As we head into a new year, a lot of us naturally start looking back.
We analyze the past year. We judge it. Sometimes we judge ourselves.
And then we start thinking about how we want the next year to be different.
It makes sense that this is the time of year when we start talking about goals and resolutions.
As you probably already know… most resolutions don’t actually stick.
In this episode, I want to talk about something much more important than resolutions — getting clear on what you actually want.
Not what you should want.
Not what other people say you should want.
But what you want.
Because if you skip that step, even the best plans and systems can leave you feeling frustrated or burned out.
This episode is really about giving yourself permission to want what you want — and learning how to listen to yourself again.
In this episode, we talk about:
- How we often look outside ourselves for permission or validation
- The difference between survival-mode wants and deeper, meaningful desires
- Why “I don’t know what I want” is often your brain trying to keep you safe
- How fear, risk, and effort can quietly shut down dreaming
- Why your wants are allowed to change — and why nothing you’ve pursued was wasted
I also walk you through a simple exercise to help you start uncovering what you really want — without pressure to commit or figure it all out right now.
A simple exercise to try after listening:
Start by writing down what you already know you want — for your life, your business, and your future.
Then let yourself go a little deeper. Ask yourself what you would want:
- If you had more time
- If money wasn’t an issue
- If you were younger… or older
- If you had more support
- If no one would judge you
- If you knew you couldn’t fail
- If it had never been done before
- If you had permission to want it
This isn’t about making decisions yet.
You’re not committing to anything.
This is just about letting yourself dream and seeing what comes up.
Why this matters:
When you ignore your own wants, it can slowly drain the joy out of your life and your business.
And sometimes, by not allowing yourself to want something, you may actually be holding back something meaningful you were meant to give.
Your desires aren’t selfish.
They’re often clues.
What’s coming next:
This episode kicks off a January series where we’ll talk about reconnecting with what you really want, giving yourself permission to dream, and then turning those dreams into goals that actually make a difference.
Next week, we’ll talk about where to go after you’ve identified your wants — and how to take the next step toward a future that feels more aligned and meaningful.
Want some support with this?
If you’d like help sorting through what you want and creating a path forward that feels right for you, I’d love to help.
Book a complimentary coaching strategy session here
Or you can watch a free masterclass recording to get more insights into ADHD challenges in business and how to work around them.
