Simpin After Dark

Almondmilkhunni joins me today to talk about her new song "MISS U". It's about missing her man when he leaves to go on tour, and trying to hold it together and to not act out because of it. It's similar to being in a long distance relationship so we talk about the ups and downs and how to get through it. We talk about her journey as an artist for a bit and her process of making music and staying true to herself and what she loves. Then we dive into Teal Swan and the phenomenon of the social media spiritual "gurus" who are low key narcissists and have a cult like following. We talk about red flags to look out for and how to protect yourself from falling victim in general. Another weird thing I keep seeing on Tik Tok is the "femininity coach" girlies trying to rebrand purity culture Christian values as "divine femininity", but it's a little problematic so we had to dive into that rabbit hole to figure out why it feels off. We also talk about the wifey material paradox, a Christian Youtube couple's fight about anticipating needs and compromising, the dangers of being surrounded by yes-men, starseeds, spiritual psychosis, conspiracy theories and so many other juicy topics. Tune in & don't forget to stream "MISS U" by Almondmilkhunni.

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Tonight I'm getting into JAKHKOY's latest single, "Bitter", which is all about grieving something that could've been. We've all had talking stages that failed, or even just grieved a potential future with someone that keeps giving you hope but stays bailing. It sucks, and we might feel bitter, but all you can do is accept it and move on. Then I get into some really good Tik Tok material that all focuses on Men's Mental Health Awareness Month. A lot of men don't want to hear it but toxic masculinity goes hand in hand with having poor mental health. I touch on toxic masculine traits versus healthy traits, roasting culture, and so much more.

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My guest, Karagan, joins me today to get into some of Lana Del Rey's songs including, "Young and Beautiful", "Shades of Cool", and an unreleased song, "Put Me in a Movie". They all dance around the themes of society's obsession with women's youth and beauty and its perceived time limit, the power that men hold over women and their desire for that youth, and just age gaps in relationships in general. Men seem to be freaking out that women are ok with being single more and more, so we dissect how that pushes them to go after younger women and how they're able to manipulate and attempt to mold them into their idea of what a woman should be. We talk about the power in being a bimbo, how older women are actually hot af and we've been brainwashed to think that they're not, and about Drakes weird shade he threw at Megan Thee Stallion, and Ice Spice, on him and 21 Savage's latest collab album, "Her Loss". I also cleared up some info about hate crimes in reference to last weeks episode, toward the end of this episode. Tune in to hear us talk about all that and so many more juicy conversations and topics!

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It's the Halloween special edition episode! Join me and my reoccurring guest, April (my sister), to talk about the songs, "Pain" & "Just For Me", from PinkPantheress's 2021 mixtape, "To Hell Wit It". Both songs lean into the themes of unhealthy romantic obsessions and breakups. We talk about creepy behaviors we may or may not have participated in before like driving by someone's house to catch them cheating, obsessing over an ex, doing weird things to manipulate someone into a relationship, and lots more. Then I read three listener submitted stories about your experiences with psycho lovers and dealing with stalkers, gaslighting, manipulation, emotional abuse, and crazy first dates. I also share a story of my own in which I'm the "psycho" in question (I still think my actions were warranted though shh). We then get into a couple Tik Toks about patriarchy and the socialization of men, 50/50 men and toilet seats, and lastly an article about incels and the rise of violence against women. Tune in next week, I have some info and clarification about the topic of hate crimes towards the end of this episode, that I said I would look into.

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Today I'm getting into the lyrics behind Baby Tate's latest mixtape, Mani/Pedi. It focuses on being honest about the relationships we have with others, and ourselves. I picked 8 songs: “Ain’t No Love” (ft. 2 Chainz), Do Better, Karma, Sl*t Him Out Again (ft. Kali), Mani, 4Lifers, What’s Love, & Honest. There are so many great themes from being smart about who you cry over, being scared to fall for someone, reevaluating what love means to you, being honest with yourself about your own toxic habits, and lots more. I also had time for the Pick Me Patrol segment today which has to do with a fake ring pop proposal, and the weird fantasy that men have of making a woman prove she's worthy, and the pick me women that pretend it's a cute harmless joke because they wanna be the cool girl so. bad. I randomly end up talking about PnB Rock's tragic death, RIP, and lots more.

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Welcome to season 6 of Simpin After Dark!

Today I’m talkin about Ari Lennox’s newest album, age/sex/location, focusing on the songs: “POF”, “Waste My Time”, “Boy Bye (Ft. Lucky Daye)”, “Leak it (Ft. Chlöe)”, “Blocking You”, & “Queen Space (Ft. Summer Walker”. It’s all about the transitional space of growth and self-love that most of us go through at some point in our healing journey. It’s normal and natural to crave love and connection but learning to get past being desperate is important if we want to find healthy relationships.

Ari sings about dealing with players and sweet talkers and learning to see through the bullsh*t in order to avoid unnecessary f*ckery. You gotta know what real love is by starting with yourself, in order to seek it out from others. The album wraps up with Ari standing her ground and learning to cut off anything that’s messing with her peace, and by acknowledging that her love and presence is a privilege that not just anyone should be able to access.

