Soul Surgery with Nicky Clinch

Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast, I am honoured to have you here. This week I have recorded  a solo episode discussing how we can give ourselves the gift of radical self-love.

Last week I woke up feeling empty, exhausted and so drained, to the point that I could feel the effects were impacting upon  my whole outlook on life.  I realised I had stopped seeing any possibility and wasn’t  appreciating  any of the good in my life.  Instead I had become focused  on what was triggering me and how I was being lived by my stories.It felt painful to realise this, but at the same time it was a gift;  a moment of real clarity. I uncovered a deep  awareness of how much we all shame and judge ourselves if we aren’t feeling happy or positive.

We live in a world where a constant state of happiness is the ultimate goal. So much so that  feeling any negative emotion can often trigger a sense of failure and shame.  If we aren’t feeling happy something must be wrong, there must be  something we need to fix. This is apparent almost everywhere. Increasingly we are being sold an incredibly narrow picture of the  “ideal” way to live. Social media, the internet, magazines and ads are selling us the same story.  It tells us we are not enough. That we need to be  prettier, more successful, happier. We need to buy more and we need to be more.

But this picture we are being sold is not the truth and it is diminishing our ability to be with and accept the full spectrum and beauty of our feelings.

Over the past few years, the conversation surrounding weight and body image has begun to change  and challenge the way we have historically measured beauty and worth. Until now we have been fed a similarly limited  narrative about what it means to live a happy life and how we should be living as human beings. We need to challenge this narrative that tells us  if we aren’t happy all of the time, then we are somehow “doing” life wrong.

In this episode, I explore how to radically love and accept yourself so that you can allow and BE with all of your feelings without shame or judgement.

Highlights

Thank you so much for listening to this episode, I am so grateful that you are committed to doing the work of maturation alongside me. You are allowed to have low moments, and you deserve to FEEL it all, without judging yourself or telling yourself that these feelings are bad or wrong.

When we are able to give it to ourselves, our radical self-love is what heals us when we are willing to give it to ourselves.

I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

Love,

Nicky x

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Awakening Collective

Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast, I am so happy that you are here.

This week I wanted to share a topic that has been weighing heavy on my heart. How can we learn to sit with discomfort and grow through it, rather than reject anything that doesn’t fit our worldview? It is this rejection of discomfort that limits the growth and evolution of humanity and society as a whole.

Since the onset of this pandemic, everything feels heightened. I feel I’ve recently experienced a vast metamorphosis and I’m just beginning to come out the other side. It’s like another part of me has disintegrated, and now I am seeing things from a new place. I am waking up to the insanity of how we are currently  existing as human beings.

We are living in a world where what we are taught to celebrate and promote and aspire to, is often out of alignment with what is true and heartfelt.

The stories and narratives our society celebrates are based on competition, comparison and judgement. Our egos become addicted to the drama and adrenaline. We crave it, and without it we lose interest. It’s how our 24 hour news cycle operates; it’s why gossip magazines are in every supermarket, and it’s why online comment sections are becoming a source of so much conflict.

How have we become a culture where we only want to be around people who think the same as us? There is a reason why confirmation bias makes us feel so good - it reaffirms and reinforces our beliefs. We feel validated when people agree with us.

Anything that challenges our worldview and core beliefs can feel like a threat and a challenge to our worth. So we can end up only accepting people who continually communicate that we are right in our actions and thoughts, while dismissing anyone else. My way of thinking is right, and yours is wrong. This polarisation is how our world is currently operating, and this has only been exacerbated by the current pandemic. We don’t want to accept feeling anything other than comfortable and good, but this mindset will not provide fertile ground for growth and evolution.

In this episode, I explore how we can lean into discomfort and prove to ourselves that we can do hard things.

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Thank you so much for listening to this episode and allowing me to share my heart. If this message resonates with you or raises any questions, please reach out to me on Instagram.

As always, I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast, I am so glad that you are here. This week I have the very great pleasure of introducing you to Matthew Watherston, who is one of the most incredible visionaries and beautiful souls I have ever met.

Matthew is the founder of The Temple of the Way of Light, an ayahuasca healing centre in the heart of the Peruvian Amazon Rainforest. Last year I was lucky enough to spend two weeks healing,  rediscovering my soul’s purpose, and experiencing the absolute magic of this place for myself.

