This episode is proudly sponsored by Jodie's group, Trauma Warriors™.
In Not My Closet: How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Self & Body Image, Karen Bieman talks to us about betrayal trauma and the impact this has on the sense of self and body image of straight and non-trans partners in relationships with a closeted lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person.
In Not My Closet: How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Self & Body Image, Karen also talks about:
- What brought Karen to this work
Karen’s relationship songWhen Karen’s husband told her the truth about being gayWhy Karen’s life felt like a lieKaren’s life workDisenfranchised griefWhy the betrayed partner is often silencedWhy you should never say ‘at least…’Brene Brown Empathy versus sympathyWhat are the types of betrayal trauma relationships?Lies, deception and betrayalWhy the betrayed partner feels confused, used and angryShame, silence and betrayalHomophobia and collateral damageConversion therapy and other solutionsWhat is intentional monogamy?What happens to most couples?Mutual respect is the ultimate goalGaslighting and betrayal traumaExistential crisis and coming outThe impact on the childrenThe impact of the betrayal on the straight or non-trans partnerThe impact on the straight and non-trans partner’s body imageShame and body imageUsing food, disgust as a coping mechanismYo-yo dieting and weight cycling is disordered eatingDieting is an attempt to fix something that has never been broken (Jodie’s article)Object relations and primary attachment injuriesPost-traumatic growth – what is the symptom calling for us to awakening to?Value, meaning and purposeAnger and recoveryFierce self-compassion - Kristen NeffSelf-sabotage versus self-loveDating again and trustRelational healing, therapy and support groupsIndividual and couples counsellingFor the show notes, go to: https://www.thesoulcentre.online/not-my-closet/