Simplify Complexity: Christian Relationship Advice & Help

Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight is, giving up the cookie doesn’t mean he’ll stay.

The value of sex is sometimes lost in the pursuit of a relationship. Sex isn’t something men are trying to conquer, nor is sex something women should use to keep a man. These are warped views of sex, and devalue it’s significance. Our snippet comes at the 20:00 minute mark of, The Spirituality of Sex, published 05/20/2017, and co-hosted with guest Pastor Hosea Collins. Enjoy the snippet, or feel free to click the link to listen to the whole episode.

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Hosted By Pastor Brian Wallace and Guest Pastor Hosea Collins.

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Principles are fundamental truths that surround us and govern us. These truths if applied can have a positive impact upon your life, but if ignored can lead to calamity. This is also true for relationships. You are probably reading this because you want to see change in your relationship life. Yet, how do you transform your relationship?

We live in a time where we want things quick and easy. The problem is lasting transformation is more than quick fix, or a list of strategies and action items. Lasting transformation comes from internal change. The application of life principles.

The first principle to transform your relationship that we want to address, is knowing your WHY? This principle deals with your purpose and identity. So many people feel lost in relationships or negotiate their values, because they don’t always understand their WHY. Join us as we explore this transformational relationship principle that will change the way you live and love.

1. Knowing your Why
2. Showing Compassion
3. Active Listening
4. The Act of Love

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald

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Vision is the ability to have foresight. The ability to see beyond where you are, and to see where you want to go. Imagine a company that lacks a vision statement, how successful do you think that organization will be? This is no different as an individual. Having a personal vision statement to guide your life will place you on a road to success. Having vision for your relationship desires will do the same.

Unfortunately, many singles don’t look ahead to see how their singleness will impact their dating or marriage life. There are those dating in dead end relationships, because they didn’t have a vision for where that relationship was going. You will find more people lacking foresight in marriage, because they viewed marriage as the end goal, rather than the beginning of a new journey. These are all key concepts I explore extensively in my book Chasing Happily Ever After.

In this podcast episode we’ll discuss the importance of vision within singleness, dating, and marriage. We’ll look at practical ways a lack of vision can negatively impact you, and ways you can apply relationship vision in the relational season you are in.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald

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This is a saying that reflects a view people hold when comparing their life and circumstance to others. Sometimes as people are dealing with challenges they begin to compare their life circumstances with differing, and often better circumstances than their own. There are many dangers of comparison within relationships. Often comparison leads to a discontentment within one’s own situation, and a false perception of other situations.

In this podcast we look at different circumstances of relationship comparison, and point out its dangers. It’s easy to compare and look at other people’s reality assuming their situation is better. Yet, a person doesn’t fully see what challenges they may face or the effort given to the image they admire. It’s been said, “that the grass is greener on the other side, because that’s where all the crap is.

Don’t make the mistake of comparing your life with others. Let this podcast remind you whether single, dating, or married you are more than a conquer in Christ. Choose to be proactive verses reactive. Your power of influence is not on the outside, but rather on the inside.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald

• 1Timothy 6:6-9 Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth. After all, we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it. So if we have enough food and clothing, let us be content. But people who long to be rich fall into temptation and are trapped by many foolish and harmful desires that plunge them into ruin and destruction.

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Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight asks the question, are you fully committed to love.

Love has become a common word that people say without fully considering what it means. Are you fully committed to love? Our snippet comes at the 9:00 minute mark of, when is the right time to say I love you, published 03/12/2019. Feel free to click the link and listen to the whole episode, or just enjoy the snippet.

Do you have a favorite moment from one of our past shows? We want to hear from you. Contact us with an episode that has blessed you for a future Weekend Snippet.

Hosted By Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald.

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In a previous episode, we discussed whether the traditional view of the woman’s duty to cook was biblical. Yet, the needs and responsibilities within a relationship go far and beyond just cooking. Who earns the money or manages the budget? Is it primarily one person’s duty to clean, or do laundry? What about cleaning the car, mowing the lawn, bathing the kids, or running errands? This list can go on, and on, but don’t make the mistake of assuming who will do what. There are many benefits of building a chore list, and sharing relationship responsibilities. Who does what in your relationship?

