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Ariel Anderssen joins us this episode for a conversation about kink, identity, and finding a place to belong. Ariel, a BDSM model and author of Playing to Lose and Dirty, shares how she discovered her interests, found community, and built a life around a part of herself she once thought she had to keep secret.

We also explore why trauma does not define someone’s sexuality, the complicated path from a fundamentalist religious upbringing to self-acceptance, and how Ariel and her husband navigated consensual non-monogamy through difficult conversations, guilt, and jealousy. 

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What do you wish you’d known when you first realized this part of yourself? We asked our Smack Pack and the biggest themes that kept coming up were:

• You need the right words before you can explain what you want.
• Community makes the whole thing less scary.
• Not every vanilla partner will get it, and that’s not a failure.
• A lot of what we think is “weird” is actually just unspoken.

So many of us spent years thinking we were alone when really we just needed language, patience, and people who didn’t make us feel broken. Remember that if you’re still figuring it out, you’re not behind or failing! There's still so much to learn about ourselves. 

Episode References:
Please Discipline Me: Persuading Your Partner (Blogspot)

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Coming out to yourself can be equal parts relief, grief, fear, and freedom. In this episode, we talk about what it really looks like to accept this part of yourself, why community matters, and how to move forward without rushing your process.

If you’ve ever felt like you were the only one, this one’s for you. 💛

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Compromise isn’t always easy, but it’s where real connection starts.

This episode is an honest look at what it takes to make a relationship work when two people don’t want exactly the same thing. 

Remember... It always comes down to communication! 

References:
How Men Become Aziz Ansari

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You don’t need a complicated script to confidently turn down an unwanted scene or friendship—just a simple, polite “no, thanks” might be all you need. But knowing the best ways to set boundaries without guilt or confusion can transform your scene experience. If you’ve ever felt awkward saying no or worried about hurting feelings, this episode is your essential guide to respectful, clear communication on and off the scene.

And remember: "no" is a complete sentence!

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For our summer break, we offer you ideas for your very own Spanko Playlist! Some are more obvious and some a little less, but you'll have everything you need for your very own spanking related shenanigans! 

We will be off the month of July and returning in August! Thank you so much for all of your support! :D 

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If you’ve ever felt split between your faith and your true self, or struggled with internalized shame around your desires, this episode offers clarity and hope. Elle’s story highlights the power of authenticity, community, and redefining what it means to be spiritual and sexually whole.

This episode is for kink enthusiasts, spiritual seekers, and anyone craving permission to be fully themselves!

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Sometimes life takes us to unexpected places, but our kink stays with us no matter where we go! 

Join us as we talk to Neil about his journey in kink, self-discovery, and the ups and downs of That Thing We Do. 

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Join us as we talk about the movie Secretary! A pivotal movie for many a spanko, but how does it hold up upon a rewatch? And what does a vanilla person think about it? 

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Sometimes, it's the little slip-ups that make the best stories (in hindsight). 

The important thing to remember is we all mess up and laughter (and maybe a spanking?) is the best way to handle it. But no matter how embarrassing, these stories connect us all. Keep your secrets (and implements) safe, and embrace the humor!

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