Single and Not Settling

Own Your Worth: Empowered Dating for Single Woman.

Recently I was interviewed by Cehrin on her YouTube Series, Sipping on Stories. From building self confidence to embracing being single, Cehrin asked me how single woman can navigate the dating world with confidence, self worth and reclaiming your power.

Of course, there is a sprinkle of spirituality (it is me, of course).

This conversation is full of insights, laughs and inspiration for anyone currently dating or on a pause from it all.

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Check out the interview on YouTube here:

In this episode, I sit down with Liz Ross, a relationship coach specializing in helping neurodiverse women—particularly those with autism or ADHD—navigate the world of dating and relationships.  

We explore what dating looks like for someone with neurodiversity and how unique challenges can impact connections. Liz shares her insights on the importance of clear and healthy communication, inner child work, and family-of-origin healing in building strong relationships.

Whether you’re neurodiverse or not, Liz provides practical tips that anyone can implement to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.  

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 

- How neurodiversity (autism, ADHD) shapes the dating experience.

- The role of inner child and family-of-origin healing in forming healthy connections.

- Practical tools for clear and effective communication in relationships.

- Tips that are valuable for both neurodiverse individuals and neurotypical listeners.  

Tune in to learn how to approach dating with authenticity and compassion — no matter your starting point.  

Ready to transform your dating life? Check out my empowering dating e-book, ⁠"The Empowered Single Woman"  ⁠

Connect with Liz:

Website :https://lizross.com.au/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lizross/

Connect and follow me on Instagram:  @vanessamaree_wingwoman

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In this episode of Single and Not Settling, we are diving deep into the topic of financial independence for single women and why it's essential in today’s world.

First, I’m sharing a little update on my dating life, including a memorable speed-dating experience where I ended up in a hilariously unexpected conversation about…diarrhea (yes, really!).

After a few laughs, we get serious, looking at some critical issues affecting women today. Here’s a breakdown of what we cover:

1. The Importance of Financial Independence
   With rising divorce rates and an increase in domestic violence cases post-COVID in Australia, financial security has become more important than ever for women. I discuss why having a separate bank account—one your partner may not know about—can be a safety net if a relationship takes a negative turn.

2. My Journey to Financial Independence
   From supporting myself as a teenager and buying my first car to making a big leap in 2017 by quitting my job without another lined up, I share how I used savings to take time off, reset, and prioritize my mental health.

3. Standing Strong Through Hardships
   I reflect on a more recent experience in 2023 when I took stress leave after facing resistance from my workplace while caring for my Mum. This time away helped me recognize the importance of financial resilience when life throws unexpected challenges your way.

4. Actionable Steps for Building Financial Independence
   I offer an action plan for single women ready to take control of their financial futures, covering practical steps to help you start building the foundation for financial independence.

Disclaimer: I’m not a financial advisor; I’m sharing personal experiences that have worked for me in my journey toward financial independence. Please seek professional financial advice before making any major financial decisions.

Tune in for a mix of humor, personal stories, and practical advice to help you start creating a financially independent life on your own terms.

Let’s empower ourselves to live confidently, with or without a partner!

I'd love to hear what you loved most about this episode! Connect with me at @vanessamaree_wingwoman

"...Ghosting is a reflection on them for their inability to communicate" - Andi Lew

Andi Lew is a Lifestyle and Wellness expert, TV Host and Best Selling Author and our guest on this episode of Single and Not Settling!

Vanessa Maree talks to Andi Lew about her book "Where'd They Go?", which addresses what ghosting really is and ways to find closure and deal with the disappearance of someone.  Although we are associate ghosting with dating, it can also happen in business and in friendships!
Listen to this episode to hear:

• How taking a positive approach to dating and social interactions can lead to better experiences.
  
• Life is a journey and finding the comedic side when you’ve been ghosted can help you find closure.
  
• Normalizing being single and why it’s really not that bad!
  
• The time Andi Lew was ghosted, which lead her to the inspiration to write her book "Where'd They Go"?

To purchase one of Andi Lew's books, head to her website: https://andilew.com/shop-products/
To book in your 15 minute coaching call with Andi Lew head to her Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/andi.lew/
To connect with Vanessa Maree: https://www.instagram.com/vanessamaree_wingwoman/

A note from Vanessa Maree...

"This is absolutely a dream come true. I was so nervous throughout this interview as I could have pinched myself, achieving this goal of mine. You see in 2020 after I was ghosted and the world shut down, I found a podcast by Dr Karin. Her advice on dating and relationships gave me hope, taught me so much of what I know today but also helped me dive deeper into why I was choosing the wrong men, it all began to make sense!! On this platform I created, I saw it as an opportunity to personally thank Dr Karin for having such an impact on my life, where I am today and where I continue to grow.

Dr Karin is such a genuine person, so kind and has the best sense of humour!

I am so proud of myself and proud of this episode.

I hope you gain value from Dr Karin as much as I have throughout the years."

In this exciting episode of "Single and NOT Settling," Vanessa Maree sits down with Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell, a psychologist, author, and captivating speaker.

