Sober·ish Uprising

“Alcohol robs you of your opportunity to cultivate your power from your own courage. When you are courageous sober you learn that you can trust yourself to do bigger and scarier things. And other things you thought were scary become less so and your edges continue to grow.” 

This one is a spicy episode people so be ready. I met Whitney at a retreat where she led a session called … wait for it… Transcendent Orgasms. To say we were all terrified would be an understatement ( stay tuned till end when I share my story).

Whitney fell into accidental sobriety almost 10 years ago when she became pregnant with her son. Having her first drink at 19 and never really loving the taste, but loving how it made her less inhibited, she made the choice to not introduce alcohol to her life.

We talk about the permission slip (or an excuse) alcohol gives us to be fully expressed in a world that wants to tell us exactly how women should behave.

How it's not sober sex we are scared of but sober vulnerability and how we must create safety in our bodies and courage in our souls and cannot do that authentically if alcohol plays a role.

How you give your sexual power and expression and radiance to the care of a substance that really belongs to you and the exponential growth that comes when you take that power back.

I am obsessed and a tad uncomfortable with this conversation which means it must be spoken about.  

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About Whitney 

Whitney Tougas is a facilitator, educator, and coach liberating women in expression, sexuality, and voice. 

She is the co-founder of Women Who Roar, a transformational ceremony for women which attendees  have called “life-changing,” “the most healing experience [they’ve] ever had,” and “beyond transformative.” 

Whitney is also the founder of Pleasure Sorcery, an organization dedicated to re-empowering women with vulvas in experiencing their limitless, birthright pleasure and sexual superpowers in safety without shame and is the creator of the Haven Voice Method embodied authentic voice program for trans women. 

Whitney has been featured on top sexuality and spirituality podcasts, as a keynote speaker, and has facilitated workshops to international audiences with rave reviews. 

Connect with Whitney and see upcoming workshops and ceremonies on Instagram:

@womenwhoroar 

@pleasuresorcery

Or learn more about her work at www.pleasuresorcery.com and www.havenspeech.com. 

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 

www.soberishuprising.com 

“I said to this interventionist, ‘Look. If you take away my drinking. It's not going to stop the fact I'm a single mom or that I have this jerk of an ex-husband or that I work this crazy corporate job and that I’m barely making ends meet.’ He smiled and said, ‘No but it will change you.’” 

Margy recently celebrated 19 years of sobriety on February 7th but it was just a little over four months ago when she made this a public statement. 

She took her first sip at 8, disgusted with the flavor and burn but intrigued by the warmth. Her drinking was “normal” through adolescent and young adulthood but took a turn after her divorce. She was head of PTA, single soccer mom of two with a corporate job and never missed any events but also never missed a detour to the liquor store.  Making it all look normal on the outside didn’t trick her family as her brother hosted a family intervention that set her sobriety on track.

Why 19 years of sobriety before being more public? At 10 years sober she shared her story on stage and was told by several influential people that she shouldn’t share that piece of her because she would be judged. She quit speaking her truth until now when her passion for creating inclusive spaces outweighs fear of judgment. 

She shares the way she justified her alcohol use for years including that wine tasting was an art and part of a nice dinner to it wasn't a drunk driving accident that ended with the jaws of life but bad weather.

The power of having someone believe in you even when you don't and how seeing people  doing what you don't think you can is such an inspiration. We talk about the need to create sober inclusive spaces at all events and making events less alcohol forward (even drinkers are on board with this) and how sober inclusive doesn't mean no booze but not just events focused around booze.

She shares her term Sober Wingman, those who drink but are your 100% cheerleader and support system, and what a key role they play in the sober inclusivity movement. 

About Margy

Margy Schaller is a speaker coach and the co-founder of Sober Life Rocks.  She has been sober for 19 years but only recently felt comfortable sharing her sobriety in her professional circles.

Sober Life Rocks is a membership-based community for people who are sober, sober-ish, sober-curious, and our favorite, our sober wingmen.  Our primary mission is to ensure that no one feels alone at business functions.  In addition to supporting each other in community, we are also working with meeting planners and event organizers to normalize sober choices by creating more sober-inclusive environments. In addition to providing alcohol-free options, this encompasses creating a variety of environments at parties where everyone can network and connect comfortably, regardless of what's in their cup.

You can learn more at www.soberliferocks.com or connect with us at [email protected].

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 

www.soberishuprising.com 

“There was something more for me and it was going to take a choice to get to that point. I’m here for more. This isn’t me.”

A daughter of a workaholic and alcoholic, it made perfect sense Lauren would turn into both. After never being taught how to deal with emotion, anything that wasn’t a high was bad which led to her chasing the high with alcohol, drugs and work. After a divine moment on NYE 2018 that either came from her mother who passed away or her higher self, she knew it was time to make a change. It took multiple attempts on her own, negotiations and more before she went to rehab and has been sober since. 

Now sober for almost 4.5 years Lauren is unrecognizable from years ago and now works with women on their own health journeys. 

We talk about how much energy it takes to keep up with life while drinking and how once you quit you have so much energy to live the life you want. 

She shares about how she had to let go of ego and the humbling experience of going to rehab and how it was so painful she knew she could never go back there.

We dive into the power of the gut-brain-mood connection and how alcohol impacts them all causing so many of the stressors we run from. 

It would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking freedom from alcohol to find this podcast.

About Lauren

Lauren Jewel is a Mind-Body Practitioner, specializing in the Gut-Brain Mood-Connection and Neuro-Identity Evolution—providing a body based approach to mental health.

Lauren is on a mission to redefine nourishment as anything that feeds you physically, mentally, and spiritually. Her outlook on life is simple, “When we’re disconnected from our body, we’re disconnected from our power. The more you allow yourself to feel, the more you will heal. The ripple effect of which will revolutionize our society (as we know it) when we understand that change in fact happens on the inside."She can be found on Instagram @ Lauren_Michelle_Jewel 

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 

Follow along on Instagram @soberishhollykrivo or learn more at www.soberishuprising.com.

“Sober•ish means creating your own definition for you. We can create our own rules. We can create what feels good to us. That is one of the most important things, “What feels good to me?, “Am I in alignment with my highest truth?” And creating that definition for yourself.”

Unlike a lot of people, Adrienne had cut down on drinking during the pandemic as she wasn’t out entertaining clients and socializing but it was during a plant medicine experience that truly changed her relationship with alcohol.

She went in asking for clarity, energy, abundance and freedom and the answer was clear and simple, “Quit Drinking.”

She shares how even though she received this divine message she still had an internal battle of not wanting to quit and then became curious about why she was fighting for something that didn’t serve the woman she wants to be. 

She shares how dating sober is different than dating while drinking and how a little alcohol can lead to second or third dates when sobriety cuts it off at one. And how this can go for friendships as well. 

We discuss the power of habit stacking and how no matter if they are habits that distract you from your life or serve the life you want to lead, they'll grow and impact the version of the you, you want to be.

About Adrienne 

Adrienne is a mindset coach who works with driven, successful people who feel burned out or not living up to their potential, get connected to their purpose, perform at their peak and live with more freedom & joy.

www.Adrienne-Grace.com

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 

www.soberishuprising.com

“My biggest fear was my children wouldn't know how to be uncomfortable and would have to find a way to escape. I don't want my girls to think motherhood is martyrdom or they have to suffer to be a parent or have to escape it.” 

Starlyn’s last drink was 4 months before the start of Covid but she didn't know it was her last drink at the time. After battling anxiety for a long time she sought care and was prescribed anxiety meds and had to make the choice between continuing drinking and taking her meds. Scary in itself because her idea at the time was that drinking helped the anxiety but we know that’s not true. 

In today’s podcast we talk about;

How guilt (even mom guilt!) and shame is pretty much non-existent because she owns the decisions she makes and how she acts now and when she does do things she isn’t proud of its because she is a human not because of booze. 

How as someone who loves control she worked so hard to remain in control when alcohol was causing havoc on her life from eating healthy to working out as a way to prove alcohol isn't a problem. Now that it's gone she has control in a calm and productive way.

The importance of feeling your feelings and being an example to your children so they can see healthy ways of coping has been an unexpected bonus and how she feels so grateful for her sobriety during her children’s formative years. 

And as a fellow “I do what I wanter” she has created no rules for her sobriety but is instead looking at it as choosing a life that doesn't involve booze.

About Starlyn

Starlyn is a wellness coach for women who are ready to transform their lives by reclaiming their health and energy, gaining confidence in their body, while living a happy and balanced life. 

Find out more on Starlyn on instagram, starlynhaneman, or visit her website at 

https://www.wholesomerebelwellness.com/

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 
www.soberishuprising.com 

Finding my sober•ish path and attending Tracy Litt’s Powerhouse are two of the most important things I have done for my healing and growth. And I was sober for every single one.

Today I share my three big takeaways from the transformational Powerhouse event and how they work for me as a human and how they can support you on your sober•ish journey. 

Creating a knowing of trust. Trust myself, in timing and in the higher good. 

Redefining failure and how taking the “you” out of failure can change everything.

The importance of building an intentional community can lead to your expansion like no other. 

It would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking freedom from alcohol to find this podcast. 

If you are ready to take on your sober•ish journey I would love to have you join me for The Sober•ish Experiment starting February 8th. 12 weeks designed to have you shed the shackles you've been living in and experience a life of freedom sober•ish.

⁠https://coaching.soberishuprising.com/the-soberish-experiment-sign-up⁠ 

Tracy Litt 

www.thelittfactor.com 

Vaughn Pierro 

https://www.vaughnpierro.com/ 

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 

www.soberishuprising.com 

“Sober•ish is giving yourself the best opportunity to have the life you want. None of this is possible without me being sober. I need to be sober to be the best possible person, leader, mother I can be. Sober•ish is giving myself the best opportunity at this beautiful life.” 

