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  • Shift Out of Being Annoyed With Someone

    OnePerfect Shift out of being annoyed with someone.

    Okay.

    Let's start with a small shift. 

    Set an intention to shift into a more ideal state of mind over the next few minutes.

    Let's do that together.

    Set that intention.

    Really make your mind go there and say —

    ‘I'm going to shift from where I am right now, to a better place over the next few minutes.’

    Got it?

    Okay. 

    And a long deep breath.

    Nice.

    Okay so you're annoyed with someone.

    This is painful.

    Interpersonal difficulty is painful. 

    And it often has the effect of reducing our connection to what's actually important to us — most important to us. 

    These associated emotions that come along with feeling annoyed with someone often produce a temporarily myopic point of view — worldview.

    Right? 

    They disconnect you from the more deeply held beliefs you usually are in touch with. 

    These moments are when you are most in need of a reminder that reinvigorates your connection to what every spiritual tradition tells you. 

    Which is that life is a miracle. 

    Your life is a miracle.

    Your journey through life is an aspect of that miracle.

    Your spiritual journey is about navigating through your miracle — this inner journey that's occurring within you is part of the miracle. 

    And difficult moments along your path are opportunities offered by the miracle to step forward on your path, with integrity in this moment. 

    So this moment of being annoyed with someone is an opportunity to come back into touch with what you know is most true.

    So what's most true to you?

    What's most important to you in life?

    Let's lean into your truth, whatever you believe. 

    Just take 10 seconds to think about that question. 

    And just notice what comes to mind. 

    What's most true and important to you? 

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    Be in the present moment.

    100% of your attention just listening to yourself.

    What's most important?

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    Okay, whatever you came up with, good start.

    Let's keep going slowly. 

    Let’s take another deep breath.

    And let's release the tension in our body.

    Relax your neck. 

    Allow your shoulders and your arms to fall toward the ground.

    Allow your hands, your arms, to relax.

    How about this question —

    How do you want to remember yourself when you're looking back on your journey tomorrow — or from the end of your journey?

    Do you want to feel proud?

    Impressed?

    At peace?

    Picture what you want to feel like right now. 

    How would you feel?

    Bring that into your body.

    If you were most satisfied looking back on your life.

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    Got it?

    And now, all you do is you say:

    How would that feeling inside you — that answer to feeling proud of your life — how would that inform how you want to deal with your interpersonal struggle that you're going through?

    So just take a few seconds. 

    And see how that impacts how you feel and how you want to cope.

    Now that you're more connected to what's important to you, which gives you some space from whatever your frustration that you came in with was.

    —

    Any ideas about how you might deal differently with your annoyance?

    How you are going to cope so that you respect your own decision.

    And do you feel any better, knowing that? 

    How do you feel?

    How's your state right now?

    Well, stay present.

    Always reconnect to what's important to you — especially if the annoyance starts to return today.

    Okay. 

    Have a great day.

    Sean

    In each Shift, we take a fresh look at our relationship to our own mind as we dive into presence to rejuvenate together.

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    5 min
  • Shift Into Complete Presence
    Hello hello,

    How are you?

    I'm looking forward to the next several minutes with you. 

    It's a question that is frequently raised — what is presence?

    Presence is an experience. 

    So, let's have that experience together. 

    Notice how you're feeling right now. 

    And then bring all your attention, and dedicate it to…come into the beach hut…and dedicate your attention, and your intention, for the next few minutes here, to coming into complete presence with me.  

    Have that experience of 100% of your attention focused in the present moment, which translates into an incredible feeling of presence — of aliveness, of connection, of peace, of freedom from fear. 

    So take a deep breath in.

    And out.

    Settle into this moment with me. 

    Just listening with 100% of your attention.

    Invite all your attention to observing this moment, wherever you are. 

    All the sensations.

    Notice your body pressing against whatever you're pressing against, the seat, the ground, the bed.

    Feel the sensations.

    And release any stories that are buzzing through your mind. 

    Maybe 10% of your attention is focused on the past, before we got started, or thinking about the future.

    But, right now, all your attention, 100% right here.

    Listening.

    Being.

    Feeling.

