This week, Rev. Patrick speaks about courage, compassion, and connection. In
his talk, he draws largely from the work of [Dr. Brene
Brown](http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html), a
professor at the University of Houston in Social Work, who has extensively
studied vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
In her research, she found that people universally experience heartbreak,
exclusion, and disconnection. And these are caused by an underlying feeling of
shame and fear---a fear of disconnection, of not being good enough, of not
being able to deserve connection. Excruciating vulnerability underpins this
idea of "not good enough". Yet, in order for connection to happen, we have to
allow ourselves to be truly seen.
According to Brene, we can become whole-hearted people---people who show up
understanding that we are deserving of love and belonging. The number one
quality is **courage**: having the courage to tell our story with our whole
heart. Number two is **compassion**: being kind to ourselves in order to be
kind to others. Number three is **connection**: letting go of who we thought
we were so that we can be who we are. Letting our authenticity shine through
to others.
This is whole-hearted living. Vulnerability. When we live this way, things
show up that feel bad to us---grief, shame, fear, and disappointment. But it
is also the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging, and love. We have to
have the full experience of the former to have the full experience of the
latter.
We're loved and we belong just because _we are_.