She's Not Selfish

This week, Dr. Addie Long is back with us discussing the common postpartum experience of pelvic pain. The episode opens with a special introduction to honor bereaved families during this month of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness.

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Dr. Addie Long, DPT is with us today for a candid and hopeful conversation about stress urinary incontinence (SUI) and its effects, mitigation, and resolution during and after pregnancy. In this episode, we explore:

• The differences between stress, urge, and mixed urinary incontinence
• Causes of SUI
• Why SUI resolves after pregnancy for some, and not for others
• When to modify movements during pregnancy
• Embracing hope and resolving SUI
• And more!

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Are you prone to comparing yourself and your situation to those around you? It turns out, freedom from comparison is more than ineffectually trying to convince ourselves to 'just think differently,' or beating ourselves up for once again falling into the same unwanted and seemingly involuntary way of thinking. In today's episode, we explore why our heartfelt attempts at self-compassion will always be incomplete when we are subconsciously prone to comparison, and HOW to begin changing the pattern!

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Today's episode is the first installment in an exciting new series called "Say it Again," in which Jessica Mostaffa of Wild Hope KC will be joining us to share the mental health perspective for previously published episodes of She's Not Selfish. "Say It Again" is kind of like a fun and honest small group therapy session that is, of course, packed full of goodness! Our conversation today is based on Episode 20 and Episode 21 "Melding Motherhood and Your Passions" (Parts 1 and 2). Come on, mama, let's add some insights and skills to our mental wellness tool kits!

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What adjectives would you use to describe your parenting style and strategy? Do you ever feel overwhelmed, frustrated or uncertain about how to handle situations that come up with your kids? Today, I am joined by Parenting Specialist Rachel Bailey who is known by her clients for working magic! For Rachel, the 'magic' comes down to understanding how children are physiologically and psychologically wired, and using that knowledge to our advantage. She is sharing with us all about how to nurture proactivity, harmony, and mutual feelings of respect and success for ourselves and our kids. Come on, mama, let's uplevel our mommin' skills!

In today's episode, we discuss:

• 'Band-Aid parenting' versus 'long-game parenting'
• Our children's brains, how to work with rather than against their wiring, and the major 'tools' that are not innate to our children and need to be learned
• The effectiveness of becoming curious and seeing situations from our children's perspectives
• Our children's 'control banks,' and why & how to give our kids 'options within boundaries'
• Shifting from external motivators (like rewards and consequences) to internal motivation
• Nurturing a feeling of success in motherhood

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Today, Shilene Aaron is back! Shilene is the inspiring woman behind The Mama Mogul, and she is sharing her honest struggles and lessons in blending motherhood with other pursuits. In today's episode, we are continuing the conversation about making the shift towards embracing motherhood as our primary mission: Shilene shares about her experience with depression and anxiety, and we talk about the desire to be seen as "more than just a mom." Come on, mama, let's proudly own our motherhood role!

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Today, I am joined by mother of four and entrepreneur Shilene Aaron - the inspiring woman behind The Mama Mogul. In this episode, Shilene shares her honest struggles and lessons in blending motherhood with other pursuits. As multi-passionate, multi-talented women, becoming mothers brings out the best in us: case in point, mothers are exceptional creators, visionaries, and managers. Shilene wants us to know that motherhood is the time to define and courageously live out our dreams, not tuck them away. Come on, mama, let's cast our vision for our multifaceted ministry and mission as inspired women living on purpose!

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why all external passions and pursuits begin at home with our families
• Struggling to feel at home in our role as 'mom' as women of aspiration, and dealing with resentment
• Balancing motherhood with the pursuits that 'fill our cup'
• Marriage, 'pillow talk,' and 'couch time'
• What's to come from The Mama Mogul
• Parting wisdom from Shilene

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So many women have no idea of the potential of their own beauty. The way we see ourselves in the mirror falls short of how so many other people see us, and tragically, we often go through life failing to realize the discrepancy. Today, I am chatting with Certified Professional Boudoir Photographer Leah Gunn Emerick. With an eye trained to see the beauty we tend to downplay or overlook, Leah has a knack and passion for showing women how gorgeous they truly are. A minimum of one hundred women come through Leah's photography studio every year, and each one enters underestimating her beauty, and feeling insecure about areas of her body with which she has yet to make peace; those same women depart feeling empowered and wowed by the truth they previously could not see. In this episode, Leah and I dig into the powerful lessons in body image, self-worth and self-acceptance unfolding in her studio. Come on, mama, allow us to show you just how beautiful and worthy you are!

In today's episode, we discuss:

• 'Natural-to-knockout' transformations, and the perspective-shifting power of Leah's sessions
• How to know if you're ready for a boudoir photography experience, and using boudoir as a means to see yourself as a woman outside of motherhood
• Why your mirror is fibbing to you, and understanding the gap between what you see in the mirror, and your mental image of beauty
• Tips for overcoming discomfort around shopping for clothes as it relates to body image
• How our inherent, deep desire to belong, to be seen, and to be accepted is linked to our self-worth and self-acceptance
• Paying attention to how your mind, soul and heart are responding as you engage with the media around you, and how to stop comparing yourself
• Being honest with yourself about your preferences and triggers
• Parting words of love and encouragement from Leah

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How would you describe your identity and personal brand, independent of your children? Today, I am joined by Brand Activation Strategist Makayla Ervin, and she is sharing with us all about activating our personal brands post-babies so that we can attract the life we want and become the most authentic, genuinely happiest version of ourselves. Makayla discusses setting goals and seeking change from a place of deep self-love and self-acceptance, and closing the gap between our desires and our reality. Come on, mama, let's boldly walk in the fullness of our potential and passions.

In today's episode, we discuss:

• Why 'balance' is fake news, and a better aim
• The power of exploring your 'what' and 'why'
• A new way to dream: dreaming of feelings instead of things
• The Good Things Jar (an activity for application)
• What is a personal brand?
• Re-branding ourselves in motherhood
• Actively attracting the life you want
• Making choices founded in self-love
• Understanding the link between your body and your personal brand
• Two final tips from Makayla

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