    And knowing, that by returning your attention to the present moment, you're strengthening your ability to shift into presence anytime you choose throughout your day.

    Notice how you feel right now, and just mark it.

    Fully present. 

    And then, let's set an intention to sink deeper into presence. 

    For 20 seconds or so, just look around your environment. 

    Slowly noticing details.

    Moving all your visual field around your environment. 

    And stopping and studying objects if they appeal to you, for 20 seconds. 

    Ready?

    Go.

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    Beautiful. 

    Keep looking.  

    Studying your environment.

    —

    Deepening your presence.

    Coming into presence allows you to focus your attention wherever you want to focus it next. 

    So let's shift it now.

    Now that we're more present we can more easily notice that silent, tingling of our bodies.

    Focus all your attention on any party your body. 

    Just, you can squeeze your left thumb and release, and then feel all the blood rushing into your thumb.

    Let's try that.

    Squeeze hard, for a few seconds, and then release, and feel the tingling. 

    Can you feel it? 

    Good. 

    Focus on that sensation.

    That silent buzzing of your body, buzzing of life into your body. 

    And now, notice it pulsating through your whole body at once. 

    Feel life energy flowing through your body, producing your experience of life in this moment. 

    Full presence in your body. 

    You can close your eyes if you want to.

    Just settle in.

    Let's do that for a little, short while together.

    Close your eyes.

    All your attention in your body. 

    Feeling that buzzing, that tingling aliveness.

    Ready?

    Go. 

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    Feel the buzzing of your body. 

    Your life flowing into form each moment. 

    Feel that? 

    That's presence. 

    Can you notice a shift in how your mind and body feel compared to just a few minutes ago?

    The more you practice, the more contact you'll have with that creative peace that's buzzing through you all the time. 

    Buzzing through you, into your life, as your life, each moment. 

    So live presently.

    Have an incredible day.

    Sean

    Shift your organization.

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    6 min
  • Shift When Life is Difficult

    Let's take a long deep breath.

    And allow our shoulders to fall toward the ground.

    And if you can have something behind your neck, allow your head to fall backwards slightly. 

    And just relax completely.

    Coming into this moment. 

    With 100% of our attention, right here.

    —

    Let’s just recognize that life is not easy. 

    It's not always easy for anyone.

    Please know that, if you're struggling.

    All of us have ups and downs. 

    When we're down, we have a hard time finding our way back up sometimes. 

    That's just because we forget that there's a pathway there.

    And maybe we need to practice a little bit to find our way back there consistently.

    The first step is recognizing there's a pathway, and then traveling it.

    Identifying what that pathway is for yourself is a part of that journey.

    But there are some principles, some basics of full attention in the present moment, that allow you to find your way to your right place. 

    Back to peace, and to feeling like you're able to take that next step in your journey — to feeling like it's not too hard. 

    It's doable.

    Know you're not alone.

    One way to do it is to take a deep breath.

    Come into this moment.

    100% of your attention here. 

    Place all your attention in your body. 

    Just feeling your body buzz for a little while. 

    The genius of you.

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    Whether you feel like you love your body, or you don't love your body, if you keep going into your body you'll recognize that there's a buzzing genius within.

    There is a genius that buzzes trillions and trillions of cells that connect in trillions of ways every second, to produce your experience of life — to produce you.

    When you see that, you see how connected you are to the entire environment around you.

    The breath that comes into your oxygen.

    The nature that surrounds you.

    The chair that you're sitting on.

    And me, and everyone else. 

    We all share the miracle. 

    We all buzz at one on some level.

    So find that space inside you — where you’re buzzing as one with life.

    Feel the buzz.

    Let's feel the buzz for 30 seconds.

    And then we'll try something.

    All your attention — feeling your body.

    ( Close your eyes anytime you want. )

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    Mmm, it feels so good.

    And now, let’s release our intention to focus on the body, and just be. 

    Release the intention to have any intention for a while, and allow yourself to be with me.

    No intention. 

    Just be.

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    Are you being?

    Come into being. 

    Let everything go.

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    And now, listen from a place of full presence to hear the next step on your journey.

    See what's next for you.

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    Perfect.

    Have an incredible day.

