Simply Human

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

We continue our exploration of why it feel so hard to get needs met and how to be more skillful in having needs-request conversations.  In this episode we diver deeper into how the language you use can help or interfere with getting your needs met. Learn the language of Willingness and why it is so effective in encouraging helping behavior.

📖 Explore More: 

The Hidden Reasons You Aren’t Getting Your Needs Met https://youtu.be/dwB1rSfJ364

Language of Willingness STEPS:

1. Share what you are struggling with
2. Share what you need to alleviate the struggle in concrete, actionable language
3. Share why the support is meaningful to you and how it might relate to the other person’s needs
4. If it is a stretch for the other person, acknowledge the cost
5. Ask if the person is “willing to” respond to your need and be open to exploring and negotiating a win-win solution

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
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https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Having needs is human. So why does it feel so hard to get needs met and why are needs often the source of interpersonal conflict? In this episode we explore the hidden yet common reasons why people have difficulty getting their needs met, the relationship between getting needs met and effective boundaries, common traps like expecting mind reading, and what you can do to be a better advocate for your needs.

📖 Explore More: 

Blind Spots, Secrets, & the Unconscious: JOHARI Window - Paths to being More Open https://youtu.be/rAD5RvexdH8 

Why Your Boundaries Don’t Work https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

All people have blind spots, things we hold back and keep secrets, and parts that are hidden in our unconscious. This episode introduces the JOHARI Window model on how to be more open by 1) being open to feedback, and 2) voluntarily disclosing. Learn how to use the JOHARI Window in your professional and personal life to cultivate greater openness and awarenes.

📖 Explore More on YouTube: 

Communication Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg_3lbIOBUhkJudK9yjf3FGZIdpxnatst&si=pgTyUmeU9t8HMOx

The Behavioral Arts Channel: https://youtu.be/pEEjKv5xd0Y?si=Cv6yV5IHookM-JRx

Dr. Marks https Acknowledging and Managing Implicit Bias

https://youtu.be/toQCvWpyJXI?si=0JmvZXHpSDJP9ntQ

Link to JOHARI WINDO https://www.christinacarophd.com/s-projects-basic

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

In this short episode we pull together what we have learned over the past four episodes about Carl Jung’s “Judging” cognitive function and apply it to a holistic decision-making model called “The Z Model”

📖 Explore More: 

Z-Model for Data Collection and Decision Making: https://www.christinacarophd.com/s-projects-basic

Start with the four Judging Functions episodes to this series:

“Structured Impact: The Extroverted Thinking Brain” https://youtu.be/sclVYpx_Qjg

“Inner Algorithms: The Introverted Thinking Brain”  https://youtu.be/n6uFQou0rq4

“Connected Harmony: The Extroverted Feeling Brain” https://youtu.be/M3L6UNJizY4

“Inner Compass: The Introverted Feeling Brain” https://youtu.be/aRb5wcmoCWw

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

This is the 8th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world.  Episode 8 in the series explores the Inner Compass “Judging” function of Feeling in the Introverted (or inward) orientation. 

📖 Explore More: 

“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz

“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm

“Psychological Types” Carl Jung https://a.co/d/8SnnCwN

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

Hunger Games Clip: https://youtu.be/VGnhtaatRCE?si=qFkaN4XH7K16xaK3

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Movies: The Hunger Games Trilogy (The Hunger Games, Catching Fire, Mockingjay Part 1, Part 2)

CREDITS:

TM & © Lionsgate (2012)

Cast: Jennifer Lawrence, Elizabeth Banks, Josh Hutcherson, Liam Hemsworth, Willow Shields, Paula Malcomson

Director: Gary Ross

Producers: Robin Bissell, Suzanne Collins, Nina Jacobson, Jon Kilik, Aldric La'Auli Porter, Louise Rosner, Chantal Feghali, Martin Cohen, Louis Phillips, Diana Alvarez, Bryan Unkeless

Screenwriters: Suzanne Collins, Gary Ross, Billy Ray

Music: Shape of Lies - Eternal Eclipse https://youtu.be/181DywaS5eY?si=w0hd2_VnkjOKLR7C

Coloring: SunnyVids

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
___________________________________________
Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

This is the 7th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world.  Episode 7 in the series explores the Connected Harmony “Judging” function of Feeling in the Extroverted (or outward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.

