Simply Separated Podcast

• In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Emma Hamlin from Change Makers Press.  
   In this episode we talk about: 
• Emma’s book, ‘Change Makers’, a collection of stories written by Women speaking on transformation.
• Emma is passionate about the promotion of women and their stories.
• Emma’s shares her story of a difficult divorce, and how this experience created an appreciation of transformation.
• The stigma of divorce and how Emma managed this within her social networks.
• Following her separation, Emma struggled with both physical and mental health challenges.
• Publishing Company, ‘Change Maker Press’ was born out of Emma’s adversity and continues to grow.
• Emma’s focus has shifted to authenticity, honesty and openness.
• The importance of being true to yourself in all interactions – including divorce.
• Emma’s tips for the separation process when children are involved.
• Life following a divorce for Emma.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Emma Hamlin. 

Links: 
Purchase ‘Change Makers’ ebook from Amazon 
Purchase ‘Change Makers’ Hardcopy 
Emma’s LinkedIn 

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Lucy from Head and Heart Estate Planning. 

In this episode we talk about: 

• Considerations parents need to make when starting the separation process in regards to Wills and Estates.
• Take the advice of your family lawyer and update your Will and Estate.
• Lucy uses an example of a previous client to show the importance of being prepared.
• Lucy explains that the Court only considers evidence, so being proactive in updating your evidence is essential.
• Lucy discusses Joint tenancy and Estate Planning.
• The format of a basic Will and busting some of the Myths 
  Explaining, in detail, to the Executor of your Will practical process’.
• Lucy explains Legal Guardianship and the difference legally binding and wishes.
• The roles of an Executor vs a Legal Guardian and what they need to know about your children.
• Lucy shares multiple reasons why you would change your Will.
• The cost involved in Estate planning vs a day in Court  
  Lucy is Wise in her work, Happy in her family life and Kind in all other aspects of life.

Sit back and enjoy this important interview with Lucy Percy.  
 

Links:

Head and Heart Estate Planning. 
 

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast we had the opportunity to hear from Benjamin Goddard, general manager of ‘Holding Hands Family Services’. We discuss the practical process of attending a supervised parental visit as well as the emotional effects on all parties that is considered by Holding Hands Family Services.

In this episode we talk about:

The services that Holding Hands provides to families

• The importance of a child maintaining safe and supportive contact with both their parents.
• Benjamin explains that due to time separated from a parent, a child may have anxiety or concerns about seeing that parent.
• The role of a contact supervisor during a family meeting.
• Every family comes with their own narrative and is treated as such.
• Holding Hands works with both parents to set up meetings on neutral territory.
• Benjamin explains how the assigned contact supervisor builds a relationship with the child prior to any meetings.
• Cassandra shares some of the concerns she receives from her clients as a family lawyer.
• Holding Hands provides comprehensive visit reports following each meeting.
• Benjamin explains how visit locations are selected and the process of change over between parents to avoid contact.
• With current restrictions due to Covid-19, Benjamin explains the current process of online contact and what this looks like for parents and children.
• The minor details that are considered in video chats at the live-in parents’ home.
• Time is defined as contact and in an age of technology, we are able to keep contact throughout this unprecedented time.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Benjamin Goddard.

Links:

Holding Hands Family Services

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Mediator and Divorce Coach Anne-Marie Cade from Divorce Right. Anne-Marie’s point of difference is divorce coaching. This un-common approach is helpful to clients who need emotional support throughout the separation process.

In this episode we talk about:

• Anne-Marie explains the process of using a Divorce Coaching Service.
• Divorce coaching deals with the practical and emotional aspect of divorce.
• Anne-Marie teaches her clients to ‘Respond rather than React.’
• Understanding the process of divorce and the emotional impact it can have on individuals
• Anne-Marie encourages her clients to be aware of self-care and mindfulness
• Anne-Marie works with divorce lawyers as well as their clients to help them cope with the Divorce process.
• Parenting coordination is a dispute resolution process focused solely on children during separation.
• The best time to get in contact with a Divorce Coach.
• The advantage of working with a Divorce Coach as well as a Divorce Lawyer
• Divorce coaching is focused on the positive outcome, rather than the negative process
• Anne-Marie has seen the effect of the societal expectation of marriage and divorce on her clients
• The importance of communication throughout all aspects of the divorce process.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Divorce Coach Anne-Marie Cade.

Links:

Divorce Right 

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, I had the pleasure of intervening my good friend Rachel Hempling. Rachel has just launched a new online product which de-mystifies the whole family law system.

In this episode we also spoke about:

• Rachel’s transition from a Barrister to a Family Law Mediator and why she was drawn to family law mediation.
• Rachel, in the last 18 months, has created an online course and she explains its benefits
• Rachel’s course address’ issues like shared parental holidays
• Online Mediation has become popular for Rachel’s clients as accessibility to services is more difficult for those living in regional areas
• Access and what to expect of Rachel’s online course
• Legal terms can be confusing and Rachel’s course helps define the process
• Online Mediation is new concept. It runs for 4 hours and Rachel explains the process for separating clients
• Shortcutting the process of Court, when appropriate, by using online and amicable solutions have become a passion for Rachel.

