Simply Separated Podcast

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Lenore Pearson, author, transformational coach and holistic counsellor.

In this episode we talk about:

• Lenore is a wife and mum three kids, a wholistic counsellor and meditation therapist.
• Lenore shares how she came to be in her profession after her own personal struggles in life.
• Lenore’s saw an unrecognisable version of herself and went looking for answers.
• Lenore’s book, ‘Self Ashored’, shows us the importance of knowing ourselves first.
• Transformational Coaching works through three elements - Mastery, Alignment and Rebellion.
• Keeping alignment with your Core Values when making decisions.
• Lenore’s three biggest learnings from the past 2 years.
• Wholistic counselling and meditation.
• If we are not aware of it, fear can easily take over the driving seat of our lives.
• True fear triggers our stress response, but false fear manifests as anxiety and worry.
• The importance of meditation and Lenore’s tips for breathing to relieve stress responses.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Lenore Pearson.

Links:

Lenore Pearson

Lenore’s Instagram

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In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Mitch Ping from Mitch Ping Coaching.

In this episode we talk about:

• How Mitch came to be a high-performance coach.
• Mitch’s personal experience of making a mindset shift and how he encourages others to do the same.
• “The things that you run away from are the things you run into”
• Mitch’s perspective on goals and how we can clarify them
• Mitch’s top mindfulness tips.
• We all live based on a set of values. Knowing your individual values is important.
• “Wake up and do the thing that you like first” - motivation tip from Mitch.
• The soccer (or football) analogy and its correlation to separation.
• Be clear on what you want in a relationship and what you would don’t
• Write down the disadvantages of what you want and what you don’t want to bring clarity to your choices.  

 Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Mitch Ping.

Links:

Mitch Ping Coaching

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from financial advisor Alison Kaigan from Square Blue.

In this episode we talk about:

• Square Blue is a cashflow and saving program.
• Alison is passionate about helping others become financially independent.
• The cost, and process involved in using the Square Blue program.
• The use of Facebook to create a community of money savers.
• A day in the life of a financial advisor.
• In the context of separation, Alison gives her top 3 tips around money.
• Understand your possessions and knowing your numbers
• Considering insurance, death benefits and superannuation.
• Alison’s day to day advice for us saving money.
• We should all have a cash reserve of 3 months of spending.
• Alison encourages to have a regular savings plan.
• Bring clear on your future so you can save accordingly.
• Financial advice does not need to be complicated, but find someone you trust.
• Alison’s final word on saving and spending in the context of Separation.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Alison Kaigan.

Links:

Square Blue

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Australia's Leading Love and Relationship Expert, Dr Lurve.

In this episode we talk about:

• A day in the life of Dr Lurve.
• Dr Lurve’s niche is helping people overcome hurt quickly.
• After staring at a sex clinic, Dr Lurve found her passion for helping others in their relationships.
• The importance of connecting with ourselves when going through difficult relationships.
• The biggest challenges faced by separating parties.
• Dr Lurve explains how to navigate the stages of grief.
• The impact a messy separation has on children.
• Defining ‘cheating’ and the difference in boundaries we all have.
• Answering the question of - ‘How do I move on from this?’.
• Seeing the red flags in your relationship.
• Dr Lurve shares her experience with behaviour modification.
• The advantages of seeking help prior to legal separation proceedings.
• A psychologist can give a much-needed reality check on your relationships.  
• Dr Lurve’s tips for recognising you are in a  toxic relationship.
• The signs of abuse, including physical, emotional and psychological.
• The implications of staying in a toxic relationship.
• The danger in establishing a new normal and romanticising a toxic relationship.
• Dr lurve’s tips for finding a healthy relationship.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Dr Lurve.

Links:

Dr Lurve

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast we had the opportunity to hear from Barrister, Coach and Mediator, Louise Mathias.

In this episode we talk about:

• The meaning of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR).
• The significant of emotional intelligence and self-awareness in the separation process.
• When the amygdala side of our brain takes over.
• Working with Louise during a family Dispute Resolution (FDR).
• The differences between ADR, Mediation and FDR.
• Louise walks us through how the first session plays out.
• The importance of being herd, as a client, to reach a dispute resolution.
• Louise is a Barrister, however was drawn to ADR as the process aligns with her values.
• Louise’s time at Harvard University advancing her negotiation and conflict handling skills.
• The human element needs to be considered first and the law second.
• Our most powerful tool in a dispute resolution process.
• The role lawyers play in the language they use during a divorce settlement.
• The future for ADR and FDR.
• Louise’s tops tips for separating couples.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Louise Mathias.

