Single and Not Settling

It is Christmas time and for some of us, this may bring about feelings that we are missing out on that relationship that didn’t happen for us during the year and we have to put up with the questions from our family over Christmas dinner about our relationship status!

In this episode, I wanted to share some tips on how to get through this time of the year:

• Shift your focus to your achievements in all the other areas of your life where you have kicked ass!
• When a negative or low vibrational thought arises, ask yourself this question to shift your mindset and have you feeling inspired instead!
• My “go to” response when you may be asked “Why are you still single?”
• If you find yourself alone at Christmas, I share some ideas to help you connect with others.....*hugs

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Merry Christmas!!!

Have you ever wondered if someone is interested in you after a date or thought to yourself, should I text him or said "no, he should text me first!"

The phrase "If they wanted to, they would" is circulating around the dating world at the moment and I felt I needed to share my thoughts on this.  Listen to hear:

• How this phrase can be used and made relevant in other aspects of our lives, would it change the meaning of it?
• Ways someone can show you their commitment and investment in spending time with you.
• Tips on ways to calm your thoughts after a date with someone (other thinkers, this one is for you.  I got you!)
• Know your values!  Do their values align with yours?

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Here is the link to find out your values:

https://drdemartini.com/values/

Whether you know it or not, you have probably connected with a Karmic Soulmate and on this episode, I talk about what a Karmic Soulmate is and ways you can identify them.  I also share:

• My personal experiences with two Karmic Soulmates (like one isn't enough!!) that came into my life to shake things up and help me learn some soul lessons.  I also go deep to share what revelations these "shake ups" brought into my awareness from my childhood that helped me heal mother wounds.
• How a psychic reading helped uncover what was standing in my way of welcoming a new relationship into my life and what I asked the universe to bring forward to me to heal and allow space for something (or someone) new to come into my life.
• A FWB relationship that became a toxic cycle that I was unable to recognize.
• Finding closure through forgiveness, mediations and gratitude for the lessons your soul needed to learn in this lifetime #feelittohealit 

Journal Prompts:

1. What was the worst thing that has happened that ended up being a learning opportunity or a lesson in disguise?

2. Thinking back on a toxic relationship/cycle, why did it serve you to stay in that cycle and what boundaries do you have that will stop you from going back into the same cycle?

Links to meditations:

Clear sexual energy attachments  

Cord cutting meditation - Release unhealthy attachments and call back your power

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“Your body is a representation of your unconscious mind” – Emma Zia

Sit down with a journal and a cup of tea for this one!

In this episode. I share in a mind blowing conversation with Emma Zia who specialises in Feminine Energetics. We are in complete flow during our conversation and the information that intuitively dropped in, is shared. Listen to hear:

• How underlying emotions and thoughts manifest as physical ailments and how holding on to trauma and rejection has an affect on our reproductive organs and what you can do to begin healing.
• How messy spiritual awakenings can awaken the feminine inside of you.
• Unlocking the flow of energy through your 7 chakras through an Energy Orgasm (yes, please!)
• Surrendering in to the Dark Night of the Soul to cultivate deep self discovery.
• How feminine blocks have an impact on fertility.
• Those bad dates you keep going on, what need is it really serving?

And so much more!

Journal prompts (featured throughout this episode)

• Thinking of a situation where you have felt triggered and emotions are rising:
• What part of me is creating this?
• What part of me is this serving?
• What needs are being met indirectly?
• What growth opportunity is here for me to learn?

Connect with Emma Zia

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmazia__/

Website: https://www.emmazia.com/

Deep Power workshop: https://buy.stripe.com/14keYf71i8B1aGY4gk

Connect with Vanessa Maree 

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I'm back with a solo episode with lots of dating goodness to share!

How can you spot a scam on a dating app? Dating apps are a prime target for scammers and I share some easy tell tale signs on how you can spot them (hello, Tinder Swindler) and I share when it happened to me (literally just happened before I recorded this episode!)

The radio segment I was hooked on where the radio hosts broke up a couple to save them has finished and I discuss the results and why I think they should not have got back together (ooh, controversial).

The exciting news that Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck got married and what we can learn from their romance over the years!

I have added journal prompts to the episode to encourage you to find a quiet space to go within and re-connect to your soul (tea and chocolate are totally called for here)

Journal prompts

-  In the past, has there been times when you didn't trust your intuition, what was the outcome?

