https://youtu.be/mbIlC-MU3_g

This is to help people see how they can work with relationships: listen 90% of the time and talk 10%. It’s an impossible form, but it lets you know just how much you run your mouth. Listen to everyone, even if they’re not saying anything yet.

https://youtu.be/zMbaAzo9ATU

Don’t ignore the silence by grasping onto what creates the idea of a space or silence. Something comes up in our mind as language about everything. The quality of thought has different dimensions or depths to it. Get used to that and get to know yourself by watching your mindstream.

https://youtu.be/K6jHmMsz2rk

All dharmas are without fault and without blame. It’s about awareness of what’s happening and not about a success story. It’s very hard not to judge or blame. Have the courage to look at what shows up in your mind steam moment by moment, even though there are no actual moments.

https://youtu.be/lpQg1ZpA0A0

This is often missed because we put our ideas, our thoughts, our memories and our judgements over the top of something that is completely shimmering in front of us. It’s wordless.

https://youtu.be/zhuoz7trqI4

This is a continuation from Saturday’s all-day sesshin talk.

Relationships are always changing, always difficult. Whatever is showing up that’s coming toward you as an Apparent Other, just receive it. It’s not exactly other than you.

https://youtu.be/KfAHskq7Y_k

The forgiveness I am addressing here is not about the minor things having to do with being polite and respectful of other people. I am talking about when you think you can forgive somebody for something. You cannot. This just perpetuates the confusion that we’re dealing with all over the world, all the time. First, don’t blame, then you won’t be drawn to forgive anybody.

https://youtu.be/A5uPtKAj6jw

If you see what this is it’s very mirror-like. It’s not reflecting anything other that that which is observing it, which is consciousness. Everything you see is mirroring you all the time. The encouragement with the this example is to see that its objectivity resides mainly in what’s being reflected in it.

https://youtu.be/LCmIbhwgvW8

Radical in the sense of going to the root of something means first looking at what is showing up. You’re going to have to look at the stems and leaves before you can find the root. I’m recommending to you that you don’t waste another minute of your life not looking at what this is fundamentally.

https://youtu.be/drP3i0HErpI

Starting with the sitting practice of meditation, just sitting still without being focused, there’s a that edge arises. Then there’s an overlap; that’s the protective part. That’s where we see the way we begin to disguise ourselves and come to conclusions about who we are. Don’t so anything with that. Just observe.

https://youtu.be/KMNFd4wYNZ4