Torey Ivanic (www.openspace4.com) is the author of “No Big Deal From Athlete to Advocate: A Memoir of Childhood Betrayal and a Journey to Justice.” Torey is a mom, wife, and founder of Open Space. Torey coaches people to navigate life changes with a sense of fun, adventure, and appreciation and respect for nature. She grew up in Ohio, worked her way west to California, then replanted her family in Colorado a few years ago. Through her coaching practice, Torey inspires people to grow, heal, and live more authentic and intentional lives. Writing "No Big Deal" has been cathartic for Torey and has brought greater clarity to her work and life purpose.
In this episode Torey shares about her process of acknowledging the abuse she experienced as a young gymnast from her coach, the impact it had on her life and others, and what it took for to heal, thrive, and seek justice. Torey now uses her personal experience as well as her formal training as a homeopath, to help folks navigate change and thrive. You can purchase her book on or after July 31st, 2018 at amazon.com.
Torey’s story is a Me Too memoir. And the Me Too movement has always been about healing. This is one example of how one woman pursued healing and justice while bringing hope and helping others on their journey as well. Torey illuminates the uncomfortable tricky pitfalls and nuance of trusting, loving, AND being afraid of her abusive coach. I love and stand with Torey’s BOLD commitment to raising awareness on consent, reclaiming healthy sex, living with compassion, and dramatically reducing sexual violence for future generations. I’m honored to share this story of healing and justice with you.
If you or someone you know is navigating sexual abuse or trauma, here are some resources to start healing and thriving.
If you are in acute trauma or triggered now:
Wings Foundation
https://www.wingsfound.org/
If you’ve healed on some level and wanting to thrive:
Parillume
https://www.parillume.com/
If you want to work with Torey:
Homeopathy First
https://homeopathy1st.com/
If you want to work with Rachel Shanken (author of the foreward of the book “No Big Deal”):
MindBodyWise
https://mindbodywise.com/
Other movements and resources to end and heal sexual violence:
https://themetoodialogues.com/
https://www.vday.org
https://www.onebillionrising.org/
http://yogatotransformtrauma.org
This week the call to action is to pause, reflect, and take inventory of what areas of life are calling for a deeper level of healing within you and your life. Acknowledge it in some way - to yourself, your journal, a loved one, someone you trust, then take one step towards getting support in the area you want to heal.
Healing and thriving is not only possible, it’s your birthright.
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