Simply Human

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Reframing is a core skill for gaining personal mastery in your professional and personal life. In part 2 of Reframe, Karen will take you through three easy steps to go from a frame that may be over personalizing to a frame that has a broader, more curious perspective. In future episodes we will cover other reframing strategies. 

🔥 Why Watch This Episode?

✅ You tend to over-personalize.

✅ You get stuck in thinking its must be me, me, me.

✅ You want to develop more flexibility in how you view a situation.

📖 Explore More: 

Invisibilia (NPR): Frames of Reference. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/invisibilia/id953290300?i=1000372115575

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

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"Text us your thoughts and questions!"

Reframing is a core skill for gaining personal mastery in your professional and personal life. In this Quick Hit, Karen will take you through three easy steps to go from a frame that may be over personalizing to a frame that has a broader, more curious perspective. In future episodes we will cover other reframing strategies. 

🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?

✅ You tend to over-personalize.

✅ You get stuck in thinking its must be me, me, me.

✅ You want to develop more flexibility in how you view a situation.

📖 Explore More: 

The Four Agreements,  by Don Miguel Ruiz https://a.co/d/80eyN40

Stop taking things personally. In his book, The Four Agreements,  Don Miguel Ruiz notes that most of the things we experience in the world aren’t directed toward us, though we assume they are.  Instead, we should consider the likelihood that the situation had nothing to do with us: perhaps the person who made that comment was having a bad day or is struggling with some personal challenges or past traumas—or just lacks emotional intelligence or social grace? 

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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When confronted with trying and stressful times, be a leader in your team, family, organization, or community by learning how to plan and prepare for group resilience. We will cover six keys to start you off in planning for team and group success.

🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?

✅ You're feeling stressed by events going on in the world.

✅ You want to feel empowered to contribute to your group.

✅ You want help in starting a plan to help your team or community develop resilience.

📖 EXPLORE MORE: 

Community Emergency Response Team: https://www.fema.gov/emergency-managers/individuals-communities/preparedness-activities-webinars/community-emergency-response-team

Six Secrets to Resilience:

-YouTube https://youtu.be/z3gFkkfH7Eo

-Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/simply-human/id1734365912

-Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4eGa5X7idP48vkuoX956Cm?si=1f15cd34c82e431e

Victor Frankl, “Man’s Search for Meaning” https://a.co/d/2ey6Kcn

RESEARCH

“Social Support and Resilience to Stress” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2921311/

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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Have you invested in your “bounce back” capacity? In this episode we dive into six core secrets to resilience—those powerful, often overlooked strategies that enable us to bounce back from life's toughest challenges. From cultivating a growth mindset to harnessing the power of community, we'll explore practical tips and inspiring stories that will help you build the inner fortitude to not just survive, but thrive. Join us as we reveal how to turn adversity into opportunity and unlock your full potential. 

***Unhelpful Trigger Warning1*** Example of random act of violence and sexual assault is mentioned in this episode.

🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?

✅ Most adults don’t actively cultivate resilience but need to.

✅ The level of stress in today’s society is at an all time high.

✅ Cultivating resilience is a critical factor in sustaining mental and physical well-being.

📖 Explore More: 

IMPACT Self Defense and Empowerment https://www.impactpersonalsafety.com

RESEARCH

“Social Support and Resilience to Stress” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2921311/

“Relationship between Spirituality and Resilience and Wellbeing” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9918825/#:~:text=Data%20revealed%20that%20spirituality%20was,Index%20scores%2C%20and%20childhood%20adversity.

“Why does it take humans so long to mature compared to other animals” https://news.vanderbilt.edu/2018/10/30/why-does-it-take-humans-so-long-to-mature-compared-to-other-animals-look-to-your-neurons/

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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In this episode of "Triggered," we dive into the psychology behind what happens when we're triggered. Triggers are emotional responses often rooted in past experiences, and they can suddenly evoke intense feelings, whether it's anger, fear, or sadness. We explore how these automatic reactions manifest in our minds and bodies and discuss practical strategies to build resilience. 

🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?

✅ Trying to tell people to stop triggering you isn't working.

✅ "Trigger Warnings" are not reducing your anxiety.

✅ You want to be more skillful and empowered to manage being reactive.

📖 Explore More: 

Review of research on neutral or negative impact of trigger warnings: 

https://www.usnews.com/news/health-news/articles/2023-10-17/are-trigger-warnings-useless-new-study-says-yes#:~:text=The%20researchers%20found%20that%20while,they%20sometimes%20drew%20folks%20in.

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/trigger-warnings-fail-to-help.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-and-the-pursuit-leadership/201808/harvard-study-trigger-warnings-might-coddle-the

Body Language

Behavioral Arts (videos on body language): Elon Musk-BBC interview: https://youtu.be/CibeGsltT_8?si=9k53ZKHYXDR8QBad

Pelvic Floor Relaxation Exercise: https://www.christinacarophd.com/_files/ugd/5a6fb6_d701d2e5d2eb4b4b9aee8f26b12ea419.pdf

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Viewer question: What do you do when someone won't take "No" for an answer? Everyone has been in this situation at one time or another. This is a quick-hit video pulling together and applying everything we have covered on boundaries, self-trust, curiosity, and managing conflicts.

🔥 Episode Key Points:
✅ A.. Get clear on all three parts of your boundary.
✅ B.  Align with a value on honesty and truthfulness.
✅ C.  Commit to being someone YOU trust.
✅ D.  Adopt a curiosity frame.
✅ E.  Meet the person's zealous advocacy of their agenda with compassion or even humor.
✅  If the person persists beyond reason, return to boundaries with focus on leg 2 & 3, use Advocacy with Inquiry.
✅  If your No was wishy washy and you give in, own that choice, learn from the outcome rather than nursing resentment, and have compassion for yourself if it was the wrong choice.

📖 Explore More: The following Simply Human episodes cover many of the foundational skills mentioned in this episode:

Boundaries: https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg
Values: https://youtu.be/tP776EDXMBE
Self-Trust: https://youtu.be/sM5SeyYJwCY
Boundary Buster- People Pleasing:
You Aant to Stop Avoiding Conflict - Now What?: https://youtu.be/oPBId3fVLZo?si=Ms8D4L-hXcWlP1EE

For Parenting: Love and Logic Resources: https://www.loveandlogic.com/collections/parents

Mindfulness Resources:
****Five Mindfulness Myths: https://youtu.be/DD-rY0XNSZE?si=48fS2F6wPdoO40Kq

****The Noticing Switch: https://youtu.be/JUi0R1QSl9k?si=lExjPnYE4v83mVjh

****Everyday Mindfulness (5 min): https://youtu.be/QTsUEOUaWpY?si=nQurD7i-1P-B0EQy

Calm Ap (Some insurance companies provide free membership) http://calm.com

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Are you constantly feeling guilty when you try to set limits? In this eye-opening episode, we unravel why we experience guilt and how excessive guilt can sneakily sabotage your personal boundaries, leaving you overwhelmed, anxious, and stretched too thin. Discover the secrets to recognizing unhelpful guilt and unlearning the stories and beliefs that interfere with your ability to reclaim your right to say "no" without the weight of remorse. Tune in to learn how to protect your peace and stand firm with confidence!

🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?

✅ Learn how maladaptive “guilt” undermines boundaries.

✅ Understand why we experience guilt in adaptive and maladaptive ways.

✅ Understand the mental health costs of maladaptive guilt.

✅ Review helpful practices to reduce maladaptive guilt and strengthen healthy boundaries.

📖 Explore More: The following Simply Human episodes cover many of the foundational skills mentioned in this episode. You can find the title on the show page or watch on YouTube:

Boundaries: https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg

Values: https://youtu.be/tP776EDXMBE

Self-Trust: https://youtu.be/sM5SeyYJwCY

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Why do we have a burning desire to FIT IN?  For most of us, our brains are wired that way.  In this episode, we tackle the truth about fitting in and the shifts you can make to overcome its emotional and psychological costs that is adding to your exhaustion.  

