SHE STRONG

It’s been an absolutely awesome journey in 2018! I’ve enjoyed every minute of it. However, 2019 brings some changes for me.

You know that I am absolutely passionate about helping you find your purpose and your passion as well as guiding you to believe in yourself and overcome your limiting beliefs. You also know that I LOVE camping! I have shared lots of camping stories in the past episodes.

So….

2019 brings a merging of the two! I talked in episode 24 about the power of coaching and just how coaching can help you. I’ve spent a bunch of time with my coach over the past month as well as working with my coaching clients and it’s brought me to an epiphany.

If you don’t have a coach yet, I’m not kidding, it’s awesome! I’d love to work with you!

Anyway…back to my epiphany!

I am putting this podcast on hold…. Yikes…but that’s only to launch another one that will be called She Loves Camping. It will be live by the end of January. I’m combining my passion for working with you to feel empowered and strong with my passion for camping. The new podcast will contain some of the same kinds of content this one has as well as adding a camping flair to it.

I’m also launching a new YouTube channel by the end of January and becoming more active on my other website, She Loves Camping.

All of this is truly who I am…and what I know I was put here to do.

So….think of it as one great big girls trip! Come join me! Even if you’ve never camped before…or actually HATE it (can’t imagine), you’ll enjoy the adventures we’ll have together.

In order not to miss the big announcement when She Loves Camping hits full swing, either go to She Loves Camping and join SHE Camp or click on this site to join the SHE Circle. I’ll be emailing you when things are operational.

Thanks so much for tuning in for the past 24 episodes. See you at She Loves Camping!

Have you ever felt suck or overwhelmed or stressed out or lost?  Ever wanted to make more money or have better relationships?  Well…you’re in luck!  In this episode, I give you 16 ways a coach can help you with all of that!

Reasons Coaching Works

It’s all about you!

A Coach is there for you and it’s about you.  They listen to you without judgement or bias.  There is no hidden agenda.

Gain clarity

A Coach helps you clarify what you want and how to get there.  They reflect back like a mirror and help you put into words what thoughts lie under the surface.

Focus and accountability

Coaches helps you identify and focus on what’s important in your life.  They can then help you be accountable to follow through with your plans, actions steps, and even your thoughts.

Remove obstacles

Working with a coach helps you identify and remove obstacles standing in your way so you have a clear path forward.

Accomplishment

A Coach helps you accomplish what you set out to accomplish by helping you get out of your own way and find your way forward.

Shift perspective

Coaching helps you shift your perspectives  and change your paradigms by being a mirror and reflecting back to you.  Your Coach can help you see things from a different point of view which is often time exactly what’s needed to get unstuck.

Live your dreams

Working with a Coach helps bring your dreams to life because you gain clarity on what those dreams are, and often you even reconnect with long-ago suppressed dreams that come to the surface.

16 Ways a Coach Can Help

* Get “unstuck” – get from where you are to where you want to be* Shift your paradigms and perspectives* Simplify your life* Achieve your dreams* Gain clarity so you can design the life you want* Become fulfilled in life* Increase your income* Get a promotion or new job* Improve your productivity and time mangement* Improve performance both professionally and personally* Increase your engagement in relationships and at work* Deal with stress* Cope with being overwhelmed* Improve your relationships* Learn to communicate more effectively* Increase your motivation and inspiration

Types of Coaches

* Life coach – develop life skills* Transformation coach – shift your mindset and eliminate limiting beliefs* Success coach – identify life purpose, vision, goals and learn tools like affirmations, meditation, feedback etc. to achieve whatever you want to achieve* Career coach – get a new job, improve your interview skills, etc.* Relationship coach – strengthen relationships * Divorce coach – deal with moving past divorce and what’s next in life* Entrepreneur coach – starting a new business* Business coach – taking your business to the next level* Executive coach – developing leadership, delegation and people management skills* Health and well-being coach – fitness, diet, and nutrition

No matter the type of coach you choose, there are always ways a coach can help you with your situation.  Just being able to talk to someone without judgment or bias, someone that’s not tied to the end result, will make a difference for you.  So I encourage you to find a coach and take your life to the next level!

If you’ve worked with a coach and would like to share...

It is absolutely not easy living with a lifelong illness.  You go through all sorts of emotions, from guilt to frustration to sadness to acceptance.  And all of that happens while you’re dealing with a diagnosis and the possible effects of that.

In this episode, I have my first guest on the show.  It’s my Mom, Linda.  She is one of the strongest women I know.  And one of the reasons I think that is because of her strong story of dealing with illness.  She’s been sick more than half her life.  She’s been in and out of hospitals and had to really change her entire life and perception of herself.  

Listen in as we explore what it’s like to live with a lifelong illness and accept the life that you’re now forced to live.

