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- 101. Lanaya on: Is self love biblical or selfish? And how it applies to you setting boundaries.
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- 0:00 Is self love biblical and what is the definition of self love?
- 4:30 Scripture to bak up self love.
If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; but if it is not, let your peace return to you. And if anyone will not welcome you or head your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home. - Mathew 10:13 & 14
- 5:39 Jesus knew who he was but do you?
- 8:23 A man won't full-fill your loneliness but purpose will.
- 10:13 Marriage does not kill loneliness. "Marriage is a result of your purpose but not your purpose".
- 17:30 What discipline are you? It may help with your purpose.
- 23:20 How Jesus definitely 'self cared' and wasn't hanging out with all 12 disciples.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
39 min - 100. {Bonus} Becoming her; a woman who holds herself accountable to future you... the woman you say you want to be!
The full interview with Zee is here.
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I know this lane of relationships has caused you a lot of frustration and pain.
And right now you’re at your wits-end and have promised yourself that you will never again allow a man to disrespect you, mishandle you –nor will you give your heart that fast. You’ve professed that 2022 is the year of you in the name of ‘self love’.
There are so many dreams in your life that lay dormant. I remember when I was where you were and I thought “damn I’d probably be so much further in life if I didn’t put so much energy in men”. The money, time and years I spent with men that actually didn’t love me. Sometimes it still makes me cry.
So I want to encourage you sis. You can do it but you’re gonna need to use 2022 intentionally. Don’t let time pass without the courage and confidence to face yourself. Hold you accountable and recognize your fear… shame, and anxiety around being single. Because you’re the common denominator.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
39 min - 99. Lanaya on: What does a God fearing man even mean... look like? Plus how it may be causing you to be mishandled by men consistently.
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She was also on Episode 5 of Season 2. Here is her last episode, titled; Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.. Lanaya is happily married, holds a lot of wisdom on dating and she’s a coach inside of Single You Academy.
- 0:00 Who is Lanaya and how long she's been happy and beautifully married.
- 2:03 Ministry for 22 years and being a preachers kid.
- 2:40 What do we mean when we say "I want a God fearing man"... it's surface level.
- 3:11 Defining the word fear aka "God fearing" and "fearing the Lord".
- 4:05 Reading the bible in harmony.
- 5:25 Him not worshipping God the way we do as women; "Principals don't change but methods do".
- 7:30 What past me thought "God fearing" meant and salvation.
- 11:42 Proverbs 31 woman... what does that mean? Why do we call ourselves that? Or want to be that? (Proverbs 14:26)
- 17:12 Do we want to be married for all of the accolades and praise that come with it?
- 19:23 What did Lanaya write out for what she wanted in a man? Here are top 3.
- 22:03 Look for the answer to your standards or the counterfeit to those standards. Instead of passing up red flags. "We can ruin a good man by not allowing God to finish making him".
- 27:00 Fighting a man to wait to have sex with you.
- 30:25 How well has dating to society's standards and pressures been working out for you?
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
42 min - 98. {Bonus} Recycling, Yes. Recycling men, no. Let's talk about getting back to trusting yourself to stop the cycle of being mishandled by men.
Bonus episode because I wanted to tell you 5 things.
- Tapping into yourself trust. Mindset > behaviors > frustration with men.
- Can I help you? I'd like to BUT you say: "Surely I don’t need to talk to anyone about being single because I’ve been doing it for a while” – yet look at your track record with men sis? Plus you have a call on your spirit that something needs to change. Plus how SYA helps you get to the root and change your mindset on being single, faith and dating.
- Thank you to my new listener(s). I love you. Leave a review I have a goal of 100 reviews in 2022.
- Coming up on Thursday, it’ll kick off a 3 part series with my cousin Lanaya. Here is her last episode, titled; Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.. Lanaya is happily married, holds a lot of wisdom on dating and she’s a coach inside of Single You Academy.
- December 16th = God fearing
- December 23rd = is self love biblical?
- December 30th = We can also ruin good men if we don’t hold true to our values and boundaries.
5. If you ever have a question– DM me.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
26 min - 97. Nikita on: Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled by men (her testimonial of SYA).
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Nikita on: What Single You Academy gave her that advice from friends couldn't! She's a former client and this is her testimony.
Today I'm so honored to have another client of mine discuss her journey through Single You Academy. Watching a clients growth will never get old. I'm so in love with her story.
Who is Nikita;
- 7:40 What she was saying to herself to not hire me (the thing a lot of us Black women say).
- 8:34 Why Nikita hired me.
- 12:36 Paul's biblical teachings about singleness | Black Church toxicity.
- 14:10 What parents didn't teach us.
- 15:43 Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled.
- 19:10 Being a high achieving Black Woman and constantly being mishandled.
- 20:32 What does Nikita means by; you said SYA taught you to unlearn, to relearn.
