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I was at FreedomFest 2025 a couple of weeks ago and gave a few interviews while I was there. One of which was with , who is a great overall person.

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This was livestreamed on The HighWire and I’m happy to share it with my audience. Enjoy the short interview.

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It’s been a minute since I was on The U.S. Report with James Morrow.

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We discussed the bombshell emails that pointed out how the Biden DOJ was weaponized, Ilhan Omar ungratefully calling the U.S. one of the worst nations in the world as an refugee from Somalia, and Jasmine Crockett pretending that Joe Biden didn’t display a mental decline.

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Article Link - https://nypost.com/2025/06/19/opinion/whoopi-goldberg-fails-to-see-the-irony-of-her-oppression-narrative/

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I’m thankful the New York Post gave me an opportunity to write about Whoopi’s comments equating life for Black Americans in America to life in Iran.

Personally, I know someone who fled Iran to escape religious persecution as they are Christian…so this take of hers is incredibly asinine to me.

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Once again, I’m thankful for the opportunity to appear on Rita’s show again. It seems I’ve become a bit of a regular on her show, which I greatly appreciate.

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Side note: I’ll be appearing on two more Sky News Australia shows today.

The Whoopi conversation did annoy me enough to write something for The New York Post, which will be in tomorrow’s paper. Enjoy the video.

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Article Link - https://nypost.com/2025/06/13/opinion/the-dads-we-should-honor-like-calvin-duper-munerlyn-but-sadly-dont/

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You may not remember his name but Calvin Munerlyn’s murder made national headlines when he was a security guard for a Family Dollar and after attempting to enforce mask wearing in the store, it resulted in him being murdered.

I donated to the family’s GoFund me years ago and I would periodically get updates from the family about how they miss him and struggling since his passing emotionally.

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His death happened about a month before George Floyd, so his name left headlines relatively quickly after that but I never forgot.

From everything I’ve read, he was a genuinely good guy and positive member of his community in Flint, Michigan and I’m thankful the New York Post gave me this opportunity to dedicate this Father’s Day to him.

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For the third year in a row, I was invited to attend Freedom Fest, but this year was different.

Normally, I’m asked to attend panels as part of breakout sessions, but this time, I was given the opportunity to speak on the main stage by myself.

Before I dive into the speech, I’d like to express my gratitude for being considered and advocated for by the organizers, who gave me a platform to express myself.

On my flight back home, I reflected on all the amazing things that happened during the four days at the conference.

Several attendees approached me to share how much they enjoyed Black Victim to Black Victor after purchasing it from my booth at last year’s Freedom Fest.

I couldn’t imagine doing this event without my wife by my side, managing the Wrong Speak booth and sharing these proud moments with me. It was even better having Wrong Speak author Lisabeth Lange and my friend Jen helping as well.

I gave several interviews while there, including with C-SPAN’s BookTV, , and .

Conferences like this are great for reconnecting with people who live far away but whom you genuinely enjoy, like Spike Cohen.

Funny story: We both thought we were being interviewed for a scheduled interview, but we showed up asking each other what we wanted to do. Imagine the confusion!

I also caught up with James Lindsay, whom I first met at my initial speaking engagement in Wisconsin in 2021. I was nervously standing on a stage in front of about 600 people and somehow made it through, receiving a standing ovation.

Friday night was the speaker’s reception where I met Dr. Cornell West. We spoke for about five minutes, telling him the premise of my book “The Children We Left Behind” to which he completely agreed and shook my hand. He told me that he wrote a book about this in the late 1990s “The War Against Parents” and noted that the problem has only gotten worse since.

After the reception, my wife and I were invited to a private dinner with notable figures like James Lindsay, Dr. Jay Richards, Bret Weinstein, Del Bigtree, and Corey DeAngelis. It was my first proper conversation with Bret, and he was as genuine as you’d imagine.

We were there for about three hours, eating, drinking, and chatting about various topics. James cracked jokes to make my wife laugh while I had a conversation with Lyn Ulbricht, Ross Ulbricht’s mother. It was a night I’ll never forget, to say the least.

This brings me to Saturday morning, the day of my big solo speech on the main stage. Thankfully, despite having a couple of drinks the night before and getting to my hotel late, I felt refreshed for my speech.

Nerves are normal, so I wasn’t worried about it because I knew once I started talking, they’ll go away and I’ll feel comfortable. Normally, I have bullet points and a podium but went for the challenge by opting out of both so I could speak from the heart.

