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You've been forgiven but now what? We have to remember that forgiveness is a gift and trust is earned. Forgiving is the first step to healing and it takes time. Sometimes the greater the hurt, the greater the time it takes to forgive. In this episode, we discuss what trust looks like when you're in the process of forgiving and after there is forgiveness. We unpack reaching a level of maturity and being realistic about the new dynamic after a crisis, expectations we put on each other, forgiving mistakes vs. intentional choices, and compassion.

Discussion:

1. How does it feel to be forgiven?
2. Will you accept that the relationship may never be the same?
3. How do I hold onto self-compassion?

Loving your partner can be difficult. We are not taught how to love in school. Loving unconditionally is learned in the real world over time. It's confusing and there will be bumps in the road as you navigate what your loved ones react well to. Why is loving your partner so hard? Well, we all want to be loved differently. So how do we love differently? In this episode, we discuss how to understand the best ways to love your partner and different ways to think about the love languages that we may already be familiar with.

Discussion:

1. The five love languages
2. Understanding how your partner wants to be loved
3. Loving yourself

We are imperfect people and we should acknowledge when we make a mistake. We should take ownership for the wrongs that we've done in our lives. We need to understand the role that we play in situations, the poor choices we make when we are not at our 100% best self. We have to be open to insight on shifting the energy that we make into something positive, accepting the consequences of our actions, and extending grace and compassion to ourselves. When we've done something wrong, it weighs on us and we may feel riddled with guilt and/or shame. Today, we are going to talk about doing all that we can to make things right to forgive ourselves and move on.

Discussion:

1. Can you accept what you've done?
2. Have you done everything possible to make things right?
3. How do you know when you've forgiven yourself?

It's hard when someone you care about hurts you. How could someone break your heart and why would they do this? What did you do in the situation that may have played a part in this? These are the questions and many more that may run through your mind. In this episode, we discuss key points in helping you heal through a heartache which include but is not limited to being vulnerable and honest about your situation, reaching out to the right people to talk to about your heartache, and understanding the importance of growing out of the same vicious cycles in your relationships.

Discussion:

1. Not setting a timeline on healing to avoid hindering the process
2. The importance of knowing the difference between good and bad advice
3. Going through the five stages of grief

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In this episode, we discuss how forgiveness is less for the other person and more for ourselves. Do we only forgive when people deserve it? Is an apology a requirement to forgive someone? What is "Sorry?" Forgiveness allows you to not carry the weight, the burden of anger, hurt and resentment. Forgiveness takes time and may include scars and heartbreak but it is key in a journey of healing. So with all of this said, can we really forgive and forget? What is the value of an apology? How do we expect to have wrongness recognized and acknowledged? How does intention, accountability and understanding play a part? Let's find out...

Discussion:

1. Should you still forgive when the person who has hurt you hasn't apologized or expressed regret over what has been done?
2. Does forgiveness require reconciliation and friendship or do we simply need to move forward respectfully and cordially?
3. Is forgiveness an ongoing process or a final decision?

Why do we hurt the person we care about so much about? Why not leave instead of hurting your partner? In this episode, Sherley and Kira discuss what often provokes infidelity, detaching, accountability, putting energy towards positive things, and choosing the right path. We help you understand the "why" behind cheating, how to avoid being the person who cheats, cheating styles, and working through being the person who has been cheated on. We walk through setting the tone for what we want, listening to our gut, and the importance of communication.

Discussion:

1. Why not leave instead of hurting your partner?
2. Do people cheat only for sexual gratification?
3. Is it true "once a cheater always a cheater?"

A relationship can be very challenging… because it's not a fairytale. While everyone looks for that perfect partner with no faults, the reality is that no one is perfect. In this episode, Sherley and Kira discuss 3 key ways to help build a solid relationship. There will always be bumps in the road and we are here to help you stop setting down your own. We discuss the importance of being mindful, creating the right barriers, selflessness and communicating.

Discussion:

• What does being in a monogamous relationship mean?
• Why a relationship should only involve you, your partner and God.
• Why creating false thinking is harmful for long term relationships.

Forgiveness is a major part of the healing process. It is defined as "a conscious deliberate decision to release feelings of hurt and resentment toward someone who has hurt you whether they deserve your forgiveness or not." In this episode, Sherley and Kira discuss what it means to be a prisoner of self, choosing to release feelings of hurt and resentment in order to heal, expectations, and loving unconditionally.

Discussion:

1. What does forgiveness mean to you?
2. Why should you forgive?
3. Does forgiveness mean acceptance?

Welcome to Femme Parler Podcast. Each and every week in season one, Sherley and her season one co-host, Kira will chat about how to rise up tall from all types of obstacles that come with relationships. Through personal life experiences and discussions ranging from infidelity, trust, forgiveness, sex, heartbreak, self love, and more, we aim to be a helping hand as you guide your way through any storm in your relationship and reach for peace of mind. We want to cheer you on as you rediscover how to live as selflessly and boldly as possible. So let's dive in! Pull up a seat, make sure you're cozy, and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn to love again with your virtual girlfriends. How can this podcast benefit you? Listen to this introduction to find out!

Remember, Be Yourself, Voice Yourself, Love Yourself