Yes, I'd like fries with that!

It's not just a delicious, salty treat, but also an easy acronym for ensuring consent. F.R.I.E.S. is an easy way remember that consent is:

• F: Freely Given

• R: Reversible

• I: Informed

• E: Enthusiastic

• S: Specific

If your consent doesn't have F.R.I.E.S. then you might not fully enjoy your "meal" or play experience.

After a lovely class at GASP 2026, in which they used candy to discuss consent, and went through some fantastic role-playing, we had to have these lovely and hard-working ladies on the podcast to share their techniques for self-advocacy!

It's not easy to speak up for yourself, especially when many of us love to please our partners. But that's exactly what being your own advocate is about. And for a fun scene, it's important not just to please your partner, but to get your needs met and protect your own boundaries as well.

Whether it's salty or sweet, F.R.I.E.S. or candy, this discussion has something for every taste.

There was just too much here for one episode, so do stay tuned for part 2.

Sshhhhhhh! It's a secret! Or is it?

We stole this idea from a coffee house, more maybe it was a boba tea place: share your thoughts, your feelings, your fantasies, your questions, your advice, your troubles, your secrets, and your stories. Share anything you like… but share it completely anonymously.

The goal is to help each other see that we are not alone on this journey of life. That we all have secrets, fantasies, questions, and concerns. That we are all… human!

We loved the idea so much, we wanted to share it with the adult spanking community to show that even spankos are not alone!

We've been working on this project for a few years now. If you've seen us at an event, we've probably had our little journal with us for you to share your thoughts. Many have shared their own Spanko Secrets! And because it's all anonymous, now we bring some of these secrets to you, our listeners.

If you have something you'd like to share, drop us a line, an email, a FetLife message, or see us at an event and add to our Spanko Secrets journal! We'll keep it anonymous for you, even if your method of communication doesn't.

Change Happens. Sometimes unexpectedly.

Completely without warning, YouTube deleted our channel!

This goes for YouTube Music (formerly Google Podcasts) as well.

We are suddenly gone from all Google-related media.

They've not given us a clear reason. They've not given us an opportunity to correct or change anything. And they shut down our appeal without further explanation.

It is said that "crisis doesn't build character, it reveals it."

Well, this isn't a crisis, but it's a big change for our podcast and our listeners.

Unfortunately this Google decision is outside our control. And we're aware how it may affect some of our listeners and our community.

But never fear, we're working on some things that we can control, and we have some things coming that will hopefully help keep our community thriving and continue to give our listeners access to our content.

The show will go on!

We continue our discussion with Shaylah and Avery regarding a very specific online roleplay that includes accountability in real life.

Forgelink Academy is a unique role play that is based on real life accountability in an online school academy roleplay. Students select a goal to work on every other week check-ins. Students are provided with encouragement, praise and consequences based on how they perform on their goals.

They discuss the process of applying to Forgelink, how the terms run, and some of the expectations. If this sounds like something you may enjoy or find beneficial, check out the Forgelink Academy page at the link below.

Do you enjoy online role play?

Is it one of your current spanko outlets?

Have you built friendships online?

The Spanko Podcast members talk about their past experiences with online spanking roleplay and how it shaped some of our early online experiences and fantasies.

We are joined by returning guests Shaylah and Avery who both shared early experiences in chat as well as some current experiences in an online roleplay academy.

Are these just fantasies, all just pretend with internet randos, or do these friendships become something more… real? Share your experiences and recommendations related to online spanking roleplay in the comments.

Let's discuss wrapping. Wrapping paper, rapping, chicken wraps…. Oh wait, no … We are talking about that uncomfortable feeling when the implement wraps too far around your hip. Some people hate wrapping, some love it, and some tolerate it reluctantly.

How do you feel about wrapping? We discuss some of our feelings about wrapping. As well as tips on how to communicate with your top if they are wrapping and how to learn to avoid wrapping if you are topping.

[Insert Star Wars-like theme here]

Miss D Spanks is back, veteran of the scene but newer party-goer, joins us again at GASP 2026. Hear how she has evolved from purely a Top to becoming comfortable as a Switch. And how our collective nerdiness helped her come out of her shell.

Yes, being a nerd in the spanko community can even be a perk! We're all socially awkward (ok… MOST of us!), so if you're a spanko AND a little on the nerdy side (or a lot on the nerdy side), don't worry, you'll fit right in!

Whether you come from Dagobah, Hoth, or even Earth in the current day, we all have our differences and our limits. We discuss people of color and safety in the scene, and how understanding cultural and generational differences can help us all have better scenes.

When it comes to parties - national parties or private ones - be sure to follow the "house rules." Consent is important everywhere, especially in a public setting. Your Droids ARE welcome here… as long as they follow the rules.

Come get your nerd on and have some spanking fun with Miss D Spanks!

Social currency vs social capital - what's the difference and why does it matter? Have you ever considered your social capital? What builds your social capital and currency? Do you know how to be a respected community member? Are you helpful? Do you understand boundaries and take time to build friendships? Do you know how to make friends? Did you know there are different levels of friendship?

As a party attendee - do you feel like you have gotten a chance to enjoy spanking parties to the max? Or do you leave feeling like you didn't fit in? Does it take you time to become comfortable in a setting? Are you only focused on your needs or do you listen to your play partners needs? Are you the type of party attendee that people can't wait to have back or are you draining the resources without putting back into the community?

Your reputation can precede you. Wouldn't you like it to be the best one possible?

"At the end of the day we're all here to have fun and if someone is not having fun, that's kind of a problem."

Purveyor (or pervert?) of smut, author of BDSM and spanking erotica, and creator of some kinky games, Letti Lustcraft and her partner, SirChefDaddy, joined us at GASP 2025 to talk about their Domestic Discipline relationship and all their creative endeavors.

Find out how this adorable couple learned to practice Domestic Discipline safely and consensually when one of them originally wasn't even kinky!

How does one come out to their partner about wanting a Domestic Discipline (DD) relationship?

How do you balance a DD relationship with life and work?

How is kink like a video game? (yeah, Chef went there.)

And so much more!

And not only do we discuss their Domestic Discipline dynamic, we get into some of their creative projects: books, stickers, coloring books, poetry, educational smut, and much more…

… Kinky Cards Against Humanity, anyone? Oh yeah, it's a thing! (and, like this conversation, it's so much fun!)

… years of our lives! Join us as we celebrate 6 years of doing Spanko! Podcast!

Reminisce with us on how we've grown and changed. Hear about some of our favorite memories. And some of what we hope to do in the future.

And, of course, there has to be some bratting and spanking live on the air to celebrate!