Tori is the Founder of Compete Confidence Golf which has taken the women’s golf industry by storm and absolutely none of it would be possible without her being sober.  Sober for over 20 years, Tori started drinking young and it escalated quickly leading to rehab at 19. 

She shares about how starting a sober softball league was key to her Sobriety and 100s of others and how it's possibly the thing she is most proud of. 

We talk about how the miracle is in doing the work, the day to day of showing up is the  Doing the day to day work of what we need to do is what the miracle of sobriety truly is.

We talk about inclusivity in both sobriety and golf and how seeing women like yourself gives you the power to do the thing you don’t think you can do.

It would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking freedom from alcohol to find this podcast. 

About Tori  

Tori Totlis is the Founder of Complete Confidence Golf which hosts luxury retreats and tournaments all across the World for all levels of women’s golf.  She is on a mission to create unmatched community for women in golf, online and in-person. She is also the host of T-Time Podcast with Tori Totlis.

https://www.competeconfidencegolf.com/ 

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and her signature program The Sober•ish Experiment, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey. 

www.soberishuprising.com 

Welcome to 2024! New Year. New You? New Year. Same You?  

Whatever version of you, let’s go! 

Trying Dry January? Go you! I share 3 tips to help support you on your journey. Just know you can do anything for 31 days or rather not do one thing. You’ve got this.

The New Year can feel a bit much especially when it comes to trying to create all the changes you want and on the same day. No wonder most of the time we fail. Who created this day anyways? 

I do have goals for this year and things I want to accomplish but my big focus is on two things, my word of the year and my intention. I share these in today’s episode because I KNOW that if I stay true to these everything else will come my way. 

I also share a preview of The Sober•ish Experiment which launches February 7th. Its a 12-week program designed to help you make Sober•ish your next power move.

The Sober•ish Experiment is a 12-week program designed to make Sober•ish your next power move.  We’ll uncover the beliefs, stories and fears you have around not drinking and rewrite your story to align to the woman you want to be. Plus we’ll have fun doing it. 

For more information check it out at link below and if still not sure, schedule a call with me and we’ll see if its right for you! https://coaching.soberishuprising.com/the-soberish-experiment-sign-up

Join by end of January 5th with code newyearsoberishyou and get 50% off the full program. 

Let’s make 2024 the year we put ourselves first in whatever way that looks like. 

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and group coaching, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey.

www.soberishuprising.com

Welcome to the final episode of The Sober•ish Uprising for 2023. I am filled with such gratitude for all who have shared their story and those who have tuned in. Thank you for the courage and curiosity to explore your relationship with alcohol. 

In today’s episode I share my favorite things from my guests on the podcast and also in my sober•ish journey. Think Oprah’s Favorite Things except no one gets a car. Okay so maybe not like hers.  

I also share 5 questions to help you start to think through what 2024 looks like and I share a sneak preview of The Sober•ish Experiment, a 12 week program starting in early February to help you design and thrive in your sober•ish journey. It’s going to be epic so don’t miss it! 

Thank you so much for tuning in and the support and we’ll be back January 4th with new episodes. It would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking freedom from alcohol to find this podcast. Interested in starting your own sober•ish journey? Visit www.soberishuprising.com to see how we can help! About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and group coaching, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey.

“There was a time when I was really challenging myself. I wanted a beer but I felt guilty because I am a spiritual leader. I had to question my who, what, when, what actions. Through allowing myself to explore that gave me the answers of my true self sovereignty.”  

Vaughn  is a healer, a priestess and soul alchemist who works with the star energies of the cosmos for greater wisdom, light and healing. 

It’s okay I didn’t know what all of this meant either but bonus is that as much as Vaughn plays in the unknown she is also super down to earth. 

Vaughn isn’t sober but on a journey of finding peace with how she uses alcohol especially as a healer.

She shares how a good IPA brings her back to her humanness after leading women through profound healing which makes sense as alcohol vibes at a lower level energy. 

We talk about the importance of going through the pain and not over and how when we try to drink through we prolong the pain and avoid healing. 

And how self trust and self sovereignty is the key to all conscious decisions.

Check out Vaughn’s amazing podcast Cosmic Healing, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cosmic-healing/id1653303521 or learn more about her at https://www.vaughnpierro.com.

Sober•ish Curious? Let’s connect. I offer several ways to support you in discovery and thriving in your sober•ish life. Visit www.soberishuprising.com for more information and resources. Remember it’s not about saying no to booze but yes to you!

About Sober•ish Uprising 

At Sober•ish Uprising we find freedom from alcohol on our own terms. Founded by Holly Krivokapich, a former heavy drinker who started a sober•ish uprising of her own and everything changed, we know it's not about saying no to the drink but saying yes to you. Through our podcast, 1:1 coaching and group coaching, we support those to create and live their own sober•ish journey.