Speaking Light Into Abortion

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:

“What you want matters.”

☀️💛☀️

It mattered when you chose abortion 
and it matters now. 

What you want will always matter.

Even when you don’t listen to it—
it matters.

There have been
and will be
times when what you want gets swept away in other people’s dreams
other people’s fears
other people’s beliefs
but that does not mean anything about you.

Be in a relationship with your own desire:
get to know her
play with her
dance with her
honor her.

Communicate with your wants 
as you would a child in your care. 

Listen.
Negotiate.
Collaborate.
And eventually see that she is her own energy.

You’ve been called here— 
not to manipulate and manage your desire
but to allow it
nurture it

and hold space for it to come to life.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:

“You’re not that special.”

☀️💛☀️

It’s true.

And it’s great news.

I know you feel alone.
I know you feel unique.
I know you feel different.

But you’re not that special.
Not in that way. 

The complexity of your feelings
the loneliness

the confusion

it’s all normal and typical 
and expected.

What will make you special is how you rise.

Your strength
your story

your ability to turn darkness into light—

that’s what makes you special. 

Abortion isn’t special
but living purposefully and intentionally after abortion is more than special.

It’s exceptional.

You can choose to be exceptional.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:

“Reunite with your body.”

☀️💛☀️

You lost touch when your mom told you 
you shouldn’t eat that third cookie at age ten.

You lost touch when your 
friends in middle school had 
less belly in their bikinis.

You lost touch when you told him
NO
and he fondled you anyway. 

You lost touch when all those
fertility treatments failed.  

Or maybe
you didn’t lose touch until you were blindsided 
by the unplanned pregnancy. 

Now is the time to let all of that go.

Not to forget it 
but to redefine it.

Now is the time to reunite.

Love her.

Caress her.

Whisper sweet nothings into every nook and cranny of her miraculous shape. 

She needs you now more than ever. 

 

She needs you to
rekindle the flame you had before the world started telling you lies.

It mattered when you chose abortion 
and it matters now. 

What you want will always matter.

Even when you don’t listen to it—
it matters.

There have been
and will be
times when what you want gets swept away in other people’s dreams
other people’s fears
other people’s beliefs
but that does not mean anything about you.

Be in a relationship with your own desire:
get to know her
play with her
dance with her
honor her.

Communicate with your wants 
as you would a child in your care. 

Listen.
Negotiate.
Collaborate.
And eventually see that she is her own energy.

You’ve been called here— 
not to manipulate and manage your desire
but to allow it
nurture it

and hold space for it to come to life.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/242

One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedom

Follow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/241

One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedom

Follow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/240

One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedom

Follow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/239

One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedom

Follow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/238

One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedom

Follow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/237

One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedom

Follow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley