Simply Human

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Imagine a workplace relationship secret that no one is talking about that is simple yet powerful.

In this episode of Simply Human, we unpack the workplace secret of attentiveness: Observe ✚ Give a 💩 ✚ Act. This isn't how most people would define attentiveness. It's about showing up with genuine attention and strategic support. 

We explore: 
– Why genuine attentiveness in the workplace can be a gamechanger for work relationships
– What to observe when colleagues are struggling and feeling overwhelmed (in-person and virtual) 
– Why "How can I help?" actually isn’t helpful to overwhelmed colleagues
– How to offer support without becoming overwhelmed yourself

🎧 Listen in and learn how to easily change your relationship dynamics at work with the attentiveness. 

Perfect for: Anyone tired of workplace drama, miscommunication, feeling like no one has your back or needing to rebuild a workplace relationship.

📖 Listen to the previous episode that introduces the power of attentiveness in personal relationships.
You do the dishes, take out the trash—but they still feel unseen. Learn why.  Whether you’re the one who’s feeling unseen, or the one trying but not quite getting it right—this conversation is for you.

“YOU MISSED IT--AND THEY KNOW IT!!!: Relationship Secret Sauce” 

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

You do the dishes, take out the trash—but your partner still feels unseen. Why?

In this episode of Simply Human, we explore what “attentiveness” really means in a relationship. Hint: It’s not about checking boxes. It’s about a three-part formula:
Notice + Give a 💩 + Act.

We discuss:
– Why doing “the things” still isn’t enough
– The emotional cost of being missed
– How attentiveness fosters real safety and connection
– Gendered patterns around emotional labor
– What small, real-life moments of care look like

Whether you’re the one who’s feeling unseen, or the one trying but not quite getting it right—this conversation is for you.

🎧 Listen in and learn how to close the gap between good intentions and true connection.

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

All of us ask risk situations in our life. What makes the difference between the badass who masters risk to achieve bold objectives and the dumbass who skates by on luck and bravado? Join us to explore the nature of risk taking.

📖 Explore More: 

“Fine Lines: Life Lessons From Adventure Athletes” https://www.redbull.com/eu-en/films/fine-lines

SERENITY PRAYER

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, 

The courage to change the things I can, 

And the wisdom to know the difference.”

KEY INSIGHTS:

• Cultivate self-awareness
• Engage in honest self-assessment
• Mitigate risk through training, education, planning, procedures, and seeking guidance from experienced people
• Cultivate both humility and confidence
• Expand “comfort zone” by stretching ability in the “discomfort zone”
• Cultivate tolerance for discomfort

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Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not therapy and no therapeutic relationship between Dr. Caro and any viewer is asserted or implied. If you need personal support, please seek a qualified professional. If you are in crises, please call 911 for assistance in connecting with immediate support. Photos, images, and videos are copyrighted by or licensed to the content creators unless otherwise specified.

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

The secret to powerful communication is mastering the skill of switching from the content of the conversation to the process when “how” we are interacting with someone becomes more important than the “what” we are talking about.

Join us as we continue to explore Edgar Schein's Inquiry framework by learning when taking time to engage in process-oriented inquiry helps to reveal the hidden interpersonal dynamics and currents that might be keeping you stuck. 

📖 Explore More: 

“Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling” https://a.co/d/eyPK2cd

For more on how styles of communication:

• Simply Human: “Stuck in One Style: Are you turning Conversations into Conflict?”  https://youtu.be/dHndUH_kfew

PRACTICES: 

• 5-7 minutes/day of mindfulness mediation to practice build meta awareness.
• Observe conversations around you and try to notice what is occurring between the lines.
• Notice what is going on within yourself while you are in a conversation and bring curiosity to your own experience.
• Start sharing your observations with someone while in a conversations “I’m noticing that….” Followed by humble inquiry “Can you share what might be going on?”

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Many of us like to tell our opinions, offer solutions, or give advice. But what if all that “telling” is actually shutting people down?

