Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by … maskne. *all raise hands* The struggle is real with this pandemic pimple problem, and our beauty guru Ashley is here with some much needed advice on banishing the blemishes. After we get our skincare routine in order, we move on to the important topic of dating dealbreakers – some serious, some not so much. But one thing we can all agree on? If “Daddy” wants to buy you shots… run!

In Episode 4, we talked about the creepy cowboy. But whatever happened to the guy who helped keep the creeper at bay? Well, Ashley dated him, but it wasn’t the fairytale ending we thought it could be. His true colors came out when he said something unsavory on a phone call, and it all unraveled really fast. Do you think you could continue dating someone who was blatantly racist? What if he seemed interested in learning about another perspective? Listen in and decide for yourself.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

Olivia kicks off this episode with a few very important life updates, including the fact that she’s now leaving her relationship destiny in the hands of Myers Briggs. And while the first part of 2021 is coming in hot with some unfortunate 2020 vibes, we know it’s “new year, new you” season, and we’re dishing on our favorite at-home workouts (spoiler: it isn’t Peloton). Plus, we want to hear from you: what kind of underwear do you wear while working out?! WE NEED ANSWERS.

We round out this episode by talking about the pitfalls of fad diets and food/cooking delivery services, with an important reminder to men everywhere that if you want to get ghosted by a dietitian, tell her about your juice cleanse. Boy, bye.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

Do you think that personality type plays a role in your compatibility with another person? Can knowing your love language make you a better partner? We’re diving into these topics on this week’s episode. Amy is a major skeptic and thinks there’s too many intangibles for personality tests to help you choose a partner. And while Olivia seems more open to manifesting a relationship via Myers Briggs, Ashley worries this is just another way to cut out people who might be a good fit.

In a fun round of 60 Second Sips, we contemplate the relative importance of having the door closed when you or your partner pees. DRIBBLE, DRIBBLE, DRIBBLE. No thank you! This somehow leads into a discussion about whether or not we could date someone who makes TikTok dance videos. And finally, we round out this episode by discussing 36 Questions for Love which somehow results in Ashley sharing that she’s been scarred by Britney Spears. Well, that’s a new one.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

We suspect that many of you have missed out on the joys of dating apps, so we're giving you the lowdown of what we really think about these online dating apps. Bumble has a new feature since Amy quit the apps where you can play a question game (your answers are revealed after both people provide answers) and this may have been a game changer for her (although Olivia think they're lame). Plus, if there are any men listening, we have a quick lesson for you on how not to totally suck at communicating on the apps. (It shouldn't be this hard, people!). After an awesome round of 60 Second Sips led by Amy, we dive into animals in dating app photos. Dead or alive. Then, we turn our attention to eHarmony and discuss that fact that Olivia does NOT look like her grandpa and eHarmony seems to think the guy farting rainbows would be a great fit for her. We, uh, we beg to differ. 

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

The countdown to 2021 is on, and we're here with our longest episode to date to help pass the time 'til the new year! In this week's episode, Ashley tells the tale of the Banjo Boy who made our NYE a bit more interesting (was there a midnight kiss?!). And while we're pondering the new year, we say f*ck your resolution -- surviving 2020 has earned you the right to forget the weight loss goals and instead focus on self care, which includes sliding into the new year on your couch watching some of our favorite binge-able "rushed relationship" reality shows. Yup, this means we're dishing our thoughts on Married at First Sight, Love is Blind, 90 Day Fiancé, Indian Matchmaking, Bachelor and Bachelorette, and more. For the matchmaking shows, do you think it's possible to screen for everything, including selfishness? While Olivia seems down for an expert setting her up, seems like Ashley and Amy have their reservations. Not into this kind of reality TV? We have plenty of other show recommendations to keep you entertained until 2021 finally arrives. Cheers!

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

What would you do if your boyfriend's grandma got you and your boyfriend's sister identical Christmas gifts? Um, yikes. But if you want to play a good prank on someone this holiday season, Ashley has some inspiration for you. In this week's 60 Second Sips, we ponder just how much distance we could deal with in a long distance relationship (spoiler alert: Amy is willing to go as far as two miles, no further). Olivia is giving some serious consideration to distance dating during the pandemic, and Ashley provides a lot of insight because she has a surprising amount of experience with long-distance relationships. Oh, and stay tuned for Amy's future TedTalk about how men should be able to hold a conversation on dating apps. 

What do you think about a guy you just matched with online asking to connect on Instagram or Snapchat? Also, are we getting too old for social media? After a quick game of 60 Second Sips, we dive into the age old question... who should pay on a date? Plus, Ashley tells us all about the time a co-worker asked her out, only to tell other people he thought she was a lesbian after she turned him down. She was too busy going on many dates in quick succession with her current BF to have time for that shenanigans anyway. Which begs the question, does going on lots of dates right in a row lead to a better connection? And when you do connect, how do you have the "exclusive" conversation? Wow, that's a lot. It's all on this episode of Shots & Thoughts!

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

After we chat about the relationship Ashley didn’t know she was in and learn that maybe Olivia just doesn’t hug enough in her relationships, we bring on our very first guest! Nicole has been in a relationship for a whopping 20 years, and she reminds us that in addition to no Tinder back then, we also didn’t commonly have cell phones yet. What?! Can you imagine dating in a time before cell phones? Nicole entertains us with a story about getting asked to prom via e-mail before detailing the best “we were on a break” story since Ross and Rachel.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

That cocktail better be strong because we dive into some heavy sh*t this episode! What starts as a casual conversation about sneaky Instagram filters turns into us pondering the mental health of children everywhere. And if that wasn't heavy enough, we discuss that our clocks are a-tickin' and if we don't want to have to sign up for the show "Labor of Love," we better get moving. We also discuss dating people who have kids and dating divorcees (a lot of divorcees). Amy shares a story about a firefighter whose claim that he was separated from his wife was debunked with some good old social media stalking. See, maybe social media isn't all bad. 

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

Just in time for Black Friday and Cyber Monday, we're chatting about holiday gifts! How soon do you buy the guy you're dating a present? When do you bring him home for the holidays? During this episode, we learn that Amy doesn't like boozy ice cream drinks, Ashley attempts to absolve Olivia of her bad gift giving history (Amy, however, remains a harsh critic), and we discuss being offered a holiday gift that will bring a certain type of um, JOY, to your holidays. *eggplant emoji* 

Happy holidays, everyone!

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughts on Twitter and @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE