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Performance improvement plans are supposed to help employees get back on track, but as Harvard Business Review reports, a shocking 90% of employees placed on PIPs don't survive them. This episode pulls back the curtain on what a PIP really means for your career and future with your company.

When a friend called me about being put on a performance improvement plan, I examined the document and couldn't even determine what specifically needed improvement. That's when I realized the truth many managers won't admit: most PIPs aren't designed to help you succeed—they're the first step toward termination.

During this season of mass layoffs across industries, companies frequently use performance improvement plans as documentation to justify terminations and protect themselves legally. These plans create the paper trail needed to demonstrate "cause" and avoid severance payments. If you find yourself facing a PIP, you need to make a strategic decision: will you fight to prove them wrong, or focus your energy on finding your next opportunity?

The episode reveals ten crucial things companies won't tell you about PIPs, including their true purpose as legal documentation, the reality of "quiet firing," and why HR isn't a neutral party in the process. You'll learn concrete strategies for navigating a performance improvement plan, from ensuring goals are specific and measurable to documenting everything and knowing when to negotiate an exit.

Whether you're currently on a PIP or want to understand how these processes work, this episode provides honest guidance from someone who's seen both sides of the performance management equation. Share your own PIP survival story by reaching out at [email protected] or messaging @thoyourbosssucks on social media.

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Natalie Parker and leadership coach Ayana Coston dive into what happens behind the scenes when organizations call in executive coaches to help struggling leaders develop or correct performance issues.

• Most leaders lack fundamental leadership skills despite technical expertise
• Leadership effectiveness rarely measured in performance management
• Leaders need safe spaces to be heard without judgment
• Employees betraying themselves by not asking for what they need
• Cultural differences dramatically impact conflict management styles
• 95% of the time, the feared conversation is worse in your head than reality
• Giving feedback requires psychological safety on both sides
• Leaders being monitored/evaluated on keystroke counts rather than outcomes
• Understanding before action when addressing leadership issues
• Clear communication about values and expectations prevents misalignment

If you're working for a leader who isn't supporting you properly, have the conversation about what you need, document your approach, and be willing to make changes if the environment doesn't improve. Remember that your value isn't determined by one workplace.

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Finding yourself stuck with a terrible boss can feel like a nightmare, but what if you could spot the warning signs before accepting the job? In this illuminating conversation with talent matchmaker Julia Cooper, we uncover the secrets to test-driving potential managers during the interview process.

Julia reveals that authenticity has become the true currency of successful workplace relationships. As a recruiter who has placed thousands of candidates throughout her career, she shares insider knowledge on how to identify red flags in leadership styles. From observing how engaged managers are during interviews to paying attention to whether they apologize for tardiness, these subtle cues often predict future behavior.

The discussion tackles today's most pressing workplace challenges, including the post-pandemic tension between remote flexibility and office requirements. One listener's frustration with inconsistent policies prompts practical advice: if remote work matters to you, verify whether your potential manager works remotely—this often determines the team's long-term arrangement. We also address the delicate dance of setting boundaries in a world where technology enables 24/7 connectivity.

Most valuably, Julia provides five essential questions every candidate should ask potential managers: How would you describe your leadership style? How do you keep your team motivated during challenges? How do you set goals and measure success? How do you onboard new team members? What's the most important leadership lesson you've learned?

Remember that in today's job market, organizations should be selling themselves to you just as much as you're selling your skills. Don't be afraid to interview the company while they're interviewing you—your future happiness depends on it.

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Racial slurs in the workplace, managers who know nothing about your job, and organizations eliminating leadership positions – welcome to the wild world of modern work. In this eye-opening conversation, HR executive DeVaughn G. Stephens and host Natalie Parker pull back the curtain on what really happens behind closed doors in corporate America.

DeVaughn shares the shocking story of a boss who called him an "effing moolie" during his first professional HR role, revealing how this trial-by-fire experience taught him to manage his reactions and take ownership of his career development. Their discussion examines the critical moment when DeVaughn realized "the better this resume becomes, the better I have to become" – fundamentally changing his approach to professional growth.

Far from just war stories, this episode delivers actionable insights for anyone navigating difficult leadership. DeVaughn explains why documenting your accomplishments, knowing when to speak up, and recognizing when to leave are essential skills for workplace survival. The conversation explores the concerning trend of organizations flattening hierarchies and eliminating management positions, questioning how this impacts employee development and supervision.