Join us as we continue to explore Edgar Schein's Inquiry framework by learning when taking time to inquiry can help to diagnose a core problem and when confrontational or strategic inquiry can help to move a conversation forward. Learn practical techniques to create psychological safety, access others' wisdom, and transform challenging relationships through the subtle art of asking questions with genuine curiosity and humility.

📖 Explore More: 

“Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling” https://a.co/d/eyPK2cd

For more on how styles of communication:

• Simply Human: “Stuck in One Style: Are you turning Conversations into Conflict?”  https://youtu.be/dHndUH_kfew

REFLECTIONS: 

• Find three “telling” comments and try to turn them into inquiry.
• Observe your tone when you engage in inquiry.
• Practice patience and notice what changes are present when you switch to inquiry.

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Most of us think we're good listeners, but what if the questions we ask are actually shutting down connection? 

Discover how Edgar Schein's Humble Inquiry framework reveals the hidden dynamics in our conversations. Learn practical techniques to create psychological safety, access others' wisdom, and transform challenging relationships through the subtle art of asking questions with genuine curiosity of not knowing the answer. 

📖 Explore More: 

“Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling” https://a.co/d/eyPK2cd

For more on how styles of communication:

• Simply Human: “Stuck in One Style: Are you turning Conversations into Conflict?”  https://youtu.be/dHndUH_kfew

THOUGHT QUESTION: 

• Are you stuck in “Telling” or transactional communication?
• Notice how you show up in different situations.
• Try putting the Ego aside and get into Beginners Mind.

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Are you someone who gives trust freely or do you require that trust be earned? Explore the pros and cons of each style and strategies to mitigate the cons of your preferred style.

📖 Explore More: 

For more on how to engage in inquiry and assert boundaries when you need to confront concerning behavior:

• Simply Human: “You Want to Stop Avoiding Conflict: Now What?”  https://youtu.be/oPBId3fVLZo
• Simply Human: “Why Your Boundaries Don’t Work” https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg

THOUGHT QUESTION: 

• What is your trust approach?
• What life experiences shaped your approach or has it always been your preference?
• Is it an intentional choice or unconscious habit?
• Can you recall an instance where your approach led to an unexpected outcome, positive or negative?
• What contributes to affirming it works for you?
• What might be drawbacks from your experience?
• Who in your life has a different approach?
• What is a step you can take this week to create a healthier trust dynamic (e.g., communicate boundaries, assess risk, etc.)?

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

In our most important relationships we want to cultivate and receive Trust and Respect. Join us to explore some of the neurological processes of trust and what behaviors and practices are essential to building trusting and respectful relationships.

📖 Explore More: 

Chase Hughes YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@chasehughesofficial

Spider @ The Behavioral Arts YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheBehavioralArts

Brene Brown:

• TED Talk - Power of Vulnerability https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
• The Power of Vulnerability: https://a.co/d/8oCZABg

Harvard Project Implicit: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/

THOUGHT QUESTION: 

How can I bring more genuine respect into my relationships today?

What behaviors do I need to work on that demonstrate I am trustworthy?

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Join us in our continued exploration of courage. Learn how to deal with situational challenges by cultivating the strategy of harnessing courage to move out of the “comfort zone” and into the “growth zone”

📖 Explore More: 

Alex Honold TED Talk: “How I climbed a 3,000-foot vertical cliff -- without ropes”, April 2018

https://www.ted.com/talks/alex_honnold_how_i_climbed_a_3_000_foot_vertical_cliff_without_ropes?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

“Free Solo” National Geographic Documentary Films

https://films.nationalgeographic.com/free-solo

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🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Join us in our continued exploration of courage and how we can use courage to sit in the uncertainty about another person without reaching for the quick label to avoid our discomfort. Learn about the concept of cultivating an I & Thou relationship rather than objectifying people into an I/It relationship. This requires sitting in uncertainty and our vulnerability, which requires we cultivate courage and curiosity.

📖 Explore More: 

“I and Thou” by Martin Buber https://a.co/d/3MFj3dy

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...