God because they associate it with weakness or think it’s uncomfortable. Eric breaks down why deep spiritual connection is essential for overcoming struggles like lust and shame.

Key Quote: "Men put up so many roadblocks between them and the intimacy they actually need. God is calling you into a deeper relationship—will you step into it?"

Eric shares how his early exposure to pornography created a pain-self-medication-shame cycle, trapping him in lust for years. He explains how this cycle fuels addiction, secrecy, and distance from God.

Key Quote: "Shame makes you hide, but hiding only makes the cycle worse. The key to freedom is stepping into the light."

Eric spent years trying to "fix" himself with books, accountability partners, and self-discipline—but nothing worked until he prioritized spending time in God's presence daily.

Practical Step: Wake up earlier and dedicate time to prayer and scripture. Even 15 minutes can make a massive difference!

Key Quote: "Freedom didn’t come when I tried harder. It came when I spent time with God and let Him transform me."

[00:00] Intro & Why This Episode Matters
[02:02] Meet Eric Munoz: His Story & Mission
[05:25] The Hidden Struggles of a Young Christian Leader
[07:52] How Lust & Shame Create a Trap for Men
[13:12] God’s Game-Changing Word: “You Are Free”
[16:52] The Turning Point: Choosing to Walk in Freedom
[19:31] What True Intimacy with God Looks Like
[26:49] Overcoming Childhood Trauma & Removing the Mask
[37:06] The One Daily Habit That Can Change Everything
[41:41] Where to Follow Eric & Final Encouragement

Follow Eric Munoz

• YouTube: Valley of the Heroic
• Instagram: @EricMunozJr

In this powerful episode of the Shame(less) Podcast, host Ken Freire sits down with Dustin Alley, the founder of Men After God, to discuss turning past regrets into a God-given mission. 

Dustin shares his raw and unfiltered testimony, from his wild teenage years influenced by the Jackass-era subculture to his struggles with addiction, pornography, and dysfunctional relationships. 

But his story doesn't end in shame—God transformed his life, leading him into a redemptive journey of ministry and marriage restoration. If you’re a man struggling with regret, addiction, or the weight of past mistakes, this episode will show you that God’s grace is bigger than your failures.

Topics Covered:

✔️ Overcoming addiction, lust, and the past that tries to define us
✔️ The dangers of "functional dysfunction" and how we normalize sin
✔️ How porn rewires your brain and distorts intimacy in marriage
✔️ What real repentance looks like: Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow (2 Cor. 7:10)
✔️ The importance of discipleship, accountability, and mentorship
✔️ Practical steps for men to break free and lead their families well
✔️ Why self-forgiveness is often harder than accepting God’s forgiveness
✔️ How to rebuild emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy in marriage
✔️ The birth of Men After God and why every man needs a mission

Key Quote from Dustin Alley:

“If I choose to hold past sin over my head, I’m putting myself in the place of God and doing something He doesn’t even do with me. If I have confessed and repented, I am forgiven—so I need to live in the light of that forgiveness.”

🔗 Men After God: https://menaftergod.net
📖 Dustin's Book - Becoming a Man After God: Available on Amazon
👥 Join the Men After God Facebook Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod
📖 Recommended Reading: Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges, The Mortification of Sin by John Owen

✔️ Own Your Mistakes – Sit down with your wife and confess where you’ve fallen short. True leadership starts with humility.
✔️ Pick One Area to Improve – Don’t get overwhelmed. Choose one practical way to strengthen emotional, spiritual, or physical intimacy.
✔️ Surround Yourself with Godly Men – Accountability is key. Join a brotherhood that will call you higher.
✔️ Stop Managing Sin—Kill It! – Repentance isn’t about behavior management; it’s about putting sin to death through daily submission to Christ.
✔️ Lead Your Family with Intentionality – Whether it’s praying together, doing devotionals, or scheduling date nights, start leading with purpose today.

📘 Facebook: facebook.com/TheMenAfterGod
🎙️ Podcast: The Men After God Podcast (Available on Spotify & Apple Podcasts)
🌎 Website: https://menaftergod.net

In this episode of The Shameless Podcast, Ken Freire interviews Anthony Curnutt on overcoming addiction, rebuilding trust in marriage, and embracing biblical masculinity. Learn how Anthony fought to restore his marriage after battling pornography addiction and how men can step into their God-given roles.