🔥 Why Watch This Episode?
✅ Learn how to “fitting in” often leads to erosion of boundaries.
✅ Discover how internal drive and external factors, like culture, create a subconscious pressure to fit in. 
✅ Understand the emotional and psychological costs of fitting in.
✅ Review helpful practices to choose authenticity and healthy boundaries.

📖 Explore More: The following Simply Human YouTube episodes cover many of the foundational skills mentioned in this episodes (also available where you get your podcast):

Boundaries: https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg
External Validation Trap: https://youtu.be/ATK5db_JL2M
Values: https://youtu.be/tP776EDXMBE
Self-Trust: https://youtu.be/sM5SeyYJwCY

Books, articles, and podcasts:
“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/

"How the Need to Belong Drives Human Behavior" Interview with Professor Geoffrey Cohen. American Psychological Association
https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/human-behavior

“The Courage to Be” By Paul Tillich, https://a.co/d/gVvunpP 

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🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

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Viewers have reached out and asked for additional ideas on how to improve interpersonal boundaries when they self-identify as being a “people pleaser.”  Karen and I will review what people-pleasing traits are most problematic, what influences development of these traits and behaviors, how these behaviors interfere with effective boundaries, and what practices can get you on a better path.

🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?

✅ Learn to recognize People Pleasing in yourself.

✅ Develop “cognitive dissonance” to motivate behavior change.

✅ Refresher on the three parts of effective boundaries.

✅ Learn helpful practices to people-pleasing boundary busting behavior.

📖 Explore More: The following Simply Human episodes cover many of the foundational skills mentioned in this episode:

Boundaries: https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg

External Validation Trap: https://youtu.be/ATK5db_JL2M

Values: https://youtu.be/tP776EDXMBE

Self-Trust: https://youtu.be/sM5SeyYJwCY

Conflict Skills: https://youtu.be/oPBId3fVLZo

Recommended Reading: 
“The Power of a Positive No” by William Ury https://a.co/d/8NPokks

“Getting Unstuck” with Pema Chödron https://a.co/d/5qu26A9

Episode Handout: https://www.christinacarophd.com/s-projects-basic

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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Join us for the latest installment of “Conflict Mastery Skills” as we tackle the challenge of how to avoid getting pulled into conflict due to projection and baiting. Despite our best intentions, we all can get drawn into a conflict when we are dealing with people who fling monkey poo (project) and toss chum (bait us into reactivity). Learning how to recognize when these dynamics are present and what you can do instead will help you stay calm, confident, and able to deal with conflict provoking people.

🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?

✅ Learn how to recognize the warning signs of projections

✅ Learn how to recognize the warning signs of baiting

✅ Learn what personal master skills can best serve you to overcome getting covered in monkey poo and hooked by chum.

📖 Explore More: The following Simply Human YouTube episodes cover many of the foundational skills mentioned in this episode:

Values: https://youtu.be/tP776EDXMBE

Curiosity: https://youtu.be/7mvnwDT9-3A

Boundaries: https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-Yg

Check/challenge assumptions: https://youtu.be/d4ssF4EwV2k

Advocacy with Inquiry: https://youtu.be/oPBId3fVLZo

Awareness Exercise: Create a list of your "buttons." What button trigger you to be provoked into an argument? Shame, guilt, blame, having to be right, labels like "selfish" "gullible" "snowflake", or certain tones? What vulnerabilities cause you to wear a velcro suit: over-responsible, guilt, over-conscientious, insecurity?

🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:
Email: [email protected]

👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connect

https://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)
https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)
https://www.christinacarophd.com (Psychotherapy/Organization Development)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-lynskey-67794/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachcaro/
https://www.instagram.com/selftrustcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/christinacarophd

Members: Asian American Podcasters Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aapodcasters/about

👍 Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on being Simply Human.✨

(c) 2024, 2025 Karen Lee Lynskey & Christina Caro
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