The story continues with Part 2 of Attachment Bonds...

& it feels so edgy to share!

In this episode of Single and Not Settling, I open up and talk about how I navigated my way through the layers (yes there was more!) and how I discovered that fantasy became a regulation tool.

I break down:

• What I felt in my body when I saw him again and tuned in out what it was communicating to me.
• That line in the sand moment that said "I've released this, I am done."
• A dream where he appeared and the symbolism BLEW MY MIND!
• Where I am at now. Present in my life, loving on myself and embodying my new identity.

This episode is for you if you are DONE with repeating patterns and cycles with the "bad boy" and are ready tune into your body's wisdom, take a look at your wounds and bonds to receive what is truly waiting for you!

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Say "hello" by sending an email to [email protected], I love hearing from you!

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

Have you ever felt deeply attached to someone — even when, logically, you knew the connection wasn’t aligned or going anywhere?

In this episode, I’m unpacking attachment bonds — what they are, why they form so quickly (especially with emotionally unavailable men), and how they can feel magnetic, consuming, and confusing… even when you’re otherwise grounded, self-aware, and doing the work.

I share a very real and recent personal experience that began with a simple moment of silence — a message read but not replied to and how that activated an attachment bond in my nervous system. From there, I take you step-by-step through the exact process I used to move through it, regulate myself, and gently release the attachment.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why attachment bonds are normal (and not a sign that something is “wrong” with you)

- How to calm your nervous system when attachment is activated.

- How we unconsciously hand our power away and how to call it back.

- Why emotionally unavailable men often trigger attachment more strongly.

- The difference between being attached to a person vs being attached to a feeling.

- Cord cutting and energetically speaking to that person.

I also share the grounding phrases that supported me through this process, including:

“I’ve already released this.”“I choose reality.”

And one of the most powerful truths from this experience:

What feels magnetic is often what feels familiar to an old part of us not what is aligned to our future self.

If you’ve ever felt pulled toward someone you knew wasn’t right, this episode will help you understand why and show you how to come back home to yourself with compassion, clarity, and self-trust.

This is only Part 1, there was so much more to share, come back for Part 2!

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Say "hello" by sending an email to [email protected]

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

New Years Resolutions?....Nope not subscribing to that this year!

Each year we are told to write out our dreams and goals for the New Year, to put in actions steps that make us feel like failures if we did not reach them. But what happens when we are just not feeling it? If 2025 did a number on us and we are still reeling from the pain and heartbreak it brought?

Vanessa Maree lays it out in this episode from her own experience and how she is doing 2026 differently. She also shares:

• Her experience from her first social media troll and what it taught her - ouch but thank you.
• A massive identify evolution and what she has been doing to navigate through it.
• What next? When you are piecing yourself back together you get to decide what that looks and feels like.
• A viral New Years Eve ritual. did she eat the grapes or not?!
• How Vanessa Maree is flipping the script on New Years Resolutions and asking herself a set of questions each month (make sure you write these down!).

The advice for the month is "you do you", simple but also so powerful at the same time.

This one will leave you feeling relieved, calm and trusting that you are not alone in the feelings you are experiencing right now.

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Say "hello" by sending an email to [email protected]

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

This wasn't the episode I planned to record.

I wanted to record an episode to hype up single women at Christmas, reminding you that you are enough, that it is OK to be single and that your life has so much meaning and value. While I still believe that to be true, I didn't have it in me to show up that way this time.

So instead, I am being real with you...more so than usual.

In this episode, I share openly what the past few weeks have brought up for me, the triggers, the quiet grief, the reflection that comes when the year is ending and you find yourself questioning your life's alignment, your choices and where you are right now.

I share why I have pulled away from social media, how a short trip to Byron Bay shifted so much, who showed up back into my life during Mercury Retrograde and the clique advice about being in a "high vibration", "you create your own reality and can change it at any time". Single women are exhausted!

So, if you are ending 2025 feeling reflective, uncertain, and quietly question where you are at, this episode is for you.

No silver linings.

No trying to "fix things"

Just honesty, self compassion and permission to feel it all.

If this episode resonated with you, I would love to hear from you.

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Send an email to [email protected]

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

Recently Vanessa Maree was interviewed by Terri Messenger for the Genius Zone Podcast.

In this transformational episode, Vanessa nudges you to become aware of your own outdated beliefs around love, relationships and being single.

Vanessa Maree shares her Soul Led Confidence pillars to help single women be ok with forming new connections and starting conversations with men (or anyone for that matter)!

Stay til the end when Vanessa Maree takes you through a meditation to remove the old and call in the new!

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

In this episode, Vanessa Maree sits down with the incredible Megan Gourlay, a heart-led matchmaker and the founder of Love With Me. Together, they explore what it really takes to find aligned love in today’s world, from mindset to emotional readiness to the practical steps of matchmaking.