This is no different when it comes to building a chore list. A chore list isn’t something one person makes or does. Sharing responsibilities first starts with communicating the needs of the relationship. You want to talk about strengths and weakness each of you hold, and what sacrifice you are willing make.

In this podcast we will discuss sharing relationship responsibilities and offer tips to building a chore list. Having a chore list goes beyond just chores. It really shows that as a couple you are willing to share in the responsibilities of the relationship together, and maintain a healthy marriage in the process.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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Relationships go through many phases. Early within a relationship when a couple is getting to know each other, they often go out and do various activities together. Unfortunately the longer those couples are together, the frequency of their dates begin to wane. Normally this isn’t a planned habit, but with life, work, and kids, staying at home can become a regular occurrence. Before you know it, you or your spouse have become a Homebody easily putting couple activities on the back burner .

In this podcast we take a hard look at the Homebody. We ask the question is being a homebody a bad thing, especially in marriage? We explore the positive and negatives of a relationship lacking activity. Finally, we address the challenge of a husband or wife wanting a more active relationship than their spouse. Regardless where your relationship is or how active you are as a couple, you can gain key principles that will help your relationship thrive. Help! I or my spouse have become a homebody?

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight focuses on attraction towards others when you’re already in a relationship.

You can’t avoid attraction. Unless you walk around with a blindfold, you are bound to see people you’re attracted to. Unfortunately, when you start dating or when you get married attraction for others doesn’t go away. So what do you do? Don’t allow attraction to be the motivating moving factor that moves you in or out of relationships. Our weekend snippet comes at the 3:55 minute mark of, When in a Relationship but Attracted to Another Person, published 01/25/2018. Feel free to click the link and listen to the whole episode, or just enjoy the snippet.

Do you have a favorite moment from one of our past shows? We want to hear from you. Contact us with an episode that has blessed you for a future Weekend Snippet.

Hosted By Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald.

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Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight focuses on a quote by Keonte McDonald, “Are you buying your own ticket for an Emotional Ride?”

Relationships have their ups and downs. Unfortunately sometimes people allow those ups and downs to cause physical and mental imbalance within themselves. Our weekend snippet comes from the 4:30 minute mark of, Stop the Emotional Rollercoaster in your Relationship, published 05/21/2016. Feel free to click the link and listen to the whole episode, or just enjoy the snippet.

Do you have a favorite moment from one of our past shows? We want to hear from you. Contact us with an episode that has blessed you for a future Weekend Snippet.

Hosted By Pastor Brian Wallace and Keonte McDonald.

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The truth is, dating is evolving! Much of this has to do with technology and how people meet. Before technology most people met through a friend connection, or at a social gathering. It was rare that once you engaged with one individual, that you simultaneously meet others, and begin to date them. This isn’t to say it didn’t happen, but it wasn’t as frequent as it is today. Through online dating and other resources. People are continually meeting new people, engaging in new dating interactions, while dating and interacting with others. Is this good; is it bad? Should one date multiple people at the same time?

Hello, I’ve had success in the initial stages of online dating in part due to your episode on how to have confidence on a date. I am now seeing/dating a girl that I really like and feel long-term compatibility. It’s been almost a month and a half since we both met on a dating app and we’ve seen each other about 5 times. I initiated a conversation with her last week about where the relationship was going. We both expressed that we were indeed interested in each other beyond the profile that we saw and will continue to get to know each other as friends. 

We’re taking it slow and really taking the time to get to know this person. However, I believe this girl who I’m liking so much is dating/meeting other people during this time that we decided to take it slow. It’s good and bad. It feels special, but then it’s not. It’s affecting my excitement for her to think she is doing the same to other guys. It’s so easy for people to go on a dating app and receive new and a lot of interest from others. This modern online way of dating is so competitive. I feel people are choosing for like instead of love. Could you advise me on this please? 

I look forward to hearing back from you guys. Sincerely,

In this podcast, we explore in depth the pros and cons and if one should date multiple people at the same time. We discuss when this is possibly appropriate and other moments when it is not. Ultimately, you want to guard your life from unnecessary drama. You also don’t want to be the person who misleads, and hurts others. You really just have to ask yourself, what do you want from dating, and where are your actions taking you? What you want and what you do doesn’t always line up.

Hosted by Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonald

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