Most powerfully, DeVaughn challenges listeners to take full responsibility for their professional journeys: "Your career is your career. It is not the organization's, it is not your manager's." He and Natalie examine why HR professionals often give excellent career advice while failing to apply the same wisdom to their own situations.

Whether you're dealing with a boss who can't take feedback, considering when to pull the ripcord on a toxic job, or simply trying to navigate workplace politics, this candid conversation provides the perspective and strategies you need to thrive despite challenging leadership.

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What happens when your manager treats their job like Gollum from Lord of the Rings – clutching tasks while muttering "my precious"? Sarah Vaughn Benjamin knows exactly how this feels.

During her seven-year journey from academia to corporate HR, Sarah encountered the classic territorial boss who demanded help yet refused to delegate meaningful work. "I was just stuck," she recalls, describing how her manager claimed ownership with the chilling words: "It's my department." This stark example of leadership insecurity left Sarah feeling underutilized despite being repeatedly told she was "a rock star" – a phrase that now makes her cringe.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn as Sarah reveals how COVID-19 became her unexpected catalyst for change. Furloughed and uncertain, she leveraged social media to connect with others who had pivoted careers, ultimately transforming her student life experience into a corporate learning and development role. Her resourcefulness demonstrates how career transitions often require both careful skill mapping and the courage to leap into uncertainty.

Now an HR Business Partner, Sarah shares a profound insight from her therapist: "You can't work in HR and be a sponge. You have to be a mirror." This powerful metaphor captures the delicate balance HR professionals must strike – reflecting situations back to managers rather than absorbing all the emotional weight themselves. When managers avoid difficult conversations or create unnecessary barriers for employees, HR must help navigate these challenges while maintaining organizational integrity.

The episode concludes with practical advice for listeners dealing with career-blocking bosses or suspected "quiet firing." Sarah and host Natalie emphasize the importance of documenting patterns, asking direct questions, and paying attention to how managers respond. Whether you're facing a territorial boss or fighting for professional growth, this conversation provides the strategies you need to maintain your dignity while advancing your career path. Remember: disappointment often stems from misaligned expectations – but you have the power to clarify yours.

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What happens when toxic leadership meets talented professionals? In this riveting conversation with executive coach Ayanna Coston, we unpack the painful reality of navigating bad bosses while preserving your authentic self.

Ayana shares her experience with her first corporate boss—a leader who disappeared when things went well but materialized instantly when problems arose. She introduces us to the "throw the rock syndrome," where bosses criticize without providing direction, leaving employees endlessly guessing what success looks like. This experience taught Ayanna to advocate for herself through strategic questioning and maintain her integrity despite challenging circumstances.

The conversation takes a powerful turn as we explore how professionals from marginalized backgrounds often compromise their identities to succeed in corporate environments. From code-switching to changing hairstyles, both hosts share personal stories of the sacrifices made to appear "acceptable" in professional spaces. As Ayana notes, "For years I didn't wear sewing weaves, I didn't wear braids... but it took a toll and damaged my hair." This candid discussion highlights how younger generations are increasingly rejecting these compromises.

We also tackle the declining interest in management positions, with Ayana revealing that 85-90% of her coaching clients express reluctance to pursue leadership roles. This trend signals a significant shift in how professionals view career advancement, challenging organizations to create alternative paths for technical experts who deserve recognition without managing people.

The episode concludes with practical wisdom for anyone struggling with difficult leadership, emphasizing self-knowledge and intentional responses to workplace challenges. As Ayana advises, "Pick battles big enough to matter but small enough to win." Whether you're dealing with a toxic boss or navigating organizational politics, this conversation offers strategies to survive, thrive, and maintain your authentic self along the way.

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Dreading your next performance review? In this episode, we’ll break down how to prepare for and survive even the toughest feedback sessions. From handling unfair critiques to showcasing your wins, learn how to own the conversation and use it as a launchpad for growth.

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What do you do when your boss lies to you—or about you? This episode dives into the messy world of dishonest managers and equips you with tools to protect your reputation and your career. Learn how to uncover the truth, maintain your integrity, and navigate the fallout of their lies.

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What happens when your boss is always MIA? In this episode, we’ll explore strategies to succeed when your manager is unresponsive or unavailable. From setting clear expectations to stepping up as your own leader, discover how to thrive in the absence of guidance.

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Is your boss threatened by your success? In this episode, we tackle the tricky dynamics of a jealous manager and show you how to manage their insecurities while thriving in your role. Learn to shine without stepping on toes and build a collaborative relationship that works for everyone

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