Simplify Complexity: Christian Relationship Advice & Help

It can be flattering to have someone flirt with you. It can make someone feel attractive or even wanted, but not all advancements are wanted or appropriate. One instance where flirting is inappropriate is when you are in a relationship. Whether you are the one being flirted on or it’s your partner, how you handle flirtatious advancements is important.

When in a relationship you must always be on guard to protect against wolfs seeking to destroy and break up marriages and couples. In this podcast episode we discuss seductive advancements and what steps you can take to protect against them in your relationship.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

• Eph 4:27 Do not give the devil an opportunity.
• Prov 6: 23-26   For their command is a lamp and their instruction a light;  their corrective discipline is the way to life. It will keep you from the immoral woman,   from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman. Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. For a prostitute will bring you to poverty,but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life.

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People love taking relationship surveys, or character personality tests. They do this to not only better understand themselves, but also to better understand others in relationships. Though these tests can be fun, are they helpful? I would say most are not, but some are. Recently, I came across one that I liked, relationship attachment styles. These are characteristic traits people possess that impact their relationships with others.

Attachment styles have three primary categories. Those who are secure, anxious or avoident. The good news is that depending on which of these three you are, they don’t permanently define you. The styles test helps you to better understand which of the three you lean toward, so you can make a conscious effort to improve any unhealthy traits you may possess.

To talk about this in more detail, I welcome special guest and dating coach Carrie Cantrell to the show. In this podcast Carrie and I will discuss what relationship styles are, how they impact relationships, and steps you can take to improve your style? Take a free test and learn your attachment style.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace and guest Carrie Cantrell

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Have you ever seen a relationship where every sign says they should end it, yet they remain in it because of the amount of time they’ve invested. WHY? Should duration of time be a reason to stay in a relationship? Well, it depends. This is not an easy answer because it differs based on the couple.

For example, is the couple married or not married. If married, a major factor is ones commitment to God regardless of time. If unmarried, other factors beyond time should play a role. Is he or she playing games and not willing to commit to a long term marriage? Has the relationship continually been in turmoil? Do they have major character flaws you keep dismissing? These questions help you to determine if a future is possible.

Is duration of time a reason to stay in a relationship? In this podcast, we’ll answer this question and more, sharing reasons why time is and also isn’t important.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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As COVID 19 continues, one thing is becoming increasingly clear. This pandemic isn’t going anywhere, anytime soon. I believe when the outbreak first started and we were asked to shelter in place, most thought it would be a short term thing, and life would go back to normal after a couple weeks. Now months later, it’s clear that we are going to have to learn to live with COVID, but how does that impact dating? What tips can we offer for those dating during a pandemic.

If you’re going to date we encourage you to be safe and have a strategy. In this podcast episode we share tips you can implement during this time. These are practical tips that can make all the difference in keeping you safe and the people around you safe as you choose to start dating again.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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Most people understand that attraction plays a big role within relationships. Often when we think of attraction we think of facial features or body features, but what about self-care and grooming. Self care and grooming deals with how people take care of their body. This includes basic grooming such as brushing one’s teeth, or taking a shower, but also includes shaving ones body hair, combing one’s hair, or ironing one’s clothes.

In this podcast episode we discuss the the relevance of self-care and grooming. What role does it play within relationships and is it important? We are excited to welcome guest hosts Dana Tyler to offer a woman’s point of view.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace, Keonte McDonald, & guest Dana Tyler

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The term, what’s love got to do with it was made popular by Tina Turner in the 80’s. Although, this was just a song, is there any truth to the idea. Unfortunately, people have done very cruel things within what was supposed to be a love relationship, and people have subjected themselves to cruelty in the name of love.

How can love be such a great experience for some, and for others a nightmare?

In this podcast episode we explore the idea of love being just a second hand emotion, and ask the question, what’s love got to do with it? We discuss how a person’s experience can warp their perception. We also clarify what love is and what it isn’t. Please share this with a friend. Anyone and everyone in a relationship needs to hear this.

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Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

• 1Cor. 13:4   Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8   Love never ends. 
• Prov. 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.

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Some of the worse things have happened under the best of intentions. In relationships we all have found ourselves trying to do good, only for it to not turn out how we may have hope. But how can that be? If your desire is to help, and you take steps to be helpful, how is it possible that your actions don’t help. This is when helping isn’t helping!

In this podcast episode we take time share examples of when helping isn’t helping, and point out reasons why. Using the principles we discuss our hope is you can avoid some of the frustration that can come from this puzzle. By doing so you can make sure that your intentions are received in a positive way.

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Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald

• Philippians 2:1-4 So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

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Many people know and understand that singleness isn’t a bad thing. You don’t need a spouse to feel complete. Yet, knowing something and living something are two different things. When single you can go through emotional ups and downs. There are times you feel great and life is good. However, there can be moments when you are tired in singleness. 

Maybe loneliness is beginning to eat away at you. Maybe you’ve watch, friend after friend get married, or you’ve been constantly reminded you’re getting older. In these moments, singleness can feel like a heavy burden you are caring. Negative thoughts and feelings can overwhelm. So, what do you do?

We’re grateful to welcome Cyndi and Dyanna from Singles’ Sessions Podcast. These two have committed parts of their live’s to helping singles & leading singles ministries. In part two we continue our discussion offering tips to help you navigate singleness, and be sure to also listen to part 1. Please share this podcast with someone you know. 

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace, Cyndi and Dyanna

• Col. 2:8   Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ. 9 For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.
• challenges. Let’s continue with part 2

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Many people know and understand that singleness isn’t a bad thing. You don’t need a spouse to feel complete. Yet, knowing something and living something are two different things. When single you can go through emotional ups and downs. There are times you feel great and life is good. However, there can be moments when you get tired of being single.

Maybe loneliness is beginning to eat away at you. Maybe you’ve watch, friend after friend get married, or you’ve been constantly reminded you’re getting older. In these moments, singleness can feel like a heavy burden you are caring. Negative thoughts and feelings can overwhelm. So, what do you do?

We’re grateful to welcome Cyndi and Dyanna from Singles’ Sessions Podcast. These two have committed parts of their live’s to helping singles & leading singles ministries. In this episode we’ll take time to share personal stories of our struggles in singleness, and tips to help you. Please share this podcast with someone you know.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace, Cyndi and Dyanna

• Col. 2:8   Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ. 9 For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.

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We’ve all had to make adjustments as a result of COVID 19 hitting the world. The biggest of those adjustments has been self-isolation. Though we may understand why quarantining is important, it’s had its difficulties. Yet, are there things we’ve learned while self quarantine? People who are able to learn from life’s challenges are more likely to over come and thrive in those challenges.

In this podcast we discuss different things we’ve learned about ourselves and others in self- quarantine. We also want to hear what your experience has been like, and what you may learned? Please share in the comment section or contact on the website SimplifyComplexity.org.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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