And if you know someone that’s dealing with an illness, or are dealing with one yourself, I’d love to hear any advice you have for us on coping.

Have you ever felt like you’re just stuck?  Like you’ve tried and you just can’t seem to get anywhere?  That success is just out of reach?  Well I’m sure it’s not because you didn’t try….BUT what would happen if you TRY DIFFERENTLY?

Recommended Reading

As a Transformation and Success Coach, my goal is to help you:

* Improve your relationship with yourself and others

* Increase your income

* Achieve success however you define it

* Get unstuck

* Have more free time

* And, life a happier more fulfilled life

Some of the ways I do that is by helping you explore your limiting beliefs, your mindset, overcome fear, etc.  And one of the ways I suggest doing that is by reading!  Yep, reading.  Successful, happy people read uplifting, inspiring, knowledge packed books that fill their mind with yummy goodness! I’ve compiled a HUGE list of GREAT books that WILL help you!  So be sure to check them out!

If At First You Don’t Succeed…

Now, on to the meat of things.  In the last episode, we talked about success and that success is a perspective.  It’s whatever you define it to be.  Whether that’s a nice house and car, making lots of money, having lots of free time or even just having a beautiful vegetable garden.  You define your own success.  The challenge a lot of us have is that we TRY for that success but then when we don’t succeed, we get frustrated and either try the same thing again or we give up.  And giving up causes all sorts of negative self talk.  So I’m going to suggest a solution.

Try Differently

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again doesn’t work.  When we try again and don’t succeed again, we throw in the towel and enter victim mode.  We say, “Well, I tried,” shrug our shoulders and thing “Oh well.”  NO!!!  If you don’t succeed and you try the exact same thing over again, you’ll get the SAME result…no success!  That’s the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  Well I suggest that if at first you don’t succeed, TRY DIFFERENTLY!

Recipe for Success

Just because you follow a “recipe for success,” doesn’t mean that you’ll be successful as YOU define success.  For example, if you follow a recipe for the perfect chocolate chip cookie, and you follow that recipe EXACTLY, it’s entirely possible that the cookies won’t be YOUR exact perfect cookie.  Maybe they are too soft or too hard or too sweet.  So you have some choices.  Make the EXACT same recipe again and get the same not perfect cookie for you, OR you change or tweak the recipe!  And that’s what I mean by try differently.  You may add some extra vanilla or change it for almond extract or bake them longer or shorter.  You try differently on your quest to find the recipe that works for YOU!

Following a recipe doesn’t always mean success because success is a perspective, it’s YOUR perspective, YOUR definition.  So if something doesn’t work out for you, try differently.  You haven’t failed.  You’ve learned what to do or not to do, how to be or not to be, or how to act or not to act the next time in order to move toward success as you define it.

Ways to Try Differently

Change Your Mindset

* Read a book on the topic

* Listen to a podcast

I was recently a guest on the podcast Fueling Your Legacy hosted by Sam Knickerbocker.  On the show, he asked me what I felt was my greatest success.  That got me thinking about this idea of success.  What does it mean?  Is it the same for each of us?

Consider pizza.  You have your favorite pizza from your favorite pizza place.  In your mind, the chef is successful in making your favorite pizza.  Now think about a friend of yours.  Perhaps her favorite pizza is different than yours.  In her mind, the chef is successful in creating HER favorite pizza.  But now think about the chef.  What if he HATES making pizza?  Even though he’s good at it and you and your friend think he’s successful, what if he feels like he’s not a success because he really dreams of being a pastry chef?  Three different perspectives on success.  And…ALL THREE ARE CORRECT!

Success means different things to everyone.  And success means different things to the same person at different times in their life.

When I was asked what my greatest success was, my first thought would have been grad school.  But then I thought about my successful career and thought, “that must be it.”  Then I thought about building my boat…and building my house…and even most recently, building a beautiful fence.  Each time I thought I was successful.

Consider this.  SUCCESS IS A PERSPECTIVE NOT A DEFINITION!

You can be a “successful” brain surgeon but not a successful parent.

You can be a “successful” lawyer but not a success in long-term relationships.

So, what about less “fancy” jobs like a cashier or fast food cook or construction worker.  Can they be a success?

What defines success?

According to Merriam-Webster, success is:

* degree or measure of succeeding

* favorable or desired outcome

* one that succeeds

Nowhere in that definition does it say it’s a doctor or lawyer or construction worker or parent.  It’s a measure.  It’s an outcome.  If that’s the case, it is absolutely the case that YOU can determine that measure and that outcome.

You could define success as being a good person that loves beyond measure.  Someone that appreciates spending time with friends and family.  Someone that is kind and loyal and forgiving.  And for a job, you could work for minimum wage…or not work at all…and you could consider yourself successful.

You could define success as making over $200k per year, attending galas, being famous, and driving a fancy car.  And YOU could consider yourself successful.

