Single and Not Settling

Breadcrumbs should give you the ICK!!

In this episode, I open up about the evolution of Single and Not Settling and the deeper direction this space is moving towards. I share why I feel called to help women build self-worth, emotional safety, confidence and standards that naturally make low effort behaviour unattractive.

This conversation is for women who are exhausted by mixed signals, breadcrumbs and modern dating dynamics that leave them disconnected from themselves.

Inside this episode:

* Why traditional dating advice no longer resonates.

* The emotional gap many women are feeling in modern dating.

* Healing the part of ourselves attracted to inconsistency.

* Why breadcrumbs and low effort should naturally turn you off.

* Why healing can actually make dating feel harder.

* Creating a life rooted in peace, alignment and self-respect.

This episode is the beginning of a new chapter for Single and Not Settling — one focused less on “how to get chosen” and more on becoming deeply connected to yourself.

Because the goal isn’t just finding love. It’s never losing yourself in the process.

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Ready to feel empowered about your finances?

In this conversation, I sit down with a Conscious CFO, FCPA and Holistic Executive Coach, Laura Symmonds to talk about something that impacts so many single women right now — money, independence, and learning to take control of your finances without fear or shame.

This episode is not about panic. It’s about empowerment, confidence, and creating safety within yourself.

If you’ve ever avoided looking at your bank account, felt overwhelmed by the rising cost of living, or wondered how to build financial confidence on one income… this conversation is for you.

• Why financial pressure can feel heavier for single women.
• The emotional side of money and avoiding your numbers.
• How to shift from fear and overwhelm into empowerment.
• The importance of understanding your income and expenses.
• Why financial independence is a form of self-trust.
• Multiple income streams and creating more security for yourself.
• Reframing budgeting as freedom instead of restriction.

No one is coming to save you financially — and that isn’t something to fear. It’s an invitation to trust yourself, build confidence, and become the woman who takes control of her future.

This episode is full of practical advice, grounded wisdom, and empowering reminders that you are more capable than you think.

If this episode resonated with you, share it with another woman who needs this conversation right now.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Budgeting templates and money saving tips: https://moneysmart.gov.au/

More information on Index Funds: Don't Stress, Just Invest by Bryce Leske and Alec RenehanEnergy and Money: Love Money, Money Loves You by Sarah McCrumConnect with Laura Symmonds on social media.

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In this episode, I reflect on a recent speaking opportunity with Fuck Up Nights Melbourne and the deeper layers that have unfolded since stepping into more visibility. 

I share the intention behind Single & Not Settling the greater vision moving forward, the message I brought to the stage, and the reality of what happens when you continue to uplevel.

Listen to hear:

- A THANK YOU to this community for your support and messages.

- My recent speaking experience and the message behind Single & Not Settling.

Why I created this platform and the conversations I felt were missing.

- The shadow side of uplevelling and navigating through emotions arising.

- Navigating visibility, recognition, and emotional boundaries.

- How this experience is deepening my mission and impact for single women!

“Uplevelling isn’t just about who you become… it’s about what you’re willing to release to get there.”

If you’re in a season of growth, this one’s for you.

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This episode feels incredibly special… not just because it’sEpisode 50, but because I’m opening up about something deeply personal that I know so many women silently experience.

Today, I’m sharing my journey with HPV.

Did you know that around 80% of women will have HPV at some point in their lives? Yet, it’s something that carries so much shame, confusion, and silence, simply because it’s linked to sex.

In this episode, I’m here to change that narrative. I talk openly about:

- The emotional impact of being diagnosed and navigating the stigma.

- Why "just wait 12 months" didn't feel aligned for me and learning to trust my intuition.

- The steps I took to support my body in clearing the virus naturally.

- The deeper connection between emotional wellbeing, stored energy in the body (especially around the hips and pelvic area).

- How I shifted from fear into empowerment.

This isn’t about rejecting medical advice—it’s aboutadvocating for yourself, tuning into your body, and exploring a more holistic approach alongside professional guidance.

I also share the resources, workshops, and podcasts thatsupported me along the way—because you don’t have to navigate this alone.

If you’re currently going through something similar, oryou’ve ever felt shame around your body or your health… this episode is for you.

You are not alone.Your body is not broken.And healing is possible.

This conversation is about reclaiming your power, your voice, and your trust in yourself.

Thank you for being here with me for 50 episodes.  

This one means everything

Disclaimer:The information shared in this episode is for educational and informational purposes only and is based on my personal experience. I am not a medical professional, and this content is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any condition. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the guidance of a qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding your health or a medical condition.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Dr Doni Wilson - Free Workshops and educational podcast episodes.

The Medicin - Mimi Lindquist and Dr Nathan Riley

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Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

The cost of living is rising… and for single people, it hits differently.

In this honest and heartfelt episode, I open up a conversation that isn’t being spoken about enough — the emotional and financial weight of navigating life on your own in today’s climate.

This isn’t about dating. This is about responsibility, resilience, and the reality of having one income, one decision-maker, and no one else to fall back on financially.

Through a grounded meditation, real talk, and practical financial tips, this episode is here to support you in moving from fear and overwhelm… into clarity, empowerment, and self-trust.

We cover:

• The impact of rising living costs on single people.
• The reality of managing finances on one income.
• Reframing independence as empowerment.
• Practical tips for single women right now!
• What it really means to be an empowered single woman.

