If you’ve ever felt stuck, or like you’re doing all the right things but something still feels off, there’s a good chance it’s a values problem. Not a discipline problem, not a productivity problem. A values problem. Most people have never actually sat down and figured out what they care about. Not really anyway.

This clip is from our episode How to Find and Live By Your Values, which came out back in May 2025 and is honestly one of the episodes I’m most proud of. Drew and I go through a bunch of exercises to help you actually figure out what you value, not what you think you’re supposed to value. 

We cover things like:

How to identify your core values with a simple hypothetical scenario.

How to clearly define what you want your legacy to be

Ways to prioritize your values by making tough decisions.

How to turn frustrations into your deepest values.

Why the hierarchy of your values is more critical than any single one of them.

And why your willingness to sacrifice for something says a lot more about you than just what you think you want in life.

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Focus is one of those things everyone swears they need more of and almost no one is actually addressing correctly. In this episode, we dig into what the science actually says about attention spans (hint: your brain isn't broken, it's just overwhelmed), why the standard advice to "try harder" is probably making things worse, and what's really driving your inability to sit down and get things done. We get into the neuroscience of explore vs. exploit modes, why flow states feel the way they do, and the four hidden triggers behind most focus problems, none of which have anything to do with your phone. Then we get into the practical stuff: environmental design, deep work frameworks, the maker vs. manager schedule, time boxing, batching, and why a dentist appointment in the middle of your morning can ruin your entire day. If you're the kind of person who opens 14 browser tabs, switches between them for 40 minutes, and calls that "working", well, this one's for you.

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

3:06 Chapter 1: The Attention Crisis (Is It Even Real?)

21:55 Chapter 2: The Exploit–Explore Dilemma

29:57 Your Brain on Explore and Exploit Mode

43:48 Technology evolved with Focus

50:33 Chapter 3: The Psychology of Distraction

54:06 Trigger 1: Lack of Importance

56:24 Trigger 2: Lack of Clarity

1:00:01 Trigger 3: Lack of Calmness

1:02:49 Trigger 4: Lack of Health

1:07:21 What about Willpower?

1:18:50 Chapter 4: Flow States and Hyperfocus

1:25:13 Characteristics of flow state

1:37:36 Chapter 5: Mental Health and the Clinical Realities of Focus

1:39:30 ADHD

1:41:56 Hyperfocus vs Flow

1:56:27 Chapter 6: Environmental Design for Focus

2:01:15 Foundations

2:06:38 Setting Up Your Workspace

2:14:15 Working with others

2:22:49 Temperature, lighting. air quality

2:27:30 Nature exposure

2:29:22 Ritual as a “trigger system”

2:34:39 Chapter 7: Productivity Systems

2:53:17 Maker Schedules vs. Manager Schedules

3:00:10 Using Apps for Focus

3:05:29 Chapter 8: The 80/20 of Focus

3:07:51 Is Focus a Skill?

3:11:07 Takeaways

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A Hungarian doctor discovered that handwashing saves lives, and was destroyed for proving it. Michael Jordan’s competitiveness made him a legend, then turned him into a prisoner of his own intensity. My ADHD nearly derailed my life and later became the foundation of my career. This video explores an uncomfortable truth: the traits that make you exceptional are often the same ones that create your biggest problems. The real question isn't “How do I change?” but “Is this worth it, and how do I manage it?”

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We put love on trial — literally. Drew and I squared off in a full debate over whether romantic love is overrated. I made the case that love is basically your brain's con man, a neurochemical hijacking designed to make you delusional about deeply flawed people, and that the most intoxicating relationships are often the most toxic. Drew fought back with the evidence that love is the foundation of social infrastructure, physical health, and long-term happiness. By the end, we came to a gentlemen’s agreement: a framework that explains why we're all chasing the wrong kind of love, and what the right kind actually looks like.

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0:00 Introduction

2:21 Round 1: Love is the Brain's Conman

23:33 Round 2: Love as Social Infrastructure

45:33 Round 3: Love and Happiness

1:07:14 Round 4: We're Drawn to People Who Hurt Us

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This is a segment from the full episode on procrastination.

Procrastination isn't a time management problem — it's an emotional regulation problem, and once you see that, everything changes. We break down how your brain uses avoidance as a mood-management strategy, why every philosopher from Plato to the Buddhists was partially right (but nobody had the full picture), and the specific internal and external levers you can pull to actually get shit done. We also run through the six types of procrastinators so you can figure out which flavor of self-sabotage you've been perfecting — plus the RAIN method, minimum viable actions, and why making boring things fun isn't just a nice idea, it's the whole game.

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Most people aren’t bad at dating, they’re just trying to solve the wrong problem. We treat dating like a personality test (“Am I attractive enough? Confident enough?”) when it’s actually a multi-stage process, and each stage punishes completely different mistakes. That one misunderstanding explains why dating feels so confusing, why men and women keep blaming each other, why dating apps feel brutal, and why so much dating advice makes things worse instead of better.

In this episode of Solved, Drew and I break down why modern dating feels so broken, and why it actually isn’t. We dig into the evolutionary psychology behind attraction, why men and women are optimizing for different things, how modern culture and dating apps amplify the worst parts of the system, and the three stages of dating that almost nobody understands. We also talk about confidence, rejection, status, attraction, and why avoiding rejection is often the very thing sabotaging your dating life. If you’ve felt stuck, burned out, or quietly wondering “what the hell is wrong with dating?” — this episode is for you.

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0:00 Introduction

5:12 Chapter 1: Why Is Dating So Complicated?

