What does that even mean? Doesn’t everyone die alone? Kids and/or a husband are not a guarantee you’ll be taken care of in your older years. So why are you only scared of ‘dying alone’ because you’re single?

You have all these feelings about being a failure and that’s the reason why you want a man? You have got to think differently about your singleness so you can move different.

I want a co-committed relationship. Not co-dependency based on trauma bonds.

I don’t want a relationship with someone who chooses me purely based on their feelings instead of logic and practicality. I want an easy life and will not endure hardship or inconvenience just because I love you.

I want love without a trauma bond or unhealthy attachment, I want to love a man knowing joy comes from God and myself.

Question; What is your definition of dying alone? Why does it scare you? Why do you feel like you will die alone?

My DM is always open! XO Reka

This episode explains why I think this saying is problematic. 

Be a good person is for you and your character. Not to get people to be who you want them to be. Life is still a will of choice. We have free will! Men have free will and can choose to treat you any way they want. Where we mess up? By thinking we can change him. 

Question for you > Why do you think that you bypass red flags? Why do you feel that you should bypass red flags?

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You want a man to treat you with respect, be loyal and show you love. You need to be seen/heard and valued. What you’ve tired to that is following advice that says; don’t tell him how to treat you. 'I don’t want to go through another stage in my life where I’m telling someone how they should treat me.’

How sway? That’s passive aggressive. Is that how we are with your family and friends? How well is that working out for you? 

Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back (a series). Day 4 of 5; he'll just know how to treat me (also see; happy wife happy life).

How sway?

Sometimes I think women just want the D, to be able to say they have a man and not feel bad about having sex.

Let's talk...

Question for you > Why do you think he’ll just know? Why do you feel like his feelings don’t matter?

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My DM is always open! XO Reka

The mind of a woman who is asking this question is sitting somewhere thinking that she is bad (a failure) because she doesn’t have a man. You want to be called the good woman behind the man, no matter what.

You not having a man doesn’t mean you’re intrinsically bad or a failure. I wish you would stop seeing single as a punishment, or that it's a waiting period for something greater than the life you have now.

You just are. You’re just being and the sooner you see the blessing in singleness the sooner your joy will arise.

When you’re confident in your singleness that’s how you will think. And trust I know what it is like to be a ‘good woman’ -- to believe I am-- to hear that all the time and yet and still I have zero man. Up until 2017 that use to bother me and made me lower my standards, trying to prove ‘see I’m a good woman’ -- now I am a good woman period and my actions shows that I believe it. Yes sometimes I still have those thoughts but now that I’ve gone on a true self love journey I stop myself well before I play out that tired 'ride-or-die' narrative.

Question for you; Why do you think where you are in life right now is bad? Why do you feel where you are right now is bad?

Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate. ⁣

Email = [email protected]

XO Reka

Does love really conquer all? Here why I think it doesn't.... 

Is it true... that if he loves you, he'll change for you? Here is why thinking that keeps you in a relationship that's an emotional roller coaster...

Sometimes we’re too spiritual for our own good. Which causes us to take the responsibility out of dating.

Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate. ⁣

Email = [email protected]

XO Reka

Series; Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back.⁣ Day 1 of 5: Just because he hasn't found you, doesn't mean you aren't a good woman (or a failure)

⁣Let me encourage you to be confident in your singleness; ⁣

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Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate. ⁣

Email = [email protected]

XO Reka

I’m so nervous to have this conversation. I’m preparing to ignore the religious/judgmental comments I will get. From “False prophet” to “that’s why I don’t believe.” So let me be clear, that’s what's wrong with religion and society. We’re not allowed to ask questions or have conversations without judgement. Especially when it comes to sex. So if you are super religious then this episode is not for you.

This is not for atheists who want to judge my beliefs. Jesus is my homeboy and I don’t have a problem with my belief in him, I have a problem with religion and the messages I believe women receive around sex that has brought on so much shame. Jesus had a problem with religion which is why he was flipping tables in the Bible.

So this is only for people with open ears and those who want to hear with open ears about women trying to heal from sexual shame. I started my journey 3-4 years ago. I started reading, praying, reading and praying some more about where I stood.

Let’s be clear again; I’m abstinent and I promised myself that in my season of abstinence I would use it to heal and truly seek God, so I could hear from God. Not Society and certainly not religion. The shame I used to have, let's say it was about 100lbs and now I’ve got about 25lbs left. This conversation is about my healing way more than it is about yelling at purity culture.

This conversation is for my clients and the women, Christian women who feel so judged and trapped in shame around sex.

This conversation is because the church seems to be embarrassed about having real conversations about sex. The only thing we’re told is wait until you’re married. There is no room for; “it’s going to be hard” “Your body will betray you” “why you should wait” let alone “how to wait.”

My goal is to answer my questions, many of the same questions you may have as a Christian woman who grew up in church but also my goal is to encourage you to study the bible for yourself don’t listen and act according to me. I’m just trying to heal and talking about my ish for the last 3-4 years has helped me tremendously.

So in all my nervousness let’s talk. I hope it frees at least one woman.

My guest today… The Rev. Dr. Theresa S. Thames and she can be reach on IG here. 

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So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣

I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).

So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣

You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.

⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!

Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.

XO Reka

You’re here: Frustrated and in a situationship you don’t want to be in. You’re constantly thinking there is something wrong with you.

You want to be here: Confident in your decision making and in your singleness. You don’t want to be swayed by social media (or men) on what relationships are like. You want to be able to set and keep boundaries instead of breaking them for him.

You think: I’m single and I'm being punished. You feel like you're paying for something you did in the past. Sex. You had sex with him so now "I have to ride this out because I don’t want another body". It'll get better. He’ll change (hope). Everyone else has a man and you deserve one too (so you stay with boo-boo the fool) how well is that working out for you? 

Here is what is in your way: You haven’t learned your lesson and you don’t have guidance. Guidance is right in front of you. I’m a Certified Life Coach and I'm here to help you sis.

So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣

I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).

So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣

You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.

⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!

Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.

XO Reka

⁣Today's guest is Kierra D, founder of the Wive's Club Group (on FB and Clubhouse) and host of The Love Factor Podcast. ⁣What mindset should single women have about marriage? What is the mindset that is going to set us up for greatness? ⁣

What was her personal philosophy on dating and/or relationships? 

⁣𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘴...⁣

⁣"I felt like (use to) oftentimes men were cheaters and women often settle. I knew I didn’t want that for me. I had opportunities to be with high profile guys or popular guys, but didn’t trust them." ⁣

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Let's talk...

So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣

I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).

So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣

You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.

⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!

Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.

XO Reka