Shine First Today

'You are the only one that can allow yourself to get triggered' is not an easy concept to accept.

Life constantly throws circumstances our way that are completely out of our control that may come with a triggering effect, and it's natural to respond in anger or frustration or sadness.

In this episode, I share three ways to respond to triggering events and how life-changing it can be to know you are the only person who can trigger yourself no matter the situation.

3 Suggestions for when you're triggered:

1-Take a break from the situation. Give yourself time to really look at the components of the situation and ask, "Why does that bother me?" You will most likely realize it has nothing to do with the triggering action.

2-Keep it to yourself. Don't tell anyone about why you're triggered if you haven't taken time to understand why you're bothered. You will only justify to them why you're upset and you could potentially create tension in a friendship if they don't have all sides of the story.

3-Understand that no one else has control over you. No one else can trigger you but yourself. Let yourself live in this space of understanding and ease that you get to control how you respond to situations.

I hope this provides some guidance so you'll remember the power you have within the next time you feel triggered.

In this episode, you'll also hear:

• Examining the individual components of a triggering situation
• How sharing our negative experiences creates more negativity
• The freedom of realizing no one can trigger you but yourself

Must-listen moments:

[00:09:57] We are the only ones that can trigger ourselves. If we put it into that context, if we say to ourselves, I am the only one that can trigger myself, it becomes absolutely magical because then no one and no circumstances outside of yourself can bother you.

[00:12:41] If you get triggered, take a look at yourself. Take a look at your own emotions, your own feelings towards the different components of the situation. Really ask yourself, what is it about this situation that bothered me?

[00:13:23] When you tell your friends, then it takes time out of maybe whatever good mood they were in, and now they're kind of down because this bad thing happened to you that bothered you, and they love you and care about you…wait a minute or two before you share the story with someone else.

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Getting Triggered and How To Handle It: https://shinefirsttoday.com/getting-triggered-and-how-to-handle-it/

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3 Ways to Build Self-Care Into a Busy Schedule: https://youtu.be/kRYQTZAD80k?si=9jGc2tfuJ9UuWrd0

It's easy to confuse patience with waiting around and doing nothing, but patience is a very powerful action that makes a world of difference when working towards your goals.

Having patience means making intentional choices about how you want to spend your time, money, and energy on what you hope to achieve.

In this episode, I recall the consequences of being impatient as well as the beauty that transpires when we take the time necessary to think through big decisions.

I know being patient isn't always easy, and I hope hearing my own challenges with impatience can help you avoid the same mistakes I made. When we give ourselves time and grace to process what is most important to us, it makes it all worth it.

In this episode, you'll also hear:

• How a lack of patience can lead to costly mistakes
• Why arbitrary timelines are not helpful to achieving goals
• Understanding patience is a form of taking action

Must-listen moments:

[00:08:27] When we are impatient with others, they can hear it and sense it. They can read between the lines in your emails, and…it actually can cause people to underperform.

[00:11:34] "It's that time-bound thing that's the killer when it comes to having patience because we put an arbitrary timeline on something we want to achieve. Then we beat ourselves up when we don't have it by that certain time period, which was arbitrary to begin with…that is a waste of our time, a waste of our energy, it brings us down and it doesn't do anything for us."

[00:13:39] In a big way, having patience is a form of taking action.

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How Patience Can Help You Achieve Goals Faster: https://shinefirsttoday.com/how-can-patience-help-you-achieve-your-goals-faster/

Getting Triggered and How to Handle It: https://youtu.be/afjagBGI4b8?si=FSRsKe7SWHoerb3z

Welcome to Shine First Today! I am so excited to share this podcast with you.

Juggling a career, family, relationships, and trying to accommodate everyone and everything in your schedule can lead to overwhelm, anxiety, and panic attacks.

I know this because I experienced it myself but thankfully found a solution that allowed me to move out of overwhelm and chaos to being calm, centered, and grounded—I followed my own internal guidance system.

I created this show and launched the Shine First Today website in hopes of sharing how you, too, can tap into your own internal guidance system to release anxiety, achieve work-life balance, and live a supercharged life.

In this episode, you'll also hear:

• How stress can be time consuming
• Ending anxiety without medication
• The power of your internal guidance system

Must-listen moments:

[00:07:03] Inspired thinking is like critical thinking, except you use your heart instead of your brain to make decisions.

[00:08:34] I started to think about not leaving the house, and I had to be hospitalized three times. But it was when I started to think about not being alive anymore that I knew something had to change.

[00:09:18] I went from being constantly overwhelmed to being calm, centered, and grounded. My business skyrocketed, my relationships improved, and I am here today with absolute confidence that you can learn how to follow your own internal guidance system.

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