11:03 The different challenges men and women face

17:18 Facts

29:51 What Women Find Attractive

38:16 What Men Find Attractive

51:27 Chapter 2: A Brief History of Courtship & Dating

1:06:10 Modern Dating

1:11:41 A Glimmer of Hope: The emerging offline renaissance

1:21:37 Chapter 3: Men's and Women's Dating Advice Ecosystems

1:31:13 Inside the Male Advice Ecosystem

1:44:52 Inside the Female Advice Ecosystem

2:02:07 The Collision: Feedback Loops That Break the Market

2:21:27 Chapter 4: The Pre-Dating Phase

2:36:22 Building Confidence

2:37:59 Halo Effect

2:53:20 Conclusion Pre Dating

2:57:48 Chapter 5: Meeting People and Getting Dates

3:11:17 Flirting

3:23:15 Reading People

3:29:51 Chapter 6: Going on Dates

3:38:39 Trustworthiness

3:47:09 Conversational Skills

3:56:12 Emotional Regulation

4:03:03 Boundaries

4:09:07 F**k yes or no

4:14:44 The 80/20

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Most people think ego is either something you need to kill off entirely or inflate to take over the world. Both are wrong. In this episode, we dig deep into what ego actually is—how it evolved, why it matters, and how it secretly runs your life without you realizing it.

We hit Freud, Buddhism, David Hume, Jung’s shadow self, and even the Navy SEALs to unpack why your ego isn’t always the enemy—it’s mostly just misunderstood. Then we get into how to quiet your ego without losing your identity, and yes, we talk psychedelics, too. This is everything you were never taught about ego—but should’ve been.

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

3:31 Chapter 1: Defining the Indefinable — What Is the Ego?

3:33 Napoleon + Gary Snyder

10:15 The Architecture and Function of the Ego

27:15 What is a Healthy Ego?

36:14 The Philosophical Divide: Two Cultures, Two Selves

49:29 Chapter 2: The Ego’s Evolutionary Architecture — How Evolution Built the Self

49:33 Why Evolution Invented “I”

51:46 The Architecture of the Ego: From Refl ex to Reflection

1:00:33 The First Fall: When Knowing Became Our Burden

1:09:07 Why Evolution Built the Ego

1:13:08 Chapter 3: When the Ego Becomes a Tyrant

1:13:20 The Anatomy of Ego Tyranny

1:19:05 Recognizing and Disarming the Inner Dictator

1:47:29 Chapter 4: The Quiet Ego — Beyond a Strong Ego

1:47:34 When Quieter Means Stronger

1:50:58 The Science and Structure of the Quiet Ego

1:57:16 Cultivating a Quiet Ego

2:01:08 Benefits of a Quiet Ego

2:04:27 Chapter 5: The Chemical Dissolution: Ego Death and Psychedelics

2:23:16 Chapter 6: 80/20

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This is probably the most comprehensive, no-BS breakdown of boundaries you're going to find anywhere. We cover what boundaries actually are (spoiler: it’s not just telling people to f*ck off), why they matter more than you think, and how your entire life—your relationships, mental health, identity, even career—is quietly shaped by whether or not you have them.

By the end of this, you’ll know exactly how to set boundaries, how to enforce them without being a jerk, and how to stop confusing your preferences, rules, and passive-aggressive texts for actual emotional maturity. Plus, we talk about how the internet has totally mangled this concept and what to do instead. If you’ve ever felt burned out, resentful, overwhelmed, or just vaguely annoyed by everyone around you, this is for you.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/boundaries

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This one’s different. In this special year-end episode, I answer your questions—from the deep stuff about purpose and motivation, to the uncomfortable realities of change, burnout, failure, and dealing with unsupportive family. I also share the behind-the-scenes chaos of building SOLVED this year, what I learned about making massive, meaningful content, and what’s coming in 2026 (spoiler: boundaries, ego, and maybe some live shows).

This is part personal, part philosophical, and part therapy session disguised as a podcast. If you’ve been wondering what’s next—or why you feel stuck—this one’s for you. See you in 2026.

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Chapters:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:13) Recap of 2025

(03:42) What if I don't have a single purpose?

(06:07) Why don't I feel a strong need for purpose?

(08:32) How do I find purpose when doing things I don't find important?

(12:34) I'm having issues on getting motivated on one thing

(19:35) What if my family doesn't support my purpose?

(23:15) I'm struggling with the idea that purpose must be bigger than yourself

(26:04) How Mark got Purpose AI to work

(32:55) Questions from YouTube

(33:13) How do you change yourself?

(36:43) Finding meaning after AI takeover

(44:01) What would a Models rewrite look like today?

(48:19) Mark's first heartbreak

(54:31) What would Mark put on Voyager 1?

(57:35) Self-doubt on something you make

(1:02:12) Mark's next book?

(1:03:38) Tours around the world

(1:05:55) Goals for 2026

(1:08:14) Podcast changes for 2026

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This is the episode I’ve been waiting to make for a long time. Purpose has been at the core of everything I’ve written and done for over a decade—and in this episode, we go all the way down the rabbit hole. From Viktor Frankl surviving Auschwitz to the myth of “finding your one true purpose,” we break down what purpose really is, why you feel lost without it, and how you can build it into your life.

We also get uncomfortable (in the best way) and talk about the dark side of purpose—how it can burn you out, trap you in toxic ambition, or become an excuse to ruin your life.

And I have a very special announcement to make: Today, I’m launching a new app called Purpose. It’s an AI-powered mentor for personal growth. You talk to it about whatever you’re facing—stress, decisions, conflicts, goals—and it helps you make sense of things. Purpose listens, reflects back what matters most, and turns big challenges into small, actionable steps. The more you use it, the more personalized and helpful it becomes.

Get started in the app with a free course on finding your purpose at

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