Dr. Karin opens up about her own experience as a "runaway bride" and so much more! Tune in to discover:

• The struggle of walking away from a relationship that seems "good enough."
• Dealing with the guilt that follows once you've left that relationship behind, and how Dr. Karin finally let go of that guilt.
• Insights into ghosting and navigating the world of dating apps.
• The importance of understanding your values and finding someone who shares those same values.
• High-status dating: What it entails and the impact when women take the lead in dating.
• Exploring Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how it can transform negative thoughts into positive outlooks, especially on your dating journey.

Don't miss out on this empowering conversation packed with valuable insights for your dating journey!

For a copy of Dr Karin's Empowered Dating Playbook, click here

I'd love to connect with you on Instagram! Head over to ⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

On this episode of Single and Not Settling, Vanessa Maree shares in a conversation with Rachel Smith, a feminine embodied coach about the things you wish you knew before you go on a dating app!

Are you swiping left and right with expectations to find your future partner? This expectant energy is what Rachel believes is blocking you from meeting a potential match. 

Listen to hear how a simple tweak can shift this for you as well as:

• "Bees to honey" how you can magnetise the masculine energy by just being.
• Why the high achieving female will struggle to find their partner.
• How an online business can create the space in your life for dating.
• Being honest with yourself and dating from a place of intentionality.
• Why dating as an awakened women can bring forward more challenges and require patience to find your ideal partner.

Connect with Vanessa Maree on Instagram and share what you loved most about this episode ⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwomanIf you feel called to work with Rachel in her 1:1 feminine embodied coaching container, you can connect with her on Instagram @sensingher

Until next time!  

On this episode of Single and Not Settling, we welcome Amy Louise Cash as our guest.  

Amy is a woman's coach and mentor who I had the privilege of connecting with through a masterclass about nervous system regulation and setting healthy standards.

Many of us are experiencing some form of stress and anxiety and I felt it was important to bring awareness to this on the podcast and Amy speaks in to this so clearly and passionately.

Amy offers candid insights in this episode, diving into nervous system regulation and real-life experiences #realtalk

Listen as we explore:

- The pivotal role of the nervous system in emotional healing.

- Understanding the mechanisms triggered by our nervous system during moments of stress.

- Distinguishing between the survival brain and the learning brain.

- Practical techniques available to everyone for daily nervous system regulation.

- Shedding light on commonly suppressed thoughts and emotions.

- Establishing healthy standards to set energetic boundaries in various facets of life – be it business, relationships, or friendships.

Below is the link to the online self paced course mentioned in our episode if you would like to further support in establishing your standards:

https://www.themanmenu.com/

I'd love to hear with you learnt most from this episode, connect with me on Instagram!

⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

I'm thrilled to announce that I'M BACK with a brand newepisode!

In this episode, I'm joined by Nikii Syme, formerrelationship coach, retreat facilitator and 6 -figure online entrepreneur who bravely shares her journey from a "good" relationship, becoming a single mother and ultimately finding herself and new love.

Nikii openly recounts her experience of navigating the complexities of realizing when a relationship isn't right, staying for the sake of children and ultimately choosing self-love and taking bold action to pursue the life she truly desires.

We also call out a catfish!

Nikii's experience perfectly aligns with the themes of“Single and not Settling” and I'm certain that her story will resonate with many of the listeners.

Tune in to be inspired by her journey of courage andself-discovery!

Connect with Vanessa Maree

⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

Happy Valentine’s Day, my loves!

This day is usually about being “lovey dovey” with your significant other, but what happens when that is not your current reality and has not happened for you yet?

In this episode, your wingwoman, Vanessa Maree has your back and talks about Self Love!

Your host shares:

• The real life "expectation v reality" people in relationships may face on Valentine’s Day.
• A story from a past relationship that has me feeling grateful I am not spending V Day with the wrong man!
• Using this day to go within and show yourself love and set you on the path of self  love.

AND A LITTLE SOMETHING SPECIAL...

I have included a guided self love meditation for you! I hope this will help you on your journey through self love. You may come back to this meditation at any time you feel the need to remind yourself how amazing your truly are.

Connect with Vanessa Maree

@vanessamaree_wingwoman

I have created a “Single girl tunes” playlist for you! Check it out below

Single Girl Tunes on Spotify

Make 2023 your year!!

In today’s episode, Vanessa Maree shares a juicy conversation with the Manifesting QUEEN, Chloe!

The intention of this episode is to empower single women to create magic in their lives using the power of manifestation!

Check out the episode to hear:

• We have the power to create our own reality through our thoughts and beliefs.  How you can manifest and where to start!
• Create your vision and dream BIG!  Nothing is too big for the universe, get clear and be specific!
• Can we really manifest our dream guy/relationship (listen out for the story of when we both manifested a guy and forgot to add one thing on the list...lots of      LOLS!!!)
• What blocks us from receiving what we want to manifest and an in-depth chat about shadow work.
• Masturbating, manifesting and orgasms – (yes please!!)
• The greatest thing Chloe has manifested (the answer may surprise you)
• A free flowing discussion about self love, getting a clear vision of what you want in dating and creating boundaries to have a better dating experience to get you closer to your desired relationship!

Connect with Vanessa Maree, your wingwoman on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman

Connect with Chloe:

Website: https://www.chloecorcoran.com/

Instagram: @the.manifesting.queen.chlo

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