Sherley's Show

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No one gets married and wants to get a divorce. How does one get to that point? Should you only get married once? Why is divorced so shameful? Your vows include the phrase, "till death do us part." Does that mean forever? In this episode, we discuss all of this plus bittersweet lessons from divorce, rebuilding and preparing for the next relationship, living together before marriage with our guest, Alicia Hawthorne who provides insight and guidance on life after divorce.

Discussion:

1. How do you feel about marriage before and after divorce?
2. Do you feel marriage is necessary?
3. Why should people get married?
4. Do you look at marriage from a legal or Christian point of view?

Continuing our discussion about marriage from the LGBTQ point of view, Sherley, Kira, and Cultural Expert, Collincia Rouse dive deeper into discussing marriage in the LGBTQ community. We discuss the value of hetereosexual relationships and queer relationships, our first exposure to the LGBTQ community, sin in Christianity, acceptance in different regions, desiring children, sexual compatability, challenging our mindsets, and more.

Discussion:

1. Why is same sex marriage important?
2. Are same sex marriages different from heterosexual marriages when it comes to procreation?
3. What do you have to say to religious people that are against homosexuality?
4. Why do you feel that only people who identify as LGBTQ have to follow the biblical law and heterosexuals can modify it to their liking?
5. What advice do you want to offer same sex marriage couples?

In this episode, we look at marriage in the LGBTQ community. This is a topic that can be taboo as some people may not want to discuss marriage among those who identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender. In this episode, we push back on that notion and talk about who you choose to love and who you choose to marry. We discuss why validation and marriage is important, why marriage rights are different for the LGBTQ community, how same-sex marriages have been viewed over time, logistical hurdles when marrying, marrying for love and more. Our special guest for this episode, who is part of the LGBTQ community, is Cultural Expert, Collincia Rouse.

Discussion:

1. How do you feel about marriage?
2. Do you feel that marriage is necessary?
3. Why should people get married?
4. Do you look at marriage from a legal or Christian point of view?

This episode is a continuation of the previous episode about marriage from the point of view of a single woman. Sherley dives deeper with our guest, Lakeshia. We discuss communication and sex in marriage, sexual compatibility and sex as a chore, as well as relinquishing control outside of the bedroom in a marriage.

Discussion:

1. What caused you to change your mind about marriage and why?
2. Should women get married assuming that a man will take care of them?
3. Do men have issues with alpha females?
4. Why should women be confident enough in who they are to be okay with not getting married?

Has your point of view changed about marriage over the years? Do you think that marriage is a legal trap? Are you single and think of marriage differently? Do you feel that marriage is the right Christian thing to do? Are you unsure if marriage is something that you really want? In this episode, we speak with our friend and guest, Lakeshia about marriage from the point of view of a single woman in her 40s. Sherley and Lakeshia discuss the importance of being strong in our individual selves, validation, communication, evolving as we grow and allowing space for our partners to grow, and so much more.

Discussion:

1. How do you feel about marriage and having children without getting married?
2. Do you feel marriage is necessary? Is there someone for everyone?
3. Why should people get married? What are the components in a marriage that keep a marriage together? What foundation do you set walking into marriage?
4. Do you look at marriage from a legal or Christian point of view?

This bonus session is a recap of Season One, which revolved around infidelity and forgiveness. Sherley offers important reminders to forgive yourself and more! Plus, Sherley also gives us a hint of Season Two, which is about marriage. The focus for season two will be on marriage from multiple perspectives. Plus, look forward to bonus "Story Time" episodes as well!

Discussion:

1. Why is seeking therapy important?
2. What does it mean to move in forgiveness?
3. Sending gratitude for listener feedback and vulnerability throughout your own crisis?
4. What can you expect for Season Two and Bonus Episodes?

You are in charge of your attitude and your response. Choose to chase happiness and choose to move on. In this episode, we discuss going on the healing journey and choosing to walk in peace after a crisis. We talk about standing strong in the decisions that we make that help us move forward, challenging ourselves in creative ways to do just that, appreciating the time that we have to be with ourselves, and having trusted loved ones around us as a support. Are you ready to live in the freedom that happiness provides instead of drowning in heartbreak? We're here to shine our light on happiness that is waiting for you!

Discussion:

1. What do you do to find happiness again?

2. Do you need to talk to a professional?

3. What's standing in your way?

When we go through heartbreak, we tend to forget about loving ourselves and each other. We will mentally create false thoughts in our minds that will tear us down. Our mind is a powerful tool and this mental sabotage prevents us from healing. In this episode, we discuss how to love ourselves after our hearts have been shattered and rediscovering our worth. What does it take to recover from heartbreak? How do we engage in voicing our experiences and opinions in healthy ways on the road to healing? How do we move forward from harmful messages from people around us while we are healing? How do we remain mindful of the fat that we cannot control anyone while trying to regain control of our lives?

Discussion:

1. Why is it important to forgive?
2. Refusing to put blame on ourselves
3. Refusing to fight your emotions

As long as you hold onto unforgiveness, you hold onto suffering. There's a quote, "When we don't forgive, we hold the moment of injury forever in the present." We don't want to be stuck constantly reliving the hurt and pain. In this episode, we discuss the effects unforgiveness has on your body and health (anxiety, insomnia, etc…), the power we hold when we take responsibility, doing the work even if we never get closure from the other person, and giving people room to grow and evolve.

Discussion:

1. Is unforgiveness self destructive?
2. Does unforgiveness hurt you or help you?
3. Does forgiveness help you move on?

Why should you stay after your partner cheated? There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Many people may say that once a person cheats, they are leaving. Is it even possible to rebuild your relationship knowing your partner has betrayed you. In this podcast, we guide you with tips for making the decision that is best for you. These tips include but are not limited to processing your crisis instead of reacting out of emotion, understanding the catalyst, being in tune with love languages, and being mindful of your decisions every step of the way.

Discussion:

1. Doing what is best for you
2. Why setting boundaries is important
3. Will my partner cheat again?