The Temple is a centre for healing trauma and offers intensive ayahuasca retreats with highly trained Shipibo Maestros. The Shipibo people are powerful doctors and surgeons of the soul, not of  western medicine. During my stay these incredible healers were literally performing surgery on my soul and helping me to dismantle and release limiting and self destructive patterns I had carried with me my entire life. By releasing these I was able to create space for a new way of being.  In fact, it was during this retreat that The Soul Surgery Podcast was born.

When we open ourselves up to the possibilities offered by plant medicine, we also open ourselves to the possibility of healing more deeply than we could ever imagine. I felt a great sense of  ceremony sitting with Matthew and hearing how ayahuasca and plant medicine cracked his heart wide open and revealed his life’s true purpose.

Matthew and I discuss how plant medicine can cure imbalances in our body and guide us on a journey of self-discovery, and complete spiritual transformation.

I am so happy that we were able to share how much plant medicine has helped us both to reconnect to our inner truth, open our hearts and experience wholeness.

Highlights

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I had such an incredible experience working with Matthew and his team at The Temple of the Way of Light. It has been a joy to share with you all  the healing powers of plant medicine.

If any of this episode resonated with you, or if you’ve had a profoundly transformational experience with ayahuasca, I would love to hear from you.

I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast. This week’s is a VERY special episode, where I introduce you to entrepreneur, thought leader, mentor, and beautiful soul Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is a life coach, speaker and retreat leader who helps people awaken and align to their true self so they can live their highest potential. She is also the author of 5 best-selling books on the psychology of happiness and fulfilment. Her latest book Joy Seeker draws from her own experiences to help find meaning, connection and joy in day to day life.

In this episode, Shannon shares how living with a spirit of joy and happiness is a conscious choice that is available to all of us  each day. When we can align with who we truly are, we all have the potential to live as this expression of love and we can demonstrate what living from a place of love looks like for the rest of the world. Shannon also shares how we can learn to navigate and move through fear, so it doesn’t limit us but instead allows us to flourish.

Everybody is living their own experience of Covid-19 and the accompanying  lockdowns and restrictions through their own lens. However, we have the opportunity to experience this as sitting in ceremony together.

Shannon embodies the beliefs that joy comes when we let go of expectations, co-create our own reality alongside source, and accept the reality of others even if  it doesn’t match our own. Through surrender and going inward to uncover what it is that serves  our highest good, we can choose to live from a place of joy.

When we live from a place of fear we lower our vibration and remain stuck in the past, but we need to release the judgement we place on our  negative emotions. Shame, fear, hate, anger, sadness  and frustration all serve a purpose, and if we can give ourselves permission to feel these emotions fully wee create space for these feelings be transmuted through us, rather than getting stuck. these emotions have the power to become direct channels to our higher self.

You can find joy in silence, joy in the present moment, and joy in the simple act of connection with another human soul. In this episode, Shannon and I explore what living in joy looks like, and how we ourselves can bring joy into our everyday life, rather than seeking it from  others.

Highlights

When you realise that you can be the creator of your own destiny and happiness, that is when you can fully step into your power and live a life of limitless possibilities. I hope this episode gives you the confidence and the tools to help you go out and live in love.

Please do leave a review on iTunes, and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Welcome to an extraordinary episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast with my soul sister, transformation partner, medicine woman, and beautiful best friend, Emma Cannon. It was an absolute joy to be able to sit down and record this episode with such an incredible healer, and the insights that I gained from our conversation were profoundly transformative, and I hope they will be for you as well.

Emma Cannon is a Master Acupuncturist in her field of fertility and has helped hundreds if not thousands of women get pregnant in circumstances where they were told that wasn’t possible. She’s opened up doorways for life to be born for SO MANY WOMEN.

She is also a medicine woman and wise teacher, and I am privileged to have her as my friend.

Today’s episode is something special as Emma recently received the terrible news that her breast cancer had returned and since then she has been on a journey of treatment and healing and awakening. Not only was Emma told that her cancer had returned, but she was also made aware that it had spread to her brain. There was a time this year where we thought she only had a few weeks to live.

And in true Emma Cannon way, she has faced it with such courage and power, navigating through the whole process as if it were a medicine and transformational process. Hearing Emma teach and speak about Surrender is worthwhile for anyone to hear.