Sit back and enjoy this interview with Rachel Hempling

Links:

Contact Rachel Hempling

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Solicitor, ICL lawyer and Mediator Kelly Stanford. Kelly owns her own practice, Stanford Solicitors and Conveyancers. She has a passion for people and the law that affects them. In this helpful episode, Kelly talks us through the Mediation process as well as some tips for dealing with a Separation.

In this episode we also discuss:

• Kelly’s role in her legal practice
• What is involved in being a Mediator and why it is important
• Kelly explains her mantra of ‘Living separately but parenting together’.
• The cons of going to Court rather than pursuing mediation
• Kelly’s experience of working with clients in the court system
• Matters of the heart – parenting matters vs property matters
• The process of working with Kelly during a Mediation, from start to finish
• Kelly’s role in mediation and her tips for getting through this tough time
• The role of communication and listening in a mediation
• Kelly talks us through the average time it takes to complete a mediation
• The percentage of people happy with the outcome of a Mediation
• The importance of knowing family goals prior to a mediation.

Sit back and enjoy this informative episode with Kelly Stanford.

Links:

Contact Kelly Stanford 

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from one of our own Solicitors here, at Kalpaxis Legal, Liam Chellin.

Liam is known as our court advocate with strong problem-solving qualities and analytical skills. The idea of going to be Court can be daunting so Liam talks us though what to expect, what is required of you and some tips for streamlining the process.

In this episode we talk about:

• Liam explains what is means to go to Court and how to manage our expectations of the Court system
• What can be expected at when sitting in a Courtroom
• Liam explains the term ICL (Independent Children’s Lawyer)
• Liam’s Role, as a Solicitor, when working through a Court matter
• Liam’s tips approaching a day in Court
• Attending Court is required for all those in the litigation process
• The do’s and do-not’s when attending Court
• Liam’s perspective on ‘winning’ at Court
• The effect that Court can have on both children and future parenting matters
• Here at Kalpaxis Legal we aim for ADR (Alternative Dispute Resolution) and why Court should be avoided

Sit back and enjoy this informative episode with Liam Chellin

Links:

Contact Liam Chellin 

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from clinical psychologist Gemma Cribb. Gemma has focused her clinical studies on being single and living the best single life following separation.

n this episode we talk about:

• Gemma is a clinical psychologist in the middle of the Sydney CBD
• Gemma noticed a trend of depression and anxiety around becoming single which motivated her study into the single mentality
• What it means to be single in the modern age
• Societal attitudes toward marriage and the pressures of getting married
• Gemma’s thoughts and perspective on divorce and separation
• Gemma offers advice around respect in relationships post separation
• The effect that social media pressures have had on modern relationships
• Gemma’s tips for overcoming social pressures and expectations of marriage and relationships
• Gemma’s recommended coping mechanisms during a relationship break-up
• Managing amicable and non-amicable situations
• Gemma’s three ‘do not do’s’ when going through a separation
• Where and when those separating should seek advice from a clinical psychologist

Sit back and enjoy this interesting episode with Gemma Cribb

Links:

Equilibrium Psychologists

Contact Gemma Cribb LinkedIn

Purchase Gemma’s Book ‘Doing Single Well’ 

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from family counsellor Alison Maltby. Alison shares practical tips on the separation process and how family or child counselling can help the separation run smoothly and amicably. Counselling during separation for families and children.

In this episode we talk about:

• Alison is an expert in Counselling, Family Dispute Resolution, Mediation and is also a child consultant
• Her passion in life has been to connect the family law sector to counselling services
• Alison’s focus over the last 4 years has been in the family dispute resolution and family Mediation and she has recently become Director of ‘Relating as Us’
• The pathway to counselling and Alison’s advice for those who have recently separated
• Alison is also a child counselling consultant and uses these skills to help parents find the best resolution pathway for children
• Grief and the impact it has on our decision making process during separation
• The effect of separation on a child and how Alison helps to give children a voice during the separation process
• The most common message from children, in Alison’s experience, in relation to parents separating
• The advantages of seeing a family counsellor and the step by step process
• Alison’s top three tips for those who are separating
• Domestic violence-related separations and how Alison handles such cases
• Alison explains the Section 60i certificate
• Alison’s advice around communicating with a previous spouse

Sit back and enjoy this informative episode with Alison Maltby

Links:

Family Law Pathways Network upcoming events

Relating as us 

Connect with Alison Maltby

In this week’s episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Kellie Scott who is a Journalist for ABC Life. Kellie has had a personal experience with Separation and Divorce and shares not only her own experience but the social changes that she has seen as a journalist.

In this episode we talk about:

• Kellie Scott is a Journalist for ABC Life
• Kellie gives us her thoughts on divorce in our modern society
• The stigma attached to Divorce, especially for those separating after a few years of marriage
• Kellie’s experience of marriage breakdowns and the effect they have on us
• Kellie’s personal experience of divorce and the perception from society
• The way we perceive divorce in our current day and age compared to 20 years ago
• Kellie has written an article and shares some experiences from women she has interviewed
• Personal empowerment that Kellie has seen following separation and divorce
• Kellie’s perspective on how the broader community deals with divorce
• According to her research, Kellie has found that divorce can spark happiness and self-worth in some circumstances

Sit back and enjoy this interesting episode with Journalist Kellie Scott

Links:

Kellie Scott’s LinkedIn

ABC Life