This conversation is a must-listen for men struggling with addiction, marriage challenges, or seeking biblical masculinity.

✅ Secrets Destroy Trust: Hiding addiction for years created shame and guilt, leading to the near collapse of his marriage.

✅ Healing Requires Surrender: True healing began when Anthony fully surrendered his struggles to Jesus, accountability partners, and trusted mentors.

✅ Marriage Needs Boundaries: To rebuild trust, Anthony and his wife set strong boundaries, including full transparency with passwords, accountability, and open conversations.

✅ Biblical Masculinity is Key: Society distorts masculinity, but men are called to be spiritual leaders, embracing God’s design for manhood.

💬 “You cannot have a thriving marriage with secrets.” – Anthony Curnutt

💬 “Jesus wants all of us healed—not just from sin, but from the wounds that led us into sin.” – Anthony Curnutt

💬 “Every man needs three people in his life: a mentor, a mentee, and a brother who will fight alongside him.” – Anthony Curnutt

📖 Book: Framework for Biblical Masculinity – Available on Amazon
🌐 Website: Real Men Ministries
📲 Follow on Social Media:

• Facebook Group: Real Men Ministries: Becoming a Spiritual Leader
• Instagram, X (Twitter), TikTok: @RealMenMinistries

🎙️ Podcast: Real Men Talk Podcast

If you're struggling with addiction, shame, or marriage struggles, this episode is for you. Remember: healing takes time, but it is possible. Take the first step by reaching out for help, surrounding yourself with godly men, and leaning into God’s grace.

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In this powerful and deeply honest episode of the Shame(less) Podcast, Ken sits down with Keith Johnson, a man who has experienced the devastating effects of sexual sin firsthand but has also seen the transformative power of God's grace. Keith shares his journey of being trapped in sexual sin for 35 years, his struggles with adultery both before and after coming to Christ, and how he ultimately found freedom. This conversation dives deep into the nature of shame, confession, and the hope that comes through true repentance and restoration.

Key Topics Covered:

• Keith’s background: A tumultuous family upbringing and early exposure to sexual sin.
• The devastating impact of sexual addiction and adultery on his life and marriage.
• The moment of salvation at 42 and how it initially felt like freedom.
• The relapse into sin and how God’s grace ultimately led to true, lasting transformation.
• The role of confession, repentance, and community in breaking free from sin.
• The importance of walking in true identity as a child of God rather than seeing oneself as an addict.
• The biblical perspective on shame, guilt, and condemnation.
• The structured 12-step program Keith developed to help men break free from sexual sin.

Notable Quotes:

• "There are two kinds of shame—one that leads you to Christ and another that keeps you in condemnation."
• "God’s arms are not too short to save. No matter how deep the sin, His grace is greater."
• "Confession isn’t about judgment. It’s about bringing things into the light so healing can happen."
• "We rejoice in our sufferings because suffering produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope."

Keith’s 12-Step Christ-Centered Recovery Approach:

1. Admit powerlessness over sin.
2. Recognize the need for a Savior.
3. Fully surrender to God’s will.
4. Conduct a fearless moral inventory.
5. Confess sins openly.
6. Become fully willing for God to remove defects.
7. Ask God for transformation.
8. Identify those harmed and seek to make amends.
9. Actively seek reconciliation where possible.
10. Continue self-examination and confession.
11. Deepen relationship with God through prayer and Scripture.
12. Share the message of freedom and disciple others.

Action Steps for Listeners:

• If you're struggling with sexual sin, don’t stay in isolation. Reach out for help.
• Confess and bring your struggles into the light. Healing begins with honesty.
• Renew your mind daily in the Word and embrace your identity as a redeemed child of God.
• Find a community or mentor who can walk with you through the process of restoration.
• Consider reaching out to Keith if you need guidance through the recovery journey.

How to Connect with Keith Johnson:
Email: [email protected]

Final Encouragement:
Your sin does not outpace the grace of God. No matter where you are in your journey, there is hope, freedom, and restoration in Jesus. Keep pursuing Him, kill shame, stand strong, and be on mission!