You may be doing this on your own… but you are not powerless. This season is calling you to take ownership, trust yourself deeply, and become the woman who creates her own safety, stability, and success.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

You are a Bad Ass at Making Money by Jen Sincero

A Happy Pocket Full of Money by David Cameron Gikandi

She's On the Money

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Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

On this episode of Single and Not Settling, we are sharing a conversation Vanessa Maree was invited to have on the Youtube series, And Carrying On.

Chrissie, the host of And Carrying On also invited Kevin to bring in the male perspective on challenges of dating.

The audio is a bit soft in parts, but we hope you listen to the end as you'll hear:

• The quick fire questions on how you would handle sticky dating scenarios.
• Vanessa Maree does deep into why she created her eBook "The Empowered Single Women" and why it is so valuable.
• A reminder that is is OK to be single.
• What are our own Red Flags and Green Flags.
• The courage it takes to escape a toxic relationship and support avaliable to those who do (Trigger Warning alert).

This is a fun conversation full of perspectives and advice that comes from our real life experiences!

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For collaborations or interviews email [email protected], I love would love to hear from you!

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

Ever felt like you have forgotten how to connect with others or wondered how to ask a question the right way? If so, this episode is for you!

Vanessa Maree has a conversation with Joe Che, the creator behind The Connection Map, the first comprehensive framework of human connection that brings clarity and language to the way we connect in relationships, work and life!

This episode starts with a little life update (I'm manifesting like a boss again!), then we dive into:

• What was happening in Joe's life when he had the idea to create The Connection Map and questioned if love was really enough.
• Guidance on how to ask the right questions on a date! Get the skills for a conversation that flows with ease and confidence (psst, Joe has created an AI bot for this...link in show notes)
• The differences between that 1950's love and modern day love, including dating app data.
• Where to go to meet men and women!
• How to discuss the results of The Connection Map with your partner.
• A conversation Joe recommends having before sexual intimacy using his R.M.S.L technique.
• Is your own lack of self love blocking you from receiving love?

This conversation with leave you with the confidence and hope that you can confidently speak your desires clearly and with clarity, know yourself a little better and understand there is something out there to discover the true compatibility between you and someone you are in the early stages of a relationship with.

To connect with Joe Che and to access his free resources:

Complete The Connection Map: https://www.theconnectionmap.com/

Free Resources: https://www.theconnectionmap.com/category/all-products

Joe's AI Communication Tool:

https://chatgpt.com/g/g-4Fdbbed9h-you-to-i-statement-formula-by-joe-che

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Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" here to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

The story continues with Part 2 of Attachment Bonds...

& it feels so edgy to share!

In this episode of Single and Not Settling, I open up and talk about how I navigated my way through the layers (yes there was more!) and how I discovered that fantasy became a regulation tool.

I break down:

• What I felt in my body when I saw him again and tuned in out what it was communicating to me.
• That line in the sand moment that said "I've released this, I am done."
• A dream where he appeared and the symbolism BLEW MY MIND!
• Where I am at now. Present in my life, loving on myself and embodying my new identity.

This episode is for you if you are DONE with repeating patterns and cycles with the "bad boy" and are ready tune into your body's wisdom, take a look at your wounds and bonds to receive what is truly waiting for you!

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Say "hello" by sending an email to [email protected], I love hearing from you!

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

Have you ever felt deeply attached to someone — even when, logically, you knew the connection wasn’t aligned or going anywhere?

In this episode, I’m unpacking attachment bonds — what they are, why they form so quickly (especially with emotionally unavailable men), and how they can feel magnetic, consuming, and confusing… even when you’re otherwise grounded, self-aware, and doing the work.

I share a very real and recent personal experience that began with a simple moment of silence — a message read but not replied to and how that activated an attachment bond in my nervous system. From there, I take you step-by-step through the exact process I used to move through it, regulate myself, and gently release the attachment.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why attachment bonds are normal (and not a sign that something is “wrong” with you)

- How to calm your nervous system when attachment is activated.

- How we unconsciously hand our power away and how to call it back.

- Why emotionally unavailable men often trigger attachment more strongly.

- The difference between being attached to a person vs being attached to a feeling.

- Cord cutting and energetically speaking to that person.

I also share the grounding phrases that supported me through this process, including:

“I’ve already released this.”“I choose reality.”

And one of the most powerful truths from this experience:

What feels magnetic is often what feels familiar to an old part of us not what is aligned to our future self.

If you’ve ever felt pulled toward someone you knew wasn’t right, this episode will help you understand why and show you how to come back home to yourself with compassion, clarity, and self-trust.

This is only Part 1, there was so much more to share, come back for Part 2!

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Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

New Years Resolutions?....Nope not subscribing to that this year!

Each year we are told to write out our dreams and goals for the New Year, to put in actions steps that make us feel like failures if we did not reach them. But what happens when we are just not feeling it? If 2025 did a number on us and we are still reeling from the pain and heartbreak it brought?

Vanessa Maree lays it out in this episode from her own experience and how she is doing 2026 differently. She also shares:

• Her experience from her first social media troll and what it taught her - ouch but thank you.
• A massive identify evolution and what she has been doing to navigate through it.
• What next? When you are piecing yourself back together you get to decide what that looks and feels like.
• A viral New Years Eve ritual. did she eat the grapes or not?!
• How Vanessa Maree is flipping the script on New Years Resolutions and asking herself a set of questions each month (make sure you write these down!).

The advice for the month is "you do you", simple but also so powerful at the same time.

This one will leave you feeling relieved, calm and trusting that you are not alone in the feelings you are experiencing right now.

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Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Say "hello" by sending an email to [email protected]

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.