In this episode, Emma is sharing it all. Her heart and vulnerability, her wisdom, and what it means to surrender and let go of who we think we are to come home to our highest self.

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This week’s episode shows you that everything can be medicine and how you are the medicine you so desperately seek. Emma’s courage, heart, and wisdom are on full magnificent display in this episode, and her friendship is the medicine I never knew I needed.

I hope this podcast can give you strength in difficult situations and help you find that medicine that already exists inside of you to help you heal and grow.

I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes, and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Nicky Clinch | Soul Surgery: Healing Block to Intimacy Show Notes

Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast, I am so happy that you are here.

This week I am sharing a peek behind the curtain at one of the most transformative coaching sessions I have had the pleasure to facilitate. My lovely client Sarah came to me struggling with creating and maintaining relationships. She was always able to connect with people initially and be that fun and sparkly person others loved to be around. However, when people tried to move beyond the surface and develop meaningful relationships, she pushed them away.

In this session, we get to the root of Sarah’s issues and why she is so afraid to be her authentic self with others. Being vulnerable and open requires a great deal of courage, and when you have experiences in your past where you’ve been rejected, it can lead you to put a wall up.

The truth is that without vulnerability, real relationships can’t form.  Vulnerability is showing up as your flawed and wounded self, still knowing that you are entirely worthy of affection and love.  It’s what takes relationships beyond the surface level and builds a sense of trust between two people and relationships can’t thrive without it.

Letting people in puts us in a scary position, and that is why Sarah pulls back when she feels people are getting too close to seeing her authentic self. It requires a great deal of bravery because pain and rejection in relationships are inevitable, but it’s a part of being human.

In this episode, we talk about the importance of leading with your heart, having immense courage and embracing vulnerability as a necessary and beautiful part of relationships.

Highlights

Thank you so much for listening to this episode and holding space for Sarah to step into her power. This work is never easy, but it is so incredibly worth it.

As always, I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast, I am honoured to have you here.

This week I am speaking about a topic I have had much personal experience with and also believe to be a truly transformational part of the process. Hitting rock bottom.  Now you may think I’m the Queen of Doom and Gloom but I promise I am not.  There is such gold that can come through in a breakdown; as we are humbled, our ego begins to dissolve more, we are in the alive active process of surrender… and THAT is when real transformation becomes possible. 

In this episode, together, we’ll explore how it's possible to use these low points in your life as a way to move from having a breakdown to a breakthrough.

Many aspects of our life are dissolving right now. To be truthful this is how it is in all of life as you simply cannot have life without death. Death and rebirth, breakdown to breakthrough, endings and beginnings, love and loss. To truly live we must be willing to welcome both as they are both sides of the same coin. The one constant in life is change and so how do we need to shift our relationship with this in order to learn to flow with the changes rather than resist them?

And so with this year being all about dissolving, dismantling, letting go and change I speak in this episode about how we can use these moments as pivotal opportunities for growth,  healing and transformation. You’ll uncover that disintegration and breakdowns are a part of the healing process, allowing you to dissolve what once was so that the new may grow.

This is how your soul continues to evolve. This is how you welcome new possibilities into your life.

Highlights

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I am so proud of you for being committed to doing the work and moving through difficult times with grace and a desire for growth.

As always, I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Nicky Clinch | Soul Surgery: Gabor Maté Show Notes

Welcome to an extraordinary episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast. I am joined this week for a powerful soul-filled conversation with the incredible Dr Gabor Maté. He is a world-renowned speaker and bestselling author and is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development.

Gabor does not merely offer quick-fix solutions to these complex issues. Instead of offering quick-fix solutions to these types of complex problems, he instead offers his insights and experience to present a broad perspective that enlightens and empowers people to heal themselves.

In this episode, we speak about how childhood trauma is at the root of all addictive behaviours and how you can heal yourself of addiction by addressing the underlying trauma.

As a recovered addict myself, it never sat well with me this narrative of “once an addict always an addict,” and I was lucky enough to have a therapist who encouraged me to explore this feeling deeper. Gabor and I bonded over our shared belief that addiction isn’t a life sentence that we have to carry with us forever. We can heal it.

Through his years of research, Gabor discovered and saw very clearly that at the root of every single addict he’d ever met was childhood trauma and emotional pain.