Closing Statement:
Thank you for tuning in to the Shame(less) Podcast. If this episode impacted you, share it with someone who needs hope. Until next time, stay strong in Christ!

In this powerful episode of the Shame(less) Podcast, host Ken Freire welcomes Jason Weening—husband, father of 10, and host of the Helping Men Thrive Podcast. Jason shares his wisdom on how fathers can help their children overcome the shame associated with pornography. They discuss the importance of creating safe spaces, having ongoing conversations, and leading with intention and love.

Key Takeaways:

• The Power of Intentional Fatherhood: Jason emphasizes that being a father isn’t just about financial provision but about active leadership within the home.
• Creating Safe Spaces for Honest Conversations: Encouraging kids to ask questions without fear of shame is crucial to helping them navigate tough topics like pornography.
• The Role of Training and Preparation: Fathers often feel unequipped to discuss these topics due to lack of training—Jason offers practical advice on where to start.
• Recognizing the Signs of Struggle: Jason shares key indicators that your child may be struggling with pornography and how to address them without judgment.
• Practical Steps for Parents: From making pornography a casual, approachable topic to utilizing great resources, Jason provides actionable tips for fathers.

Notable Quotes:

• "Dads, you matter. What you do in your family carries more influence than anything else."
• "Feel the fear and do it anyway. You don’t have to be perfect—just start the conversation."
• "Normalize the conversation around pornography, so it’s not a shame-filled topic in your home."

Resources Mentioned:

1. Books for Parents and Kids:Good Pictures, Bad Pictures by Kristen Jenson (for young children)
   Who Made Me? – A simple, age-appropriate book for kids
   The Talks by Barrett Johnson – A guide to ongoing conversations about sex and purity
   God Made All of Me by Justin Holcomb – A resource for teaching kids about body safety and sexual abuse prevention
   The Bible – Using scripture to naturally introduce conversations about sexual integrity
   
2. Jason's Website and Book:Visit heydads.ca for Jason’s podcast, resources, and parenting content
   Danger in the Jungle – Jason’s fiction book for boys, available on Amazon
   

Practical Tips for Fathers:

• Start early—don’t wait for “the talk,” but have many talks over time.
• Use everyday opportunities like car rides or walks to introduce these conversations naturally.
• Be honest about your own experiences and struggles to create a culture of openness.
• Praise your kids when they come to you with questions or concerns, reinforcing trust and safety.
• Watch for signs of secrecy and isolation and address them with grace, not guilt.

Connect with Jason:

• Website: heydads.ca
• Book: Danger in the Jungle (available on Amazon)

In this powerful episode of the Shame(less) Podcast, Ken Freire is joined by Frank Rich, founder of Rebuilt Recovery and host of The Rebuilt Man podcast. Frank shares his transformative journey from addiction and shame to freedom and purpose. He introduces his holistic approach to recovery, which uniquely integrates faith, fitness, and gut health to empower men to reclaim their God-given purpose.

Frank discusses how aligning the body, mind, and spirit strengthens resolve against temptation, why gut health is critical for mental clarity and self-discipline, and how small, intentional actions can lead to lasting freedom. Whether you're struggling with addiction or seeking to live with greater purpose, this episode offers actionable insights to help you take the next step.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How Frank’s early exposure to pornography shaped his journey of addiction and recovery.
• The pivotal role faith played in Frank’s transformation and his decision to surrender to Christ in 2018.
• Why gut health is foundational for mental clarity, emotional resilience, and resisting temptation.
• Frank’s unique framework for recovery, combining faith, behavioral science, and holistic health.
• Practical steps to improve gut health and build discipline, including fasting and eliminating processed foods.
• The importance of integrating faith from the start of your recovery journey.
• How small, consistent wins can rebuild confidence and self-perception.

Key Quotes:

• “Life is hard. Choose your hard. Being stuck in addiction is hard. Building discipline is hard. But one of these paths leads to freedom.” – Coach Frank
• “Faith isn’t a fallback for when we fail; it’s the foundation for everything we do.” – Ken Freire
• “Restore your gut health, and you’ll restore your ability to think clearly, act decisively, and fight temptation.” – Coach Frank

Practical Steps to Start Today:

1. Begin with a Fast: Try a 48-72 hour fast to gain mental clarity and understand your triggers.
2. Eliminate Processed Foods: Remove sugars and processed carbs from your diet and replace them with whole foods, such as lean meats, fruits, and vegetables.
3. Stack Small Wins: Commit to one small habit change, like cutting out soda or going for a daily walk, and build from there.
4. Integrate Faith Daily: Start your day by asking God for guidance and strength, making Him the foundation of your transformation.

