In this episode we learn some inspirational quotes for good relationships, from my teachers, mentors and life experience. These quotes certainly have the power to transform our marriage, if applied. 

We discuss the a passage from the book CLICK or CLASH by Dr Ali Walker about demistifying relationships, and   the effects of lonliness and also discuss the  ideas around fear, respect and validation in a good relationship.

Today's episode is sponsored by Y & M Raskin in honour of their anniversary 15 Shvat! Wishing much love, joy and happiness and peace for the whole family!

In this episode we talk about restoring hope and love, based on Torah sources from the book "In Good Hands"

We reintroduce the antidotes to the four horsemen, from Gottman's work and share the antidotes to these common unhealthy andchallenging behaviours in a marriage.

We discuss various ways to start difficult discussions and how to generate fondness, and connection instead of conflict. We learn about technniques to calm and regulate ourselves when we are flooding and how to have a collaborative discussion. The supreme importane of Date night, it is not a luxery , it is a necessity and will bring more friendship and connection to your relationship. Various expressions to use when you just dont have the right words are shared, from the book "Talk to me like I'm someone you love", by Nancy Dreyfus

This episode is sponsored and dedicated to Jacob ben Nissim, by his daughter Nathalie. May his family only have simchas from her on and may his Neshomo have an aliya on high.

May this episode be a zechus for his family and beloved grandchildren in Sydney, Australia.

This episode is dedicated to the Shlucha Henya Rivka bas Bracha Devorah Leah, who returned her holy soul to her maker today. May her family only have simchas from here on and may the zechus of her taking brides to the mikvah in St Thomas, Virgin Islands

In this episode we discuss how to move past a regrettable episode in dealing with a challenge in marriage. We talk about taking responsibility and how to describe your reality to your spouse in a way that will be best received. Triggers can cause a spouse to flood with emotion and what is needed to feel validatd and acknowledged. We talk about accepting apologies and processing events, what is needed to hear to accept an apology. The biggest struggle is that most couples dont really process regrettable incidents. Acknowledging your own role in contributing to a regrettabe incident is important if we want to stay on the upper road in a relationship.

Today's episode is sponsored in honour of Denis and Michelle Cohen in honour of their upcoming 45th wedding anniversary IYH this year, may they be blessed with a long and happy life with health, and joy from their children and grandchildren!

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In this episode we learn about three most delicious words in a marriage, bringing more peace to our homes through asking check-in questions of our partner, being noticed and seen, repair bids, friendly conflict, and bringing the relationship into truth. We look at the Sound Relationship House from the Gottman Institute and other techniques to manage conflict.

 The improtance of feeling seen and heard when work is really stressful. When faced with fatigue and little energy we need techniques, and we have given many ideas for this. To turn towards instead of away, and self-care when things are challenging in our lives.  We look at Nancy Dreyfus best selling book, Talk to me like you love me.

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We thank our dear sponsors Esther and Ari Leuchter in honour of their 36th wedding anniversary! May you be blessed with revealed good in your family.

In this episode we discuss various tools for growth, gratitude, compassion and acceptance of circumstances. When we acknowledge that things are not able to change at the moment, we can self-regulate and have compassion for ourself and our spouse. This can bring us to a place of peace, when we give up the need to control and accept what is. Learning how to pivot to a better place and accept what is and to reframe our circumstance and being grateful for the blessings and good fortune we do have in our marriage. We discuss the differences between men and women and how men need respect in order to be in their best space, and women need love and attention. Strengthening our relationship will happen when we are filling our own bucket. By giving our needs the space they need, by including healthy personal relationships , giving ourselves the techniques to relax and destress and exercise and  feel more connected to our spiritual side. We can achieve a lasting, deeper relationship sooner by meeting our own needs as we are responsible for the quality of our lives.

This episode is sponsored in honour of the speedy recovery of Menachem Mendel ben Sara Leah and Miriam bas Sara Baila and the yeshua and refuah for Henya bas Bracha Devorah Leah

Special thanks to Sarah Chana Radcliffe, Sara Yocheved Rigler, the Gottman Institute and the book "Say it like you love me"for some of the ideas presented

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In this episode we discuss various tools for growth when things may get challenging in a marriage. What to do when a complaint is made, how to handle it and how to de-escalate an argument. We learn about collaborative arguments/interactions, reflective listening and triggers. We learn about the power of our words and the energy we create. We learn about what we can and can't control, and get practical tools to ask for what we want. We learn how to increase the marital harmony in our homes, and the all-around happiness in the home, while being best of friends and soulmates. 

This week's episode is dedicated to the Aliya of the Neshama  of Yitzchok ben Yechiel and also in honour of those who need to find their bashert, their soul mate.

In this engaging episode Shterna is interviewed by Vera Kessler from "America's Top Rebbetzins" about Shalom Bayis (peace in the home), explaining that peace is the harmony of two opposites.  When a husband and wife have peace with each other, they bring many blessings into the home, including an abundance of money. Peace is the vessel that holds G-d's blessings. It is very important to pray for peace in your marriage. She shares with us several concrete tips on how to achieve peace and harmony with your spouse. Some of these tips include:

 We talk to about building a relationship with your teenagers. She encourages women to connect to your teen (and your spouse) through the 5 Love Languages:

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In this podcast we discuss various tools to increase the marital harmony in our homes and give down to earth, techniques and tips to increase the peace and happiness in our homes. Husbands and wives will benefit from implementing the tried and true tips from various authors on this topic, incorporating Torah values. This week's episode is dedicated to my dear father, R' SBG in honour of his 73rd birthday B"H, and to a special woman in our community by her loving husband for success in all her endeavours.