-  Reflecting back on your dating experience, what behaviors did you accept because you didn't have standards in place?

Connect with your wingwoman on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode or about a date you have been on recently.

Do you sometimes struggle in your single hood?  Do you need some inspiration and motivation to live an incredible life as a single woman? 

Well, if you do, this episode is for you!

On this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Leslie Kaz, Life Coach and author of Single Girl Bliss. 

In our conversation, we spoke about how good being single can actually be and ways we are changing the narrative that society has placed on being single!

Listen to hear:

- Advice to single women currently struggling on their dating journey.

- Reframing those limiting beliefs that we can succumb to while we are single and tips on how to shift your mindset.

- Changing the narrative that single women need to be "fixed" and there is something wrong with us if we are single for a long time.

- Redefining "happily ever after" and why we only assumed the princess in the fairytales had a picture perfect life.

- The best things about being single!

- Our listener question about being saddened by being the 3rd or 5th wheel and when friends start having children or getting married.  Leslie and I share our stories when this happened to us and how we changed our mindset to not feel less than again!

Connect with Leslie Kaz

Instagram @lesliekaz_singlegirlbliss

Get your FREE 3 day roadmap - How to be happy alone https://www.lesliekaz.com/freeroadmap/

20 answers to the question “why are you single” – FREE download https://mailchi.mp/lesliekaz/5tcu0y1xhp

Website - https://www.lesliekaz.com/

I'd love to support you through your dating journey!

Connect with your Wingwoman, Vanessa Maree @vanessamaree_wingwoman

Today, I welcome my first guest to Single and Not Settling!  Karin Gambaracci is a Dating Coach working with single woman to embrace their feminine energy to help them attract their partner and live authentically to be truly happy.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What is feminine energy?
• The difference between wounded feminine energy and healthy feminine energy.
• How childhood traumas can contribute to wounded feminine energy.
• The importance of trusting in yourself first to be able to place trust in others (including men!).
• Using your innate intuition in dating.
• Communicating from a high value feminine energy and ways to embody your feminine energy on a date.
• Healthy masculine energy vs wounded masculine energy.

Karin has put together a special offer for listeners of Single and Not Settling!  Listen to the end to find out Karin's generous gift to you!

Connect with Karin Gambaracci 

Website: Karin Gambaracci - Dating coach for strong women 

Instagram: @karingambaracci

I would love to know what your biggest takeaway from this episode was!  Connect with me on Instagram and send me a message to let me know! @vanessamaree_wingwoman

How has dating changed for me since I’ve released a podcast?  How are men on dates reacting when I say in my spare time I record podcast episodes about modern dating?  Listen to this episode to find out!  

I also share:

•  A special acknowledgement to the women who have walked away from relationships where they were not treated right and know they   deserve better!  #singleandnotsettling

•  A social experiment I am hooked on that breaks up a couple to save them, will it work and what it now means when a guy says he is looking    “to see what is out there”

•  What it means to show up as your authentic self on dates and if you feel you are not, what you can do to truly align with your authentic self      and find the right man for you!

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and share with me your dating experiences!

This episode of Single and NOT Settling is dedicated to a dear friend, Kate who was taken away from us too soon.

On today’s episode, Vanessa Maree vents about what NOT to say to single women, questions and statements like:

• Why are you still single??

• Advice such as “you’ll meet someone when you least expect it!”

• That eye roll comment "I’m so glad I didn’t have to go on dating apps to meet my husband!”

• AND the worst one of all...."maybe you are too picky!"

Vanessa Maree says everything that you are thinking but are maybe too scared to say in this unfiltered episode!

If you resonate with this or have other annoying questions asked as a single woman, please send me a DM on Instagram and let me know.

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out my What does that even Mean Wednesday posts!

Welcome back to another episode of Single and NOT Settling.  What does settling mean in a relationship and how do you know if you have? 

On this episode, your Wingwoman talks about:

• What settling means when it comes to dating and relationships.

• The differences between Standards vs Expectations and 2 lists you can create to have a better dating experience.

• A personal experience when I stepped away from a superficial expectation and met an incredible guy!

• Some reasons why women settle and the bravery it takes to admit when it happens.

• What you can do in the moment when you feel your season of being single sucks and what you can do about it!

• Rediscovering the love you have for yourself and going within.

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out my What does that even Mean Wednesday posts!