Resources Mentioned:

• Rebuilt Recovery (Free community for resources and training)
• Frank Rich on Instagram
• Surfing for God by Michael John Cusick (A must-read for those battling addiction)

Connect with Frank Rich:

• Instagram: @coachfrankrich
• YouTube: Coach Frank Rich
• Free Community: The Rebuilt Man

Connect with Ken Freire:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kenfreire

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kenneth.freire

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kenfreire

X: https://x.com/KenFreire

In this heartfelt and candid episode of the Shame(less) Podcast, Ken Freire welcomes long-time friend and guest Matthew Wyatt to discuss his powerful journey of overcoming morbid obesity, battling lust, and finding healing in Christ. 

Matthew shares his struggles with unhealthy coping mechanisms, his turning points, and the vital role of community and accountability in his transformation. Together, they explore the interconnectedness of physical, emotional, and spiritual health, providing hope and encouragement for those battling similar challenges.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• How Matthew lost over 140 pounds in 11 months and transformed his health.
• The connection between lust, addiction, and unresolved pain.
• The importance of facing reality and embracing the identity God gives us.
• Practical steps to find healing and freedom through community, repentance, and faith.
• Encouragement for men struggling with shame, addiction, or obesity.

Key Quotes:

• “This is not going to fix itself. You will face consequences, but the good news is you can overcome it—and many have before you.” – Matthew Wyatt
• “God doesn’t just forgive you; He makes you completely new. You are the bride of Christ, a child of God, and a royal priesthood.” – Ken Freire
• “You’re not supposed to fight alone. You can choose to fight your battles with God or against Him. Choose wisely.” – Matthew Wyatt

Resources Mentioned:

• Pure Desire Ministries – Groups and resources for overcoming sexual addiction.
• Conquer Series – A biblically-based program for men battling sexual addiction.
• Connect with Matthew White: Find him on social media (@realMatthewWyatt).

Take the Next Step:
If you're struggling with shame, addiction, or weight issues, know that you are not alone. Reach out to a trusted friend, pastor, or mentor, and consider joining a support group. Start your journey today because, as Matthew says, “You are worth it.”

Follow & Subscribe:
Stay tuned for more episodes aimed at helping you kill shame, stand strong, and live on mission. Subscribe to the Shame(less) Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts, and leave a review to help others find encouragement and hope.

Connect with Ken Freire:

• Instagram: @KenFreire
• Twitter: @KenFreire
• Website: beshameless.org

Thank you for listening! See you next week as we continue this journey toward freedom and purpose in Christ.

In this episode of Shame(less) Podcast, Ken Freire sits down with Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean Coaching and host of the Unleash the Man Within podcast, to discuss why internet filters fall short in the fight against pornography addiction. 

Sathiya shares his journey of overcoming a 15-year addiction, the limitations of behavior modification, and the transformative power of a root-based approach to recovery. 

Through his three pillars of healing—self-awareness, trauma healing, and identity transformation—Sathiya equips men with the tools they need to experience lasting freedom in Christ.

This candid and hope-filled conversation dives deep into the lies of shame, the importance of emotional connection, and the role of faith in healing, providing practical steps for men ready to reclaim their God-given potential and purpose.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why internet filters are only a temporary solution.
• Sathiya’s personal journey through addiction and how it led to Deep Clean Coaching.
• The three root issues driving addiction: suppressed emotions, unresolved trauma, and limiting beliefs.
• Practical tools for overcoming pornography

Key Quotes:

• "We’re not in the business of helping guys quit porn; we’re in the business of helping men become everything God made them to be."
• "Real freedom isn’t about filters—it’s about heart transformation."
• "God is more excited about your freedom than you are."

Action Steps for Listeners:

1. Start journaling today using the two-part method: express and reflect.
2. Identify one person you can talk to about your struggle without fear of judgment.
3. Connect with a supportive community to build accountability and find encouragement.