- 22:52 Women of Faith falling into the trap of being 'kind'.
- 25:53 I want a man with good Character! What does that look like for Nikita?
- 29:40 Her pattern with men (which is yours too).
- 33:29 The love scripture, what does it actually mean? Especially love is patient?
- 44:44 My purpose with abstinence.
- 43:30 If sex was the thing to 'keep a man' then...
- 47:52 Why you need to drop the shame and hire a coach aka join SYA.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
1 hr 11 min - 96. Stacey on: A cautionary-tale for women. What can happen if your money mindset and actions aren't right before dating.
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Stacey is a 54 year old woman passionate about educating women in money. Throughout her life she has always stood up for what she believes in and questioned everything. As she weaves her own unique tapestry of life she has overcome many struggles and learned valuable lessons. She is excited to share those lessons with you today, around both relationships and money confidence.
- Intro; who Stacey is? From her Husband > Boyfriend > Husband all who have left her financially struggling.
- 7:50 prince charming isn't coming. Snag the book here.
- 12:56 what submit means.
- 22:13 would a conversation have helped you stop this cycle of relationships?
- 23:30 the shame of being single.
- 31:23 why you shouldn't move in together.
- 37:00 staying because we feel bad.
- 39:33 not falling for his sob story.
- 45:06 hitting rock bottom in life and relationships.
- 45:55 do we really know what love is?
- 56:26 whatever area you're ignorant in you will suffer in.
You can email Stacey here: [email protected]
"Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
1 hr 11 min - 95. Ce (Licensed therapist) on: Who is the woman you need to become to get your Russell Wilson? Plus what we can learn from Will/Jada. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Happy Thanksgiving!! Decided to drop a day early. Enjoy!!
Today's Guest: Candyce (Ce) Anderson, LPC Licensed therapist. She can be reached here: https://ceandersonlive.com
- 4:57: Prepare yourself for that which you hope to manifest (a Russell Wilson type). Why? So you can honor, grow it and keep it. How do we prepare?
- 10:17 break down Future and Russell as alpha and beta.
- 12:30 How Black women were raised that could affect your dating.
- 14:06 When you're desiring a man to take charge, who you need to be
- 16:11 Things we need to work on to get the love Russell (we assume) has for Ciara?
- 23:53 How we get hurt in dating? By abandoning yourself.
- 28:33 Breaking is actually a win not a failure.
- 30:16 Dating insecure men and what I learned from myself because of it.
- 35:12 What abandoning myself for your man looked like for me.
- 35:48 How women can be toxic.
- 37:38 Cheating.
- 43:30 When you address the elephant in your relationship, the skeletons in your closet and your deepest fears Jada and Will will trigger you less. What we can learn from Will & Jada.
- 1:08:10 Finding it difficult to date, what can you do?
- 1:10:10 Mother's that raise 'these' men.
- 1:11:27 Generational curses we put on ourselves.
- 1:13:48 What can you do to heal? What does doing 'the work' look like?
"Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
1 hr 27 min - 94. DJ on: How to Give Love & Loyalty More to You & Less to Him!
FYI; in this episode we cuss. :-)
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Love & Loyalty. What it means to do the 'work' and finally be happy single. Plus we'll mention what we can learn from DaniLeigh and DaBaby.
Let's talk... a conversation with my cousin DJ!
"Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita
Now, suppose you are ready to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
1 hr 6 min - 93. My Thoughts on Ciara's Prayer & Why did Keetra + Nikita join Single You Academy and what did they gain? (which you can too)
Could your view of love/relationships be underdeveloped, over fantasized, over spiritualized and toxic??
God is not going to gift you, show you, provide you a man just cause you prayed for him. It's like the woman with the issue of blood. She wanted to be healed so she did the work of finding Jesus and knowing all she had to do was touch the hem of his garment and she would be healed. There is work you have to do amongst having faith. It's "both and".... have faith but faith without works is dead... so what work on your doing on yourself to get the man you pray for? Where is your wise council, what books are you reading and what is it about you that got into a relationship you had no business being in? We can not be trying to make a Future into a Russell. We have to start with a Russell as the foundation. Men, people are who they are not who you want or pray them to be.
Ciara did work. Russell did work. See here: Red Table Talk
Last conversation I had about Will & Jada.
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So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] || Wait list to Single You Academy is open now.
My DM is always open!
XO Reka
32 min - 92. WHY therapy may not have worked for you... HOW coaching is different!
I have a lot of clients who have a therapist while working with me and/or before they worked with me. I always ask why and here are a few of their answers. There is a difference, not better or worse and I define it on this episode.
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Let's talk...
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = [email protected] I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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About Single You "The Podcast"
From the publisher's feed
In September of 2020, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status.
I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of this Podcast!
I help the loyal frustrated woman who is tired of giving 2nd chances and trusting he will change stop that cycle by teaching her how to set and KEEP her boundaries.