Soulbloom

In this episode we are joined by Ali Shapiro, my friend, mentor and the creator of Truce with Food, a program that changed my entire life in 2017. I am certified in her Truce Coaching methods and she has been a supervisor of my coaching for the last two years. A soul sister and true kindred spirit, Ali not only healed her own health challenges including acne, IBS, depression and more after battling cancer as a teen, but she even went on to transcend an infertility diagnosis to conceive and birth her son Eça in 2019. Ali’s work is unique in that she’s asking, “Why does falling off track with your healthy eating make sense?”. In her work, eating self-sabotage is actually about self-protection.

In this episode we talk about why willpower isn’t always enough to change our relationships with food, and why falling off track makes so much sense. Using the TAIL acronym we discuss the triggers that can often find us in the emotional eating pattern. Understanding that our relationship with food is rooted in emotional safety can help us understand these patterns even more deeply.

Ali and I also discuss her upcoming free masterclass Untangle Your Food Triggers: Catch Yourself Before You Fall Off Track masterclass, where Ali will guide you through a coaching exercise that’ll enable you to uncover what’s really going on underneath your emotional eating struggles. You’ll walk away with a tangible tool you can apply next time you find yourself wondering “Why Am I Eating This Now?”.

The masterclass will be on Tuesday, September 10 from 12 - 1:15 pm EST (and you know I’ll be there too!)

You’ll learn:

* What triggers you to fight food (hint: why it makes sense)

* The 4 emotional triggers that bring on food self-sabotage, even when you’re feeling great (if you’re familiar with the the often repeated H-A-L-T acronym, you’ll learn what’s missing in that framework)

And how to interrupt the self-sabotage cycle while traveling, at parties, restaurants, or other social situations.This is also a sneak peak at Ali’s upcoming  Why Am I Eating This Now? (WAIETN) Live group program that opens for registration next week too. She generously gifted my community $100 off by entering coupon code NICOLE at check-out. Make sure to use that if you do decide to sign-up for the WAIETN group program.

I will be leading small group coaching in this program so you get the benefit of Ali’s wisdom and an opportunity to work with me in a small group setting.

Ali has 18 years of experience working with clients 1:1 and in group programs. She provides an efficient, evidence-based, and client-proven path forward (and if you’re checking credentials, she also have an Ivy League Masters degree in behavioral change and coaching 😉). Her work and clients unique success has been showcased in well + Good, mindbodygreen, Prevention, Women’s Health and Forbes, as well as industry leading podcasts Being Boss, Tell Me Something True, and Food Heaven, and now the Soulbloom podcast *woo*!

In this conversation, Kristen and I discuss the concept of tending to the gardens of our lives, particularly in relation to our careers. We explore the idea that our careers are a foundational aspect of our lives and should be tended to with intentionality and awareness. We emphasize the importance of self-care, self-awareness, and self-responsibility in preventing burnout and finding fulfillment in our work. We also discuss the integration of entrepreneurial pursuits into our careers and the importance of aligning our work with our values and priorities.

We highlight the importance of taking ownership of our careers and making intentional choices. We also talk about the value of sharing salary information and career goals with others. Our conversation underscores the significance of finding a win-win situation in our careers and not waiting until retirement to be happy. Kristen shares her love for nature and simple pleasures as sources of joy and inspiration.

Takeaways

* Our careers are a foundational aspect of our lives and should be tended to with intentionality and awareness.

* Self-care, self-awareness, and self-responsibility are key in preventing burnout and finding fulfillment in our work.

* Entrepreneurial pursuits can be integrated into our careers and should be aligned with our values and priorities.

* Regular check-ins and networking are important for career maintenance and growth.

* It is important to discern between external expectations and self-imposed rules in our careers. Take ownership of your career and make intentional choices.

* Share salary information and career goals with others to gain a better understanding of what is possible.

* Strive for a win-win situation in your career, where your goals align with the goals of your organization.

* Find joy and inspiration in nature and simple pleasures.

* Don't wait until retirement to be happy; live your life now.

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Kristen Zavo is an Executive + Job Search Coach, Keynote Speaker, and the Best-Selling author of Job Joy: Your Guide to Success, Meaning, and Happiness in Your Career. She is on a mission to help high achievers build careers + businesses they absolutely love - and support their organizations in helping them thrive and perform at their best.Before launching her coaching practice, she spent nearly two decades in traditional corporate jobs, including time in investment banking and financial consulting, working for some of the top Fortune 500 companies such as Lehman Brothers, NBC and Luxottica.Kristen earned her MBA in Finance and BS in Marketing and Psychology, summa cum laude, from Sacred Heart University in Fairfield, CT. She is also a Certified, Trauma-Informed Life Coach and Breathwork Facilitator. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Fortune Magazine, The Huffington Post, Business Insider, Real Simple, The Muse, and more – as well as on podcasts and stages covering career, success and finding life’s purpose.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:25 Tending to the Gardens of Our Lives: The Importance of Career

04:25 Preventing Burnout and Finding Fulfillment in Our Work

09:39 Career Maintenance and Growth: Regular Check-ins and Networking

13:12 Discerning External Expectations and Self-Imposed Rules in Our Careers

22:41 The Value of Sharing: Salary Information and Career Goals

25:18 Striving for a Win-Win: Aligning Personal and Organizational Goals

28:34 Finding Joy in Nature and Simple Pleasures

33:38 Living Your Life Now: Don't Wait Until Retirement to Be Happy

Keywords: career, tending to the garden, self-care, self-awareness, self-responsibility, burnout, fulfillment, entrepreneurial pursuits, integration, career, tending, joy, ownership, salary, goals, win-win, retirement, nature, simple pleasures

In this episode, I interview my friend Dayna Faye, a multifaceted manifesting generator who combines human design readings with intuitive channeling. We discuss our friendship, our journey with human design, and how we are bringing our gifts to the world. Dayna shares her big three in astrology and her season of life, while I highlight the importance of discomfort and following your sacral nudges. We also discuss the imposter syndrome that comes with channeling and the power of connecting with your soul and essence.

In this conversation, Dayna and I discuss the importance of following one's urges and exploring different interests and passions. We share personal experiences of trying new things and how it has enriched our lives. We emphasize the need to take action and not be afraid of failure. We also discuss the challenge of integrating different aspects of our lives, such as corporate work and spiritual practices. The conversation highlights the importance of being present, connecting with others, and embracing the magic in everyday life.

Show outline:

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:12 Combining Human Design and Intuitive Channeling

07:49 Following Your Sacral Nudges

15:01 Navigating Imposter Syndrome

22:04 Connecting with Your Soul and Essence

25:27 Embracing Your Passions and Following Your Urges

29:20 Taking Action and Embracing Failure

34:09 Integrating Different Aspects of Life

41:19 Being Present and Embracing the Magic

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Keywords: human design, manifesting generator, channeling, astrology, discomfort, sacral nudges, imposter syndrome, soul, essence, following urges, exploring passions, taking action, integrating different aspects of life, being present, connecting with others, embracing magic

Today’s episode is extra special. I got to sit down with my friend Ardas Chandra for a conversation about intuitive intelligence and how over thinking is most definitely a sign we are under feeling. We share examples of how this shows up for each of us, and Ardas Chandra shares exceptional wisdom of her embodied knowledge on this topic.

Takeaways

* Labeling oneself as an overthinker can be limiting and prevent personal growth.

* Trusting one's intuition and feelings is essential for making decisions and taking action.

* Balancing thinking and feeling is important for personal well-being and success.

* Writing or speaking out one's thoughts can help overcome overthinking and gain clarity.