Links:

Contact Louise Mathias

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from George Kapos who is Principal of McGrath's Bankstown office.

In this episode we talk about:

• George is the Principal and has been in the real-estate business for 22 years.
• The real-estate trends since COVID-19, compared to recent years.
• Buyers have pulled back so there is less competition but also not as many sellers.
• Adjusting life to accommodate the changes brought by COVID-19.
• Tips for selecting the correct Real-estate agent for your needs.
• Focus on process and strategy rather than commission comparisons.
• George explains market appraisals.
• The biggest mistakes separating couples make when selling an asset.
• Consider the market when selling a home.
• George’s predictions for the real-estate market in the upcoming months.
• Investment in property vs interest rates.
• George explains the cycle of real-estate and reminds us it is a long-term game.
• George give us insight into re-investing after COVID-19.
• Preparation is the key when looking to invest in real-estate.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with George Kapos.

Links:

Contact George Kapos

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Dr Aileen Alegado, Clinical Psychologist and owner of Mindset Psychology.

In this episode we talk about:

• Dr. Aileen focus’ on mental health in high performing professionals at Mindset Psychology.
• The stressors that are placed on lawyers and some tools we can use to improve ourselves.
• Sleep, diet and exercise are all key to good mental and physical health.
• Dr Aileen explains burnout and the impact it can have on our bodies.
• Noticing the symptoms of burnout in colleagues.
• Dr. Aileen is passionate about Positive Mindset Practices.
• Instilling positive messages and gratitude practices and all help in promoting a positive mindset.
• The fight or flight mechanism.
• The power of boundaries in our professional careers.
•  Dr. Aileen shares the importance of being clear about the reason you are working.
• In order to do good work, you need to be ok first.
• Assertiveness communication as a method of conflict resolution.
• Both passive and aggressive communication are destructive to client relationships.
• Connection to clients is paramount to make them feel safe and herd.
• Dr Aileen shares her top three tips to foster and manage client relationships.
• The ‘Coping through COVID’ book Dr. Aileen has written.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Dr Aileen Alegado.

Links:

Dr Aileen Alegado

Mindset Psychology

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from the Parramatta Women's Shelter.

In this episode we talk about:

• Parramatta Women's Shelter and how Liz Scully came to be involved.
• The Role of the Parramatta Women's Shelter in the local community.
• Tania Smith shares what a day at the shelter looks like.
• 33 Women and Children are currently housed at the shelter.
• The application process.
• The additional strain women are experiencing during the Covid-19 pandemic.
• 40% reportable increase in domestic violence during COVID.
• Connecting to a Domestic Violence Hotline.
• At Parramatta Women's Shelter, you will be herd.
• The criteria for seeking Domestic Violence support.
• Homeless' is common with women who are coming through the Parramatta Women's Shelter.
• The list of items to bring with you when leaving a DV situation.
• The shelter is always looking for donations of gift vouchers.
• More than 1 in 2 women in the last year are turned away from crisis accommodation every night.
• Domestic violence is the number 1 cause of death in the age bracket of 15-44.
• Domestic Violence needs a community response and Tania asks us to speak up when we notice women in crisis.
• The shelter provides an inspirational, strong and caring environment.

Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with these two wonderful women. 
 
Links:

Domestic Violence Hotline  
Parramatta Women's Shelter 

In this episode of the Simply Separated Podcast, we had the opportunity to hear from Shelby Timmins from Divorce Done Differently.  

In this episode we talk about: 

• Divorce Done Differently focus’ on Mediation for separating families.
• The difference between being a family lawyer and a Mediator.
• Mediation gives Shelby a greater sense of helping families going through a separation.
• Shelby explains the process of Mediation.
• The myths and the advantages of Mediation.
• Shelby explains why the Litigious process (Court) is more restrictive than Mediation.
• Shelby is passionate about protecting both sides emotionally and mentally.
• Mediation is the best process for most separating couples as it is much more flexible.
• The effect of COVID-19 restrictions have had on the Mediation process.
• Shelby explains virtual break-out rooms and privacy during an online Mediation.
• Document drafting and why Mediation results in a document.
• Mediation can prepare Shelby’s clients for Court matters if unresolved.
• Shelby shares that Mediation is neutral, family-focused and cost-effective.

 Sit back and enjoy this helpful interview with Shelby Timmins.  
 

Links: 
Divorce Done Differently 
Shelby’s LinkedIn