Resources Mentioned:

• Deep Clean Coaching: sathiyasam.com
• Sathiya’s Podcast: Unleash the Man Within
• Instagram: @sathiyasam

Closing Thought:
“Take action today. Recovery isn’t just about knowledge; it’s about stepping forward in faith, knowing God is with you every step of the way.”

Guest: Ian Simkins, Lead Pastor at The Bridge Church

In this episode of the Shame(less) podcast, host Ken Freire is joined by Ian Simkins to dive deep into the journey from distraction to purpose, especially as it relates to struggles like pornography and lust. Ian draws from his wealth of pastoral experience to unpack why so many men, even within the church, struggle with distraction and sin. Together, they explore how a lack of purpose leads to these struggles and how embracing God-given purpose can break the cycle.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Why men often use distractions like pornography to fill the void of purpose.
• How presence and intimacy with God fuel a meaningful life and strengthen against sin.
• The importance of embracing the mundane and living intentionally in the "sacred ordinary."
• Practical steps for breaking free from distraction and cultivating intimacy with God.
• Why community and accountability are essential for overcoming shame and living with purpose.

Ian also shares wisdom from scripture, including how living as “beloved sons of God” reframes everything, from our ambitions to our daily actions. Whether you’re looking to overcome shame, break free from distractions, or discover a deeper purpose, this episode offers spiritual insights and actionable steps to help you stand strong and live on mission.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence
• Fighting Shadows by Jeff Bethke and Jon Tyson

Connect with Ian Simkins:

• Website: iansimkins.com
• Instagram: @iansimkins
• The Bridge Church: bridge.tv

Connect with Ken Freire: 

• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenfreire
• Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kenneth.freire
• Tik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@kenfreire
• X - https://x.com/KenFreire

In this transformative episode of Shame(less), host Ken Freire sits down with Drew Boa, founder of the Husband Material Academy and Podcast, to discuss the connection between sexual fantasies, childhood wounds, and addiction recovery. Drew shares his personal journey of breaking free from porn addiction, explains the importance of understanding triggers and fantasies, and offers practical advice for healing the inner child. Together, Ken and Drew unpack the power of vulnerability, self-compassion, and spiritual growth to help men overcome shame and live purposefully.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Drew’s personal story of overcoming porn addiction and discovering the deeper meaning behind his fantasies.
• How sexual triggers and fantasies are often connected to unresolved childhood wounds.
• Why self-compassion is more effective than the traditional “military mindset” of battling addiction.
• Practical steps for connecting with your inner child and reframing triggers as opportunities for healing.
• The difference between arousal and desire and how understanding this distinction fosters freedom.
• How opening up to others and being fully known can break the power of shame.

Important Links and Resources Mentioned:

• Husband Material Academy: Learn more about Drew’s program for men seeking sexual and emotional healing at HusbandMaterial.com.
• Porn Free Men’s Conference: Join Drew for a free live event on January 10–11, 2025. Details and registration available at thepornfreeman.com
• Jay Stringer’s Book “Unwanted”: A resource mentioned by Drew that explores the deeper meaning behind sexual fantasies and how to heal from unwanted behaviors.
• Shame(less) Podcast Website: BeShameless.org

Quotes to Remember:

• “Heal the boy to free the man.” – Drew Boa
• “Arousal is what your body craves; desire is what your heart truly longs for.” – Drew Boa
• “Any part of yourself that you hate will hide and retaliate.” – Drew Boa
• “Porn is a pacifier. One day, you’ll drop it because you’ve outgrown it.” – Drew Boa

Action Steps for Listeners:

1. Reflect on your own triggers and consider what they might reveal about deeper unmet needs or wounds.
2. Find a safe person or group to share your struggles and begin the journey of being fully known.
3. Visit HusbandMaterial.com to learn about Drew’s resources and join the free Porn Free Men’s Conference in January 2025.
4. Start practicing self-compassion by acknowledging your feelings and being present with your inner child.

Connect with Us:

• Drew Boa: Visit HusbandMaterial.com or follow him on social media.
• Ken Freire: Reach out through BeShameless.org for follow-up questions or support or Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/kenfreire