* Using affirmations and practicing trust in divine timing can help shift mindset and create positive change.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

02:52 Overthinking is Underfeeling

08:23 Trusting Your Intuition

10:11 Balancing Thinking and Feeling

13:00 Practical Tips for Overcoming Overthinking

36:42 Conclusion and Where to find Ardas Chandra

Ardas Chandra is an incredible visionary, writer, mother, wife, friend and so much more. She inspires me daily. Whether she is baking an intuitive cake, diving into the depths of the subconscious, inspiring everyone with her effortlessly cool wardrobe pairings, nurturing her son in the most beautiful ways, or filling endless pages of her notebooks, Ardas Chandra is lighting up the world in many ways.

Writer and editor at THE LIGHT LETTER - a newsletter helping people to connect with their radiance. Philosophy, style, and lifestyle. French. Mother of Eā (3.5 years old). Based in Paris/Dubai/Hamburg.

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Summary

Who knew I’d cry talking about a bathing suit on my podcast? This episode has been with me a while, since I saw that Miracle Suit in the store in April. To the young girl who thought her body needed a “miracle suit” to enjoy the pool and lay out in the sun, I see you, I love you, your body does not make you any less worthy of enjoying your life.

The miracle suit dilemma and the relationship with my body over the years has turned in to the most amazing foundation for my relationship with everything in my life. A way to tend to my own garden in unique ways. A launchpad for all of the other concepts I’d tackle and how what meaning I made about myself. The work that would quite literally change it all, yet it is never that simple. To the Miracle Suit at Macys, I’m sorry I put so much pressure on you to change my life, that was my job all along.

P.S. no shade to the actual bathing suit brand. These were not designed for my 12 year old body and never were intended to serve me… see this pic below for proof! Imagine a vibrant tween-teen trying this on desperate to fit in (in more ways than one).

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Reflection on the Soul Bloom Podcast

01:26 The Promises of the Miracle Suit

05:13 The Impact of Body Image on Summer

08:26 The Journey of Body Image and Self-Worth

11:50 Making New Meaning in Our Lives

13:38 Tending to the Gardens of Our Lives

14:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, I talk about how there are a lot of moments, projects and themes of our lives that can be chalked up to both the growth and bloom habit of rhododendrons and radishes (and sometimes zinnias). How can you recognize and give yourself credit for long-term patience and quicker wins?

This is the woman I spoke about in the episode with her giant and amazing rhododendron:

In this episode I talk about my personal noticing practice, what it is, how special it has become to me. I tell stories about how noticing felt more confusing at first before I decided to make a conscious effort.

I went from blaming nature for being behind or ahead of schedule to genuinely curious about what I could find in my explorations each day. Shifting the focus of my noticing from problem seeking to expansive joy has been an incredible shift in my life, and I invite you to give it a try.

If noticing, and connecting to the outer world around you interests you, I invite you to sign up for my free 7-day noticing experiment starting March 9th. If you’re listening in the future, you can always send me an email for the prompts and I'll definitely share with you.

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In this episode I detail the differences between knowing and doing, how to bridge that gap, and that often, what defines the gap between the two is a big serving of protective resistance. This resistance and our behaviors make so much sense when we can see they serve a purpose. Many people are coming to realize they can no longer outsource their power when its time to understand inner workings or deeper layers of your behaviors. Now is the time to move through this work in a meaningful way and make different choices for how you meet yourself when you realize there is a gap between knowing what you want to do or what you know, and what you are doing or failing to do.

To illustrate this, I personally discuss how I met myself in many situations where I knew I wanted to behave differently, but wasn’t taking action. Some of these examples include my relationship with aligned eating habits and exercise even more recently my relationship with money. Sometimes we know exactly “what” to do, but can’t seem to execute. Of course there are technical problems that we need to solve sometimes, and we need help and information to do it. Other times what we actually need is an adaptive, practical solution to our perceived issues, and we can’t outsource that to Google or Chat GPT. We need a mirror, and someone to witness and guide us in that way. More importantly, we need to meet ourselves in that place in order to effect real and lasting change.

Peeling back the layers to these things will often come up in the most mundane times of our lives once we see it for what it is. You could be taking out the trash, or loading fruit into the refrigerator when that knowing hits you -

Ah HA! What I’m really doing is preventing myself from feeling at risk for failure.