That’s the beauty of stepping into your healing journey, is that you can be confident in your standards and what you deserve. Queens don’t bite their tongue about their needs and if you can’t speak up in your relationship then we need to talk! I wrap up the episode by talking about the drama on instagram stories with Nick Cannon and one of his latest babymommas, cause it’s a mess.

Don’t forget to DM me on instagram or email me [email protected] with your relationship or dating horror stories/psycho lover experiences for an upcoming Halloween special episode where I’ll share your submissions and talk about them! <3 

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It's the season finale y'all! I had to end it off with my girls April and Alexa so it's a family affair and we're talking Bad Bunny's song "Tití Me Preguntó" from his recent album Un Verano Sin Ti. It's about him loving his single life and being too scared of love, or trusting anyone. In the music video, he gets kidnapped and dropped off at his wedding where his real life girlfriend comes down from the sky looking like an angel and they get married, so we dive into what this all could mean and what it must be like to date Bad Bunny or anyone of that caliber. This all segues into a deep dive convo about bridesmaids and wedding party's in general. We're talking a lot of sh*t so brace yourself. We're only here to open up the conversation because there are a lot of problems with wedding culture that need to be talked about. Especially in this economy AKA a recession and just a being a part of a generation that is broke af. Another big topic is the huge commitment of being a part of a bridal party, and what a financial burden and stress it can be for someone who isn't aware of everything it actually entails. We also read some wild submitted stories all about bridesmaids, bachelorette/bachelor parties, and weddings, and talk about our own personal experiences with them all. We end the episode with a Pick Me Patrol tweet of the week and go in on this girl that needs to go to pick-me-jail for her horrendous take. Tune in for all the juicy mess!

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Master Steph came through to get into Ella Mai's song, "How" ft. Roddy Rich, from her latest album Heart On My Sleeve. It's all about someone switching up on you when you least expected it, so in turn you have to learn to be on your own and work on your self, because at the end of the day, time heals, but you gotta do the work if you wanna come out better than before. We jump straight into the Netflix show, "The Ultimatum", which is about 6 couples who all gave their partner an. ultimatum to get married to move on. We def give away some spoilers, but if you haven't watched, we do a full break down so you won't be lost. There were so many interesting dynamics in every relationship for us to get into including communication styles, non verbal behavior, using trauma as an excuse for unhealthy behavior, compromise, and lots more. We also talk about femininity coaches and the slippery slope of relying on a man, and treating a relationship like it's your job and your man is your boss... Stay tuned till the end where we address a comment from a guy on one of my videos about how he thinks men have it so hard trying to get a "high quality" woman, and how these days being "average" just doesn't cut it. 

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I got a solo episode talking about ImaniCarolyn's 2021 song, "Water". It's a bop! It's all about tryna break free from someone who won't stop playing games but also won't let you go. I'm also catching up on a few topics from previous episodes that slipped my mind. I'm talking about girls that try to be the cool girlfriend by breaking their neck to check out girls asses with their men. There are layers to how dumb and embarrassing it is. I also read an excerpt from "Attached" about the importance of having a "secure base" in a relationship and how a lack of it is bad for your health and the trajectory of your life. Heads up, I'm doin a deep dive into how intense the Johnny Depp stans are about this case that has become a source of entertainment and community for them. He's not an innocent victim and people need to stop with the Amber Heard bashing. There is no such thing as a perfect victim and this witch hunt is so damaging to real life victims of Domestic Abuse, so please keep an open mind if you have been sucked down the rabbit hole already. Stay tuned till the end for an announcement about next weeks episode!

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Today I'm getting into Ne-Yo's 2008 song, "Miss Independent", with a guest - ceci bendita. The song is all about Ne-Yo seeing a woman being a boss, getting it all by herself, and him being obsessed and so happy that it seems like he doesn't need to offer or do anything for her. It's funny hearing this song and thinking about the meaning now that we’re older. We talk about the relevance the song had back in 2008 when women were first starting to celebrate being on their own, making their own money, and divorcing ain't sh** dudes. Before that, women were more reliant on men and stayed home as mothers or homemakers, and men were only expected to work and provide financially, but nothing more than that. It left a lot of women feeling unfulfilled, and once they started getting their own bag, they realized that some of these men weren't really providing much else other than money, but when it came to domestic tasks, they were making their life more difficult and not providing enough peace. It's a sentiment that more and more women are coming to terms with, which is why women initiate more divorces, and are happily and intentionally single. We also get into the whole idea of giving a man your "best years" and how women that have children and give a man everything, are so easily discarded and looked down upon for simply aging and are treated like disposable objects, or traded in for a younger better looking woman, or cheated on. This all leads into a conversation on how some men view single mothers as low value, even when those same men are all broke and ugly. Lastly we talk about a clip from Tik Tok from a TLC show called "Unexpected", in which a young girl is going into labor (her and her boyfriend are 17 ish), and he tries to stop her from getting an epidural for the pain. He's controlling and it seems like she has no one else or no where to go. We get into how some men trap women by getting them pregnant as a control tactic, and all the downfalls of that situation. It's a fun episode full of lots of other juicy convo's so make sure to tune in!

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