ShrinkChicks

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are taking us through the different stages of romantic relationships: from the beginning stages of dating, to the end of the honeymoon phase, to moving in together, getting married, having kids, to becoming empty nesters. They discuss the insecurity that comes with the early stages of dating, the worry about being seen as “needy” at the start of a relationship, when the honeymoon phase ends and the feelings that accompany that shift, expectations we have before moving in together, relationships going in and out of connection and disconnection, working on enjoying the phase that you are in right now, making the decision to have (or not) have kids, and so much more!

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into part two of their in-laws series! The focus this week is all about setting boundaries with in-laws and where to begin when doing so. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions about HOW to set healthy boundaries, what to do when your partner still consults their parents about big life decisions, how to discuss in-law issues with your significant other, protecting your energy around your in-laws, what to do when your partner's family does not respect your boundaries, setting boundaries re: financial support of a family member, boundaries to set before having a child, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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This week on ShrinkChicks, we present part one of our multi-part in-laws series! Emmalee and Jen kick off the series by answering your questions about conflict & confrontation with your in-laws. They answer questions like: why are mothers-in-laws so triggering? They also speak on how to prepare for in-laws, what to do when your partner won't speak up to their parents, how to handle a deceitful and aggressive sister-in-law, how to tell overbearing in-laws that you're eloping, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians, Natalia Addona, LPCC! Natalia is a therapist at The Therapy Group and works with clients residing in California and Florida. The three of them dive into the term "people pleasing," their own experiences in "recovery" from being people pleasers, and answer your questions about it! They touch on topics like: finding your own path as a people pleaser, where people pleasing stems from and why we might keep doing it, the resentment that can build as a result, how to know what YOU really want as a people pleaser, questions to ask yourself to help you start to break the pattern, how FOMO can play a role, getting past the uncomfortable feeling of letting others down, and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

To set up a free consultation with Natalia, please fill out a contact form here and request Natalia Addona as your preferred therapist! *residents of CA & FL only

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen break down the buzz term "the mental load" AKA cognitive labor! They discuss gender roles and how the mental load has historically fallen on women, the overfunctioning/underfunctioning dynamic in relationships and what these terms mean and look like, the mental load falling onto the person who cares more, being the default parent and how to divide the mental load when parenting, what to do when you feel like you’re the only one who knows how to do it "right," the mental loads Emmalee and Jen carry in their relationships with their partners and with one another, and so much more! Dear Em & Jen answers a listener question about constantly having to remind her partner to help around the house and how to stop getting so annoyed at this dynamic. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen have the honor of sitting down with the brilliant Dr. Alexandra Solomon! Dr. Solomon is a therapist, author, teacher, fellow podcast host and relationship expert! They start the episode off by talking about the challenges and nuances of Instagram and TikTok therapy. They then ask Dr. Solomon about the class she teaches at Northwestern University called Marriage 101. This leads them into the episode topic: hard conversations to have with a partner before marriage or that next big step in your relationship and where to begin when approaching them. Emmalee, Jen and Dr. Solomon explore conversations like: acknowledgement that each partner will change throughout the relationship, political differences in marriages and how to handle them - especially in this polarizing political climate, the decision to have children, attachment styles, cultivating compassion for new versions of ourselves and our partners, and SO much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

Dr. Solomon's website where you can find her podcast, e-courses, blog, books, and more: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to have a listener favorite guest, and one of their mentors, Terry Real, back on the podcast to tell us all about his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry shares some stories and concepts from the book, how Bruce Springsteen writing the forward of "Us" came to be, the difference between “us” vs. “you and me”, two parts of our brains: the wise adult and the adaptive child and what they mean, fight, flight, freeze, and fix responses to our partners - and which one Emmalee, Jen and Terry identify with, why Terry believes couples therapists should lovingly take sides, and so much more! 

Link to Terry’s new book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship:

https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/0593233670/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1654019537&sr=8-1

Terry’s website & Relational Life Therapy Training: https://terryreal.com

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen share their expertise on how to repair after a rupture in our relationships a.k.a. how to make up after a fight, disagreement, or argument. They discuss why rupture is inevitable in all of our relationships, why being "right" doesn't matter, why tit for tat can be harmful, how to hold onto ourselves when the other person is dysregulated, whether make-up sex is a real thing, how to argue in a healthy way, stubbornness when in a disagreement and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

The book mentioned in today's episode: Why Won't You Apologize by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about emotional boundaries, starting off by defining emotional boundaries and where to begin when setting them. They discuss separating our emotions from others' emotions, how to recognize when you need to do so, and the importance of tone and context. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions like: how to set emotional boundaries when working in a helping field, the concern about coming off as rude or demanding, how to set boundaries when you're scared of hurting others, the fine line between feeling your feelings and setting boundaries around them, plus a Dear Em & Jen about sexuality changing later in life. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

The book mentioned in today's episode: The Whole-Brain Child https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen answer one of our most popular listener questions: how to ask for what you need! They discuss why it can be so hard to ask for what you need, how to begin learning what you need, and give us tangible steps to do so. Emmalee and Jen share how they learned what it was they needed through trial and error, why our childhood experiences can play a big role in asking for what we need, the difference between wants and needs, and so much more! Dear Em & Jen answers a question about needing space from in-laws and how to ask your partner for that. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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