"Ships" and Giggles

Fathers are pillars in the development of their children's emotional well being. We need them! We need you! They provide a feeling security and that is physically and emotionally. Think about you as an adult and how we have worked since we were children to meet the approval of our dads. 
An involved father is so valuable! They promote inner growth and strength. They help children be prepared for the harshness of the world and also the reality. A father is definitely valuable in creating that balance because mothers are nurtures and spend more time protecting than allowing you to face the realities of life early on. 
Fathers are not only important to boys. Loving fathers who provide praise, support, and unconditional love to their daughters give us the gift of confidence and higher self-esteem. Helping us to know how special we are and they don't even have to work hard to do that. When you are a father that is involved in your children's lives, you raise children with longer attention spans and fewer behavior problems. Dad, you are important! 

Jalen and I talk about what a good father looks like to us and Jalen speaks about becoming a father to his little girl within the next few weeks. A girl dad! You have to be a special kind of man to raise little girls. Hats off to you all. I know that because my daddy is a girl dad and we have such a special bond that we talk about in this episode. 

Father....Faithful And Trustworthy Honoring Every Responsibility...That is YOU! 

Ghosting can leave a lot of questions unanswered. The big question is Why! When someone does decide to leave your calls, text, emails or messages unanswered, it can leave you asking yourself what "you" did to cause this action. Someone who feels like they are on the other end of a ghosting may question their self worth and self-esteem. It is the ultimate silent treatment which we all hate to experience. The silent treatment is the worst and no one deserves to feel that kind of misuse. 

We talk about what it means to us to be ghosted and how we respond to being ghosted. Are there any occasions where ghosting someone can be healthy for you or the other person? We think so and we talk about that. 

Why do some feel the need to ghost someone instead of just communicating with the other person? DO we really need closure when it comes to the newer relationships and friendships. We understand once there has been time invested in a relationship, that communication is due when things are coming to an end, but do we have to extend the same courtesy in a new "ship"? 

Perfectionism is usually looked at as a positive trait  but it can lead to negative self talk and behaviors that make it harder for us to reach our goals. Striving for perfection can cause one to feel inadequate as well as feeling like a failure. Is it possible to actually achieve  perfection? We dive into what perfection means to us and how we feel about the pursuit itself. 

Most of us want to achieve success but it does not mean that it has to be done "perfectly". A person that feels like something has to be done perfectly in order for it to be deemed success, won't see the accomplishment as something to be proud of, or a learning experience if it is not done just so. 

We talk about perfectionism and how it looks different to each of us. How do we know or what do we see as perfect? Can someone be perfect or may they are just perfect for you? Is a career or experience really perfect or just perfect for you?

There is so much power in being silent. Not every moment in our lives calls for words, especially when those words may cause friction in a relationship. Jay and I talk about how important it is for the people in our lives to know that they are heard. Listening to understand and have clarity can strengthen our relationships and that is something we strive for with the ones we love. Leaders can show strength when they are silent by giving their employees an opportunity to use their critical thinking in task work and it can build trust and increase productivity in those moments. In any loving relationship, silence can increase a bond. The silent treatment, however, is dangerous in relationship and it does not make the person receiving feel important and it alienates affection. 

Celebrating mommy all over the world. We are talking about mommy memories and how mom impacts our lives. It was s much fun to listen to how my son feels about my parenting and the impact it has had on his adult life. He also speaks about how it change what he thought about parenting as well as how we will parent his expectant little girl. 

This one challenges us because we could have gone on and on talking about empathy. People that have empathy are so very important to our lives. They are highly sensitive and focused on the needs of others. They, indeed have to be careful because there are people that will take advantage of them and be "energy" vampires. I am an empath and very introverted so I benefit from time alone as all empaths do. It can be draining to spend a lot of time with others because we give over our emotions to them and their needs. Creating healthy boundaries is something that an empath must do to protect their energy and display self-love. 
Come hang with us as we chat about what it means to us to be empathetic and the difference between empathy and sympathy. 

This week we talk about the people that have made some kind of impact in our lives. Of course there are more than 3, but these are people we would love to sit down with and pick their brains. There are people in all of our lives that have done or said something that sparked the fire within us...these are some of our people. 
We hope to one day really get to sit down with them and dive deep into who they are. 
They are all great teachers of life and love and we had fun talking about what their lives mean to us.  

Labels can give us a sense of order and they can also be related to judgement. We tackled labels and how we feel about them. We talk about why they can be important for some of us and how they shape our perception when it comes to race, looks, and personality to name a few. We sometimes label people that we have never spoken to, some we barely know at all. These labels can create bias, stereotypes, and fear and may keep us making solid connections. Labels can also motivate us to set greater expectations and meaningful goals, and build more positive characteristics. Good or bad, labels represent an influence on identity and many times it is beyond our control. 

This is one episode that we were excited to record. It has recently been.a very important part of mine and Jalen's life when it comes to coworkers, friends and even family members. We all have to evaluate our lives and figure out what we really want to see happen. We have so many distractions and they can slow us down from living the life that we truly want. 
Boundaries are primarily a way to show ourselves love. They are also a way to teach the people in our lives how to love us thoroughly. 
Pull up a chair and listen to how we feel about boundaries and our experiences with the boundaries we had and/or our lack of boundaries and the consequences. 

We just wanted to have a little fun and talk about what things about us...someone may consider bougie. 
We all have different tastes and those things may be considered bougie or "uppity" to someone else but it is just the way you like to do things. 
We are poking fun at each other and making little sly judgements but it is all in fun. 
We should love people just the way they are and not pass juudgement on how they choose to live life but we do. It can be hurtful at times and cause problems in relationships.....this is not one of those times!! 
We do play around with each other. This is one of those times