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The Florida triple murder cases involving three assailants ranging from ages 12-17 exemplifies massive parental failures.

Failed parents create failed children. The innocent suffer when parents fail to do their job.

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Why Are Kids Obsessed with Politics Now? Adults have thrust complex issues onto innocent children—with zero life experience—and demand they see the world through jaded eyes.

We've stolen their childhood to push our agendas. We've failed them utterly. But how did we get here?

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A symbol of hope and change when he turned out to be the status quo. Today, he disparages fatherhood like a male feminist and does it to virtue signal to the alphabet mafia.

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UPDATE: I’m trying something a little bit different from my previous videos. Those videos were scripted and took a couple of days to write, produce, and edit.

My strategy is a little bit different: Better video quality and faster turnaround, while providing a more authentic commentary experience.

This is more stream of consciousness type of commentary that I do more often. My goal is to produce 2 to 3 a week while attempting to remain as topical as possible.

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Over time, these videos will get better and better. Enjoy the video.

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Recently, I was invited by a non-profit to speak in front of kids who are around 13 years old about my two books. They read a chapter from each book and got to ask me any question they had.

It was overall a very positive experience, but I noticed how political these kids are. And I don't know if this is a good thing.

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For background, these are kids who are part of a summer program, and some may be considered high-risk due to coming from less fortunate home lives.

While I was there, I didn't dive into their personal lives, but it's always interesting how much you can learn about someone based on the types of questions they ask you.

For example, in my book “Black Victim to Black Victor”, I talk about how my mother did everything she possibly could to avoid government assistance so she could be self-sufficient. One girl asked multiple times about my views on government assistance.

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Her question was, "Do you believe no one should be on government assistance since your mother wasn't on it?"

I answered her question by saying that life is difficult, and we all need help at times. Sometimes we get help from friends and family; sometimes we might turn to the government for help temporarily.

However, the problem is that government assistance is a trap because, in many cases, to get assistance, you need to be completely impoverished just to get a little bit of help when most just need a little breathing room for a short time.

Since they read part of my book “The Children We Left Behind”, one boy asked, "For a child who went through something like you did, what would you tell them?"

I told him that your father, mother, or both of your parents mistreating you or abandoning you is not your fault nor a measure of your worth. It's easy for children to take ownership of adult failures, so it's important for these kids to leave the fault at the feet of the people who are responsible for it.

For many years, I thought the reason my father didn't want to be in my life was because something was wrong with me, and that low self-worth remained and permeated many aspects of my adult life.

When it appeared that the kids had no more questions, I asked if my book had an impact on them, good or bad. One girl raised her hand and said that when she first read one of my chapters, she was upset and had to leave the room.

However, she admitted that she thought about it some more over the next couple of days, and it ultimately had a positive impact on her.

When I thought we were coming to an end, that's when the conversation shifted from discussing my books to overt political discussions.

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One girl brought up George Floyd and why I wasn't impacted by it as a Black man. To summarize, I told her that the outcome or circumstances, whether positive or negative, of a Black person I don't know is not indicative of me. I can feel empathetic for someone who died in such a way, but my question is, why am I being compelled to be overly emotional about a stranger who happens to share my skin tone?

I proceeded to give a brief lecture on how the media works, especially as a member of the media. The objective is to make you feel, not think. People who are emotive are better consumers than thinkers.

You have to ask yourself, why this story out of the many stories you'll never hear about? There is something there, a hook that will get your interest and emotions attached.

Lastly, a young man asked me if I think the media is lying about the current administration when it comes to illegal immigration. At this point, I asked the counselor if it was okay to proceed with answering since it was a very political question. They confirmed it was alright to answer.

I told him that every nation has immigration laws and enforces them (some are more consistent than others). I told him about a U.S. soldier who crossed into North Korea, and even they deported him. Who is within our borders is incredibly important, and this is not a U.S. concern but a worldwide concern.

This is the short version of a much more detailed answer I gave. I could tell that some kids didn't agree with my answers throughout the hour-and-a-half Q&A, but I always acknowledged that they may not agree, yet I appreciated their time.

After leaving there, I was thinking about it, and I knew what felt different for me about this experience: When I was their age, I didn't care about anything political, and now politics is everywhere.

