Speaking Wrong At The Right Time

I was invited onto Rita Panahi’s show to discuss a variety of topics as well as giving me an opportunity to discuss my new book “The Children We Left Behind.”

(Side Note: I really wanted to curse at one point…you might be able to tell when LOL)

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Avoiding confronting things that are difficult only prolongs your suffering. For many of us who have painful memories, our reaction is to act avoidant instead of facing them head-on.

All of your decisions in life suddenly become rooted in distracting yourself from ever encountering anything remotely close to what scares you from your past.

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You convince yourself that you're not strong enough to envision these moments again, so you do everything possible to not think about them.

In extreme circumstances, the pain appears to be so severe that you turn to ever increasingly harmful substances to distance yourself from what you fear from years ago.

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These people are just as addicted to alcohol or drugs as they are addicted to avoidance.

And these issues that you may refuse to face don't just stop as memories. Instead, those memories become seeds planted that spread into every aspect of your life.

The more traumatic the event, the more hyper-vigilant, paranoid, or insecure you might become. Because you've never resolved that issue, it becomes habitual to the point of you believing acting irrational is a personality trait instead of a sign of untreated wounds.

It's like having a hairline fractured leg and thinking that walking with a limp is uniquely your walking style. No matter how painful every step is, you've accepted that walking includes a bit of suffering.

I've had points in my life where I've stuffed uncomfortable memories so deep away that I've forgotten about them until someone brings them up.

One particular time, my sister reminded me in a phone conversation about when I was in a mental hospital, and I had a rush of emotions and tears as all of the most uncomfortable memories came to the surface like a sunken ship attached to a massive flotation device in the ocean.

What I've learned is that operating based on fear and choosing to avoid uncomfortable memories only prolongs your suffering.

What makes you stronger is what you face head-on, and no matter how far you run from them, they're always attached to you and leeching off of your progress.

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It's like a cement block chained to your ankle: Although you feel you've mastered walking with it anchored to you, you could go so much farther when you finally acknowledge that it's holding you back.

Looking at my problems dead in the eyes has only made me a stronger, healthier, and happier individual. Years of anxiety worrying about things that aren't that big of a deal or never happened only made me more reclusive.

Today, I have a general philosophy that I refuse to make decisions based on fear. I accept that sometimes things don't work out in your favor, but many times they do. But one thing that is clear: Saying "no" to everything because you're scared will only hinder your progress.

The only reason I'm able to talk about some of the most painful memories of my childhood and share them with the world is because I'm no longer afraid of them. They're not a point of shame for me; actually, I see them as an area of strength.

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Despite everything I endured, I'm still here today and thriving. My inner dialogue states that if I can survive those moments, I can handle anything that comes my way. Not every painful experience is purposeless; it's all perspective.

I've chosen to use my flaws to help others avoid going down the downtrodden path I had. My mistakes are even life lessons for my son so he can make better decisions, which to me seems like a worthy sacrifice.

Whether it's your fear of rejection because you were rejected earlier in your life or a fear of the unknown because something or someone new in your life harmed you, those feelings will only spread if you don't address them.

Insecurity and fear are cancerous, and they will spread into every aspect of your life if you don't address it. You can pretend you're not sick all you want, but it won't change how your health is deteriorating.

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I had such a good time on Normal World and it was nice to actually excercize some humor while delivering an important message.

You’ll really enjoy it, I promise.

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My appearance starts around the 20 minute mark. I met Sara once in Florida during DeSantis’ innauguration, and she was gracious enough to invite me to discuss my book on her show. She’s been very supportive of my career overall, which I truly appreciate.

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It was cool being inside Mercury studios and see all the sets behind the scenes.

Side Note: I met Alex Stein. He happened to come into my dressing room and we talked about old rap songs.

After Sara’s show, I filmed with Dave Landau for his show “Normal World” and that was a lot of fun. Episode comes out later tonight and I’ll post a link tomorrow.

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While in D.C. to record an interview with Epoch Times, I was offered an opportunity to sit down with Emily Jashinsky to discuss the state of politics, Jasmine Crockett, and how the Democrats lost me as a voter.

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I had a great conversation with Dr. Drew about all things parenting and central themes of my book. If you asked me 5 years ago that I’d be having a conversation with Dr. Drew about parenting and child psychology, I would have thought you were crazy.

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I’m thankful that The New York Post allowed for me to use Jasmine Crockett’s latest tirade featuring her (once again) using pro-slavery logic to justify keeping illegal immigration rampant.

This article is in the same vein of my substack article and video a few weeks ago. If you have a chance, check out the article as well and the YouTube video breakdown:

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As many of you have seen already, my new book “The Children We Left Behind” is officially available for purchase and I’m mainly focused on promoting the book.

[Side Note: The audiobook should be available on all audiobook platforms in the next week or two. It’s available now on GOOGLE PLAY and Barnes & Noble. Audible usually takes the longest before it’s live.]

So, what does promotion look like? Basically, hitting every possible market I can. Television, radio, Sirius radio, and podcasts.

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This also means that I’m doing promotion for an international audience, including both remote and in-person interviews.

I’ve been extremely fortunate to get booked for a wide variety of shows who are interested in talking more about family separation and hearing my story.

This week, I’ll be recording with Dr. Drew on his podcast, a Sirius radio interview with David Webb and I’ll be in D.C. to interview with Jan Jekielek for Epoch Times.

Next week, I’ll be in Austin and Dallas, Texas to appear on Dad Save America, a few Blaze TV shows and additional podcasts.

April 21, I’ll be in-studio at Fox News in New York City with Harris Faulkner and then rushing home to record a podcast with Michele Tafoya.

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At the end of the month, I’ll be on Tim Pool’s Culture War show in-person and immediately afterward recording with Shane Cashman for his show.

May 4 to 10, I’ll be in London hitting up multiple podcasts and television shows. As of now, I’m confirmed to appear on The Lotus Eaters, Liam Tuffs’ podcast and Talk (UK).

I’m obviously leaving out some shows and there may be shows that pop up last minute as well.

I’m sharing this information to let you know that my original articles and videos may be sparse depending on where I am and how busy I am.

I will try my best to post videos of my appearances so you can keep track of how I am doing on this wild promotional tour.

I appreciate everyone’s support throughout this entire endeavor. The amount of love and personal stories that are shared with me because of me diving into the topic of family separation means a lot to me. I don’t take any of it for granted.

God bless you all and keep me in your prayers!

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I was given the opportunity to talk about my new book, “The Children We Left Behind,” and its themes of how family separation impacts children and parental selfishness. Enjoy!

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I had a great conversation with Stacy Washington as to dove into the topics of my new book “The Children We Left Behind” and relationship dynamics between the sexes.

Enjoy the conversation.

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