Somebody You Love

TW: Assault of a SWer 

The first episode of our Just The Tips series designed for sex workers! Jenna & Holly break down what they did wrong so you don’t make the same mistakes! Is being an independent escort right for you? What is involved in running your own escorting business? Where can you go for information? How do you pick your name? Do you need to get professional photos? Do you need a separate email? Phone number? Social media accounts? 

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through 

technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org 

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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Darian Rye is a male escort for women and couples, based in Canberra, Australia. He entered the adult industry in 2016, and since then has grown a successful business in keeping women company. We talk about what female clients are looking for, maintaining boundaries, and Darian hides in a closet. Literally. 

1:27 Main Segment: Darian's origin story, what women want, misconceptions

31:56 Patron questions: Advice for first-timers, funny stories, dogs or cats? 

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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TW: Sex trafficking, Eating disorders

Today we are looking at an absurd document released earlier this year by AUSTRAC. For Shit People Say, Jenna and Holly both go on rants about supposed “compliments”, our Misconception is that sex work is easy, and the Question of the Week is a doozy (TW: ED for the Question) 

1:49 Main Segment: AUSTRAC’s Guide to Detecting and Stopping Forced Sexual Servitude

29:05 Shit People Say: “Learn to take a compliment” 

46:25 Misconception: Sex work is easy, a lazy option

52:17 Question of the week: Do you report her to the site to try to help her or leave her be to earn a little money?

The AUSTRAC Guide: https://www.austrac.gov.au/sites/default/files/2022-02/AUSTRAC_FCG_DetectingAndStoppingForcedSexualServitude_web.pdf

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org 

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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Isabella Martin is a proud “fatgirl” and the creator of the the BBW Badgirl Podcast. She is a Mexican/Irish super-size BBW sexworker based out of Los Angeles, CA. Over the last 10+ years she has worked multiple facets of sexwork: in person as an escort and dominatrix, as well as, pre-pandemic virtual work including phone sex, cam girl and most recently content creating on platforms like Onlyfans. 

1:26 Main Segment: Sex work as a supersize BBW

32:05 Patron questions: Guns, body positivity, how to be with bigger bodies, loving your body 

49:47 Shit People Say: “no one ever will perpetrate violence towards overweight women”

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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Happy International Sex Worker Rights Day! Why do many sex workers hide or blur their faces? Spoiler alert: It’s not because they are ugly. We’re talking today about all of the negative consequences faced by those of us who show our faces in our advertising. And Jenna shares an in-person Shit People Say experience. 

Main Segment: 2:40  Why the USA won’t let us in

Shit People Say: 43:56 "No, you're a man"

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org 

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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It’s time to tell the rest of the embarrassing work stories our peers submitted anonymously - so might not be the best time to eat your lunch if you’re squeamish! In awesome news, Susan Sarandon posted about being pro-sex work. In bad news, that brought the SWERFs out to play. In okay news, that meant we had some content for Shit People Say this week. 

Main Segment: 1:39 Anonymous story time

Shit People Say: 31:27 “If you can’t service your father it isn’t a job”

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org 

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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Today on the show we have a very special episode focusing on the most recent developments in the sex work decrim space. On Thursday 10th February, the Sex Work Decriminalisation Bill 2021 was passed in Victorian parliament and, while we have all been celebrating the extraordinary work of everyone who contributed to this historic milestone, it has been somewhat bittersweet. Dylan O’Hara, the Acting Manager of Vixen, Victoria's peer only sex work organisation, and Jules Kim, the CEO of Scarlet Alliance, Australian Sex Workers Association, join Holly & Jenna to explain the good and the bad. 

1:37 Main Segment: Decrim of sex work in Victoria 

Victorian sex worker? Get involved with Vixen: [email protected]

Scarlet Alliance’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/scarletalliance

Vixen’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/VixenCollective

Scarlet Alliance’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scarlet_alliance

Scarlet Alliance’s FB page: https://www.facebook.com/scarletalliance.org.au/

Scarlet Alliance website: https://scarletalliance.org.au/

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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We put a call out to the hooker brains trust and asked them to submit their most embarrassing work stories… anonymously. So this episode we’re pretty much just reading out tales of blood, poop, and vomit. Soz about that. Plus Holly gets a bingo score card of a Shit People Say enquiry. 

Main Segment: 8:35 Anonymous story time

Shit People Say: 41:24 “twice a fortnight” 

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org 

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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This week we are taking a break from our main episodes and instead giving you a clip from January's Boners Episode - which is available to all $10+ Patrons (and as a video for $20+ Patrons)!

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We’re rubbing it in this week! Sharing all of the best parts of our jobs and why we absolutely love what we do. Plus we share some words from one of our Patrons about clients with disabilities. 

Main Segment: 1:30 The perks of sex work

Question of the Week: 50:22 Clients with disabilities

Touching Base: https://www.touchingbase.org/

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: 

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org 

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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