While backstage, I got to meet Michael Malice briefly and chatted up with Kennedy and her husband.

It was surreal to be introduced by Kennedy, someone I remember from the MTV days and she was incredibly comforting and gracious with me.

I’m working on getting the video of my full 20-minute speech, but to quickly summarize:

At Freedom Fest, we engage in conversations about our freedom, rights, and individual liberty. However, freedom allows us to both succeed and fail. We don’t talk enough about the failure side of freedom and how we are free to fail not only ourselves but also the children we bring into this world.

The obsession with our freedom as parents sometimes leads us to overlook our responsibilities. My father was free to be an absentee parent, and he had the right to not love his children, but he clearly ignored his responsibility to do otherwise.

After the speech, a number of men approached me thanking me for giving the speech and telling me their stories.

One man in particular came to me and said that I made him cry. He was a father who has some regret for working too much and not spending enough time with his children.

Unfortunately, two of his children died, one from suicide after struggling with PTSD stemming from his military service.

These stories are why I’m glad I took the time to write this book. I think it will help some people move forward and parents re-adjust their priorities for the sake of their children.

Becoming a father has been the greatest blessing of my life and an honor my father missed out on. When my son was born, I knew I didn’t want to be like my father: a selfish man who chose everything over his children.

Growing up, Father’s Day meant nothing to me, but now, as a father, it has become a moment to reflect on my growth as a man for both myself and my son.

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He’s now 19 years old, approaching life with honor and holding himself to a higher standard than his peers.

I remember talking to him about a new friend (he was about 15 years old), and when I inquired about how things were going, he told me he’d stopped reaching out to him.

When I asked why, he said, “Because he smokes weed, and I don’t want to be around that.”

He’s calm, reasonable, and incredibly polite because of years of guidance and discipleship. At his age, he’s far more prepared for the world than I was and confident in achieving whatever he sets his mind to, thanks to the lessons I’ve taught him.

For decades, I was unsure about most things I attempted because I lacked a father to encourage me. When I messed up, I thought I was the only one who made such mistakes.

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When my son made a mistake or faced hardship, I always talked to him about it, explaining that it’s a normal part of life. I’d share my experiences so he wouldn’t take it personally or let it stop him from pursuing his goals.

When his first girlfriend broke up with him, we discussed it, and I shared stories of my own breakups in an age-appropriate way. After that conversation, I could see his shoulders no longer slouched as hope returned.

This week, I’ve had several conversations with men, and a common theme emerged: they didn’t feel fully accepted by their fathers. Nothing they did was ever good enough or worth celebrating. Their interests were either ignored or dismissed by the most important man in their lives.

When my son told me he wanted to move to Japan to become a manga artist, I could have easily shot down the idea and told him to get a “real” profession like a closed-minded father. But I didn’t.

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Instead, I told him the truth: it would be incredibly challenging, and he might not succeed, but it was worth trying if it was his passion. If it didn’t work out, he was young enough to pivot, but he shouldn’t live with regret for not trying.

He took online Japanese language courses, and I introduced him to an artist friend, George Alexopoulos, who gave him realistic expectations about the journey ahead.

Years later, he decided to become an electrician instead, but it was always his choice to live life on his terms. I made it clear that I love him regardless of his career path.

I believe every child wants to know this: that their parent’s love and acceptance aren’t contingent on external successes or failures. My love for my son is not transactional. As long as he’s happy and upholds ethical values, I’m fine with whatever he chooses to do with his life.

Being a father is not just a noun; it’s a verb. It’s about love through action and sacrifice. Fatherhood, for me, has always been about preparing my son for the world so he can have a better life than I did.

I never wanted him to question whether his father loved him, as I did with my own father. We have mutual respect and admiration for each other. There is no greater joy than watching your child overcome obstacles on their own and achieve their goals.

It’s an honor to be his father.

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Elon has been pissed for some time but yesterday, it escalated in a very public manner. I understand both of their perspectives but I believe that Elon unnecessarily escalated this issue in a public manner and he didn’t need to.

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Not only that, he insinuated that there is more to Trump and Epstein’s relationship than what we already know. To which, I posted this on X:

Might I add, Elon was cool with his children being around a guy that he’s insinuating was connected to Epstein’s pedophile ring.

There is more to this of course but I think Elon voicing is displeasure from the very beginning, which is his right, was counterintuitive. I think he’s often overly emotional and impulsive.

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But his biggest issue is that he’s an idealist…which works in his professional career but doesn’t mix well in politics.

Politics is a game and especially when it comes to drafting legislation, you have hundreds of competing interests that you have to take into account or else nothing will pass. In my opinion, Trump is taking the pragmatic view as this bill does have positives that he campaigned on (no tax on tips for example).

Elon wants it his way, plain and simple. He spent hundreds of millions and feels entitled to get it and it doesn’t work that way.

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I’m thankful to once again be invited onto Sky News Australia to discuss all things in American politics.

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We even got to discuss my friend ’s lawsuit with the State of Colorado for impeding her ability to market her company due to their “anti-discrimination laws” which could get her company, XX-XY Athletics, into legal trouble for simply stating that men shouldn’t participate in women’s sports. Enjoy.

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When my son was born, I felt unusual because I was looking forward to his teenage years. Typically, parents are infatuated with the toddler years and want them to last as long as possible; not me.

Growing up without my father, I couldn’t wait to give my son the advice my father never gave me. I was excited to be there for him when he was confused about the world and needed help navigating it.

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In retrospect, my teenage years were confusing and often defeating for me. There were male-specific issues I needed help with that I didn’t feel comfortable discussing with my mother, so I struggled through them.

I needed fatherly encouragement, empathy, and expectations, and because I didn’t have them, I suffered in silence.

When I messed up in my teenage years, it was a dramatic blow to my confidence, and I didn’t have a man to reassure me that I wasn’t alone in making mistakes, so I felt like something was wrong with me.

After my first love broke up with me, I was depressed for months and didn’t know how to handle the disappointment.

In contrast, when my son’s first girlfriend broke up with him, he told me, and we talked about it. I shared my breakup stories from my teenage years, and I could tell he was a bit more relieved after our conversation.

Kids don’t know what they don’t know, and as parents, it’s important that we explain to them that their uncomfortable experiences are commonplace and recoverable.

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When I struggled in high school, it felt like no one cared that I was failing, including my school. I failed the last three years of high school, which required me to take summer classes to pass to the next grade and graduate.

I didn’t walk with my class across the stage because I had given up trying by the time my senior year came. I was having trouble studying, paying attention, and possibly struggling with dyslexia (admittedly, self-diagnosed based on common symptoms).

Worse, it seemed like no one expected any better from me. It could have been my depressive mentality at the time, but it felt like no one believed in me enough to even push me to do better.

My son had a moment in high school when he was slacking and lied to me about his performance. I’d never been angrier with him for two reasons:

1. He didn’t need to lie to me. We could have figured out his issue together.

2. I expected him to do much better because I knew he was capable of more than the results he was producing.

For a couple of weeks, I scolded him while simultaneously encouraging him to do better for himself. It was then that I explicitly told him, “You cannot turn hard work off and on!”

From that moment on, he started advocating for himself to achieve better results in his education, including imploring me to switch to homeschooling and remove him from a toxic school environment filled with uncaring teachers, frequent fights, and drug use.

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Throughout his high school years, he balanced working at Dunkin’ Donuts and doing his schoolwork. He advocated to take his GED early, studied for the test without me pushing him, and passed with flying colors.

To make that pivotal moment of accomplishing these milestones on his own even more significant, he went to bartending school and finished the program a week after receiving his GED.

I saw my son take my lessons and put them into action with confidence. There is no prouder moment than watching your child take your stories of struggle and turn them into their successes.

Last year, he moved to a different area and struggled for a couple of months to find a job, especially as a bartender. He finally found a job as a busboy, and although he was making less than he was used to, he knew it was a pathway to becoming a bartender.

As a busboy, he became Employee of the Month, and soon after, he was promoted to server. Just a few months after becoming a server, he was promoted to bartender, all because he worked hard for what he wanted and remained patient.

What’s even more impressive about his decision-making is that I never told him to do any of this. I didn’t even know he had enrolled in bartending school until after he passed because he wanted to surprise me.

When I asked him why he wanted to bartend, he said it would provide flexibility for when he attends trade school to become an electrician.

Words can’t describe how proud I am of him for learning from my struggles and becoming an even more confident and determined young man than I was.

As parents, we shouldn’t be afraid of the teenage years or minimize how impactful they are for setting our children up for the rest of their lives.

While they may become more independent, it doesn’t mean they don’t need our wisdom to prepare for navigating the world.

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