Like the two different kinds of pizza.  Success in your life is your perspective.  Therefore, to live your life successfully would be to live your life being who you are and achieving whatever it is you define as success.

Your version of success can change daily…

Some days are super hard…you don’t feel well…your bumming…you feel fat and frumpy…on those days, success could be that you managed to get out of bed and shower.

Other days you may feel unstoppable, like you can take on and take over the world….so you put yourself out there, try something new, enroll in a class, ask for a raise, learn a new skill, and that is a success.

The key to it all is to celebrate ALL of your successes, no matter how big or small they are…and not compare your successes to others.  Remember your favorite pizza just may not be theirs.

So what about failure?  Failure is also a perspective.  So you are the boss of you.  Change your perspective.  When you fail at something, look at is as you have succeeded in learning what NOT to do and can make correction.

A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances.

How old are you? I'm sure we all love being asked that question. But what if we really could love the answer to that question? Age is a mindset, not a number! Listen in to find out how to change your attitude, embrace your age, and realize it's never too late to get what you want.

Life is guaranteed to change. In episode 19, I give you 13 ways to deal with that change.

If you've ever lived in black and white, in a funk, without joy, then you'll appreciate just how important it is when you have joy. Living with joy in your live is like living life in full color, not black and white. Listen in as Kris Talynn shares ways to find and plan for joy.

Honesty is always the best policy…or at least that’s what they say.  If that’s the case, then why you’re not honest and what you can do about it is a pretty important subject.

In this episode, I discuss an article in Psychology Today about why we lie.

I also discuss an article on Inc.com about the characteristics of an honest person.  Do you have these qualities?

And here’s a list of things you can do to help improve your honesty.

 

 

Using SMART goals, it is possible for you to accomplish ANYTHING you want!  Sounds great, doesn’t it!?

In episode 14, I gave you the secret sauce to success, perseverance.  And in order to develop perseverance, the #1 tip is to set a worthy goal.  And, part of making a goal worthy is to be sure it serves a purpose for you or meets a need.  But that’s not all.  Your goal needs to be SMART!

Types of Goals

Worthy goals can be anything that you’d like to accomplish.  Here are a few examples of worthy goals  you may set for yourself:

* Make better decisions

* Increase your willpower

* Manage stress more effectively

* Read more often

* Become more proactive

* Stop procrastinating

* Save money

* Lose weight

All of those goals, and so many more, are absolutely attainable if you use the SMART method of achieving success!

SMART Goals

SMART is an acronym that stands for:

Specific

Measurable

Achievable

Relevant

Time-bound

For every goal you create, you should run it through the SMART goals methodology in order to increase your odds of success.

SPECIFIC

A specific goal is one that is clear and concise.  It answers that WHAT, WHY, and HOW of your goal.

* WHAT are you trying to accomplish?

* WHY is it important?

* HOW will you accomplish it?

For example, if I wanted to lose weight, I would choose a SPECIFIC goal of “I want to lose 20 pounds.”  Adding the “20 pounds” to my goal is what makes it clear and concise, makes it specific.

MEASURABLE

A measurable goal includes some measurement of success.  It explains how much or how many, or how long.  If your goal is a really long one, say 10 years from now, you could break that goal up into smaller benchmark “chunks” to help you stay focused in the shorter term.

In my weight lose example, I could add a measurement to it and say, “I want to lose 20 pounds by losing 1 pound per week.”  Adding the “1 pound per week” is the measurement part so I know if I’m on track week-to-week.

ACHIEVABLE

All SMART goals should stretch you but be within possibility.  They must be achievable because an achievable goals motivate you while impossible goals demotivate you.  And we all need every bit of help we can get when it comes to motivation, right?

So, in my weight loss example, I could add the achievable portion by saying, “I want to lose 20 pounds by losing 1 pound per week by adding one additional hour workout per week.”  Quantifying the one additional hour is totally achievable and will move me toward my goal.

RELEVANT

By ensuring your goal is relevant, you will increase your success rate.  A relevant goal is one that you really want.  It’s a goal that aligns with your purpose and needs.  And attaching relevance helps solidify the reason you are working toward your goal.

For example, I would add relevance to my weight loss SMART goal by saying, “I want to lose 20 pounds by losing 1 pound per week by adding one additional hour workout per week so that I feel more healthy and have more energy.”  Adding the reason I want to lose weight helps keep me motivated.

TIME-BOUND

All SMART goals should be time-bound to add a sense of urgency.  Adding the time parameter gives you an end in sight and helps you stay motivated.

In my example, I could modify the wording of my goal just a bit to add the time constraint by saying, “For the next 20 weeks, I will add an additional one hour workout per week to lose 1 pound/week so that I feel more healthy and have more energy.”

SMART goals are goals worth achieving.  And,