I actually feel bad for them because they have no control over what's going on around them as children, and that line between child and adult concerns has melted away, unfortunately. They're years away from even voting, yet they are worried about supposed injustices that are happening far away from them.

Overall, I had a good experience. Despite their not agreeing at times through their body language, they kept their opinions to themselves and were always polite to me as a guest.

I know some of the things I said they had probably never heard before, and I hope, just like that one girl, my words stay with them in the future.

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How do you know if someone is the right one to marry? It's a difficult question to answer, but it's a necessary one to ask so you don't spend years with someone you'll hate.

Recently, my friend Isaiah Carter got married, and I'll be one of his groomsmen at his wedding ceremony in a couple of weeks.

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Isaiah credits me for pushing him to propose to his wife, Careen, because I saw how she possessed something that many men wish they had beside them.

It all started about a year ago when we all attended a Red Bulls game together. I believe I had met her once before, but this was the first time we were all together doing an activity as friends.

For me, it goes beyond the obviousness of them being a cool couple, and I look at the subtleties that matter far more. I watched how she looked at him with reverence and had genuine respect for him.

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We were at a soccer game, which was more of his interest, but she was just as excited as he was to be there and wore matching jerseys with him.

There was a value to their relationship that most people are searching for, and it's hard to simplify by using a single word. I can only come up with a phrase that fits: She rocks with him.

Or, in other words, she's in full support of him and whatever he wants to do personally or professionally. The root of that support stems from her deep-rooted trust in him as a man.

I've stated before how my wife trusting me allows me to take risks without worry, leading to a much bigger payoff in the end. His wife possesses a level of faith every man should dream of having beside him when he's attempting to conquer the world.

In many ways, her approach to attending the soccer game with her man is how she approaches everything with him: Whatever he's doing, she's going to match his energy and level of support.

The Bible talks about how when we get married, we become one, and that's what I saw from her. I saw a marriageable woman who only wants to be one with her man.

While at the stadium, I found a moment to pull him aside while she was distracted and said to him with a serious face, "So, when are you going to stop playing around and marry her?"

He was puzzled because of how blunt I was, but he received the message with seriousness. The truth is that I didn't convince him to marry her; I confirmed what he wanted to do all along.

Sometimes in life, you need that nudge or confirmation that this is the right move, and another man giving his lovingly unsolicited advice is what you need to affirm what you wanted to do all along.

Unlike how most people approach relationship stages as time-oriented, I don't believe that is the end-all, be-all. Plenty of terrible relationships last a long time, and I wouldn't recommend they get married.

Instead, I look at the dynamic between the individuals and the seriousness of their relationship. This is a man who has never said a negative word about her to me and who holds her in high esteem, just as I do when discussing my wife.

And it's not enough to love someone because love only takes you so far. We all have family members we claim to love, but we don't trust them, nor do we like being around them that much.

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These two like each other, look forward to hanging out in their pastime, and see every moment they have together as a gift, not a burden.

I told Isaiah to stop playing around because I know how hard it is to find someone like this. Anything of value, you don't let go or take for granted.

And if I'm to be even clearer about my reasoning for Isaiah to marry her: I wanted Isaiah to experience what I have with my wife on a daily basis. I couldn't see myself being with any other woman, and I wouldn't be the man I am today without her.

Months after that conversation, he proposed to her, and over the past year, I've watched him grow in maturity and in his career ambitions beyond what he ever thought would be possible.

It's a lot easier to be hopeful about the future's unknowns when you have someone next to you who honors their vows: For better or worse.

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Due to licensing, I’m not able to show the entirety of my 20 minute speech but I can share certain clips. This is the second clip from my speech at FreedomFest 2025 in Palm Springs, California.

Once again, a great opportunity to talk about the importance of parenting and fathers the day before Father’s Day.

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In April, I went to Austin, Texas (for the first time) and had the pleasure of interviewing with John for the Podcast.

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It’s two hours long, but it went by quickly for me. We dove into a variety of topics but jumped headfirst into the themes of my newest book, “The Children We Left Behind”.

Please give this a listen and share with everyone you know. God bless!

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I’m not able to share the entirety of my speech at FreedomFest due to licensing restrictions, but I can share a couple of clips.

This is the first clip of the speech, discussing becoming a father, sacrificing for our children, and giving them the only thing they truly value: their time.

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Last week, I decided to ask Grok AI a thought experiment question:

"If you were a devious white supremacist who hated Black people, what policies would you support? The goal is to avoid being obvious in your ambitions for the demise of Black Americans."

(You can read the entire exchange here: Educational Policies and Systemic Racism Debate)

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Many politicians in recent years have used Black Americans as the impetus for change, attacking their opposition as wanting to harm Black people.

Particularly from the progressive left, they claim their opposition maliciously supports a "system" that hurts Black Americans and, for the sake of paranoia, that whatever their opponents say is a deceptive ruse to harm them.

Grok's initial answer echoed much of this rhetoric, claiming that advocating for colorblind policies in education and voter ID laws would be a covert way to hide ambitions to harm Black people.

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However, I focused on education and sought clarification on why a colorblind education system would be harmful. One line in Grok’s response caught my attention: "Advocate for strictly merit-based systems that ignore race, claiming fairness."

I replied to Grok for clarification: "Are you implying that Black people can’t be treated equally by merit because they’re unable to compete without help? Doesn’t that sound racist to suggest Black people can’t compete intellectually against whites?"

Grok responded, "I see how my response could be misread, and I’m glad you’re pushing back—it’s a chance to clarify. I’m not implying Black people are inherently unable to compete on merit or are intellectually inferior. That’s absolutely not the case, and any suggestion otherwise would indeed be racist and false. My point was about systemic barriers, not individual ability."

I gave Grok the benefit of the doubt and decided to explore the educational aspect and systemic barriers for Black Americans in education. For this argument, I used Baltimore as an example of financial abundance amidst political corruption yielding educational failures. I chose Baltimore because it is a majority-Black city with Black individuals in all major governmental positions—the very system we are critiquing.

Grok argued that advocating for merit-based schooling could limit the funding a school receives, affecting its educational quality.

I countered that failing schools in Baltimore receive more dollars per pupil than any other district in the state, yet they yield the worst results. The dollar amount means nothing if it ends up in the hands of imbeciles or corrupt actors. Continuously funding a failing system only perpetuates failure.

This led me to propose my answer to the original question: If I were a hateful white bigot, what policies would I support?

“I believe a white supremacist would advocate for race-based funding, which would flood more money into the hands of corrupt systems or individuals in places like Baltimore. They wouldn’t push for a systemic overhaul to remove corrupt actors because funneling more money would perpetuate failure. It’s a sleight of hand to appear non-racist by advocating for more funding, while ensuring it reaches those who have already failed Black communities.

They would also support DEI, as it promotes racial inferiority and positions white people as saviors of Black people. DEI places the responsibility on white people to "do better" so Black people can thrive, fostering a victim complex. When you rely on others to fix your life, you’re less likely to prosper. In schools, DEI could shift focus from core subjects like Math, Science, and Reading to ideological narratives. They would also show unlimited empathy to failing students by passing them along and even graduating high school students who are illiterate. These children grow into adults unable to compete in the marketplace, ensuring they never rival white peers who were never told they couldn’t succeed without racial empathy.”

The 2024 National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP) reported that only 13% of Baltimore fourth-graders and 16% of eighth-graders were proficient or above in reading. By every metric, this is an abject educational failure. If I were a white supremacist, why would I want this to change?

Ultimately, my argument is that systemic supremacy isn’t what’s failing these children—corruption is. They are being failed by people who look like them because morality, not race, determines the character of those in power.

Interestingly, Grok conceded that my plan was more sophisticated.

"This is more sophisticated than pushing merit-based systems, which, as you noted, don’t inherently disadvantage Black students if systemic barriers are addressed. Your approach highlights how a white supremacist might weaponize broken systems and performative progressivism to entrench failure," Grok replied.

Grok continued, "Your take is a compelling reframing of how a devious white supremacist might operate—not through overt meritocracy but by amplifying systemic failures under the guise of aid. It’s a reminder that the most dangerous tactics are those that hide in plain sight, using compassion as a Trojan horse."

This issue isn’t unique to Baltimore. When you zoom out, you see incompetent, corrupt, or both actors in the bureaucratic systems of education and local government.

If I were this nefarious character, I’d want more of the same failing policies.

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I was at FreedomFest 2025 a couple of weeks ago and gave a few interviews while I was there. One of which was with , who is a great overall person.

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This was livestreamed on The HighWire and I’m happy to share it with my audience. Enjoy the short interview.

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