    Sean

    In each Shift, we take a fresh look at our relationship to our own mind as we dive into presence to rejuvenate together.

    Subscribe for free to get new Shifts emailed to your inbox, so you never miss a Shift.

    Want to share OnePerfect Shift with a friend?

    The OnePerfect app for shifting your state of mind is free if your employer, school, or other organization subscribes.

    Contact us for a team trial or try it for yourself on iPhone or Android.



    This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.oneperfectshift.com
    8 min
  • Shift Into a Different State of Mind
    Hey there.

    Hope you're good.

    We're out on the balcony listening to waves.

    Let's set an intention together to make a shift into a different state of mind.

    Take a deep dive.

    And honor this practice of being intentional about coming deeply into presence, at least once for the day.

    Doesn't need to be — doesn’t need to take, a long, long time.

    But today, we'll do it by going through OnePerfect Shift into a different state of mind.

    I discovered years ago, in my own meditation practice, and then working with people to get their practice going, that a real breakthrough in your practice, and actually, in your life, comes when you're able to…

    Shift intentionally between your thinking mind and your watching and listening mind. 

    So your ‘thinking mind’ to your ‘listening mind.’ 

    When you can do that reliably, it means that you clearly know the felt difference — the difference in how it feels — between those two states of consciousness. 

    So let's experience this breakthrough intentionally right now.

    Take a deep breath.

    Relax.

    Settle into your space.

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    100% of your attention — all your focus, invite it into the present moment, into the space you're sitting.

    All your senses attuned to right here and right now.

    Let anything go — any thoughts that you brought with you, or any thoughts about the future, just let them go for a few minutes here.

    And listen inside your inner world.

    See if you can notice those thoughts that are still peeking through, or popping through.

    What thought is occurring in your mind if you just listen right now?

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    You may be processing the words I speak. 

    And meanwhile, you're also thinking about something, maybe peripherally related, or even completely unrelated to these words.

    Can you identify any thoughts that you're processing?

    This is a good way to start coming into a ‘listening state of mind’ — noticing your ‘thinking state of mind.’

    So close your eyes.

    And see if you can notice ongoing thoughts produced by your thinking mind for 20 seconds or so.

    And when you notice a thought, just don't get carried away by the thought.

    Observe the thought.

    Allow it to flow through your mind. 

    And then just return to the intention of noticing your next thought.

    Okay. 

    Ready?

    Go.

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    Good.

    Did you notice any thoughts?

    I'm sure you did.

    So now we're going to make our shift.

    Set an intention to shift away from your thinking mind that you were observing, and completely into your non-thinking mind. 

    Making that shift entails being committed to letting go of your thoughts for a while.

    Don't worry, there'll be there when you return, they always are.

    But for now, just be committed to allowing your thoughts to fade out of the foreground of your awareness, for a little while.

    Let's set a clear intention to let thoughts go for 20 seconds. 

    Drop below thinking into complete inner silence.

    Just listening.

    Being. 

    Close your eyes if you want.

    Ready?

    Drop into complete silence.

    Complete inner silence.

    Go.

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    Listen to life.

    Listen as life.

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    Perfect.

    Did you experience just even a few seconds of pure silence, pure listening mind?

    Can you feel that difference between being occupied by your thinking mind, versus becoming your watching mind, your listening mind, your silence?

    That's the breakthrough you want to focus on.

    Notice which state you're in, each moment. And when you can move back and forth intentionally, you've had your breakthrough.

    You'll come to more clearly identify and feel that difference as you practice.

    The difference between your thinking mind and your listening mind.

    In my view, being able to make that intentional shift when you want to, is the most important skill you can develop.

    Because from that listening mind, you can now move your attention into anything you want to just by resetting your intention.

    What do you want to do next today?

    Refill from a place of stillness, a place of silence, a place of listening to life, as life.

    And then, set your intention — what's next for you today?

    So, what is next for you today?

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    Set that intention to shift towards it now.

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    Got it?

    Good. 

    Have an incredible day.

    Sean

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    7 min

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OnePerfect Shift is an audio letter from a psychologist that shifts you into a better state of mind anytime. Each post gives you a fresh look at your relationship to your mind and reminds you how much…