Here’s what we dive into:

• From Corporate to Cupid, Megan opens up about her journey from the corporate world into matchmaking, what pulled her toward love, connection, and helping people meet their person.
• We get real. Megan shares the relationship and dating challenges that cracked her open (including an appearance on a popular dating reality TV show), shifted her path, and ultimately inspired her to guide others into healthier, aligned connections.
• Megan walks us step-by-step through how she gets to know her clients on a deep level. Their values, desires, and references and how she uses that to create intentional, compatible matches instead of surface-level pairings.
• If you’re a single woman who’s exhausted, jaded, or losing faith — Megan offers the grounded, compassionate truth that will help you reconnect to hope, self-worth, and possibility.

Also, stay tuned to the end as Vanessa Mare makes an announcement you do not want to miss!

Get in touch with Megan Gourlay here: www.lovewithme.com.au

Connect with Vanessa Maree and say hello! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

I kick things off with a big heartfelt thank you toeveryone who reached out after my last episode. Your messages honestly meant so much. I give a little update on where I’m at — still moving through some things, but doing okay (promise!).

Then we get into the juicy stuff:

• How to meet men organically! I’m sharing everyday places where you can cross paths with men naturally. Plus, I give you a few simple conversation openers to make that first move feel effortless. Check out more onmy Instagram!

• Of course, the universe is still out here doing her thing…shifting people in and out of my world. I tell a funny story about one of those “good ones” and how I managed to completely stumble over my words (classic me).

• And finally — there’s a new red flag alert! 🚩It’s something that’s happened to me three times now, and every single time…the guy ghosted. So yep, it’s officially a pattern and something every singlewoman needs to know about.

💌 Share this episode with another single woman who needs to hear it — because this one might just save her some emotional energy (and a few eye rolls).

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow the podcast page ⁠⁠⁠⁠@singleandnotsettling.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

This one’s personal. Think of it as my dear diary moment. Raw, real, and unfiltered.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• The latest update on the guy I’ve been dating (and yep, this is the stuff I didn’t share on social media 👀)

• The anxiety, overthinking, and self-awareness spiral thathad me questioning everything.

• Why I’m officially done trying to “figure it all out” orfind the spiritual meaning behind every situation.

• The cliche advice that’s honestly exhausting — from“everything happens for a reason” to burning letters under the full moon.

• What it’s been like to question if I’m even meant to have a relationship in this lifetime.

• Why I’m over the constant pressure to heal, level up, and be “high vibe” before love arrives.

• My new approach moving forward — I’m dating like a man.

• What this means for Single and Not Settling and how theenergy is shifting.

If you’ve ever felt deflated, frustrated, or just over the healing grind, this episode will hit home.

You’re not alone… and maybe it’s time we stop trying so hardto make sense of it all.

Did this episode resonate with you? Let me know as I have something I'm planning that you may want to be part of!

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Or share this episode with a friend who might need to hear it today!

In this grounding and vulnerable conversation, Vanessa Mareesits down with Brad Barnett, a fire dancer, speaker, and man on a mission to be “a beacon of hope for women who have bad stories.”

Brad opens up about his past, including a pivotal momentthat changed how he shows up in relationships and life. He shares his journey from old patterns to self-awareness, and how choosing celibacy has helped him reconnect with his values and purpose.

Together, they unpack:

- What men really mean when they say they’re “too busy”or avoid emotional honesty.

- The importance of communication, respect, and taking accountability.

- Why women should honour themselves as divine beings — the portal of life — and stay discerning in who they allow into their energy.

- What it looks like when a man is genuinely doing the innerwork.

This conversation is a reminder that good men do exist…(evenVanessa Maree was a little lost for words at the end!!) and that healing and respect can come from both sides.

Tune in for a heartfelt conversation about growth, integrity, and the power of self-respect in modern dating and connection.

Connect with Brad and book him for private events:

@bradthefirebender

💌 If you loved this episode, I’d love for you to:

Connect with Vanessa Maree ⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman⁠⁠⁠

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Or share this episode with a friend who might need to hear it today!

Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" ⁠here⁠ to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.

"God showed you who they are — the next step is yours.”

That’s the quote Vanessa Maree is unpacking in today’s episode, along with other ways closure may come to you. This episode isn’t just about dating, but it is about heartbreak, the kind we don’t often talk about: losing friendships.

In this honest and heartfelt chat, Vanessa Maree opens up about:

- The grief of outgrowing friendships as we grow into new versions of ourselves.

- Realising when you have been removed from social media without notice.

- Reflecting and identifying other ways closure comes to you, that is not a conversation or reasons why.  Its the unspoken and observations that appear.

- How to hold the faith by envisioning what you do want your friendships to look and feel like, and creating affirmations to lean on when the grief hits.

By the end of this episode, you’ll feel less alone, lighter, and more anchored in your worth. Because not everyone is meant to walk with you into your next chapter and that’s okay.

So grab a tea, or pop in your headphones on your walk, and let’s talk about the friendships that end… and the freedom that comes after.

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Or share this episode with a friend who might need to hear it today!