Ah HA! What I’m actually doing has served me so well for years, I'm solving all the problems without regard for my personal values because I want to be known as a “good” family member, employee, friend.

Ah HA! I’ve been setting unrealistic expectations for myself because I believe in order to be liked and valued I have to outperform myself at every turn.

Ah HA! I am feeling at risk for judgement by others so I talk negatively to myself and eat more sweet snacks even though they make me feel terrible.

These are just some examples of how this can play out - in many many many ways, remember you are special, unique and how this shows up for you may not look like the above examples but I guarantee you, if you are experiencing the gap between “knowing and doing” there is something meaningful underneath it all for you to discover.

In a conversation with my dear friend, Ardas Chandra, we discussed her decision to create paid content for Substack, if you don’t know her already, she is a wonderful creative, writer, friend, mom, just so many things! We were joking about the difference between knowing what we need to do and actually doing it. She knows the basis of my work is around protective resistance and we discuss it often. The inner protectors are often running the show in our life until we learn to understand them with new eyes, and better yet, new experiences. Her recent post really made me think about some of the areas where I was holding back in my life, and where I was experiencing the gap of knowing and doing, especially around taking action toward my goals and a particularly inspiring quote by Kevin Kelly. Check it out, you won’t be disappointed!

If any of this conversation or these concepts sparks your interest, and maybe you realize wow, you know what I thought I knew what to do but…well you frankly still haven’t done it and you want to know more, we can cover all this and more in an Inner Audit.

You bring a goal that you want to work on, and we uncover deeper layers of resistance so that you can begin to see it with new eyes. With this new foundation of understanding you are able to allow yourself to bloom in a new way, gently, understanding the environment in which you have been in for quite some time. From here, I promise you will not see things the same way. In 90 minutes, the breakthroughs I have seen my clients experience are nothings short of incredible.

In this episode I discuss concepts and teachings that I learned in the Truce Coaching Certification with Ali Shapiro. I’ve been certified in this process, and have used it to work through some of my greatest resistances over the last 7 years. This process also involves coaching feedback on my process so that I can improve how I support my clients. I’ve incorporated and adapted much of this material into my own practice and it is a basis for much of my work. I am my own best case study and my clients have experienced major shifts in life, personal understanding and business by understanding the deeper resistance (i.e. shadows) of their protective behaviors and ways.

In this episode Marc and Nicole talk about our top 5 flowers. Marc’s takes are a bit unique and Nicole’s are quite expected!

I personally like any flower in bloom because, they are all amazing, duh!

Marc’s top 5:

Magnolia blossoms

Tulips

Chive blossoms

Dahlias

Bird of Paradise

Nicole’s top 5:

Dahlias

Peonies

Ranunculus

Hydrangeas

Zinnia

This episode is truly special because I convinced Marc to have a fun conversation live on the podcast. We recently got a bird feeder from local shop House Finch in Collingswood, NJ. Thanks to Kara, we decided on this cute, clear, fly through feeder, which I’ve situated where my hummingbird feeder typically hangs in the summer near my office window.

We’re really lucky that our neighbors have been feeding birds forever, so we get a lot of activity in our yard as we provide a ton of natural forage in the garden and surrounding beds.

Supposedly, winter is a super special time to become a birder via bird feeding because there is lots to see. I am so glad that we decided to experiment with a feeder closer to our house to enjoy all of the fun that bird watching while on the computer and in the office has offered us.

In this episode, sparked from some fun brainstorming with Marc, we decided to share our top 5 birds. After all, Soulbloom is largely entwined in nature so this definitely fits as watching these cute birds has really made our souls bloom even in the shortest days of the year.

Do you have a favorite bird or fun experience with birds? Share in the comments below or send me a DM on Instagram. I would love to hear from you!

P.S. If you are new around here - Marc is my husband. We fell in love when we were 16 and have been together ever since. We got married in 2018 in our garden surrounded by friends and family, epic food and of course, tons of flowers.

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