📖 Explore More: 

“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz

“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm

“Psychological Types” Carl Jung https://a.co/d/8SnnCwN

Start with the Pre-Episode to this series:

“Myth Buster: Introversion & Extroversion” https://youtu.be/b-gsPg-Mfkw

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

Exercise: Extroverted Feeling (Fe)

If you had an apple, what decision could you make about the apple that would benefit the most people?

For Extroverted Feeling types struggling with boundaries, we recommend our Playlist on Boundaries:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg_3lbIOBUhkBa_2SZ8gHCI4uo_4qgoLj&si=oIZomI5DXUbJ0_cW

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
___________________________________________
Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

This is the 6th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world.  Episode 6 in the series explores the Inner Algorithms “Judging” function of Thinking in the Introverted (or inward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.

📖 Explore More: 

“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz

“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just Not You” by Roger R. Pearman & Sarah C Albritton, https://a.co/d/fPUThLE

“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm

“Psychological Types” Carl Jung https://a.co/d/8SnnCwN

Start with the Pre-Episode to this series:
“Myth Buster: Introversion & Extroversion” https://youtu.be/b-gsPg-Mfkw

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

Exercise: Extroverted Thinking (Ti)

Take 4 apples. Reflect internally on a logical framework for organizing the apples? What could be alternatives if a variable changed? 

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
___________________________________________
Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

This is the 5th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world.  Episode 5 in the series explores Structured Impact “Judging” function of Thinking in the Extroverted (or outward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.

📖 Explore More: 

“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz

“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just Not You” by Roger R. Pearman & Sarah C Albritton, https://a.co/d/fPUThLE

“Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types” By David Keirsey.

https://a.co/d/bPSRl7Z

“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm

Start with the Pre-Episode to this series:

“Myth Buster: Introversion & Extroversion” https://youtu.be/b-gsPg-Mfkw

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

Exercise: Extroverted Thinking (Te)

Take 4 apples. Use objective criteria to decide on a logical order for the apples?

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
___________________________________________
Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

In this short episode we pull together what we have learned over the past four episodes about the Jungian “Perceiving” cognitive function and apply it to a holistic data-collection and decision-making model called “The Z Model”

📖 Explore More: 

Z-Model for Data Collection: https://www.christinacarophd.com/s-projects-basic

“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz

“Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types” By David Keirsey.

https://a.co/d/bPSRl7Z

“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm

Start with the Pre-Episode to this series:

“Myth Buster: Introversion & Extroversion” https://youtu.be/b-gsPg-Mfkw

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
___________________________________________
Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...

"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

This is the 4th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world.  Episode 4 in the series explores the Inner Vision perceiving function of iNtuition in the Introverted (or inward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.

📖 Explore More: 

“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz

“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just Not You” by Roger R. Pearman & Sarah C Albritton, https://a.co/d/fPUThLE

“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm

Start with the Pre-Episode to this series:

“Myth Buster: Introversion & Extroversion” https://youtu.be/b-gsPg-Mfkw

Free Online Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com

• Think about your “shoes off” self.
• If you are over 50 years old, think about what felt most like you between the ages of 26-40

Personality Hacker Training: https://personalityhacker.com

Exercise 1: Introverted iNtuition (Ni)

Reflect on the apple. What associations, meaning, symbolism do you perceive as you contemplate the apple?

Exercise 2: Dominant vs Non-Dominant functions

Start with your dominant hand and sign your name.

Switch to your non-dominant hand and sign your name.

What did you notice?

• How does the signature visually compare? Which looks more mature?
• How much did you have to think about how to hold the pen?
• How quickly or slowly did you sign your name?
• How did it feel to use your preferred hand versus your non-preferred hand?

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
___________________________________________
Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...