Look at the confusion that arises in your mind relative to what’s happening with your interactions with others, whether pleasant, boring or disturbing. Rather than look for the cause of the confusion, train yourself to see what this is fundamentally by looking at the confusion directly. This is done through the sitting practice of meditation.

https://youtu.be/HgotzWl4Hww

When anything comes up in your mind, before the naming comes, before you even call it confusion, just observe. The original situation is what needs to be seen. That's the dharma gate.

https://youtu.be/MFrJ_u6HLMI

https://youtu.be/SYUIah-N28U

Karma is Sanskrit for action. The simple karma of cause and effect is what most of the world is trapped by; the illusion that ‘this caused that’ and you can do something to stop it. If you wrestle with your life, you’ll miss it.

https://youtu.be/d58KP0AtzCQ

https://youtu.be/mbIlC-MU3_g

This is to help people see how they can work with relationships: listen 90% of the time and talk 10%. It’s an impossible form, but it lets you know just how much you run your mouth. Listen to everyone, even if they’re not saying anything yet.

https://youtu.be/zMbaAzo9ATU

Don’t ignore the silence by grasping onto what creates the idea of a space or silence. Something comes up in our mind as language about everything. The quality of thought has different dimensions or depths to it. Get used to that and get to know yourself by watching your mindstream.

https://youtu.be/K6jHmMsz2rk

All dharmas are without fault and without blame. It’s about awareness of what’s happening and not about a success story. It’s very hard not to judge or blame. Have the courage to look at what shows up in your mind steam moment by moment, even though there are no actual moments.

https://youtu.be/lpQg1ZpA0A0

This is often missed because we put our ideas, our thoughts, our memories and our judgements over the top of something that is completely shimmering in front of us. It’s wordless.

https://youtu.be/zhuoz7trqI4

This is a continuation from Saturday’s all-day sesshin talk.

Relationships are always changing, always difficult. Whatever is showing up that’s coming toward you as an Apparent Other, just receive it. It’s not exactly other than you.

https://youtu.be/KfAHskq7Y_k