We dive deep into these roots of addiction and how addicts are not just people who use heroin or abuse alcohol. Addiction is rifled through our western living today, and we discuss how to heal the world from this collective disconnect we must first heal ourselves.

Highlights

Thank you so much for listening to this profoundly insightful episode that I had the pleasure of recording alongside my dear friend Dr Gabor Maté.

I hope that this message helps you break free from the stigma surrounding addiction and allows you to bring a bit more compassion into your healing. Addiction does not have to be a lifelong struggle, and I hope this episode has allowed you to see that.

Nobody is above addiction, and nobody is safe from its grasp as long as unhealed trauma is present within us.

I would love to hear any aha moments you have had after listening to this episode. I adore it when you send me your breakthrough moments. It’s so exciting to hear how these episodes are changing lives.

I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes, and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Nicky Clinch | Soul Surgery: Episode 5

Solo Episode - Racism Inside of You and Me

Welcome to a very special SOLO episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast. I am honoured to have you here. In this week’s episode, I will be sharing my own journey of recognising and addressing the racism and oppression that lived inside of me for far too long.

The racism that I had been directing towards my own brown skin without even being aware of it.

This is such an important topic, and I understand that I could never possibly understand the full weight of the oppression and violence that BIPOC experience in the world every single day as a white-passing woman.

However, I felt called to share my own story as a half-cast brown skinned woman and how  my own whiteness and privilege had blinded my own view.  That the work in healing racism and oppression in our world begins when we are willing to look deep inside of our own selves.

If we are going to heal our planet, let it begin with you and me.

Racism is a symptom of trauma. A symptom of the parts within ourselves that have been conditioned to reject and separate  by white patriarchy. And it is insidiously present within any one of us that gets to live in this world as a ‘chosen one’.

It’s not just someone putting a knee on the neck of a black man. It’s how we see and think of ourselves and others.

It’s the conditioning within us that teaches us that those of privilege, those who can get away with atrocious acts without consequences, are the chosen ones.

It’s a symptom of the condition that has caused us to behave and try and prove that we are better than another, but it’s not who we are. If we are going to heal the separation and the oppression on this planet, we must heal how we are turning that oppression on ourselves first so we no longer  project it into the world.

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This week’s message is incredibly powerful and so necessary right now to discuss, as uncomfortable as it can be, the work to undo and heal racism in the world starts with you and me.

I hope this podcast can be a stepping stone on your road to transformation and healing so that you can bring that energy into the world to heal the collective.

I would be so grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes, and we can share this message of healing and wholeness with as many people as possible.

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Nicky Clinch | Soul Surgery: Episode 4

1:1 Coaching Session with Ali- Fear of Being Seen

Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery Podcast, I am so thrilled to share this episode with you where I pull back the curtain and share an inside look at what actually takes place in my 1:1 coaching sessions. This episode was incredibly transformative and you get to witness some of the live breakthroughs and aha moments that took place for Ali who’s struggled with big waves of shame and terror whenever she is really seen.

This pattern has blocked Ali’s ability to share her voice, experience intimacy and make choices and decisions aligned with what she wants and believes. So it was SO important to help her transform this so she can truly begin aligning with her truth, her worth and fulfilling her purpose and dreams.

Living like this is debilitating and trying to make decisions based on the opinions of others, not based on your inner truth and wisdom is painful.  In this session, you will see and hear how our experiences from childhood directly impact our ability to trust ourselves, creating an internal conflict between the head and the heart.  Literally FREEZING you and shutting you down.

When we can heal and dissolve the root of trauma, we shift the entire space we stand in our life, re-aligning us with who we were born to be.

Highlights

Thank you so much for listening to my first coaching session episode, I am so excited to finally be able to take you behind the scenes of what it looks like to participate in 1:1 coaching with me.

I hope that this message of learning to trust yourself again and show up as your most authentic self free from fear and shame resonates deeply within you.

Meet yourself with utmost love and compassion wherever you are in your maturation process.

It is a lifelong process, you don’t suddenly reach a point where you are healed, and triggers don’t affect you anymore. I still get triggered sometimes!

The difference is the awareness you bring to the situation, and how you watch those feelings of discomfort move through you, so you don’t get lost in the story. When you decide to not make those feelings a part of your reality, they can flow through you and leave.

That is the beauty of this work. I hope you enjoy this episode and I would love to hear any aha moments it inspires for you!

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